Why women don't date fat guys?

wonderfulboodad

That is a question I think only the women that do not date heavy men can answer. I know when I was on a dating site for a little I was surprised to see how many women listed that they were looking for athletic, physically fit body types and that they were looking for an adventurer as well as the prince charming. Now these were women in their 50's and I have news for them, those body types do not exist in a 50 yr old man very often. So I wait for the woman who can accept me who I am I as can her and we can support each other in what we want in life.

Kenzietea2

depends how fat. They won't date obese guys. But guys who are ~30 lbs overweight shouldn't have much of an issue. I find it funny how some women find those lanky hipsters attractive though.

Yeah, I have to agree. Obesity makes us judge someone's lifestyle, even if we have no idea their reality. We assume someone so overweight is lazy, has little self control, etc., all of these things are not things people want in a partner. Now, this isn't always the reason why some people gained weight. It's a terrible assumption but an understandable one too.

My personal reason why I wouldn't date someone obese: I live an active lifestyle, trying to push myself to be more active, and I really love a confident man. I've dated overweight men, even by 50 lbs- and it just did not work with my lifestyle. In my case, they were overweight because of bad eating habits and an inactive lifestyle. Not to mention, they were really lacking self confidence and that was a major turn off.

I don't understand the attraction to the skinny hipster type, either though. I like big men, just active big men.

Skratchie

My husband was a big guy when we met; he's still a big guy, but losing weight (120 lbs so far) ... I didn't meet him with the intention of dating him, primarily because he's much younger than me. But he won me over with his personality and the way he treated me. And he's confident like no one I've ever seen at his weight, or even much smaller. He's just awesome, through and through. :-)

AngelRobbie

I'm 5'3 weigh 139, my man is 6'3 and weighs 350. Boom. Love that man!

ladyrider55

There's someone for everyone. Size shouldn't matter (that's a cop-out). What counts is what the person is like inside (kind, loving, fun, likes you for who you are, not what you should look like on the outside). That's my opinion, jus sayin...

_the_feniks_

Because they don't want to lift a fat apron only to discover a vienna sausage.

AIotOfSweatAndPain

Because they don't want to lift a fat apron only to discover a vienna sausage.

lol

ClassicPearl

A 300lb man who is confident, has goals in life, has good hygiene, etc. is different than a 300lb man who is woefully insecure, lazy, and a slob.

I love men and women of all shapes and sizes, and I like both a little soft around the edges. But I don't love people who are slobs, who have no drive or motivation or who complain about things they can change. And that goes for people of ALL sizes. For me, it's not about anyone's body - it's about their mind and how their feelings about their body manifest and affect their attitude and outlook on life. I'm just as likely to be turned off by a fit person with a holier than thou attitude as I am to be turned off by a heavy person who doesn't care about life.

^ 100% agreed!!

littlelaura

Picking a partner based on looks alone will set a person up for failure in the long run, if they dont have a great personality, common interests, enough differences to keep bringing things new into the relationship and overall are just a kind, caring, strong, confident person, then they can have all the looks in the world and be as boring as a bag of bricks. maybe use them as free weights to change it up at the gym to hang onto them longer other than that, I perfer a man who can excite me with good conversation over a man who could turn heads like a QG model. When we get older , we are going to look older, be fit perhaps but your not going to escape the age thing, so a couple better have something to turn eachother on other than just finding the other to be personal eye candy if you wanna make it last a life time or as long as you can at least. Thats IMHO.

Hannah645

Type #1 Overweight people ( both guys and girls) who do nothing except complain about their weight. There's a lot of blame and insecurity involved with their size. They're fat because of their parents, genetics, thyroid, etc. Those types of people would have a harder time maintaining a serious relationship. When you're having a conversation with them, you're constantly reminded that they're overweight and unhappy.

Type #2 Overweight people who don't remind you every 5 minutes that they're overweight. Their demeanor is enjoyable and nothing at all like the life-suckers described in type 1.

