Marriage values in our society....

michelejoann

This is definitely a judgmental post.

And a very touchy one, at that. Some people have needs that aren't being met either emotionally, physically and/or spiritually by their significant other.

To each their own, I guess. Who are we to judge?

dsjohndrow

Marriage is what you make it.. I have chosen with my wife to uphold traditional vows. I don't really care what anyone else thinks or does in their marriages. I look for people that are happy in their relationships.

My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me. I don' t know what I'd do if she had an affair. I just need to do my part in making her the happiest woman on earth - which usually starts with taking out the trash.

JUDDDing

Yep. There are no "marriage values", honey. There are YOUR marriage values, which mean nothing to me.

Agreed.

I find the whole concept of "emotional affair" to be completely ridiculous.

Velum_cado

I feel so BLESSED that I have a husband who has the same marriage values as mine but also dumbfounded and a little (i should say ALOT) disgusted at the things I have seen at the gym and also with the news I heard today. Shame on some people for not putting the importance of their marriage above any "lust" or attraction you may of felt.

For what it's worth, a lot of these people who are "having affairs" may have felt just like you at one point, or may have told their spouses the same thing your husband is telling you now. You never know what might happen. For some people, it takes an affair happening to finally end a bad relationship, or the affair may save the marriage. So you can come down now... The high horse needs a rest.

michelejoann

People have their own values. Those values may not match mine or even yours.
But as long as it doesn't personally effect me, honestly why care?


People need to worry about their own affairs. Their own affairs only.

THIS.

fcp1234

I have yet to have a man on here seek my attention out who is getting regular ***** from his wife.

Of course they gonna say that their wives are not putting up..Do you expect them to come out and say that they're pigs??

rockymtnlove

so I should inform my husband every time I text someone? hahahahaha

penrbrown

Another Judgey McJudgerton thread....BINGO!

Yep. There are no "marriage values", honey. There are YOUR marriage values, which mean nothing to me.

Which is where the confusion comes in. Because there is no universal definition of marriage (within our society), people come in each expecting different things.

It's such a mess. No wonder divorce is so common.

Perhaps if marriage values WERE universal, people would go in knowing what to expect and what is EXPECTED of them. And divorce would be less common.

katbean12

marriage is a committment that it seems most people don't honor
It is their own problem but it's natural to be dissapointed or upset when you hear bad news about people you care for.

yeah just be glad you entered into a marriage with someone like minded. I feel so grateful I married someone who shares the same values on the marriage arrangement too.

SmexAppeal

The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

Don't post on the forums if you can't take criticism and open discussion. Not everyone agrees with your religious beliefs, and I certainly don't agree that you have somehow found the "truth" to morals and values as your claim that the "world's population is lacking morals and values" seems to imply if not openly state.

Congratulations on finding out the truth about me... way to go.

Tarapritchett

I don't think this is suddenly something that happened 'these days'. And it has little to do with the sanctity of marriage.
It is more about having respect for other human beings. Especially when you make a promise to them and ask them to become vulnerable to you. You don't need a piece of paper for that. It hurts the same without it.
Do I think people have less respect for relationships? Nope. I think they just have more ways of getting caught.

I was trying to think of exactly how I would word my response - this is good. Thanks.

firstsip

Oh, and why is marriage "sacred"? It is only a contract really, and contracts are broken or dissolved all the time. Of course, I'm an atheist and don't place the same importance on the word "marriage" many religious people might.

Of course, in a thread which has nothing to do with religion, the atheist has to let everyone know what his beliefs are.

Yup.

"How do you know if a person is an atheist?"

"Oh, don't worry--they'll TELL ya!"

