Diet + Love: Has this ever happened to anyone?

etoiles_argentees

You ladies Skpe?

Can I dial in? I promise I won't make a noise, I'll just quietly watch and listen. AND WON'T RECORD. PROMISE.

He's lying.

jenilla1

I honestly don't see how swearing off foods that she has decided are bad for her relate to whether or not she will swear off a significant person in her life.

^-This

You may not agree with the approach she's taking to her diet, but there's a HUGE jump between 'I'm not going to eat cheese anymore' and 'I don't love you anymore'

This sounds like typical "resolutioner" behavior to me. It's usually only temporary. I wouldn't worry. I don't see how her swearing off a few foods can lead to her swearing off her relationship, unless the relationship was bad to begin with, and she's gonna use the new year as an excuse to flush out all the negative aspects of her life...

fmebear

I guess the question is actually how long do you think she will be able to stick with all the things that she's sworn off? Also, why did she start this anyway? Is it just a New Year's Resolution or do you think that maybe seeing you live a healthy lifestyle has made her want to as well? If that's the case then it could mean she's trying to be better for you. There are a lot of variables but at the end of the day, the only thing you can do is be the bigger person and love her if you love her.

On this I would suggest a conversation with her BUT not at any place that you both consider home base. If you are at home, you are more likely to get in a much bigger/louder discussion that it needs be. Ask her why she cut everything out and if this is a temporary thing? You can not know what is happening unless you talk. Communication is priority in a relationship and you should be able to approach her without being accusatory/mean/vindictive but questioning and understanding.

I am the one in our household getting back into the routine of being healthy. My husband will follow once he is ready. As it is right now, I am not drinking. I will drink very occasionally but not every night like last year. This is how I feel better and he understands it. I do not prohibit him from drinking nightly although I believe he would feel better if he didn't. Either way I love him unconditionally as he loves me.

RonnieLodge

my partner recently started her own "resolutioner" diet, and she has sworn off like ten things. She's not eating cheese or drinking alcohol anymore.
This is kind of making me nervous, to be honest.

Should I talk to her about my feelings or will this just go away on its own?

Yes, of course you should discuss it with her.
After you have left it a few days to remember that you are a person, not a food or wine or habit.

I decided to stop drinking, smoking and eating refined sugar for the new year. So far I have managed at least 1 out of 3 each day, sometimes 2. I should hate to think how horrid I would be to live with if all 3 were jettisoned. I got pretty bored of it by noon on new year's day!

MaggieSporleder

OMG. It's just a diet. These people telling you it's over, she's fickle, whatever. How do they really know. I really hope you didn't take any of this to heart love. I gave up gluten, and my husband can't live without his bread. I'm not going to leave him because of it. Go hug her, and relax ok

BuckeyeBabe10

FTW!!!!!! !!!!!

jenilla1

OMG. It's just a diet. These people telling you it's over, she's fickle, whatever. How do they really know. I really hope you didn't take any of this to heart love. I gave up gluten, and my husband can't live without his bread. I'm not going to leave him because of it. Go hug her, and relax ok

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clarkeje1

Just talk to her about your feelings.

1ConcreteGirl

Thanks, guys. Lots of great opinions here!!