Do you feel like the weight will cure your "ugliness" ?

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  • OutsideCreativ
    OutsideCreativ Posts: 143 Member
    It might sound kind of goofy... and I know that being skinny or being fat doesn't make you more/less mean, judgemental, friendly or welcoming... but I have some friends (not even just guys) who I am surprised want to hang out, shop, do girls nights... with me because of my weight.

    It wasn't until recently that I found out that one of those friends used to be 40 lbs heavier than I am now... and I think mentally... that mindset may never go away. And we, the fat and the formerly fat, will always remember how it felt to be that person-- and therefore, I think we are much more likely to see inner beauty in others while still struggling to see the beauty in ourselves.

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  • deannajf4
    deannajf4 Posts: 223 Member
    People! People!! you are all BEAUTIFUL!! You were created with loving hands by the creator of all things. Who told you you're ugly? Magazines/kids in school/TV? That's THEIR standard of beauty, please please ask the ONE who made you, and know that you were made beautiful, you have value and worth far above what the world says you do. "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Psalms 139:14 - I am praying for each of you right now to learn who God is, and that your souls will find out how truly wonderful all His works are!! Blessings to you all - message me or add me as a friend if you need to hear more about who you belong to! Deanna
  • estrobabe
    estrobabe Posts: 337 Member
    It will cure my lack of confidence!
  • SilverSquid
    SilverSquid Posts: 28
    Sadly, our perception of ourselves is largely based on society. In the movies, "pretty" girls are defined as tiny, agile, flexible, with long flowing hair, perfectly symmetrical face. However, women are not all the same, nor will we ever be. It's one thing to look at someone and think "Man she's pretty." or "She's so little, I wanna be like her." It's another to think "Because my eyes are not *insert color & shape here* and my lips aren't pouty enough and my hair isn't long or shiny enough, I'm not pretty." To get out of this funk, we first have to see ourselves as unique individuals who will never look like another person we see on the street. We are beautiful in our own right, and someone will see this. I've always struggled with self-image issues too, but once we learn to let go and see ourselves as OURSELVES and not someone else, we'll understand we are beautiful as well.
  • azzkikin
    azzkikin Posts: 458 Member
    It will cure my lack of confidence!

    ^^^This. And with that I can blossom into the beautiful flower I am meant to be. Many Rays of Sunshine to all of you.:flowerforyou:
  • LivMinusTen
    LivMinusTen Posts: 23 Member
    I don't know about pretty and ugly... I just notice that when I work out, taking time to myself, I look more awake, smile more and have more energy. No, I am not Heidi Klum, so what. :-)
  • oh_em_gee
    oh_em_gee Posts: 887 Member
    Well, since people tell me it's a shame that I'm fat because I could be so pretty, so my ugly is predicted to clear up
  • Dawnymaries
    Dawnymaries Posts: 109
    Although I am pretty much invisible how I look now which isn't such a bad thing. I tend to be really shy so the idea of getting attention isn't a pleasant one.

    This is sort of how I feel. I find flirty men very unappealing, and can't understand why they'd get all flirty with someone they don't know. When it happens I just want to run away. It doesn't happen often, my friends get noticed all the time, but when it does happen to me I just stand there all anxious and try to ignore.

    Some days I feel like I actually am pretty, and some days I feel like I look like a zombie that weighs 1500 lbs. Depends....
  • sexygenius
    sexygenius Posts: 1,078 Member
    most of the time I think I'm aight.. sometimes im completely disgusted with every single bit of me.. then other time im like.. you know what.. im kinda cute

    when i was 30lbs lighter i looked better, and i felt better about my appearence.. now i swear i can see every single pound i gained back after i fell off the wagon
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    This speaks to me in particular, because I associate all of my problems with weight. Broke up with my boyfriend? I should lose weight because that will fix how I feel and make me happy with my life.

    The truth is, I could be 90 pounds and still feel like a gross piece of crap. Weight isn't always the issue.
  • Sweetpickles99
    Sweetpickles99 Posts: 92
    I have know some beautiful on the outside people but on the inside they are ugly..Its not your looks that makes you look beautiful its who you are as a person, good, kind, caring for others, thats what makes you beautiful. I hope all of you that think your ugly will realize this.
  • Sweetpickles99
    Sweetpickles99 Posts: 92
    Wed 01/16/13 02:26 PM

    People! People!! you are all BEAUTIFUL!! You were created with loving hands by the creator of all things. Who told you you're ugly? Magazines/kids in school/TV? That's THEIR standard of beauty, please please ask the ONE who made you, and know that you were made beautiful, you have value and worth far above what the world says you do. "I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well." Psalms 139:14 - I am praying for each of you right now to learn who God is, and that your souls will find out how truly wonderful all His works are!! Blessings to you all - message me or add me as a friend if you need to hear more about who you belong to! Deanna


    I agree totally Deanna..God don't make ugly!
  • DirtGlitters
    DirtGlitters Posts: 13
    Oh, wow, good question! I'd like to think it would cute my "insecurities". I've always been told I have a "pretty face" -__- so hopefully the face downwards will be an improvement!
  • EstiloPanama
    EstiloPanama Posts: 245
    I don't think I'm ugly. Just fat. And the fat needs to go because I don't want diabetes or hypertension. LOL
  • rockymtnlove
    rockymtnlove Posts: 215
    losing weight doesn't magically solve all of your problems. You won't become confident and secure just from losing the weight. You have to change your mind too and put an effort into loving yourself. everyday.
  • Beckyloo80
    Beckyloo80 Posts: 1,088 Member
    I still have the "fat boy image" of myself. I'm down 70 pounds, get a ton of attention from girls (both in person and on here) and am attracting females that i never imagined would show interest in me....yet i still look in the mirror and am disgusted with myself.

