Why women don't date fat guys?
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Bwaaaahahahamoney
Edited cuz I forgot to order. I'll have a large built fat please. With money
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The same reason why guys don't date fat women0
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Bwaaaahahahamoney
Hehe, well I didn't read all of this so I'm sure someone else must of said it..
The real answer would be just be yourself..work on being healthier..be confident and ask girls out. Ask a variety of women out..not just the 10's if you aren't a 10 please realize that there are lots of girls out there that don't really get hit on much and would be happy to be hit on by men..and would easily over look size if you are fun, kind and confident.
Also Money doesn't hurt seriously study hard..get a good career and work on your personal fitness...you'll have women chasing you.0 -
All men who are funny, intelligent, civilised, compassionate and kind are attractive. My husband is all of the above (perhaps not always at the same time) and I love him dearly. We were both very much smaller when we met, but we got fat together.....and we still dig on each other, even as we try to lose our extra lbs and recover our former glory.
I did go out with a fat train driver once. I was intrigued by his piercings.........
To the OP trying to get the girl........dress nicely, be smart and cool. Be a little bit aloof, but try to engage her in casual conversation. But if she doesn't like you honey, she never will......go spend some time with someone who DOES like you!0 -
Ya, another guy on here said it best... In all honesty, it's not so much the looks, but the way you approach the woman. Be confident, respectful, and genuine. That's what we're all looking for, right?0
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I've had two larger boyfriends.
My currently one is close to 300 pounds. (Going on three years together and he's only gotten fatter. lol -.- ) And even though I never knew what the other boyfriend weighted I'm sure ti was also close to 300 pounds. So I'm not sure why girls don't date fat guys cause I sure do!0 -
depends on the women. I never cared as long as my boobs stayed bigger.0
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Ya, another guy on here said it best... In all honesty, it's not so much the looks, but the way you approach the woman. Be confident, respectful, and genuine. That's what we're all looking for, right?
^ that, that is right!0 -
My husband was high 300's when we met, and is probably between high 300's and low 400's now.
I love him dearly, and am waiting for him to be 'ready' to do this journey with me. we have done this over and over (dieted etc) for the past 18+ years we have been together.
These kinds of questions baffle me. My question to you OP - and seeing as how we are on page 10? I think it was of this thread, so I may have missed this post already - will YOU date a woman who is as overweight as you? i.e., if a man is 100 lbs overweight, and is sitting around feeling all depressed because women with model bodies won't give him the time of day, I have no sympathy.
You should never judge or expect the same treatment from someone, that you don't give yourself. i.e. I'm guessing you're not opening your selective pool. I could be wrong, and I hope I am (I've scanned the pages of this thread so i may have missed this being addressed)0 -
I wouldn't use the word fat but big.
It depends how big you are, I personally do NOT like skinny guys. I prefer guys with some meat... something to hold really tight without putting them in danger to crack in two! Super big guys don't attract me.
But I'd say the main things are confidence and charm. Defo.
Hope this helps
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^This. There is no answer to this question. What I find attractive the next person won't. I know I'm not attractive to everyone and I don't want to be.I dont like this question
This question is too general and too much of a blanket statement.
I am attracted to what I am attracted to and there is no moral issue with that.0 -
Here's a girl's opinion: I've dated a couple chubby guys in my life. It's all about personality/sense of humor to me. That's sexy.0
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Different folks, different strokes and anything else would just be boring. That's all.0
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looks like I SHALL have to wax then!
Hang on a moment - I'm married
Phew!0 -
When I was a teenager, I dated guys that were heavier... one was about 50lbs overweight and a huge sweetheart. I was heavier at the time myself... by about 10 lbs.
Once I got older and started to really focus on my health, dating a guy that was overweight wasn't even an option. I did date a guy that wasn't overweight, but he was heavier and he was sweet too, but to see him without clothes was a turn off for me. The 'moobs' thing... not so much. I don't have huge breast and if a guys are bigger than mine - that's a problem.
I had a guy that I was with for 4 1/2 years and he use to say "No fat chicks!". I have the same moto "No fat guys!" I have to be with someone that takes care of himself like I take care of myself. My bf now eats crap food and I'm like "Ok, 4 is enough put it away."
