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    The decline of MFP

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    • Posts: 228 Member
      Welcome to the internet....
    • Posts: 28,072 Member
      I do see some of that.

      What I see more of is people sharing information and bouncing ideas off of each other.

      These boards have taught me alot and I've also had quite a few laughs on them as well.

      I choose to focus on the positive.

      Well said.
    • Posts: 1,495 Member
      Thank you! I feel the same way! I'm afraid to post on the community because of that. I mean, I posted a recipe the other day and several people made fun of it.

      No-one "made fun" of your recipe post, I've just read it
    • Posts: 1,596 Member
      its childish, and i feel like, if an adult is going to act so silly on a forum that was intended to help and support weight loss and a healthy lifestyle, then they are only making themself look stupid! doesnt affect me a bit :)
    • Posts: 419 Member
      Nobody likes a whiner.

      I could care less about people being rude to me. Water off a ducks back.

      But I feel bad for those that are affected by people with fake problems for pure laughs. Not everyone here is equipped to handle being the butt of jokes. Maybe one of those that are sensitive will see this and realize that some of us are here to help.
    • Posts: 6,025 Member
      So what I'm hearing is that being fat is akin to being a horrible person? That's neat. Glad we cleared that up....
    • Posts: 5,214 Member
      I was once issued a "warning" from a MFP moderator because I suggested that somebody who was taunting overweight people should "look in the mirror" because that was a personal attack.

      I stopped using the service for a while and still kind of hate there isn't anything better.
    • Posts: 27,167 Member
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      Quit f*cking trolling

      LOL, seriously? I always thought it was quote for truth. Whoops.
    • Posts: 781 Member
      Well said! :flowerforyou:
    • Posts: 7,334 Member
      Reading some of the responses now I see why so many topics get reported.

      I'm curious which responses were ones that would trigger that sentiment? Not trying to be confrontational here, but I don't see much in the way of report-ability, with the exception of the ones relating to the inner fat person, or "you may have abs but you suck and your pictures are fake" statement.

      PS... these are my pics.
    • Posts: 429 Member
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      Exactly. I find many times if I go through people's posts after they respond in threads like this, I find the exact same thing they claim they're against.

      If you don't like someone, use the ignore function.

      If you find something incredibly cruel or mean, report it.

      If you just don't like that someone doesn't agree with you, get over it.

      I also love the "bikinis and abs" comment because....a lot of the people I see being accused of being mean..yes that is their real photo and yes they once were fat. Also, they try to help people realize the best ways to get healthy and avoid fad diets and crash diets...but many times..people do not want to be told they're wrong or want to be coddled. It's a two way street. Never forget that.

      ^^^ This^^^
    • Posts: 3,653 Member
      This thread and threads like it are horribly divisive and I wish they would stop. They don't solve things and just provoke fights.
    • Posts: 5,044 Member
      My feelings are hurt:cry:
    • Posts: 6,420 Member
      I would be the first to admit that there are genuinely people on MFP who come here pissed off at something and take it out on strangers. They are rude without reason etc etc.

      However, I have also learned that, that is about only 5% of the time. The other 95% time its just somebody who

      1) The wrong way. Basically a misunderstanding
      2) Over sensitive or have some cultural difference so caused a difference in opinion (which is apparently not allowed in our society nowadays)
      3) Somebody disagreed with them . Seriously, this is the major one! So many people come here expecting a certain answer and when they don't get it, they think others are being mean to them...
      4) People come to a support site expecting to be supported. No matter what. Many people think just because this is a support site its going to support them through any bat-sh** crazy stuff. An example is the pro-Anorexics. I have seen many threads where they come here making posts (similar to this) and asking others to respect their decision. They think its mean that others aren't supporting their ED (Not recovery from it mind you).
    • Posts: 1,156 Member
      I bet this post takes care of all the nay sayers and bullies out there. Good job! YOU'VE WON THE INTERNET!
    • Posts: 554 Member
      Thus is the side effect of mass communication and anonymity.... sadly it's not unique to MFP
    • Posts: 4,251 Member
      Ok. I have to say this. HOW do some people on here who cry about "mean people" even function in society?

      If a fake question posted by an MFP person really gets under somebodys skin that much, perhaps those people aren't really equipped for the real world.

      Sometimes people are going to make jokes. And sometimes people might not give you the answers you want to hear.
      Just because we're all here to stay in shape/lose weight/ track calories does NOT mean we all have to be best buddies and have trust fall exercises.
    • Posts: 22,834 Member
      I've been around here since 2011. I loved the information, support and the friends I've made. You'd have the occasional argument about HCG or "starvation" mode but it seem things have decline more than "opinions".

      I recently came cross a post from someone looking for support. After so many pages they finally fessed up they just posted to get a rise out of people. But not before making some laughs at the expense of those that genuinely tried to help this person and the advice they have based on their own struggles.

