why do people care that someone is fat?
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I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?0 -
I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?0 -
In all seriousness though..especially for women. Society REALLY cares about our weight. To the point it actually makes people angry when someone is fat. Why is this? why do they care so much..? it no way affects their life really...
FROM A BULLYING STANDPOINT
People will come up with all sorts of justification for their fat hatred. But the fact is, it's just because they're being shallow and/or mean. Fat people are an easy target.
The 'health care' argument is bunk because more money is spent on the ageing population than on health care for the obese. People who live a long time are a bigger drain on society yet nobody complains about healthy people.0 -
I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?
Wow...I think you just proved the OP's point, and YOUR comment was neither nice nor sympathetic or concerned--just mean. I could easily say the same about YOUR size in comparison to mine. But I won't, because I don't think that way.0 -
Doesn't bother me one bit, right up until they start feeling sorry for themselves for being fat and yet refuse to do anything about it.
I was one of those guys about other things......throwing about a 5 year long pity party for myself after my wife died, basically drinking myself to death, all other sorts of self-destructive garbage and blaming everything on that one event. One day I realized how pathetic I'd become (not because i drank, not because i was sad, not because I was self-destructive), but because I kept justifying the way I was on something while all the while not doing a damned thing about my own state.
I know plenty of people that are wayyyyy overweight, and they don't feel sorry for themselves and blame the world. As far as I can tell, they are fine with it, at least for the time being. Its the folks that piss and moan, all the while blaming the world for the condition and not themselves.0 -
As far as the original post: I care about my direct personal friends who are struggling with their weight, because their health concerns me. On the flip side, I'd be equally concerned about a severely underweight friend who is struggling with anorexia and/or bulimia, just as much as the overweight friend--simply because I care about my friends. Otherwise, it's none of my business about someone's weight, unless they ask me for advice, or support. As far as the health care comments, we pay for MANY health issues that others deal with that have absolutely nothing to do with weight and we don't judge those people, do we? (well, maybe some of you do. I personally don't. Again, none of my beeswax
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A lot of people are going to bring up health care.
those people can leave.
When you post on a public forum - you are going to get all sorts of answers. Telling people to leave because they aren't giving you the opinions you want is ridiculous.0 -
I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....0 -
I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....
I think the OP wants to know why people BULLY fat people (eg, scream 'fat cow' at total strangers), not why obesity is an issue. We know that obesity is an issue for many reasons, but why do people feel that is a justification to abuse obese people on a constant basis?0 -
If a woman has to lose weight to keep her man, then he's not worth it. But if the woman feels that she wants to be a certain way, by all means, get there! I lost over 60 pounds because I chose to, not because my hubby wanted me to. I was at a point where I felt weighted down and I couldn't stand it. Yes, I was happy eating junk but now, I'm happy eating healthy. If you are not happy with yourself, you're doing something wrong, not with anyone else.0
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I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?
Wow. Except for the age thing (add 10 years) you just discribed me before I started losing weight. And going by your ticker, with a starting weight of 300+, you weren't too far from it yourself, darlin. So you SHOULD be asking yourself WHY?? HOW??0 -
The only time I care if someone is obese/very overweight is if they are sitting beside me on a plane. Plane seats aren't built for comfort in the first place and having someone almost on top of you for a flight gets pretty tough. Other than that I welcome fat people because usually they are there to see me to help them lose weight.
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I don't think you know what bullying is...I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....0 -
A lot of people are going to bring up health care.
those people can leave.
LOL. Intolerance at it's finest. I have a question but you can only answer it with the answer I want. THUMBS UP, OP, BRAVO!
THIS. My answer wasn't suitable either
I also nicely told you I meant more from a bullying standpoint and it was ok for you to feel that way in your situation. thanks a lot though.
Oh thank goodness I have YOUR permission to have my feelings regarding my situation... Psht.0 -
Being obese denotes weakness, and bullies go after the weak, easy targets.
Check this out...
Victim Fights Back
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=isfn4OxCPQs
This was the final time this boy was bullied by that kid.
HAHA i saw that. loved the mortal kombat remix of it0 -
In all seriousness though..especially for women. Society REALLY cares about our weight. To the point it actually makes people angry when someone is fat. Why is this? why do they care so much..? it no way affects their life really...
FROM A BULLYING STANDPOINT
cuz bullies pray on the weak...and they think fat people are weak because they can't even control how much they eat.0 -
I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....
I think the OP wants to know why people BULLY fat people (eg, scream 'fat cow' at total strangers), not why obesity is an issue. We know that obesity is an issue for many reasons, but why do people feel that is a justification to abuse obese people on a constant basis?
I agree with whoever posted earlier that fat people are an easier target, than, say, a really fit person. In most cases. But someone who bullies a fat person (ie, the namecalling etc) seems likely to namecall or pick on ANYONE who is different in some perceived way. The few bullies I recall from school didn't just pick on the overweight kid, they picked on the kid with glasses, braces, bad skin, greasy hair, taller than everyone else (that last description, minus the overweight part, actually describes me in 6th grade lol). It seems like some bullies do it to feel better about themselves, although I don't know how hurting others makes one feel better about themselves.0 -
I don't think you know what bullying is...I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....
