The decline of MFP
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I understand. I posted a topic once asking about nosebleeds and fainting, an issue I was dealing with, wondering if anyone else has ever had that problem. I mentioned I wasn't insured and then later that week my husband took me to the emergency room when I fainted after a saturday run. I posted an update saying I saw a doctor and had blood tests and a CT scan done and people... adults... followed it up with accusations that I was lying about having gone to the doctor etc... etc.... I didn't mention that I went to the emergency room... I did just say "doctor", but you'd think with an uninsured person.. emergency room might be implied. Either way... I definitely don't post topics anymore.
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Is THIS divisive thread going to be permitted where so many others get shut down for no reason?
"HAPPY BIRTHDAY LEA!" gets locked but this unnecessary fight is actually encouraged to continue?
The moderator pokes her head in to endorse the message of "successful members versus those just starting out"?
Just shut the forums down, you people don't know the first thing about how to run a community.
Edited to add:
By the way, here's what I spent my whole day doing:
https://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/897611-juicing-cleanse-success-stories?page=3#posts-13578197
This place is a joke.
As much as I have conflicts with the mods, this post of yours proved that you don't know the first thing about running a huge community like this and so likely are not the ideal person to tell others if they do or don't know the first thing about how to run a community0 -
The only reason I read your post was the title. The forum sites are becoming drama filled, harsh, know-it-all, cruel, Facebook-ish, maybe I should stop because now I am becoming what I despise. However, my friends here on MFP are the best!
Nice observation as I generally stay off the forums most of the time.
This!!! I rarely ever get on the forums...for this very reason!0 -
You're right OP.
I guess it's a combination of things. I grew up in a tough neighborhood. My mom didn't love me and I was picked on alot in elementary school.
I've floated though this world alone and lonely like bush weed tumbling through the breeze.
I'm 29 years old. I live with my mom. I've got a dead end job and the only REAL satisfaction I get is coming onto MFP forums and giving people a hard time.
My life is empty
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As much as I have conflicts with the mods, this post of yours proved that you don't know the first thing about running a huge community like this and so likely are not the ideal person to tell others if they do or don't know the first thing about how to run a community
Great feedback, dude, reported for hurting my feelings.
So you think that the key to great moderation is arbitrary enforcement of poorly defined subjective rules at the whim of someone who clearly has an axe to grind with the community in the first place? How 'bout you enlighten me.0 -
This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
plenty of bacon
sex is optional...0 -
You're right OP.
I guess it's a combination of things. I grew up in a tough neighborhood. My mom didn't love me and I was picked on alot in elementary school.
I've floated though this world alone and lonely like bush weed tumbling through the breeze.
I'm 29 years old. I live with my mom. I've got a dead end job and the only REAL satisfaction I get is coming onto MFP forums and giving people a hard time.
My life is empty
:sad:
*pat pat* It's a good thing you're so cute or you'd have nothing going for you.0 -
This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
Mmmmmm...bacon...0 -
As much as I have conflicts with the mods, this post of yours proved that you don't know the first thing about running a huge community like this and so likely are not the ideal person to tell others if they do or don't know the first thing about how to run a community
Great feedback, dude, reported for hurting my feelings.
So you think that the key to great moderation is arbitrary enforcement of poorly defined subjective rules at the whim of someone who clearly has an axe to grind with the community in the first place? How 'bout you enlighten me.
Better than explaining to you, I invite you to run a community as big as this with limited manpower. I have ran a much smaller community and I know the headaches that go with it.
And if you need more enlightenment heres something for you
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/793812-i-know-you-need-some-so-come-and-get-some0 -
Is someone serving us bacon?0
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Just because someone reaches their goal weight and can wear a bikini with confidence does not mean that they are unattractive, cold-hearted snobs with a superiority complex.
Just because someone is still fat and is still shy about showing the way they look in less clothing, does not mean they are nice, selfless, caring, supportive and better than anyone else, either.
Some people reach goal weight and look absolutely terrible naked.
Some people reach their goal body but never their weight.
Some people are here to continually improve themselves.
Some people are here to ask a million questions and never read the answers.
Some people are here to have their excuses validated.
Some people are here to have their excuses annihilated.
Some people are here to complain about the necessity of imposing universal standards on "nice", "supportive" "attractive", "curvy" and "funny".
Some people are here just to represent the 1% that feels differently.
Some people are here just to track their food and exercise out of curiosity.
Some people are here to train for an event and have NEVER been overweight.
Some people are here to cause trouble.
