My husband is boycotting my cooking...
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Didn't expect to come back to this thread and see som many replies...lol.
Here's what's on the menu for this week:
Chicken Cordon Bleu Sanwiches- Chicken breast, ham, arugula and smoked mozzarella with butter and dijon mustard on a baguette.
Szechuan Orange Beef and Broccolini over Rice
Almond Crusted Flounder with Garlic Caper Butter Sauce with Roasted Asparagus (and rice for him on the side...none for me)
Chicken Francaise with Broccoli and side of rice
Bacon wrapped Filet Mignon with sauteed spinach and roasted French Fingerling Potatoes
Teriyaki Shrimp Stir Fry with Zucchini, Red Pepper, Snow Peas and Mushrooms...over rice (again)
My husband will only eat rice or potatoes as far as carbs go. He won't eat cous cous, quinoa, bulgar, barley or any other grain...so I don't make them. I've made all of these things before and he's asked me to make them in the past.
This all goes back to this weekend when I was really busy preparing the garden for spring planting, busting my *kitten* ripping up sod and turning over the soil....that I didn't have time to make him potato pancakes.
I have no problem making them...or eating one or two...but I didn't have time. So he blamed it on my "diet." I'm not really on a diet. Just eating a little healthier and eating a little less.
Wow, I didn't actually think he was necessarily an idiot (people have different tastes; thought maybe you could have been just grilling skinless chicken breasts with plain salad) until I saw this. Yeah, let him make his mac and cheese on his own.0 -
LMAO!!! Love it!!! :laugh:0
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Also, what I do is i make a menu for about a couple weeks out, and I ask my husband if there is anything he would like to have for dinner while I'm making my menu. This way we're both getting things that we like. When there is a night he wants, lets say, chicken fried steak, I make it and I eat it too, but I just have way less than he does. I like to cut mine and the kids into steak fingers and let him have a big one.
I like this..it's how we do it here. I always go over my menu and ask my husband if there is anything specific he wants during the week. Your husband's behavior really seems too extreme to me to be about the food....seriously, who does that?! It's not like you're making salad and grilled chicken every night.0 -
U did ur part. Keeping doing what your doing. If he wants to be a jerk and not eat what u cook for him then he can either cook for himself, or go get his own food.0
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I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.
Looks like some one is stuck in 1951!!!!!! If a guy is going to cheat on someone because they don't get the kind of food they like, then kick them to the curb! I'd rather work 3 jobs do everything myself and happily be ALONE before I'd become anyone's slave/servant. Don't like what I cook, don't eat it and starve. That saying goes for men and children. *This guy seems to fall in the latter category.0 -
So am I just supposed to cook all that food just for myself?
YUP. Ungrateful jerk doesn't want tot benefit from the service of your cooking, he can cook for himself.0 -
And - I hope he's cleaning, doing the laundry, SOMETHING.0
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Possible Problems:
He is a control freak and is trying to control you.
He is also jealous and is worried that you are going to get attention from other men.
He knows he married "up" and is worried that you might dump him.
He is a passive aggressive personality and this rejection is his way of hurting you.
Possible Solutions:
Reassure him that you are doing this for your health.
Reassure him that you think that he is hot.
Put a jar of peanut butter on the table, and that is his option.
Get him in for a physical and tell him that healthy eating is for both of you.
Give him some take out coupons from junk food places and buy a blood pressure monitor for him.
Lose the weight and find someone more secure and less controlling.0 -
make the meals and freeze the left overs
guess what, next week you dont need to cook or shop at all!0 -
I'm sorry - I want to say to tell him to make his own damn food - but I won't. I have similar issues sometimes with the kids (sometimes my hubby). They say things like "can't we pick up something (usually fast food) for dinner" and if I haven't planned well, I cave in. Today, I've decided that I'm only going to make what I want (or think that's healthy for us all) and if they don't like it, they can lump it. My husband won't make his own dinner - he'll just grin and bear it. Good luck to you!0
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What a menu!!! Some restaurants aren't this good!!! LOL! :happy:0
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Ok so you work 13 hours a day. If he works less and has more spare time than you then he should do the cooking. But would you be happy if the roles were reversed and he cooked what HE wanted for you? Then said "If you don't like it then cook your own"? Both doing the cooking seems impractical - surely there's compromise?