Yeah, saying, "WAAH WAAH WAAH" at someone issuing a complaint or comment isn't something a bully has ever done. Ever.0 -
You're asking for honesty, because it's 'gross'... to be honest, I worked at hooters and serving overweight people fatty foods grossed me right out!
I can't eat with people who are overweight and make bad food choices because it creeps me out too.
Maybe I sound mean, but I can't help it!0 -
Not sure. But one time someone told me that thin women don't like fat women because the thin ones work real hard to be thin and are wishing that they could eat more too, and they don't like it even more if the fat woman is happy and has a loving man in her life even though she doesn't give up all food to keep him. Not sure why men don't like fat women---maybe because the media and hollywood keeps telling them that only thin women are pretty? Some men are real offended when a fat woman likes them or asks them out--it's like they think less of themselves cause a fat woman actually thought she had a chance with them.--I don't know! But I wish people would not be so judgemental----I personally like a chunkier man. The women in my family are all fat---(well except for my Mom who was like this tiny little thing!) and I think we all pretty!
Ah yes, Hollywood, where the "fat" characters are usually within normal BMI limits, yet can't be loved until they get to the bottom of that range.0 -
I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....
I think the OP wants to know why people BULLY fat people (eg, scream 'fat cow' at total strangers), not why obesity is an issue. We know that obesity is an issue for many reasons, but why do people feel that is a justification to abuse obese people on a constant basis?
The OP Posted the Waah waah waah - just to let you know. And now that it is clarified..okay. It wasn't before and telling people to get out and to put what they put up above is just as bad as the bullying she's talking about. It's a lack of respect and taking people's views into account.0 -
I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?
Wow....uh...so how do you feel, saying that, and knowing you were once less than 50 LBs away from being the same weight? o_O Because I just don't get how someone can say that, when they're in the same boat.0 -
Insecurity.0
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I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?
You are joking, right?0 -
I don't think you know what bullying is...I should edit my topic that this is directed towards a BULLYING standpoint. besides I already know everyones answer. FAT PEOPLE RUIN MY HEALTHCARE WAAH WAAH WAAH.
Intolerant and insensitive...and you were talking about bullying??? hmmmm....
"Bullying is the use of force or coercion to abuse or intimidate others. The behavior can be habitual and involve an imbalance of social or physical power. It can include verbal harassment or threat, physical assault or coercion and may be directed repeatedly towards particular victims, perhaps on grounds of race, religion, gender, sexuality, or ability."
I know what bullying is. I've had it happen to me.
A bully disrespects other's - whether due to physical appearance, lifestyle, disabilities, or just having a differing opinion.
You, OP, disrespected other's who provided answers and proceeded it "make light" of those answers. First off - you weren't specific at the time. Second - you than proceeded to bash the answers in regards to healthcare.
I wasn't saying you were really "bullying" others, but your lack of respect and attitude was just as bad as a bully's. 0 -
You're asking for honesty, because it's 'gross'... to be honest, I worked at hooters and serving overweight people fatty foods grossed me right out!
I can't eat with people who are overweight and make bad food choices because it creeps me out too.
Maybe I sound mean, but I can't help it!
Great honesty, to be sure, but so glad I can add to the list of people I would NOT want to get to know on this site.
Yikes.
PS You can "help" it if you truly wanted to--it's called compassion for others.
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I care in a sympathetic way.
That... and when I see someone who is REALLY fat, like REALLLLLY fat, I think to myself "WHY?? HOW??" I saw this woman the other day, probably around my age (I'm 28) who had to have been easily 350 pounds and her *kitten* was just so friggin' big, you could probably put a glass of water on it and it wouldn't fall off. Her thighs were just monstrous and bulgy everywhere. How does that happen?
You are joking, right?
Sadly, I don't think she is. :huh:0 -
You're asking for honesty, because it's 'gross'... to be honest, I worked at hooters and serving overweight people fatty foods grossed me right out!
I can't eat with people who are overweight and make bad food choices because it creeps me out too.
Maybe I sound mean, but I can't help it!
Great honesty, to be sure, but so glad I can add to the list of people I would NOT want to get to know on this site.
Yikes.
PS You can "help" it if you truly wanted to--it's called compassion for others.
You said exactly what I was thinking. 0 -
In all seriousness though..especially for women. Society REALLY cares about our weight. To the point it actually makes people angry when someone is fat. Why is this? why do they care so much..? it no way affects their life really...
FROM A BULLYING STANDPOINT
To answer your question now that you've clarified from the standpoint you are looking -
Bullying is usually done out of fear of change, the feeling of insecurities, learned behaviours, or trying to fit in by dominating a crowd, clique, etc and showing "their"power to negatively influence others into supporting them...etc. There are a lot of reasons, none good.0 -
Bullies will always find something to not like.0
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