My husband is boycotting my cooking...

Seachele28

This started over the lack of potato pancakes? Hand.Him.The.Recipe.

pineygirl

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

You bet wrong. I'm the breadwinner (LOL). I bring home the bacon...literally too.

I will not make a separate dinner. I work 10 hour work days on top of a 3 hour round trip commute. There will be no cooking 2 dinners. Oh...and steak (wrapped in bacon) is actually on this week's menu ironically.

Wonderob

Wow the ammont of people saying he should cook for himself is incredible!

I assume the household chores, wage-earning roles are 50/50 split. Maybe he does all the decorating - does he say "I'm painting the bedroom black and gold, if she doesn't like it then she can paint it herself"? Of course not, there would be compromise

Is he the only one that works? Then she has chosen to be the one that cooks. Does he have to work all day then come home and eat what he doesn't like? What a crappy life

My wife does most of the cooking, she WANTS to make things I like. When I cook, I WANT to make things she wants. What's wrong with that?

Paganrosemama

Wow! The husband is being very childish...

I have different dietary needs/wants than my husband, and I am the cook in the house. Often If my hubby wants some red meat he will thaw it out before hand I will cook on the side, if I have the time or motivation, If not, he cooks it himself later. Same goes if I make something he just plain doesn't like, he makes a sandwich, mac n cheese, or other simple item... Some of his favorite dishes that I no can longer eat, he has been asking me to teach him how to make on his own...

Occasionally I get a slight grumble, but nothing like boycotting something he likes....

Sounds like you both need to find some way to compromise if your marriage is worth it...

MichelleZannone

I occasionally get this from my husband. I tell him I am the cook if he doesn't like it he can be the cook. lol :noway: I try to fix him a dish that he like's to go with our meals like some mashed potato's . That usually shut's him up ....for a little while :laugh:

rossmy1

You are funny!!! LOL!!! :laugh:

monicalosesweight

I'd make him hamburgers for a week and prepare yourself all the other luscious things on your menu. He said he wanted hamburgers...well make them for him every night with greasy fries on the side. I suspect one week of eating that will cure him and he'll start wanting the delicious meals you posted. By the way, they do sound great!

SweetestLibby

Didn't expect to come back to this thread and see som many replies...lol.

Here's what's on the menu for this week:

Chicken Cordon Bleu Sanwiches- Chicken breast, ham, arugula and smoked mozzarella with butter and dijon mustard on a baguette.

Szechuan Orange Beef and Broccolini over Rice

Almond Crusted Flounder with Garlic Caper Butter Sauce with Roasted Asparagus (and rice for him on the side...none for me)

Chicken Francaise with Broccoli and side of rice

Bacon wrapped Filet Mignon with sauteed spinach and roasted French Fingerling Potatoes

Teriyaki Shrimp Stir Fry with Zucchini, Red Pepper, Snow Peas and Mushrooms...over rice (again)

My husband will only eat rice or potatoes as far as carbs go. He won't eat cous cous, quinoa, bulgar, barley or any other grain...so I don't make them. I've made all of these things before and he's asked me to make them in the past.

This all goes back to this weekend when I was really busy preparing the garden for spring planting, busting my *kitten* ripping up sod and turning over the soil....that I didn't have time to make him potato pancakes.

I have no problem making them...or eating one or two...but I didn't have time. So he blamed it on my "diet." I'm not really on a diet. Just eating a little healthier and eating a little less.

If this is the menu what time should I show up for dinner?!?!

Move in a cook for my boyfriend and I. We'll pay an annual salary and even provide healthcare coverage!

Wonderob

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

You bet wrong. I'm the breadwinner (LOL). I bring home the bacon...literally too.

I will not make a separate dinner. I work 10 hour work days on top of a 3 hour round trip commute. There will be no cooking 2 dinners. Oh...and steak (wrapped in bacon) is actually on this week's menu ironically.

Ok so you work 13 hours a day. If he works less and has more spare time than you then he should do the cooking. But would you be happy if the roles were reversed and he cooked what HE wanted for you? Then said "If you don't like it then cook your own"? Both doing the cooking seems impractical - surely there's compromise?

lioness803

If you were just making salad for dinner or something and forcing him to eat it, that would be one thing, but you said you're not really even cooking "diet food". So he's being ridiculous. If he wants more butter, hand him the stick of it and let him add it to his food himself.

blondemom1979

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

OOHHH men cheat for food....all this time I thought they wanted sex.....boy was I off....does that mean if my Husband goes to McDonalds for lunch that's an affair? Man is he in trouble when I get home! BTW I do almost all of the cooking, and I am the "bread winner" Baked him lemon pie today and I hate the stuff! Now I might throw it in his face since he had that affair with McDonalds!

jaylas_mom21

He needs to just get over it! What you are making sounds just fine. It's not just chicken and broccoli every day. If he doesn't like what you make, you can make your meals and he can make his own. My mom used to make separate food bc my brother was so picky and I think that's just ridiculous! Don't do it!

tjsoccermom

Listen, you're there to serve him, so quit being selfish and cook what he wants, no matter how unhealthy or unappetizing it is. And wear a nice dress and heels while you're at it; he should have something pretty to look at while he waits for his dinner.