I want what I give... health is probably in my top 3.0 -
Both my man and I are overweight and are in the process of changing. I love him and think he's the most handsome guy ever, and he finds me just stunning. What's the issue here?0
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Plenty of women date big guys. I dated a guy who was overweight once.
That being said, I'm likely going to get along better with someone who has similar interests and attitude towards life, so that's going to probably be someone who is healthy, incidentally.0 -
My ex husband is overweight. I was married to him being overweight. I never have minded a bit of meat on man. I guess I find all men wonderful no matter, with the exception of the male version of me. I'm very thin. Fit but thin. My current partner has a slim runners build and tall. I guess I wouldn't date a very underweight sunken chest type or someone that is extremely morbidly obese.0
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In my life, only once did I date a guy over maybe 425-475 pounds, for a brief fling basically, and he was very attractive to me at the time, but in general I think it's more about the confidence and presentation of the person. If someone comes up to me and is friendly, then appearance/money/whatever matters so much less than if they come up and act like they are wearing a giant teeshirt that says "I AM ASHAMED ABOUT MY (whatever: weight, money, unemployment, education, car, socks, zits, elbows, dirt)"--if someone acts really embarrassed about just existing, then even dealing with them can eventually start to feel like work, which is too bad. They need to learn to be happy with themselves for little things and big things, like developing character or whatever, which is their own choice and doesn't cost money or take equipment, and only gets worth more as you age--just my point of view.0
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Why women don't date fat guys?
The law of attraction. A woman is no different to a man when it comes to attraction much like a woman who wouldn't date a fat, skinny, average or muscled man. The answer to this question would apply to women who only date - types - short, tall, big, small or average downunder, there are women who only prefer to date men with specific girths ... The reasons are varied and aren't blueprinted, neither should they be, much like a man's preference - big boobs, small boobs; bubble butt, no butt; straight figured or curvy, tall or short, skinny slim vs weightlifting slim ... The bias, really is your answer. If we're all well and truly honest, we have all profiled well before we say yes. And another answer for you would be, a question both genders ask themselves before they consider a prospective - I know for a fact, in under 5 mins - I know if I'm going to sleep with him or not. If something happens, I know if I would sleep with him. If the answer is no - I don't bother - friend zoned! And I'm certain men do the very same thing. Surely, men don't want to sleep with every woman they know.Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Case 1: This was at least 12 years ago. I was a student at the time and my sister and I basically dined at the same venue - every lunchtime. This one time, a group of guys who'd usually dined there too, were encouraging their friend and were almost mocking him that he didn't have the guts to follow through and ask either one of us out because he liked us both. At first, we thought it was cute, not noticing him. The next day, we both took the time to have a good look. Upon noticing him, he was the fattest in the crew and the tallest. All his friends were very well put together and they'd looked after their bodies. We both turned to each other and said, "He's cute," so we walked up to them and directed the question to him - "So have you decided who you like more?" He was pathetic. Tongue-tied, blushed, his eyes were shifty, he broke into a cold sweat - very unattractive! Now we would've both considered dating him and we were both skinny at the time.
Score: Woman NOT rejecting fat man.0 -
Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Case 2: Three years ago - Male friend arrives from the Middle-East. He isn't what you would call fat, more like an average guy who'd simply stopped working out, so he lacked definition. He is about 6' 5" and solid - Mediterranean Alcide on "True Blood" look-a-like less the muscles. Not lanky. Anyway, for 2 whole months after his arrival, he'd set his eyes on this one woman, who'd ignored him outright and called him "fat." She clearly stated, she does not date fat men! [Shocking].
Naturally like any other normal breathing man - he decided to hit the gym, the very next day. After 3 days of working out, he came upon the realisation that it would take quite a while to get the desired finish, she would remotely find attractive, choosing to forgo training altogether in place of a tete a tete with us (me and sis). Now, he is a man who is all about "his package," so we felt so sorry for him that we divulged that she is in fact a p3nis woman more than an anti-fat woman. He still didn't click, so we'd told him, that if he was ever presented with the opportunity to have her "glance" at it, he is to put "his package" where his mouth is. Fast forward, he walked up to her - and dropped his pants - within 3 mins she refused to leave his side for the duration of the whole function and kept every other woman away from him. He was hers. And gone were her protestations that she does not date fat man.