Try being type #2.

ksloop00

girls DO date big guys. i feel like its more common to see a skinny girl with a fat guy than a fat girl with a skinny guy

Yep, because girls like CHARACTER. Guys want a FAKE beauty queen!

chnkydnknmomma

[Same reason men dont generally go for fat chicks. Inherent desire to reproduce with someone with good genes, and super shallow socially conditioned ridiculousness. So either change the world paradigm or get on your sneakers. Your choice.}

^ This

HiKaren

Yes they do.

jennifer_417

There are some women who will not date someone just because they are overweight. HOWEVER, I would guess that the majority of women also factor in personality and character traits when deciding whether they want to date someone. If the women you're approaching won't date you just because you're overweight, the answer is simple: approach different women.

laurenz2501

I kinda beer bellies. Just sayin'...

ValerieMartini2Olives

How "fat" are we talking? I like men who have meat on them. I like a tall man with some girth. What I don't like is someone who is so fat that they have zero ambition in life and can't do more than sit around and watch tv and play video games. My exhusband was 6' and 350 when we met. He wasn't really that "fat", just a really big man. But as time went on, he just became lazier and lazier and packed on at least 75 pounds. It got to the point where I was no longer attracted to him, not because he was unattractive, but his laziness made him unattractive. I can handle a big man. I can't handle a lazy man with no ambition or motivation.

LadyofLight08

I actually am attracted to chubby, big guys, but sadly they've never liked me. I have always dated skinny guys oddly and with my last relationship, he helped me realize losing weight and being healthy was important. I was 100 pounds heavier than he was.

JennyLisT

So...are we talking "big" or obese? There's a huge difference for a lot of men and women.

Me, personally (and it may sound hypocritical at my current weight), I won't date someone who is obese at this point in my life. I have before. However, I am "recovering" from a bad relationship with food. The last thing I need is an enabler. That being said, someone actively trying to get healthy would be another matter.

I don't like super muscle-y guys, either. Happy mediums, anyone?

_Katastrophic

I would't date someone fat because ..its not attractive to me and because it shows they don't care about themselves imo

blytheandbonnie

I would have dated a fat guy. They didn't ask me out either.

hughtwalker

don't they?

Awkward30

I wouldn't actively seek out skinny, skinnyfat, chubbyfat or "fatass," but I have dated damn near all of them. If I could pick it would be athletic or built-fat.

emzypemzy93

Everyone's different... Personally, I've never been even remotely attracted to "fat guys". To me it says slob/unhealthy, harsh but true. If I want to live a healthy and active life, I would want someone who shares the same outlook. Also, I just don't find the chubby look very attractive..It's different for the people who are actively doing something to change (that's why we're all here!).. but for those who don't see it as an issue at all.. That's a big no no in my books!

kelly_e_montana

I don't date morbidly obese guys but a lot of guys I've liked or have dated have been the D-Line football player type, as is my partner now.

In the above picture, I usually go with builtfat. lol

hughtwalker

So why does only the "Chubbyfat" guy have hair on his chest - am I condemned to be this shape forever - or until or unless I wax?

blytheandbonnie

So why does only the "Chubbyfat" guy have hair on his chest - am I condemned to be this shape forever - or until or unless I wax?

Because he, so obviously, cares nothing for himself that he can't be bothered to spend his every waking moment 'manscaping' Who would want that lazy piece of garbage. *****sarcasm alert****

MichelleLaree13

I dont date men with a BMI over 25. A man with an unhealthy weight will more than likely have health problems down the road associated with the weight. There is no changing that for me.

crazy4lulu

there is something great about everyone.if i were single and out somewhere and an overweight guy was coming on to me..... you never get a second chance to make a first impression... so lets just say he better say the right thing and not be a SMART *kitten*!!! i would never judge a book by its cover til i read the opening paragraph on the inside!!! he could be the sweetest most gentle of giants and you would be tossing the potential for a happy life because of weight???? so wrong!!!! if i could be treated like a queen and love to reciprocate back i say go for it.

trophywife24

I wouldn't actively seek out skinny, skinnyfat, chubbyfat or "fatass," but I have dated damn near all of them. If I could pick it would be athletic or built-fat.

Mmmmm built fat.

kerrymh

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