The Side of Weight Loss No One Talks About
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How extremely infuriating it is that EVERYBODY has something to say about you losing weight or eating differently than they do.0
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Thanks. That's what I meant. Not that what you're doing isn't great for your body and overall sense of well-being. But exercise does not bring about miracles.Not mine, but the belief that you can completely change your body shape through weight loss and exercise and that everyone who works hard will end up looking like a fitness model. The idea that your fat distribution pattern and goals have no bearing on how you work out, especially if you are close to your goal.
huh?
The misguided belief that my booty butt will transform it's self into a perky gym bunny butt because I'm doing squats, when in fact I had booty before I started losing weight, I have it now, and I will always have a big @ss.
Is this basically like when people say "I'm fat. You're ugly. At least I can diet!"
What point exactly are you trying to make? That people should dwell on their negative qualities and embrace the idea that they will always suck? :ohwell:
^This...and I hope the answer is no and people try to learn how to think more positively...especially about themselves.
I don't think it's an issue of dwelling on negative qualities or learning to think more positively, but more of learning to embrace reality. None of us are identical, and even on the exact same diet with the exact same exercises we wouldn't come out looking the same.
I think we will all have issues with our bodies, no matter how much we diet or workout. The point is always to be the best person you can be...whether that is by working on your body or working on your inner beauty. We are who we are, as God intended us to be, and we are beautiful. We were beautiful before we began this journey, we are beautiful today, at this point in our journey, and we will be beautiful tomorrow, when we reach our goals.0 -
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my biggest issue is dealing with being "Mentally fat", Its so much more than just needing to lose weight but also a personal journey. I started in 2010 and i am still trying to emotionally deal with everything. One day at a time is my motto!
This, this, and THIS AGAIN.
Also... I'm getting over it now, it took me some time, but I am mentally coming to terms with the fact that I am no longer the fat *kitten* I used to be! You'll get there, if you don't over-analyse it. Trust me! Good luck!0 -
I know what you mean about no one talking about how heavy you are until you start to lose the weight. Last week, I went to a doctor appointment with my husband. HIS doctor walked in, looked at me, and said "Hey, you look like you're losing weight!" I didn't know whether to be pleased that he noticed or horrified that he obviously thought I was fat before!0
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Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.
That's my dilemna at work!!! None of my work pants fit properly & I feel like trash not wearing cute outfits, but until I'm completely done losing weight, Goodwill & Wal-Mart is the route for me...almost all my work pants are tents on me.0 -
Well, people HERE talk about it all the time, but before mfp I had NEVER heard about the concept of eating more to fuel your body...I only wisssssssssh that I knew then what I know now! I've made sure to spread the word as much as possible. You'd be surprized at some of those, "you must be bullsheeting me" looks that I get! :laugh:0
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Suddenly cuddles are not as easy as they used to be. Bones poking the other person, them squashing you.
One of the things I hate at the moment is EVERYTHING CLICKS. You can hear me coming from a mile away (not in the rude sense).0 -
I've discovered that you can get addicted to the feeling of success when you lose weight. So when you get to a weight where you shouldn't lose any more weight, it can be hard to stop wanting to do it. At first I felt skinny, but after a while I started feeling fat again, even though my measurements were all the same.
I totally feel the same way... you lose the weight and there are the occasional glances in the mirror where you don't recognize that slimmer person. You don't forget where you started, but you don't identify with the heavier person that you were as much anymore. You start to feel more comfortable in your smaller self... and then the bizarre happens... you start feeling fat again. Your measurements are roughly the same, and you don't see the big you in the mirror anymore, but you still see a bigger person. You feel "fat" again, terrified that you're going to gain it back. It's a terrible, emotional, and daily struggle.0 -
Another experience I had – and this could just be my experience and not happen to everyone – was that, while nobody talked about my weight when I was at my heaviest, once I started losing the flood gates opened and nearly everyone suddenly thought it was ok to comment on my weight. I didn't really mind, none of it was negative and I have always been happy to share my experiences and encourage others to do what makes them happy, but it did sort of become the only thing people would talk about and there is more to me.
THIS THIS THIS 1000000%. When you're constantly on (and off) of diets it seems like your weight and weight loss becomes the only topic of conversation that people will acknowledge in your presence. As if you are nothing more than your diet successes and failures. It's infuriating because whenever you regain weight you KNOW these same people are silently sitting back & judging you for not doing what you did before to make them comment positively. Ask me about the weather, football, my job, my family... Anything but my diet. The last thing I want to think about at a family gathering is whether or not I'm fatter than I was at the last one!0 -
How extremely infuriating it is that EVERYBODY has something to say about you losing weight or eating differently than they do.
This too. So irritating. Where were all these personal trainers handing out free advice before I decided to go it alone!?0 -
my feet shinking a whole size! and nobody talks about being in between a size in underwear! that is not fun. :P0
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I'm going to add something positive to this incredibly depressing thread.
