Women and Body Shaming

ironanimal

I will never understand why you do it to eachother. It is an awful behaviour perpetuated largely by the media and happily engaged in by a huge number of people. If you have ever said any variation of:

- “Men like meat. Bones are for dogs.”
- “Real women have curves.”
- “That girl looks manly.”

Or anything of the sort, please GTFO and never come back. What makes a woman a woman is her own determination of her gender and nothing more.

AllTehBeers

you both

DamnImASexyBitch

Someone wants to get laid.

Lacey_Cakes

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

ironanimal

Someone wants to get laid.

No more than usual - and there's only one girl for me

harlanJEN

Here is my motto:

It is MY body .. so I Rock it out !

BondBomb

It't done for exactly the reasons Pu stated. Those women are not happy with their bodies. When you are OK in your own skin then you develop a 'more power to them' attitude.
The brutal truth is - women that say those things will never look like the source of their ridicule. Not without hard work and dedication. Whether its gaining weight, losing weight, becoming more fit. And I think they know that. It is a way to justify themselves and de-value something they are not. That way there is no need to put in that hard work.

suzii32

Thanks!!!!

Sarauk2sf

Thank you.

I would like to add to the STFU list comments like..."ewwww" and "gross".

robin52077

I will never understand why you do it to eachother. It is an awful behaviour perpetuated largely by the media and happily engaged in by a huge number of people. If you have ever said any variation of:

- “Men like meat. Bones are for dogs.”
- “Real women have curves.”
- “That girl looks manly.”

Or anything of the sort, please GTFO and never come back. What makes a woman a woman is her own determination of her gender and nothing more.

AllTehBeers

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

*shrugs* I got proposed to at almost 300 pounds. You need to grow a thick skin and find a wonderful person for you.

DamnImASexyBitch

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

I agree. Honestly I think most men promote the stereotypes and shaming between women. Take for example the man who's signifigant other is alittle insecure with herself... Is he reassuring her that he likes her looks, or is he turning his head to check out the girl that just walked by? Commenting during a movie about how attractive that actress is? Afraid to go out in public with her because she isn't society standard "hot"

etoiles_argentees

Like.

CoderGal

I will never understand why you do it to eachother. It is an awful behaviour perpetuated largely by the media and happily engaged in by a huge number of people. If you have ever said any variation of:

- “Men like meat. Bones are for dogs.”
- “Real women have curves.”
- “That girl looks manly.”

Or anything of the sort, please GTFO and never come back. What makes a woman a woman is her own determination of her gender and nothing more.

All I gotta say is my dog loves his bone. And I love his bone too :P

CoderGal

"eat a sandwich" was the last thing said to me by my previous best friend who has decided to stop talking to me since I lost weight because I looked 'sickly'. Ironically, it was over fb, and I was eating a sandwich at the time...topped with beef, tomato, lettuce, crunchy onion bits and bbq sauce *slurp*. I assure you, I couldn't have eaten another. Not after the sweet potato fries. Not to mention I ate a pack of oreos the day before (30).

Meg_78

BondBomb

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

I agree. Honestly I think most men promote the stereotypes and shaming between women. Take for example the man who's signifigant other is alittle insecure with herself... Is he reassuring her that he likes her looks, or is he turning his head to check out the girl that just walked by? Commenting during a movie about how attractive that actress is? Afraid to go out in public with her because she isn't society standard "hot"

I totally disagree. Only you are responsible for your actions. If someone is insecure that is their problem. It is up to them to fix it. I have never let a man (or anyone) make me feel bad about myself. He can think what he wants about me but he can not force me to agree with him. And to focus those insecurities on another human being is sad. There is no excuse.

CoderGal

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

I agree. Honestly I think most men promote the stereotypes and shaming between women. Take for example the man who's signifigant other is alittle insecure with herself... Is he reassuring her that he likes her looks, or is he turning his head to check out the girl that just walked by? Commenting during a movie about how attractive that actress is? Afraid to go out in public with her because she isn't society standard "hot"

You guys have to stop dating douche bags. That'd fix everything :P I don't know what I can do to get away from the random strangers making comments however. I think the strangers are the worse. I remember waiting in a lineup with my friends gf (who I didn't know) and she was making fun of a larger girl wearing a lot of mascara and made a couple of weight related comments on how you can't cover up fat...What kind of horrible person do you have to be for that to run through your head?

And for the record, the girl seemed rather sweet...it wasn't one of those that persons a low life so I'm going to bash them situations.

Molly_Maguire

Someone wants to get laid.

This^^

DamnImASexyBitch

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

I agree. Honestly I think most men promote the stereotypes and shaming between women. Take for example the man who's signifigant other is alittle insecure with herself... Is he reassuring her that he likes her looks, or is he turning his head to check out the girl that just walked by? Commenting during a movie about how attractive that actress is? Afraid to go out in public with her because she isn't society standard "hot"

You guys have to stop dating douche bags. That'd fix everything :P I don't know what I can do to get away from the random strangers making comments however. I think the strangers are the worse. I remember waiting in a lineup with my friends gf (who I didn't know) and she was making fun of a larger girl wearing a lot of mascara and made a couple of weight related comments on how you can't cover up fat...What kind of horrible person do you have to be for that to run through your head?

And for the record, the girl seemed rather sweet...it wasn't one of those that persons a low life so I'm going to bash them situations.