Score: Man - resorting to "below-the-belt" tactics.0 -
The reverse of this thread would get taken down before you could blink...
Well, I found the topic surprising bc I see many many more fat guys with average-sized girls than the other way around. Men are much more visual than women.0 -
Really give me an answer an someway to change this? that don;t have to do with losing weight
Case 2: Three years ago - Male friend arrives from the Middle-East. He isn't what you would call fat, more like an average guy who'd simply stopped working out, so he lacked definition. He is about 6' 5" and solid - Mediterranean Alcide on "True Blood" look-a-like less the muscles. Not lanky. Anyway, for 2 whole months after his arrival, he'd set his eyes on this one woman, who'd ignored him outright and called him "fat." She clearly stated, she does not date fat men! [Shocking].
Naturally like any other normal breathing man - he decided to hit the gym, the very next day. After 3 days of working out, he came upon the realisation that it would take quite a while to get the desired finish, she would remotely find attractive, choosing to forgo training altogether in place of a tete a tete with us (me and sis). Now, he is a man who is all about "his package," so we felt so sorry for him that we divulged that she is in fact a p3nis woman more than an anti-fat woman. He still didn't click, so we'd told him, that if he was ever presented with the opportunity to have her "glance" at it, he is to put "his package" where his mouth is. Fast forward, he walked up to her - and dropped his pants - within 3 mins she refused to leave his side for the duration of the whole function and kept every other woman away from him. He was hers. And gone were her protestations that she does not date fat man.
Score: Man - resorting to "below-the-belt" tactics.
?? Sounds like both these people deserve one another. sheesh.0 -
Let's says you are in college and you see a girl you like walking around almost every week how do you introduce to her?
Try and be freindly with her at first, meaning dont come off to strong right away. You don't want to creep her out if she isn't into you, but if she's into you she'd let you know.0 -
The fat guy has a stereotype of lacking confidence, looking lazy and women probably think he doesn't date much. The appearance of looking fat is funny/criticizing and our society doesn't approve of fatness.
Don't give me that "Oh I'll date a guy with a great personalty BS". The majority of women may say that but doesn't act upon it and they end up being best friends with the fat guys.
I been fat for my whole life until I managed to lose 50lbs. I would try and talk to girls (even a random hello) and they would give me weird looks when I was 230lbs. However when I lost the weight, I still got the weird looks but most of the time, they wouldn't mind having a conversation.
Women were more talkative around me and I got compliments for being fit,(i don't think I am) which has never happened before.
Don't get me wrong, I seen skinny women date fat guys. I'm NOT saying that women will NOT date a fat guy I'm saying majority will date someone...smaller.0 -
To me, it depends on their personality and face and not the body.0
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My boyfriend of 2 years is a bigger guy. I've always been attracted to bigger guys! He's losing weight but honestly could probably lose 50 lbs ish? And he's already lost maybe 50? I never asked him his weight when I met him because it didn't matter to me honestly. I love him on the inside and outside. I was attracted to him for him. Because of many things. Personality, he's very attractive to me (6 packs are not attractive to me! and muscles bulging out of arms and legs are gross!), his sense of humor, his eyes, his smile and those are just a few! So to me, it does not matter if your bigger or not. But honestly I dated 2 "skinnier" guys before and they lasted a few months and I dropped them like no other. All my long term relationships have always been with bigger guys! Always! 4 years, ex husband 7 years and now my current 2 years! And dated 2 skinnier guys in between that, that were re-bounds. Not attracted to them at all!0
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Myself and every one of my friends prefer "fat guys"! Even my bestie who is 5 foot tall 115lbs is dating a guy who is 285lbs. Big guys are easy to be around, laugh have a good time with AND make me feel small and protected. Whats not to love?
I would love to have a flat stomach but when I want to cuddle I don't want to feel like I'm snuggling with a hard boney man. I want some fluffiness there to cushion my head and just curl into his arms!0 -
For me, I need someone who makes health and fitness a priority or I could easily fall back into bad habits. Having lost 200 pounds, I cannot risk becoming obese again. Won't do it!!0
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Its less accepted in society. and idk how fat is fat though? Cuz I wouldn't mind a bulky dude. But fat is fat.0
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