Marriage values in our society....

Sunlight2013

I am very disappointed in hearing some news today. Where has everyone's marriage values gone? I'm hearing waaay too much about people having affairs, or secretly meeting someone for "lunch" or "texting and/or talking on the phone" when your spouse is unaware. These are all considered Affairs....whether physical and/or emotional....they are still affairs. I know that if anything like this ever happened to me, I would TRY my best to work through it with my husband....I would....but knowing my personality, it would be the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life. I feel so BLESSED that I have a husband who has the same marriage values as mine but also dumbfounded and a little (i should say ALOT) disgusted at the things I have seen at the gym and also with the news I heard today. Shame on some people for not putting the importance of their marriage above any "lust" or attraction you may of felt.

Windy_

Another Judgey McJudgerton thread....BINGO!

DamnImASexyBitch

I agree in MY marriage those would be affairs. In other people's marriages some of that may not be. Who are you to judge?

dirtnap63

Judge much?

hearthemelody

Windy, I will beat you at Bingo one of these days!

LetsMakeupXtina

Yep, there's a lot of bad **** happening in the world. but everyone has their own values and everyone has their own situations that fit their lifestyle IMO.

Windy_

Windy, I will beat you at Bingo one of these days!

Not with the amount of time I spend on the forums....=P

Windy_

Stupid double posts.

oregonzoo

People have their own values. Those values may not match mine or even yours.
But as long as it doesn't personally effect me, honestly why care?


People need to worry about their own affairs. Their own affairs only.

parys1

Thine judgement is heavy, perhaps thou art starting a 5x5 lifting program?

SmexAppeal

The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

ubermensch13

Let me break it to you: It has always been that way, it is just much more easy to know about these things now. Study history, infidelity all over the place!

OkieinMinny

Thine judgement is heavy, perhaps thou art starting a 5x5 lifting program?

bwahaha - they should hang together

ubermensch13

Oh, and why is marriage "sacred"? It is only a contract really, and contracts are broken or dissolved all the time. Of course, I'm an atheist and don't place the same importance on the word "marriage" many religious people might.

Chief_Rocka

I yearn for the good 'ol days when affairs didn't happen.

_SusieQ_

Thine judgement is heavy, perhaps thou art starting a 5x5 lifting program?

I heart you so hard.

beernpizza

Let me break it to you: It has always been that way, it is just much more easy to know about these things now. Study history, infidelity all over the place!

This! I wanted to write this but I couldn't find the right words.

ubermensch13

I yearn for the good 'ol days when affairs didn't happen.

When unicorns flourished and Jesus rode Dinosaurs....

TK266

i have to agree with ubermench. If you believe that "marriage values" have gone anywhere, you are mistaken. As long as there has been marriage, there have been examples of infidelity (I could point out several in the Bible). it is only new to folks who have noticed it around them for the first time.

BurtHuttz

If she would follow the bible and just do what I tell her to, no matter how vulgar or base, I wouldn't need to go looking for carrots in Caterwaul's garden if you catch my drift. You know, pick some berries at the apple orchard? Eh? Eh? Grabbing a few pints down at the old five and dime?? Eh? Get me? Heh. Eh?

Cameron_1969

I can't disagree with this. .it was those 'texts' and 'secret' friends that destroyed my marriage. . . The cost/benefit analysis of lust when married just doesn't add up. . But hey. . most people seem to think there's nothing they can do to stop themselves. It's not their fault!

penrbrown

I yearn for the good 'ol days when affairs didn't happen.

*searches memory* Wait... WAIT!

These good 'ol days... they're all in your imagination aren't they?

drmerc

I yearn for the good 'ol days when affairs didn't happen.

And people didn't eat wheat

oregonzoo

The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

This is chicken doodle.
People all have their own values. I respect the values and opinons of somebody who isn't judgemental regarding what others do much more than nosy nellys who have to whine on an internet forum about what people they don't even know are doing.

penrbrown

I can't disagree with this. .it was those 'texts' and 'secret' friends that destroyed my marriage. . . The cost/benefit analysis of lust when married just doesn't add up. . But hey. . most people seem to think there's nothing they can do to stop themselves. It's not their fault!

Oh god. I hate that attitude.

If you have a feeling - ACT ON IT. That's what we're taught. It's such BS!!!!

VelociMama

I know that if anything like this ever happened to me, I would TRY my best to work through it with my husband....I would....but knowing my personality, it would be the hardest thing I ever had to do in my life.

With all due respect, you really have no idea what your reaction to an affair would be until you've been cheated on by your spouse. You can speculate what you WOULD do but not what you actually do. The circumstances of each affair are different. The circumstances and arrangements of each married couple are different. Why? Because "values" are subjective and usually based on cultural norms which don't always fit everyone. Your values are not always others' values.

dirtnap63

The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

Why do we bother to comment if we don't agree?
For the same reason the OP posted the topic, to give our opinion on the matter.
My opinion is the OP needs to stop judging how others live just because it' s not exactly how she would live.
Sorry if it's not the same opinion as the yours and the OP's, but it's a public forum and dissenting viewpoints should be expected!
Or does that go against your morals too?

sunsnstatheart

Darn whippersnappers ruining everything with their moral relativity and whatnot! Back in my day we just all went down to the cat house and got business done the right way. None of this new fangled "sexting" and free love . . .

pawnstarNate

I value my marriage.......Until she pisses me off. :laugh:

deksgrl

Peanut butter sammich and a glass of milk.

dmpizza

There is no question that we are seeing diminishing returns from the 60's "Sexual Revolution" that then led to today's "Hookup Culture".

I don't know how to fix it, but we just simply are not creating a better society when we screw whatever shakes in front of us like some monkey or over-libido'd jerk.