Thanks but I'm married, and he isn't a *kitten*. Whether you like it or not other people's actions do help shape who you are. You can either see it as empowering, or disabling but it still is going to have an effect on you no matter what.

usmcmp

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

You see those comments because that's where you are at in life. I've been skinny, fat and muscular. I've gotten nasty comments no matter how I've looked. That's what the OP is getting at. No matter what we look like we should never bash on another body type to make ourselves feel good.

AllTehBeers

I totally agree but you have to see it from a chubby girl's point of view. We need quotes and positive affirmation like this because we deal with people be mean to us for no reason all the time. And truth of the matter is most guys dont want (or dont admit to wanting) the chubbier girl because they dont wanna be out in public with them because they will be made fun of (i know this cause ive been the peson getting made fun of) So yea body shaming is dumb on both account (girls hating on the fatties and fatties hating on skinny women) but it's just to make us feel better and wanted. My philosophy is noone should be skinny of fat. Be comfortable and if someone else doesnt look like you who gives a ****? Dont hate on them for that

You see those comments because that's where you are at in life. I've been skinny, fat and muscular. I've gotten nasty comments no matter how I've looked. That's what the OP is getting at. No matter what we look like we should never bash on another body type to make ourselves feel good.

This.

Camandes

Someone wants to get laid.

No more than usual - and there's only one girl for me

ErinGBragh

It's funny because just this morning I was thinking about how positive most of the guys on here have been towards women. Women who think all men are dogs should really spend some time on here to see how that isn't always so. You guys give men a good name. So thanks!

ethieman

LOVE this thread! I've been thin and am currently fat, but, as another poster said, "It's MY body and I rock it!" I've had many men and women tell me that the sexiest thing about me is my confidence, I dare say that confidence is the sexiest thing a woman can wear, no matter her size or shape.

I walk around the locker room in my skivvies and squeeze my body into a swimming suit 4 times a week to then march to my swimming lane in front of the university swimming team and masters swimmers. Life is too short to be miserable in the only skin you get in this lifetime. We need to stop teaching our young girls and encouraging women to increase their self worth by decreasing the worth of others. We need to uplift and empower ALL women so we stop looking so ridiculous and petty!

The only thing you have control over is your own actions, and if you don't have something nice to say, keep your trap shut!

AllTehBeers

It's funny because just this morning I was thinking about how positive most of the guys on here have been towards women. Women who think all men are dogs should really spend some time on here to see how that isn't always so. You guys give men a good name. So thanks!

Absolutely. Most guys here, even if a certain body type isn't their personal preference, won't hate on women who have bigger or smaller bodies.

sissiluv

Funny, most of the body shaming I've gone through came from both sexes and started before I even knew what 'fat' meant. Now that I've gotten older, it only comes from douches on the internet (male, btw) who post my picture from my profile when I'm in the middle of a 'debate' with them. Thankfully I'm not ten anymore and it doesn't effect me as much as it used to.
(it also turned into a self-fulfilling prophecy. I was your typical fit eight year old who probably ran amok at least an hour a day. Two years later I'm terrified of leaving the house and have taken to eating my emotions while staring mindlessly at the TV. Needless to say I gained a LOT.)

I've written about this before. When you hear something like this day in, day out, constantly on a year to year basis it WILL over-ride your confidence and self-esteem, then smash them to itty bitty bits. Body shaming is a form of verbal abuse after all.
Moreso, we have this thing called a negativity bias. I'm sure you've noticed how the negative tends to stand out so much more than the positive, even when you're a healthy non-clinically depressed person? That's that at play and it just compounds it when all you're hearing IS negative. Eventually one will probably start to believe what they're hearing full-heartedly, as long as it comes often enough.

Of course I'm sure you're not talking about it as though it's a daily event, said multiple times a day sort of deal. Nonetheless thought I'd add my two cents.

AllTehBeers

Maybe women do it, but men don't. We don't go around saying, "that girl is fat, that girl is skinny, that girl has no boobs, that girl has no *kitten*" etc... no one cares.

If you're one of those girls who is self conscious, thinking to herself, "They think i am fat, they think i am skinny, they think i have no boobs, they think I have no *kitten*" Truth is, if you really knew how little someone thought of you, you'd probably be offend.

LOL love this.

zombiekookie

Positive body images, FTW. I find it funny that these girls are stating they say these things about skinny ladies to make themselves feel better about their current weight, when you are probably on this site to lose weight. Though, this problem is else where.

Besides, humans come in different sizes. A woman is not defined by her shape or appearance. Usually it's your sex or gender identity that makes you a woman.

CoderGal

Someone wants to get laid.

No more than usual - and there's only one girl for me

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MaraDiaz

Maybe women do it, but men don't. We don't go around saying, "that girl is fat, that girl is skinny, that girl has no boobs, that girl has no *kitten*" etc... no one cares.

If you're one of those girls who is self conscious, thinking to herself, "They think i am fat, they think i am skinny, they think i have no boobs, they think I have no *kitten*" Truth is, if you really knew how little someone thought of you, you'd probably be offend.

Isn't that the truth!

One trick women need to learn from some men I've met is, be self confident no matter what you look like and you'll get what you want. If you're sitting there in public obsessing about whether your belly roll is showing through your shirt, you're just giving off misery vibes and no one is going to go near you anyway.