What's the worst thing said about your weight ?
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Randon Person to me, "I guess you will be glad when that baby gets here"
Me to Random Person, "What the hell are you talking about?"
Random Person, "Oh um, I thought......."
Me, "Well thinking did not work out for you this time did it!"0 -
You can't win for losing. The only person's thoughts about your weight/appearence/health is YOURS. Every one thinks differently and has their opinions, but what makes them right? As long as you eat healthy, stay active and are happy with where you are in life, fitness and health.. that's all that matters!0
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"I'd rather go out then a Donkey then a WHALE"
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"I can't go out with you cos you're fat"0 -
"You don't look that small...."0
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Often called a fat hobbity *kitten* by complete strangers0
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This is such a sad, negative thread I am sorry. Why sit there and worry what others say. Be around loving and supportive people. Don't bring this into your life.0
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I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!0
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I never got picked on in school. I was 170lbs @ 5'6 and had a very athletic, muscular build (People didn't believe me when I told them how much weighed).
But the person that has hurt me the most is my Grandfather. He's always making comments about my weight, and how I look in general. He tells me all the time I was in such reat shape in HS and that I need to get back there. I'm 21, and am working on getting off pregnancy weight.
The worst part is that these comments are reserved for me, because I'm a girl. My brother doesn't get treated this way.0 -
actually, just remembered my husband shouting out "These are ELEPHANTINE!!!!" When he inadvertently put my jeans on...he wasn't even tryingto be nasty at the time - just surprised (and yes we're still married)
My husband has sort of done that to me. He put on my shorts once and danced around showing how much bigger they are on him. Than he couldn't understand when i tell him that is mean.0 -
I can't even remember specifics. It just seems like high school was one long blur of a group of guys moo-ing at me.
In another time and another place, I could have been one of those guys. My sincere apologies.
And look at me now. Karma...?0 -
I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!
That's awesome that you're this way, but sometimes it helps to let it out sometimes, it's human.0 -
When my son was about 4 or 5 we were In Kmart in the checkout line and Martin Lawrence was on the cover of a magazine dressed as Big Mama. My son says very loud Ma you look like like big mama. I could see people trying not to laugh I was so embarrassed.0
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In College a random guy at a party said to me, "lose some weight and maybe I will give you a chance". I was about 30 lbs heavier then. I will never forget it. Also my dad used to say to me "do you really think you need that?" when I was in high school and would go into the kitchen for a snack.0
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got down to my goal weight, a guy at work, wow, you need to stop losing weight, you are getting little, that same guy about 2 months later, goes, no offense, but youve gained weight. how can you not take offense first of all, but i gained 5 pounds. first of all, who can tell 5 pounds, secondly, i dont know why i got so mad and upset, but i can go into my office and lock the door and i went in there and just cried on and off for 2 hours. Not sure why I let him get to me, because hes somebody ive worked with for 5 years and we arent close, but to be told im losing too much weight and then im gaining weight, i wonder why hes looking at my weight so much. hypocritical thing, he probably weighs at least 100 pounds more than i do and is always eating crap right next to me when im eating healthy.0
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Some of these are truly horrific.
I wasn't an especially fat child, I was always just on the edge of chunky - I got very little abuse at school or in public, just the odd one ("fatface" was one jibe I'll remember).
Nope, the worst comments I got were from my alleged "best friend", my brother, my mother and stepfather. My tall slim "friend" controlled me for a good 8 school years by being extremely possessive, and making continual remarks about me having a fat belly, fat legs, a fat *rse, being podgy, not fitting through a doorway, etc etc.
My mother passed on her secret binging habits to be from a young age, by dishing me up tiny "slimmers" portions of food (identical to hers) at mealtimes with the family, reassuring me that she would never let me get "fat like her", then taking me to the shops and buying me chocolate which we would eat in the car together before we went home.
My stepfather used to watch me eating something fairly innocent, adopt a disapproving scowl, and say "You shouldn't eat too much of that Susan, you'll just get fat as a porker."
Even so, I was more popular and had more boyfriends than the slim friend, and got better exam results than her. My mother is now 75 and still grabs at her loose skin and berates herself for being fat and ugly (she is neither, she is beautiful), whilst eating half a chocolate cake when no-one else is around. My stepfather died 5 years ago, but despite his hurtful comments when I was young, he spent a good many years of my adulthood telling me I was beautiful, and I loved him for that!
