What have you learned from your relationships?
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If you have any doubt in your mind whatsoever, it's not meant to be.
I had niggling doubts in my head about my ex about how I felt about him, and I ignored them. Towards the end I ended up resenting him because I realised I was 'settling'.
I've been single for around 9 months now, and I've never been happier :drinker:0 -
Don't date a whiny, emotionally stunted, man child0
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I've learned not to trust, watch my feelings and hold back as much as possible, also helps if i pretend to be an *kitten*, treat women like **** and ignore them and they come running.
What have i learned most? It's easier if you learn not to love.
Saddest damn thing I've read all day. And I've read some sad things today.
Sad - yes.
That's some screwed up woman who would "come running" when treated like sh-t & ignored. I certainly don't, just the opposite. It's good to not get jaded just cause someone was too BLEEP to appreciate you and treat you right.
My bf has said similar things, that a lot of girls say they just want a nice guy then ignore the nice guy for the bad boy type0 -
That I'm just as flawed as my husband, and require forgiveness.
To be each other's best cheerleaders.
*From past relationships:
Don't get involved just because you're bored.
Don't date younger, shy idyllic boys who you would just bulldoze over with your gigantic personality if given half the chance.
If they feel like a younger brother, that won't change.0 -
Be honest about your expectations, even if it means it's not going to work out0
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I've learned to not punish my husband for the damage done by an ex in the past.
I have also learned that if I need something instead of assuming he knows what I need, I clearly spell it out for him. Makes everyone's life so much easier that way.0 -
Love unabashedly and trust people until they give you a reason not to. If you never put yourself in a position where you could get hurt, you will miss out on a lot of really great things. Risk your heart. If you are wrong, you will heal.
Abso-freaking-lutely0 -
some say sad, some say reality
In the words of Leonard Cohen
Maybe there’s a God above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot at someone who outdrew you
It’s not a cry you can hear at night
It’s not somebody who has seen the light
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah
I think you need to remember that not everyone is the same. Everyone gets hurt in life. The important thing is that everyone can heal. Stop dwelling on the negative aspects.0 -
Don't date a whiny, emotionally stunted, man child
^^this0 -
1. What have you learned about yourself and how have you grown and changed (for the better hopefully) as a result of being in a relationship?
That I'm asexual, biromantic, and polyamorous, and lucky as all heck to have a steady other half who is understanding of it all.
2. What have you learned about being in relationships in general?
I've also learned to talk, and let talk. Especially as the relationship that I'm in, coming up to 2 years in July, has been long-distance since day 1 and we've only been together (not including before he moved to Canada) for 2 weeks. If we don't talk we both worry, and then worry it's our fault, especially if the other is having a bit of a downer. We're both on the same page with how fast we want things to go and how we want our future to be, but without talking... stress. Simple as.
3. What would you do/ not do again?
Do not try a long-distance relationship until I was absolutely sure. Do not rebound on a best friend (still a very, very close friend, mind you, it just didn't work between us, what with us both rebounding). Do not blame yourself for everything. Do not keep your feelings shut up for over a year before speaking out, you might be surprised to find the friend zone does not exist.0 -
If you have any doubt in your mind whatsoever, it's not meant to be.
I had niggling doubts in my head about my ex about how I felt about him, and I ignored them. Towards the end I ended up resenting him because I realised I was 'settling'.
I've been single for around 9 months now, and I've never been happier :drinker:0 -
When your SO only talks to you because he or she needs or wants something (and for no other reason) there is a huge problem!0
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Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus and Ex's are a pain in Uranus!
:laugh: OMG, definitely this :laugh:0 -
That sometimes, you're just better off alone! :drinker:0
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Can't get in a bad/abusive relationship if you don't date anyone.
Problem solved0 -
When they show you who they are.. believe them!0
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i learned that being single is best0
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I've learned that joint bank accounts are for fools and masochists. Keep your money separate, and then you should have nothing to fight about financially.0
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That sometimes, you're just better off alone! :drinker:
cheers to that! :drinker:0 -
People don't change.0
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sigh... to read more of these later...0
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People don't change.
so true.0 -
People don't change.
so true.
Not true in my case. I've changed plenty.0 -
People don't change.
so true.
Not true in my case. I've changed plenty.
Same here.0 -
People don't change.
People DO change. But it's in their own time, their own way and we can't make them do it any sooner or how we want.0 -
People don't change.
They do if they really want to but you can't change them, you can only change yourself0 -
If your boyfriend hits you when he's angry, leave right then and don't look back.0
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I have learned that it is so important to communicate...but it's so hard when all I do is get shut out...idk if I should keep trying to talk with him or just put an end to it, just seems like no matter what I do its never good enough for him..maybe I'm just not good enough : (0
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some say sad, some say reality
In the words of Leonard Cohen
Maybe there’s a God above
But all I’ve ever learned from love
Was how to shoot at someone who outdrew you
It’s not a cry you can hear at night
It’s not somebody who has seen the light
It’s a cold and it’s a broken Hallelujah
I think you need to remember that not everyone is the same. Everyone gets hurt in life. The important thing is that everyone can heal. Stop dwelling on the negative aspects.
^^^ This!0 -
1. What have you learned about yourself and how have you grown and changed (for the better hopefully) as a result of being in a relationship?
That I trust other people way to easily. That the only person you can rely on is yourself.
2. What have you learned about being in relationships in general?
That I would rather be alone or have a physical relationship only
3. What would you do/ not do again?
I would not marry again.0
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