My husband is boycotting my cooking...

pineygirl

I'm not a terrible cook at all. In fact I get compliments about my cooking from everyone but him. The only way I can tell he likes something I've made is if a week or two later he asks me to make it. He's always really critical of anything I make....he just says it makes me a better cook in the long run.

So ever since I've been trying to lose weight I'm not as heavy handed with oils and butter, but I still use them frequently. I don't make really low calorie dishes. I typically have about 500-600 calories left for my dinner, and he gets a much bigger serving than I do (around 800-1000 calories).

Ever since I've been working out more and making healthy lunches and semi-healthy dinners he's starting to give me an attitude. He says I might need to lose weight but he doesn't so don't put him on a diet too.

I'm not. I know I'm giving him enough food, because i know what I'm feeding myself...and he gets almost twice as much food.

So he's been requesting i make a bunch of deep fried food and burgers and stuff. Since I didn't he's just deciding that he won't eat anything I cook...even if it's stuff he likes.

This is so frustrating. I already went food shopping for the week and planned out all this weeks meals. So am I just supposed to cook all that food just for myself?

bymyslf892

It sounds like he needs a swift kick in the butt! But seriously he needs to support you and not throw a fit like a teenager. If this is important to you then it should also be important to him and not an opportunity for him to throw a pity party. I mean he can always cook himself if your food is that awful (which I doubt.) Hope that helps!

upgetupgetup

You could make a 'dressing' on the side for him - olive oil or melted butter & garlic to drizzle over greens & potatoes (Greek yogurt is just like sour cream, he could put those on any potatoes too).

Or you can bake 'crispy' chicken - coat his with batter, something, have yours plain.

Nothing wrong with burgers - 'healthier' ones I like are made of a mix of lean turkey and lean pork (the pork hits the flavour spot); even beef ones are fine - have yours plain, he can put cheese & mayo or whatever he wants on it.

jljshoe1979

Does he ever cook any meals? It sounds like he is just hurting himself...for my husband I cook our suppers, and if he wants extra food he has things he likes to eat. Another thing I do is make some recipes that freeze well (like soups). Perhaps you can freeze some of this extra food, and you can eat it later.

sem41278

Ignore his behavior- hes being immature.

My0WNinspiration

Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.

RainHoward

tell your hubby he needs to go back and live with his mommy if he wants to be treated like a child.
if he wants it he can cook it, you're the spouse, not the maid/chef
find a man who is supportive of your choices and kick his immature *kitten* to the street

SweetestLibby

My dad was like that with my mom...until she made him cook for himself. Not cooking for him actually meant she had a lot of free time on her hands. He can't cook at all so after about 2 weeks of it there was never another word about her cooking. My mom is old fashion and southern - there are no options and if we didn't like it we didn't eat.

there are websites that can help with healthier versions of those unhealthy foods. I'm a fan of skinnytaste! You could use those to find healthier ways to make the things that he's asking for.

links_slayer

Tell him that if he wants something in particular he can make it himself.

tbetts23

One cook = one meal. He won't eat? That's good for you. You have lunch! Even better, you have supper tomorrow and don't even have to cook!

EmilyEmpowered

So am I just supposed to cook all that food just for myself?

Yes, and he will either eat with you or make his own food. That is up to him, not you- being a wife does not make you a short order cook... You are still making things he enjoys, if he wants something else here and there, fine. But refusing to eat what you cook even when HE LIKES IT? I dont even let me 4 year old do that...

megsmom2

Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.

Hes an adult. He can cook his own food if he doesn't like what's on the menu. Why the heck should she cook two meals? I'm sure she has other things to do besides coddle a brat who is acting like a two year old instead of a partner in a marriage.

ddky

Let him cook for himself for a week or so and he will be glad to eat whatever you make.

karentfroese

Don't use the word "DIET" especially around him. Tell him your eating healthy and taking care of yourself and there's nothing wrong with that. And it's not going to hurt him to eat healthy either.

My0WNinspiration

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

fitfreakymom

Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.

She is not a short order cook, if he does not like it then he can cook his own meals. Rule in this house is if you don't like it then either go hungry or make your own.