How about a thread about the nicest thing ever said to you.....or the best backhanded compliment!!
ETA; I forgot my brother! He was reeeeally nasty and would make as many fat jibes as he could to make me cry. And then my mother/stepfather would tell me to toughen up. Ha!0 -
two years ago I did the MRC program and lost 28 pounds. I've felt fortunate that I have only gained between 3-5 pounds back since but, can't seem to get the scale to go down more (always trying).
Anyway, just this week someone asked if it made me mad that I did "that program and gained all of the weight back". I was a little taken back and confused because my scale doesn't say I'm back up 28 pounds and I'm still wearing the clothes that are 1-2 sizes smaller.
mmmmmmm......0 -
Probably the most hurtful remarks come from my mother, the queen of passive-agressive. She once made me a pan of fudge for me when I came for a visit. After the fudge was gone she said, "Well, you might as well get rid of your old clothes. You'll never fit into a size 6 again, especially after eating all that fudge!" You would think that, after having been raised by her that I would have been better prepared/seen that one coming! Now when starts in on me, I politely inquire after her health (diabetes and heart issues), subtly making my point.
In general though, when I was fat/obese, no one said a thing to me! Part of me thought they were being polite. Another part of me thought I was camouflaging well with the way I dressed (people think I'm a lot taller than I am too!) Now I think that mostly they weren't thinking about me or, if they were, they were thinking about other stuff other than my weight!
But now that I've lost some weight, I'm getting some left-handed compliments like, "You look great! BUT if you lose any more weight, you'll look [variation of 'too gaunt"]" or skeptical looks when I answer their questions as to how I did it (No diets! No pills! No wraps! Just move more and eat less!) like I'm lying to them or something! The remarks that are kinda funny are the ones that are well-meaning but come out wrong, e.g. "You lost a TON!" Others have made allusions to anorexia or illness ("Are you sick?" "Do you have cancer?") (FYI, I am being careful not to go too far with my weight-loss campaign and actually have revised my goals twice to make sure I stay safely in the normal range.)
But to dwell on that over the people who were and are supportive is unfair. I lot more people have been encouraging and kind than mean. If I let the "off" remarks get to me, it gives those remarks more power than they deserve.0 -
I remembered something that happened to me recently. Wasn't "bad" necessarily, but it pissed me off.
I had a skinny friend (who has never been fat) tell me that he doesn't think I'm dedicated enough when I was telling what I usually eat. I was saying low fat stuff and chicken, and lean pockets, and he had the nerve to say "Well, instead of a lean pocket for breakfast, how about something healthier like a bowl of cereal?"
I said, "Well, instead of being a jerk, how about looking at the 20 lbs I lost in 3 months and sucking it?"
Because captain crunch is a lot healthier, ya know.0 -
OMG!!! I can't believe that some people have said these things to y'all. I hope y'all just brush it off, because each and every one of you is beautiful, and each and every one of you deserve to be happy no matter your size!0
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The worst things about my weight were always from my ex-assh*** husband. Either he would call me "TT" for thunder thighs, or if I said I lost a few pounds, he would say "where? In your pinkie"? The worst was when he told me I was too fat for him to be sexually attracted to. That was a huge blow to my ego.
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That I was not fat enough for a BBW but was too fat to be attractive to normal men.0
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ive had the whole preggers thing SOOO many times :yawn: but i think the most imbarrasing was the dr's receptionist said to me oh i didnt know it was raining so hard outside....it wasn't raining at all i had just walked about 500 yards from my house to the dr's and was sweating alot! (ouchy) :sad:0
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This is actually something I realized just last night.
Back when I was about 14, my family took a trip to Mexico. I remember we were walking down the road one day when two local men were walking down the street opposite of us. They started snorting at us like pigs. I didn't know what it meant and my step-mom and step-sister said they probably were "cat-calling" us, like pretty much what they do in the states when they see a sexually attractive woman. I don't know what made me think about it last night (I'm 22 now), but I realized they weren't cat-calling anyone... They were calling me fat. Our obvious language barrier left them to say it the only way they knew how, which is making pig noises. I knew they did it at me, because my S-mom and S-sister are verrrry small.
I was on the heavy side when I was 14. Pushing almost 170 lbs. I was fat. But 8 years later, I finally realized that was the first time I was openly called fat. It still hurt my feelings.