Some people are here to waste time procrastinating instead of working out.
Some people are here because they like to read.
Some people are here because they like to write.
Some people are here because they like to blog.
Some people are here because they like to answer questions.
Some people are here because they like to comment/support.
Some people are here because they like to start mischief.
Some people are here because they like to be offended and get all righteously furious on behalf of ______.
What you really truly should be asking yourself is this:
"Am I doing everything possible right now to get myself closer to MY goals, and will the behavior of those people Im talking about - actually stop me from reaching those goals, and if it will - why am I so easily influenced by this and why am I letting the behavior of strangers on the internet affect my workouts and nutrition?"
Good luck, OP. :drinker:0 -
This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
plenty of bacon
sex is optional...
if its ONLY optional, you may as well dig my grave now.... screw that.0 -
I would be the first to admit that there are genuinely people on MFP who come here pissed off at something and take it out on strangers. They are rude without reason etc etc.
However, I have also learned that, that is about only 5% of the time. The other 95% time its just somebody who
1) The wrong way. Basically a misunderstanding
2) Over sensitive or have some cultural difference so caused a difference in opinion (which is apparently not allowed in our society nowadays)
3) Somebody disagreed with them . Seriously, this is the major one! So many people come here expecting a certain answer and when they don't get it, they think others are being mean to them...
4) People come to a support site expecting to be supported. No matter what. Many people think just because this is a support site its going to support them through any bat-sh** crazy stuff. An example is the pro-Anorexics. I have seen many threads where they come here making posts (similar to this) and asking others to respect their decision. They think its mean that others aren't supporting their ED (Not recovery from it mind you).
This. I am under no obligation to "support" anyone outside of who I choose to support. That's life, people who are shocked at that shock me.So what I'm hearing is that being fat is akin to being a horrible person? That's neat. Glad we cleared that up....
My question as well. If we are discussing "unsupportive", then relating fat people to negative personality traits is a bad move on a site where most of us are or were fat.0 -
I realised when I was around 4 or 5 years old that some people are mean, some are nice and some can be a bit of both (depending on their mood)...
I got over it :bigsmile:0 -
Better than explaining to you, I invite you to run a community as big as this with limited manpower. I have ran a much smaller community and I know the headaches that go with it.
And if you need more enlightenment heres something for you
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/793812-i-know-you-need-some-so-come-and-get-some
Great job utterly failing to substantiate your slam. See you 'round.0 -
You're right OP.
I guess it's a combination of things. I grew up in a tough neighborhood. My mom didn't love me and I was picked on alot in elementary school.
I've floated though this world alone and lonely like bush weed tumbling through the breeze.
I'm 29 years old. I live with my mom. I've got a dead end job and the only REAL satisfaction I get is coming onto MFP forums and giving people a hard time.
My life is empty
:sad:
Quite simply, I adore you.
Also, sitting behind this keyboard is the first time in my life I have ever felt brave. I'm not like this to anyone's face, though, because I'm too sad.0 -
I am not reporting this person however I don't think this is the ideal thread since
1) Its one side of the story
All these "you all are big meanies" posts are.
Oh well...
Carry on with the drama folks. *nibbles popcorn*0 -
Dear Posters,
I know that there are voices in a community that are not heard by everyone, and because I hear the sentiment expressed in this topic on a regular basis from a great number of members who are too intimidated or afraid to post… I wanted to thank the OP for addressing this issue.
I encourage everyone who participates in our message boards to remember the purpose for our community is to provide people with a supportive, friendly, fun place to share a common desire to lead healthier lives.
I respectfully ask that our community keep in mind our first guideline, "do not attack, mock, or otherwise insult others. You can respectfully disagree with the message or topic, but you cannot attack the messenger." As well as our second guideline which requests that people please either contribute politely and constructively to a topic, or move on without posting. I also want to remind people to please not take matters into your own hands – instead, use the Report Post link to report an attack and we will be happy to handle the situation for you.
Last but not least, please also remember the ignore feature is a great way to ignore posts from members you don't want to see.
Thanks to all of our members, who every day, participate constructively in our community. There is a lot of wisdom and experience here and I hope also a lot of kindness, understanding, and support.
Respectfully,
Olivia
MyFitnessPal Community ManagerI've been around here since 2011. I loved the information, support and the friends I've made. You'd have the occasional argument about HCG or "starvation" mode but it seem things have decline more than "opinions".
I recently came cross a post from someone looking for support. After so many pages they finally fessed up they just posted to get a rise out of people. But not before making some laughs at the expense of those that genuinely tried to help this person and the advice they have based on their own struggles.