Seachele28

He needs to get on board, learn to cook for himself, or compile a folder of take out menus. A healthy, happy, long living wife is more important than his man taste buds.

Luckily my hubby is a very willing and easy going guinea pig because he wants me to succeed in my weigh loss and health goals. He realizes that these changes are benefiting him as well and we discuss the recipes - what could I do to improve it, was it spot on and how did I do it, or does it stink so bad that it goes right to the recycle bin? The thing is, we do it as a team although he never cooks. I will plan out several things that will work as main dishes and that can be repurposed leftovers and then we plan out which of this or that for which day or what things to nix.

I find it disappointing that your hubby isn't being supportive Hopefully it changes for you. Keep on your path and focusing on your goals, not his criticisms.

Best of luck : )

lithezebra

Does he feel like you wanting to get in shape is a threat to your relationship in some way? Maybe reassuring him in some other area of your lives together would help, like doing something with him that he likes.

stacezilla

Yep.

And either he eats some of it or he learns to cook what he wants for himself.

Win win.

megsmom2

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

LOLOLOLOL!!!!! I haven't seen the term "bread winner" in years! How retro!

thevegankelly

Listen, you're there to serve him, so quit being selfish and cook what he wants, no matter how unhealthy or unappetizing it is. And wear a nice dress and heels while you're at it; he should have something pretty to look at while he waits for his dinner.

/sarcasm

SweetestLibby

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

I'm sorry but if me not cooking the food he wants causes him to go out an cheat on me then I don't think that we should have been married in the first place. Throwing an tantrum because you don't get what you want is utterly childish! I haven't had a tanturm since I was about 7.

fungaaron9880

bah! yea thats no good. he should be greatful you are taking the time to cook for him.

i mean he can always add more stuff to it if he wants. like if u make a whole wheat pasta he can go add bacon and dorito crumbs.


It just really irks me when ppl are ungreatful

MelStren

It sounds like he needs a swift kick in the butt! But seriously he needs to support you and not throw a fit like a teenager. If this is important to you then it should also be important to him and not an opportunity for him to throw a pity party. I mean he can always cook himself if your food is that awful (which I doubt.) Hope that helps!

This!! Or his *kitten* would just go hungry!

My0WNinspiration

Listen, you're there to serve him, so quit being selfish and cook what he wants, no matter how unhealthy or unappetizing it is. And wear a nice dress and heels while you're at it; he should have something pretty to look at while he waits for his dinner.

She should be cooking naked with stilettos on.

meshashesha2012

is he an invalid or something?

serve your alleged delicious diet food while wearing a teddy and throw ina few hair tosses and stripper back bends. he might have a different impression of cauliflower pizza crust and shiritaki noodles after that.

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

they cheat because their wives dont make them steak? :laugh: yeah OK.

fitfreakymom

cheaters are cheaters regardless of what is cooked or how well looked after they are, I told mine if it ever happened again we would be done real fast.

harmonymkr

Wow that's really hurtful to you. Let him eat whatever he wants for lunch and you eat your choice as well then at dinner he eats the healthier meal. You could also give him one night a week where he picks dinner and you plan to compensate at lunch for a naughty dinner. I'm glad my husband and I are both losing weight together. If he pulled this stunt, he would never have a home cooked meal again!

spangey13

Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.

Seriously? Erm... why should she? I'd be saying he's dam lucky to get home cooked meals every night!

My advice to original poster is to tell him to like it or lump it.

sarahkatara

Dude. Give him a reality check as in, "quit your crap, you and i both know you're being immature and petty. If you don't want to eat what i cook, then feel free to cook your own dinner. I'm not making two."
As others have said, he's a big boy. Don't coddle this behavior. I'd say the exact words above verbatim to my fiancee if he decided to "boycott" my cooking. He'd eat eggs for one night and i'd be cooking for us both the next. Stand up for yourself!

DesignGrrl

Cook all that food, portion it and put it in the freezer, and then you'll have meals for when you don't feel like cooking!

Then on nights where you don't "cook" then you can whip one out and eat it in front of him.