He does have way more spare time than I do. I do the cooking because I know how to. He can cook a little, but it stresses him out.
I'll just make him a burger this weekend. Maybe I'll have one too. He just needs to get over himself. He's being a baby.
Aww see? Was that so hard? My goodness, ask a woman for a burger and all hell breaks loose LMAO0 -
Dumped my boyfriend for a lot of arrogant, childish, passive-agressive crap like this. And then I bought better toys. :bigsmile:0
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Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.
Hahaha. It is not your job to feed a grown human being. I was so peeved with my ex for similar dependent behavior that i boycotted cooking for months. Nothing wrong with salads and fruit :drinker: Needless to say, that relationship totally didn't work0 -
I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.
You know, this is the double standard I've seen time and again. If a man has to lose weight to improve his health, the woman usually has to cook all his meals for him, and she usually goes along with the new program and benefits from it herself. But if it's the other way around, watch out. The woman ends up having to cook her diet food AND another meal for the husband and kids that turn their noses up at hers.
A woman makes it easy for a spouse that wants to lose weight. A man? Well, it depends on the man.
Massive generalisations here. "And she usually goes along with the new program and benefits from it herself" You're just guessing
They could both cook their seperate meals, sure
How about if they like different types of films, yeah maybe they could go to the cinema seperately as well then
Different types of holidays? No problem, he goes away for 2 weeks for his holiday, she goes away for the one she wants.
Different taste in TV? That's ok, she watcjes her program in one room, he watches his in another.
Or they could do what most successful couples do and compromise0 -
Tell him what my mom told all us kids growing up:
There are two options for dinner tonight:
1) Take it.
or
2) Leave it.0 -
So he's been requesting i make a bunch of deep fried food and burgers and stuff. Since I didn't he's just deciding that he won't eat anything I cook...even if it's stuff he likes.
Ok and I didn't pay enough attention to this (lol, your actual title). Yeah he needs pro help, that kind of passive aggressive **** is tiring. (Probably for him too, whether he knows it or not.)0 -
Sounds like he's being a little jerky, to put it nicely. Lol. BUT, he could have a reason. Sometimes spouses get jealous when they see the other one losing weight. You guys need to sit down and have a talk about why you're trying to lose weight. Also, when my hubby worked days, I encouraged him to pick up a cheeseburger on the way home, if he wanted. I just told him not to bring it home! Lol. He did sometimes. You can make just about anything there is to make in a healthier version. If you're husband's not a fan of turkey burgers, you can buy a box of frozen patties for yourself, and just make yourself one for supper, n make his regular. You can make baked "fried" stuff, which is just a very light breading, and instead of oil, you use cooking spray, or even a very little bit of oil, and bake it. I haven't perfected this yet, but I think I'm getting the hang of it. Trust me, in the long run, he'll be happy with the results! Good luck to you!
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Jesus. I'm not reading 5 pages of comments and replies - based on the op alone, this guy is at least part *kitten* and you should be asking yourself why you are with him.
Most people who are with *kitten* need therapy. (Source: I was dumb enough to spend nearly a decade with one.)0 -
Possible Problems:
He is a control freak and is trying to control you.
He is also jealous and is worried that you are going to get attention from other men.
He knows he married "up" and is worried that you might dump him.
He is a passive aggressive personality and this rejection is his way of hurting you.
Possible Solutions:
Reassure him that you are doing this for your health.
Reassure him that you think that he is hot.
Put a jar of peanut butter on the table, and that is his option.
Get him in for a physical and tell him that healthy eating is for both of you.
Give him some take out coupons from junk food places and buy a blood pressure monitor for him.
Lose the weight and find someone more secure and less controlling.
Hmm so all your POSSIBLE problems are his fault? There is no POSSIBLE way that you are just hearing one side to the story and he might paint a different picture altogether?0 -
I think she's the one being selfish. Stop boo-hoo'ing on a message board and fry that man a burger.