It just appauls me. This site is FULL of people dealing with security issues and struggles and the thought that a few who already have achieved their goals and have six pack and bikini pics are now using others for pure sport. Many people here come here because they DON'T know what's what or have answers. Some people stay motivated by helping others and some want to use that for their own ego boost. Congrats. You've got the abs or you bought the bikini. Doesn't mean you're an attractive person.
I am not reporting this person however I don't think this is the ideal thread since
1) Its one side of the story
2) SHE is the one that is mean...
I could not leave this thread ( I was going to because I really didn't have any thing to add ) without quoting this, just for truths sake.0 -
Better than explaining to you, I invite you to run a community as big as this with limited manpower. I have ran a much smaller community and I know the headaches that go with it.
And if you need more enlightenment heres something for you
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/793812-i-know-you-need-some-so-come-and-get-some
Great job utterly failing to substantiate your slam. See you 'round.
What, no hug? How mean...0 -
This thread needed a gif.
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I love MFP! Forums included. I, too, have been here since 2011, although I didn't really start utilizing the forums until last year. And I spent months just READING, and using that handy little search function to absorb the wealth of information that's available here. I learned a lot from the successful, experienced people that are on here.
I came here with a LOT of wrong ideas about health and fitness that I never would have changed if it weren't for those people that are considered "mean" for disagreeing. I didn't come here for hand-holding, because ultimately I'm the only one who can instill change in my life. And if I post something that's potentially unhealthy or there's a better option, I hope people tell me!
I am now on a path that is 100% different from the one I started with back in 2011 (and finally getting success) and I'm forever grateful for the people and their knowledge on these forums that led me there.
I don't see all the bashing that people seem to whine about, but maybe I'm just not as sensitive.0 -
"Like a bush weed floating in the wind". . (((Hugs)))) I love it!
I get support, I get questions answered, I get a great data base of foods and I think it's healthy and fun to laugh.
I need to laugh. This is one of the places I come to for a laugh. It has been helpful for me. Should I be going elsewhere?0 -
This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
plenty of bacon
sex is optional...
if its ONLY optional, you may as well dig my grave now.... screw that.
lol... wanna borrow my shovel? I'm getting tired of digging mine.0 -
Exactly! I seen a profile pic of a woman yesterday in a bikini wanting to lose 20 pounds. She didn't look like she needed to lose any weight. I also seen a guy yesterday that his picture looked like it came straight out of a fitness magazine. And I have noticed people's nasty comments about healthy recipes.0
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You're right OP.
I guess it's a combination of things. I grew up in a tough neighborhood. My mom didn't love me and I was picked on alot in elementary school.
I've floated though this world alone and lonely like bush weed tumbling through the breeze.
I'm 29 years old. I live with my mom. I've got a dead end job and the only REAL satisfaction I get is coming onto MFP forums and giving people a hard time.
My life is empty
:sad:
However, abs.0 -
This site is awesome... I have truly learned so much from my loud mouth know-it-all friends. Most importantly I learned that this is a lifestyle and in life we must have humor, wine, sex, and plenty of bacon!
plenty of bacon
sex is optional...
if its ONLY optional, you may as well dig my grave now.... screw that.
lol... wanna borrow my shovel? I'm getting tired of digging mine.
does this mean we're giving up? *sigh*0 -
I'll say the same thing here that I did on the 'Rise of MFP' post
I honestly see both ways.There are a lot of trolls on this site and a lot of people who think it's their way or the highway. But I do see a good community of people helping others.
I don't see a rise and I don't see a decline. I see a community of people acting like humans do.0 -
LOOK! Ponies & Rainbows!!!!!!0 -
The old-vs-new happens on every forum I've ever been a member of. Older members reminisce about how it used to be better, newer members try (often with limited success) to integrate. Some people gain an untouchable status- regardless of whether their behavior is appropriate or not- while others burn bridges early on with no hope for redemption.
Pretty much just summed this all up!
And use the damn search function!!!!0 -
Well I'm pretty damn grateful to all those "mean" people who busted their @sses and owe me NOTHING, but still come on here to refute all the nonsense that gets thrown around, in spite of getting flack from people who are humorless, dim, or both. They saved me a lot of disappointment, discomfort and self-loathing. I was going to rage-type some manifesto but someone else already did a much better job than I can right now.
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/898151-the-rise-of-mfp
Edit because I was irritated and accidentally cut myself off before0
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