Um, if you were obviously tourists or Americans, you were more likely being snorted at for being American pigs rather than fat!0 -
ive had the whole preggers thing SOOO many times :yawn: but i think the most imbarrasing was the dr's receptionist said to me oh i didnt know it was raining so hard outside....it wasn't raining at all i had just walked about 500 yards from my house to the dr's and was sweating alot! (ouchy) :sad:
Yeowch :x I think comments like that hurt the most because they're being completely genuine and are not trying to be nice, because what they're saying isn't mean
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I was sitting here thinking the same thing! I am reading all these posts and getting down and they didn't even happen to me! No, my life has not been perfect but I am not going to sit around and let a@%es control my feelings and emotions. I have enough going on in my life to worry about what others say. Granted, I have not had anything like this happen to me in years (and I just started losing weight) but don't let it control you. Let it motivate you so when you start losing the weight, you can just walk by those people and give them the one finger wave! (Not real mature but they don't seem to me on the mature side either if they are talking about people's weight.) I am sure everyone has a "fault," "complex", or concern about themselves. Don't let it control you!
Ya know that's easier said than done. It's not so easy when from the age of 6-14 you are told daily by your father that you are fat and ugly and pathetic and that you will die alone, that no amount of money in the world would buy you a husband let alone a boyfriend. Sorry but that **** stays with you. I still struggle daily with feeling like I am worth it because of my fathers ****. Sometimes you can't just let it roll off your back.0 -
I have a lot of things said to me. When I was in school and didn't know I had PCOS, I was taunted by kids saying "Oh go eat more twinkies, "give it to her, she will eat anything" or " I can not believe you actually fit in that desk"
When I started dating:"I wouldn't be with you, but you will be a better **** buddy" :" I dont date girls who weigh more than I do"
"You would look better as a brunette and lose weight and you will be a hottie"
When I got married and this was from my own mother in law "I do not think you look right in a dress, You should wear a pant suit" "The camera always will gain more weight, that is why I do not have photos of you, you and Josh should try to lose weight because that is a reason you can not have children"
Im leaving that all in the past. I know I can lose weight and prove to everyone that it is not because I overeat or eat junk food. I have a condition and I want to kick it where it belongs0 -
I have been asked if I was preggers a million times. One woman (a customer) came in 3 weeks after asking if I was pregnant to make sure I wasn't because she was so sure I was! Also, my father called me thunder thighs since I can remember and used to tell my mother not to buy my favorite foods because I was getting too fat. I've never been obese like him, but he was convinced that I was going to be any second and I was going to develop diabetes. He was brutal about it. Also, my mom always said how she hates fat people (she is 5'9 and 113 lbs). She would say, just let your fat eat itself. Just stop eating and you'll lose weight. I eat whatever I want, I don't understand what your problem is. Or, you're def Italian, you like food too much and are too heavy to be from my side. It's amazing I didn't develop an eating disorder.0
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Sorry to hear that weight is not important what is inside is what matters keep up the good work you can do it and show them that you are not only pretty on the inside but also on the outside :flowerforyou:0
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My grandmother:
"You´re too big for that dress, you should stop wearing it. And don´t think you can lose weight, look at me and your mother, it´s genetics. You can do nothing about it." (I was nowhere close to fat even back ten, but I did lose some weight and toned up too)
And then came this:
"Come here, quick! I must take a photo of you, who knows how long you will stay this thin!"
"I used to be just as thin as you are!"
"You look much better now. Have you gained 2 grams?"0 -
This all reminds me, and I regret that I wasn't present for this at the time, but:
I have a buddy whose wife is pretty obese. I'm not sure what she weighs, don't really care (except I'd like to see her in better shape of course), but anywho, we're in Orlando this last September at a large open air mall and she wanted to shop a bit more on her own, so we (myself, the husband, another buddy) split apart and trek elsewhere.
We run into her a while later - we can tell even from like 100 yards away that she is fuming mad. At first she wouldn't tell us what was wrong, but then we got it out of her - coming out of a store, she *almost* ran into a man who had his two younger kids along, and he pretty much tore into her. He actually told her in front of small children that she should go to a concentration camp for a while. I think she was actually more hurt by the fact that he would influence his kids that way than the comment itself, but needless to say, my buddies and I were ready to give this guy a piece of our mind if we ran into him!0
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