That spoiled man-child can fry his own damn burger. Like a busy housewife doesn't have better things to do with her time than make TWO dinners every night! And what happens when their children get older, and realize they too can get mom to make them whatever they want just by throwing a fit? What a dangerous precedence he's setting!0 -
My husband doesn't like what I cook either so guess what? I dont cook for him. He scrounges something from himself. When he complains there is nothing in the fridge to eat, I say, "you don't tell me what to buy for you that you actually like, then you dont get anything." He now tells me things he would like me to buy and he cooks for himself. When they get hungry, its amazing how motivated they get.
This was a painful process but you come to an equilibrium. If he loves you, he will respect your food choices.0 -
I don't know how long you have been married or how old you are, but he sounds like a "giant 2 year old." In a marriage it means supporting each other. He may be afraid that if you get skinny you many not want him anymore. There are a lot of recipes online that you can still make things he likes without sacrificing what you need. If he wants fried chicken he can go by KFC's and pick up what he wants, but there are ways to bake it in the oven that is really good. I don't know if you have children, but this is not the best behavior to display for them. It is disrespectful to you, and is very immature. I hope that he loves and supports you in everything that you do!0
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Hmm, why doesn't he just chill out and eat better - it's clearly the right thing to do for his body. cripes.0
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I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.
You know, this is the double standard I've seen time and again. If a man has to lose weight to improve his health, the woman usually has to cook all his meals for him, and she usually goes along with the new program and benefits from it herself. But if it's the other way around, watch out. The woman ends up having to cook her diet food AND another meal for the husband and kids that turn their noses up at hers.
A woman makes it easy for a spouse that wants to lose weight. A man? Well, it depends on the man.
Massive generalisations here. "And she usually goes along with the new program and benefits from it herself" You're just guessing
They could both cook their seperate meals, sure
How about if they like different types of films, yeah maybe they could go to the cinema seperately as well then
Different types of holidays? No problem, he goes away for 2 weeks for his holiday, she goes away for the one she wants.
Different taste in TV? That's ok, she watcjes her program in one room, he watches his in another.
Or they could do what most successful couples do and compromise
Actually my grandparents have done all of these things at one point in time and they've been married for 71 years. Their 72nd wedding anniversary is this fall. Go Nana and Pop-pop! I've learned that it's okay to do things separately sometimes. It really does depend on the couple.0 -
I'm gonna be frank with you: he sounds like a douche. I'd stop cooking for him altogether and tell him to get his own skillet.
For comparison: my hubby (not perfect by any means), tries really hard not to buy sweets that he knows I love, to cook with less oil/butter for my sake and generally cook healthier foods, while giving me time to work out and do what I need to do. He is being supportive of me. You deserve a little support as well.
I'm not saying kick him to the curb, but have a serious talk with him and let him know his attitude isn't helping.0 -
Yeah, I'd say you're at the point where it's every woman/man for himself. Some nights I cook one thing for dinner while my fiance cooks another.0
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Just because YOU want to eat a certain way doesn't mean he has too. I don't blame him for wanting to eat GOOD food. Perhaps you should cook 2 seperate meals. Don't impose your new found lifestyle on other people, including your spouse.
perhaps he should cook his own meal. God ****ing forbid.0 -
My husband doesn't like what I cook either so guess what? I dont cook for him. He scrounges something from himself. When he complains there is nothing in the fridge to eat, I say, "you don't tell me what to buy for you that you actually like, then you dont get anything." He now tells me things he would like me to buy and he cooks for himself. When they get hungry, its amazing how motivated they get.
This was a painful process but you come to an equilibrium. If he loves you, he will respect your food choices.
^this is how a fully grown man behaves. States his needs preferences but doesn't expect the world to revolve around them.0 -
I think she's the one being selfish. Stop boo-hoo'ing on a message board and fry that man a burger.
That spoiled man-child can fry his own damn burger. Like a busy housewife doesn't have better things to do with her time than make TWO dinners every night! And what happens when their children get older, and realize they too can get mom to make them whatever they want just by throwing a fit? What a dangerous precedence he's setting!
Wow, requesting a burger is a life or death situation LOL......0
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