Cool thing about weight loss for me that no one ever talked about was how incredibly empowering it is. I feel like going through this craziness of losing weight makes me feel like I can pretty much accomplish anything now. Cheesy, but good stuff.
I had this same experience - I even applied (and got accepted) to law school at age 42 - something I have wanted but was convinced would never happen my entire life. I am a totally new person in that respect.0 -
TONS of things! My worst problem was boob sag. Ended up getting a lift. Also, being colder in the winter and the *kitten* hurts from sitting too long without all the padding. I'm not complaining though. I'd take any of these over obesity.
God, I am agreeing with so many of these.
This too!0 -
Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.
I worry about this, but for a different reason. I worry that I'll fall off the weight-loss train and go back to being bigger again. And then the new skinny clothes will taunt me in my closet.0 -
Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.
Too true. Got my jeans belted in but the bottom is baggy! But NOT buying any new ones until I drop a bit more weight
Goodwill. The one in my town has great quality clothes, designer stuff, I've been getting beautiful suede jackets, never worn, for $ 5.44. Yes...five dollars forty four cents. I buy all my work clothes/barn clothes there, and some of my best clothes as well. Salvation Army is more expensive... sheepskin coat, $ 35.00.0 -
I get ridiculed by my friends for my food choices. I don't refuse to go to restaurants, but I'll order a child's portion (much more manageable for me if it's pasta) or I'll order sauce on the side, and I think they get embarassed because I have a lot of special requests. (I always tip well for the trouble! haha)0
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How little I would actually notice. I don't feel skinnier than I did 25 lbs. ago. I only have clothes, other people, and the scale to tell me otherwise, but when I'm standing in the shower, it's like I'm the same as always.0
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The emotional side effects that come when you stop allowing yourself to eat as a coping mechanism.... Unpleasant feelings and issues come out And you have to face them
I wish I could like this.
...and I'm also looking into if my health insurance covers a therapist now that I don't eat my emotions.
No kidding. Not just for emotional issues from my bad relationship with food but just in general, I feel broken...0 -
As I'm going through my weight loss journey, I'm realizing there are so many things that people don't talk about. I thought I heard it all, but the reality is until you go through it - you know nothing.
What's something that you learned in your weight loss that no one talks about?
it's not that nobody talks about it, but maintenance is a *****!!!0 -
Fat girl issues. I still see myself as big in certain outfits or photos and anyone else thinks I'm absolutely crazy. Confidence doesn't come free with weight loss!0
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Being afraid to buy new clothes that fit because in a few months they won't fit so nicely. I hate to waste money, but I also hate looking homeless when I wear my worn out, three-sizes-too-big clothes.
What she said, either because I've lost more or me being STOOOOOPID and gaining weight back.0 -
The overwhelming fear of gaining the weight back.0
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The comments from people " oh, she can't eat that so no need to make it" I think that non dieters have no idea that we still EAT! That and the clothes... I have bought 5 new sizes this year, lots of money loss. We should start a clothing trade on here !!!!
They would be a great idea!0 -
The overwhelming fear of gaining the weight back.
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TONS of things! My worst problem was boob sag. Ended up getting a lift. Also, being colder in the winter and the *kitten* hurts from sitting too long without all the padding. I'm not complaining though. I'd take any of these over obesity.
God, I am agreeing with so many of these.
This too!
Ah I agree
But I also know a lot of it is in my head as my boyfriend thinks I must be mental if I think they're saggy. I suppose when we've given our bodies a complete overhaul, we make a bigger deal in our heads of the things that we would have been completely fine about if we'd lost the weight overnight. If that makes sense? 0 -
the overwhelming fear of gaining the weight back or to stop loosing at some point .. like for me i wanna keep loosing and loosing but i don t have much to lose anymore and it slowed down a whole lot ( i am probably at my last 5-10 lbs) i guess i just don't know when to stop . its a mental journey for sure
also you lose weight but your mind don't have time to adjust and you still see yourself fat til it adjust .. i had about a month delay on each milestones XD0 -
my feet shinking a whole size! and nobody talks about being in between a size in underwear! that is not fun. :P
I wish my feet shrank a size or even a little! I've got quite wide feet and even after losing 80+ pounds, shoes are still tight on me. (the next size up is too big) :devil:0 -
The emotional side effects that come when you stop allowing yourself to eat as a coping mechanism.... Unpleasant feelings and issues come out And you have to face them
I wish I could like this.
...and I'm also looking into if my health insurance covers a therapist now that I don't eat my emotions.
No kidding. Not just for emotional issues from my bad relationship with food but just in general, I feel broken...
I am going through this right now. I couldn't really explain it but now that I see it written (and by someone else) I can understand my emotions right now.0 -
It will take a lot longer than a few weeks. I know a few people that expect to lose 50+ lbs in a month or so and that's near impossible.
Also matter how naturally gifted you are in the boob area, you will lose some of it as you shrink. I think I've dropped a cup size since starting....0
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