I don't think that's very fair. Being outside of a norm (read: Christianity, majority religion of much of the western world) and noting that you are isn't always an attempt to derail a discussion. It's valuable to bring in the perspective when the OP has said words "blessed" and "sacred," two words with religious connotation, thus specifically linking religion and marriage... when obviously, that could be a whole other debate about that can of worms. Which, I would also say to the OP of this little thread chain... marriage does not equal religion. I'm not sure how being an atheist means you wouldn't view marriage the same way; that's more of a personal feeling towards marriage, I'd say, not necessarily an informed belief because of being an atheist.

serena569

Wait! So you're telling me that if my boss invites me out for lunch, we're having an affair? Get real! People can be friends.

LetsMakeupXtina

Wait! So you're telling me that if my boss invites me out for lunch, we're having an affair? Get real! People can be friends.

agreed.

Juliejustsaying

nope, not worth it.

LetsMakeupXtina

i have this strange feeling this thread is about to get shut down...

RhonndaJ

I don't happen to think that marriage is 'sacred', but I do think that when we make a promise to someone else, we really should do our best to keep it.

michelejoann

i have this strange feeling this thread is about to get shut down...

hahahaha

MiloBloom83

Thine judgement is heavy, perhaps thou art starting a 5x5 lifting program?

I doth heart you so hard.

Fixed it for you.

alsunrise

Marriage is what you make it.. I have chosen with my wife to uphold traditional vows. I don't really care what anyone else thinks or does in their marriages. I look for people that are happy in their relationships.

My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me. I don' t know what I'd do if she had an affair. I just need to do my part in making her the happiest woman on earth - which usually starts with taking out the trash.

LOL... And it's amazing how such small things as taking out the trash add up and make us happy. And doing the laundry earns brownie points!!

tj1376

You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

Dont forget those marriages that started because a family sold their daughters to the highest bidder - those are bound to have the utmost fidelity in them. :laugh:

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

thing is, we don't know the "rules" in anyone else's marriages and it is not our place to judge anyone else.

PikaKnight

I value my marriage.......Until she pisses me off. :laugh:

Just because somebody doesn't conform to your values doesn't make them anything less than you.

QFT

ooshlet

You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

exactly! the good old days when people stayed in miserable marriages long after they were over because they had no other option.

PikaKnight

You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

Hi5!

michelejoann

You're right; none of us have any values.

I, too, miss the old marriage values of society. When women were forced to marry the men who raped them. Or when women were considered property and nothing more. Or when women couldn't marry someone of a different race.

Yup. No values today. We've only gone downhill.

Dont forget those marriages that started because a family sold their daughters to the highest bidder - those are bound to have the utmost fidelity in them. :laugh:

Wait, so how did "golddiggers" come about?

PikaKnight

The responses to this thread already show the lack of values.
No, it's not her business, but apparently it's something she wished to talk about. Marriage is supposed to be sacred. And people are throwing it away like it means nothing. So I totally agree with this post. Is it my business whether someone else has an affair? No... but that doesn't take away from the fact that the world's population is lacking morals and values.

And why in the world do you bother commenting on such a post if you just want to say it's none of their business? It doesn't really make sense. If you don't want to discuss it, then find your way out.

Don't post on the forums if you can't take criticism and open discussion. Not everyone agrees with your religious beliefs, and I certainly don't agree that you have somehow found the "truth" to morals and values as your claim that the "world's population is lacking morals and values" seems to imply if not openly state.

QFT

tpittsley77

Society, it's morals and values, have changed. It used to be that the child being raised by the single parent was in the minority. Now, my children, raised in a home with parents that were married before having children, and having all the same last name, those children are the minority. So, it's not surprising to me that so many people in this thread would jump to the defense of the cheaters, and berate those that think cheating is wrong by telling them to mind their own business. We must rationalize our behaviors anyway we can so that we can try having a clear conscience, and not feel that our own actions could possibly be morally wrong.

PikaKnight

Which, I would also say to the OP of this little thread chain... marriage does not equal religion.

Damn, I love you.

akaMrsmojo

Only thing that has changed in our society is that these things are on Entertainment Tonight or Reality TV. All these things happened in Ye Olden Days, just no one talked about them.

In before the lock.