    ^^^ this.

    I still see the fat girl in the mirror... it's frustrating!
  • jr1985
    jr1985 Posts: 1,033 Member
    I would just like to say that I've seen very few 'ugly' people. and for sure NONE of you all qualify! But yes I would like to hold on to the perhaps delusional hope that once I'm at my ideal weight, I'll be SMOKING HOT! Otherwise... not sure all the dieting and working out is worth it because I REALLY LIKE BACON AND CHOCOLATE CAKE!
  • MochaMixAZ
    MochaMixAZ Posts: 844 Member
    I resisted posting for a long while to this thread, but I can't help it.

    No, I don't think losing weigh will cure anything. It's your mind and your own perceptions that need an overhaul - sometimes moreso than the body.

    I lost a ton of weight. My mind didn't catch up for 5 years - I could look in the mirror and see the same body. Not the reality, but it was MY reality. My internal dialog changed when I worked on THAT.

    And.... I can't shout this loudly enough... confidence also comes from within. Dropping weight, having cosmetic surgery, fixing your hair - all band-aid fixes that don't get to the root of the problem. I find I have more confidence when I'm treating myself right, eating better makes me have more energy and optimism... the byproduct of that is weight loss. It's like the chicken and the egg, which came first? For me - confidence comes before weightloss.

    My best to you.
  • _SusieQ_
    _SusieQ_ Posts: 2,964 Member
    Hmm, I've never thought of myself as ugly. But then again, do ugly people know that they're ugly??

    Losing the weight increases confidence. Confidence is sexy. I'm not where i want to be, but I know the more I lose or the more in shape I get, the better I feel about myself, which I do believe comes across to others as well.
  • Tannedtiffers
    Tannedtiffers Posts: 558 Member
    i feel that way, myself :(
  • Athena125
    Athena125 Posts: 102 Member
    At this point, I'm aiming for attractive and not scaring anyone away! Everybody has ugliness. Nothing in nature is 100% perfect. We're all always in a state of change. With a good diet, exercise and a little makeup, pretty much anyone could look decent! I hardly ever see truly pretty women, but I rarely ever see anyone who scares me by their looks.

    I think we should focus on things we like about our looks, and also things we like about our personalities too!
  • Athena125
    Athena125 Posts: 102 Member
    Well, since people tell me it's a shame that I'm fat because I could be so pretty, so my ugly is predicted to clear up

    This cracked me up.
  • Jory2pointOh
    Jory2pointOh Posts: 38
    I always think I look nice which is kind of a burned. It makes eating a cupcake or a piece of cake okay because I’m still “cute” even though I am fat.

    I second that. lol Sometimes I hate myself. I think we all do that from time to time, but most of the time I do love being me, even though I'm still fat. :)
  • HollyHobbitToes
    HollyHobbitToes Posts: 131 Member
    What I find funny is that most of the people on here who think they are ugly have really cute profile pictures....I don't see even ONE ugly person in here!
  • MarcyL43
    MarcyL43 Posts: 4
    I feel that image is about acceptance. I never see myself as ugly, but do not see me as Ideal either. I want a waistline, not a round space. I read somewhere that body image change is important to keeping weight off and that looking in the mirror at yourself actually improves you feelings about your body even when it is imperfect. I have noticed that I look at myself less these days so maybe losing weight will encourage me to look more often and then I will as an off shoot like my body more, thus changing the mental image.
  • notenoughspeed
    notenoughspeed Posts: 290 Member
    I remember when I reached my goal weight of 185. I was pulling chicks like crazy. I looked better, but I was just skinny fat. I still had quite a bit of "pudge" over my abs. I was close to developing a 6 pack. This time, I'm strength training while on my way down, that way, when I do get skinny, I'll look "Muscular skinny" instead of "Skinny fat". I still looked great, and felt great when I lost all my weight. Then again, I think I have a great bone structure, and my body will look great too when I'm done.
  • rockymtnlove
    rockymtnlove Posts: 215
    What I find funny is that most of the people on here who think they are ugly have really cute profile pictures....I don't see even ONE ugly person in here!

    I AGREE!
  • lolagurlx0x0
    lolagurlx0x0 Posts: 149 Member
    No. I feel like your attitude will though. I hated me- my body- I grew up believing I was UGLY because my brothers told me so every day. When I moved out on my own it took me years to realize- not only am I not ugly. Im ****ing beautiful.

    Only one person has to believe you are beautiful to make you beautiful. Not everyone has the same opinion on beauty, why cant that one person start with you? I know it started with me. I made no effort to feel beautiful- to put in any effort at all to make other believe I was beautiful- When I started projecting that I was attractive and that I deserved to be looked at you better BELIEVE I got noticed by the opposite sex- by the same sex, for friendship and not so friendly ship ;) , and I am a very large woman.
  • whierd
    whierd Posts: 14,025 Member
    No, my face won't look much difference when I am done. I am hoping that having a body makes up for that. :drinker:
  • SilverSquid
    SilverSquid Posts: 28
    I'm gonna pull a Patrick here.
    Start yelling:

    I'M UGLY AND I'M PUHHROUD!
    IIIII'M UGLY AND I'M PUHHROUD!

    And it will apparently cure anything.
    Thanks, Patrick Star. :heart:

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