      It just appauls me. This site is FULL of people dealing with security issues and struggles and the thought that a few who already have achieved their goals and have six pack and bikini pics are now using others for pure sport. Many people here come here because they DON'T know what's what or have answers. Some people stay motivated by helping others and some want to use that for their own ego boost. Congrats. You've got the abs or you bought the bikini. Doesn't mean you're an attractive person.

      You've almost hit that 2 year mark for social media where you experience a bit of burn-out for a website. It's like the honeymoon phase.

      People come here and the experience is new and exciting for the first several months. They love the help and enjoy helping. They tend to gloss over the negative comments and clique behavior. As that person spends more time though, the negativity becomes more appearant and the cliques more annoying (even though they themselves have become part of it). Itends up eating at them and they look for something to recatpure their interest like when it was a new. So goes the cycle.

      That said, as places grow in popularity, sites also tend to become more innundated with trolls and people who seek attention through shock or crass behavior. More people to be an *kitten* to, the better.

      So be it. There are always two choices though - stay or leave. Just realize that everything you've gone through here - the good and bad - will happen again somewhere else. It is just as easy to block users, ignore negativity and attention *kitten*, and focus on the loads of good folks here with a true purpose.

      Cheers.
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      I'm assuming this was directed at me since my photos are so gosh darn glorious and godlike,

      You are correct, Sir.
      And you keep ignoring my friend requests. :sad:
    • Posts: 5,573 Member
      people with abs and bikinis could be insecure, too... I take offense that WE - those of us with abs and bikinis are the ones or only ones who poke fun at people. That would be a generalized statement. I do not poke fun at others and do try to help to the best of my ability or I stay in the chit chat section and joke, but would never get my "jollies" at someone genuinely looking for help. Ever.
    • Posts: 2,633 Member
      This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
    • Posts: 4,463 Member
      MFP is still awesome. The boards have sucked for a long time. :)
    • Posts: 792 Member
      I don't post quite as much as I used to as I find some of the replies quite off and rude at times. Being able to say things where no one actually knows them and they can hide behind their computer has a tendancy to make for rude comments, and most of the time they wouldn't dare have the nerve to say these things in real life. Try and ignore it. Add friends who you seem to have a similar view to and who seem supportive and chat to them on your home page. That is what I do more of now than posting on the forums.
    • Posts: 235
      Everyone should know by now the internet is filled with people like that. They got nothing better to do, I guess. I honestly don't care, that's the great thing about losing the weight for yourself and not caring what anybody else thinks.
    • Posts: 226 Member
      The old-vs-new happens on every forum I've ever been a member of. Older members reminisce about how it used to be better, newer members try (often with limited success) to integrate. Some people gain an untouchable status- regardless of whether their behavior is appropriate or not- while others burn bridges early on with no hope for redemption.
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      Quit f*cking trolling

      Thanks! Now I don't have to ask my 15 year old :)
    • Posts: 189
      The funniest think about the people who bash over the internet wouldn't have any courage to say it to your face. Internet bullies can hide behind a computer get their satisfaction all they want, but really, it's a clear sign of weakness.


      ^this^ :smile:
    • Posts: 1,036 Member
      Life isn't fair, people aren't always nice. When you are wrong you need to be told so.
    • Posts: 3,653 Member
      Is THIS divisive thread going to be permitted where so many others get shut down for no reason?

      "HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEA!" gets locked but this unnecessary fight is actually encouraged to continue?

      The moderator pokes her head in to endorse the message of "successful members versus those just starting out"?

      Just shut the forums down, you people don't know the first thing about how to run a community.

      Edited to add:
      By the way, here's what I spent my whole day doing:
      https://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/897611-juicing-cleanse-success-stories
      This place is a joke.
    • Posts: 181 Member
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      LOL, seriously? I always thought it was quote for truth. Whoops.

      It's letters, it could mean anything :D I know it as Quote for Truth as well, especially after quoting something (which is probably the case here) but I guess in the right context it could mean the trolling thing. I think sometimes in some forums it's used to quote someone so that the OP can't change what they posted in case of a big debate or something. Possibly Quite Frankly Told could be another way to use it.

      I am not bothered by the 'bullies' or 'mean people' on this site. If I write something and I get people who don't contribute constructively I usually just ignore them. I have the choice of going into a thread or not, no one is forcing me to post on something. If I feel strongly about it then I will post but will also prepare if things start getting heated. Most of the time it isn't even worth my time to get involved tbh cause all that would accomplish is breeding more debate and hate. If someone posts something but the thread is out of control and I feel like I could actually contribute to the OP I will send them a message.

      I don't think it's fair for anyone to bring up a controversial topic like this trying to 'help' but then you go ahead and attack others about how they are ugly on the inside even if they look good on the outside. You don't know a person by a picture, and you certainly can't know a person from random encounters on a forum. You can't be trying to help the problem by adding to it at the same time. It's kind of like being a person who is all about loving yourself at any size yet turns around putting down skinnier people. It's not helpful and you are just fooling yourself.
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