She should be cooking naked with stilettos on.

That's just dangerous. She'd get a grease burn and have to go to the hospital. Then no one would get dinner.

Had water coming out my nose when I read that. Thanks for the laugh!!!

EvetteM41

I haven't read the other replies so forgive it I repeating... My guess is he is jealous. That maybe you'll lose weight and other men will want you. I have a friend who's boyfriend is like that. She talks about joining the gym so she feels better about herself. He goes into instant baby whining mode. Oh what? You want to look good for other guys? Umm no I want to be healthy! So she continues to cook everything drenched in oil and butter to make him and his 60% blockage in his heart happy. Me personally? I will cook stuff my husband likes a lot of the time. But then make a healthier version for me. I tell him ahead of time what I am making. If he really doesn't like it. Oh well. Eat PB& J with the kids. But he doesn't act like your husband. He just finds something else and goes about his business. LOL Good Luck! Hope he comes around and changes his mind.

mikkimomof3

Wow the ammont of people saying he should cook for himself is incredible!

I assume the household chores, wage-earning roles are 50/50 split. Maybe he does all the decorating - does he say "I'm painting the bedroom black and gold, if she doesn't like it then she can paint it herself"? Of course not, there would be compromise

Is he the only one that works? Then she has chosen to be the one that cooks. Does he have to work all day then come home and eat what he doesn't like? What a crappy life

My wife does most of the cooking, she WANTS to make things I like. When I cook, I WANT to make things she wants. What's wrong with that?

Guess you missed the post where she said she works 10 hour days and is the bread winner of the household--not that it really matters. He's behaving childishly to refuse to eat food simply because he does not want certain things she's cooking (she said she's still making meals he has liked in the past). Children behave this way...grown adults discuss their preferences and make reasonable requests without throwing fits and going on food strikes.

JennW130

So am I just supposed to cook all that food just for myself?

Yes, and he will either eat with you or make his own food. That is up to him, not you- being a wife does not make you a short order cook... You are still making things he enjoys, if he wants something else here and there, fine. But refusing to eat what you cook even when HE LIKES IT? I dont even let me 4 year old do that...

This!

EvetteM41

Your food for the week sounds really good!!

My0WNinspiration

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

OOHHH men cheat for food....all this time I thought they wanted sex.....boy was I off....does that mean if my Husband goes to McDonalds for lunch that's an affair? Man is he in trouble when I get home! BTW I do almost all of the cooking, and I am the "bread winner" Baked him lemon pie today and I hate the stuff! Now I might throw it in his face since he had that affair with McDonalds!

No he's not gonna cheat because you baked him a lemon pie. You weren't being selfish like the others in this thread.

cchang3

2 separate meals! I don't know about you, but the average woman works full-time, has a family and takes care of the household chores. Who has time to cook 2 meals?

Braz76

I think if she's doing all the work, he could be more appreciatitive of her efforts. If he wants something different, why can't he make it himself or eat it whilst he's at work and support his partner.

JennW130

Also, what I do is i make a menu for about a couple weeks out, and I ask my husband if there is anything he would like to have for dinner while I'm making my menu. This way we're both getting things that we like. When there is a night he wants, lets say, chicken fried steak, I make it and I eat it too, but I just have way less than he does. I like to cut mine and the kids into steak fingers and let him have a big one.

sandyrrt

I assume he's not crippled, so let his selfish, childish *kitten* cook his own artery clogging crap. Some guys are threatened when their wives claim back their power. Don't let the boy make you feel less than. You are not his mommy. Require him to be grown up. Life never gets better by rewarding negative behavior.

LOL! I like you:)

tjsoccermom

In my house, I cook it and you can eat it or not. If you choose not to, then you prepare your own. I also work, run kids around, do the grocery shopping, work out 1 - 2 hours a day and share in the housework, so I don't have time to be a short order cook. I admit, I do easily feel insulted when they don't like my meal, but I'm learning to get over it. And if my family chooses not to eat it, then I have lunch for work. Or, it was bad and goes down the drain or into my dog, depending on what it was. It helps to have a husband that's on board, but if he chooses not to be, then I'd be telling him he's on his own. Maybe you need to make it clear how important this is to you and you can't eat the foods he wants to eat. Just be sure that there are options for him in the house that he can prepare.

cebiginalaska

tell your hubby he needs to go back and live with his mommy if he wants to be treated like a child.
if he wants it he can cook it, you're the spouse, not the maid/chef
find a man who is supportive of your choices and kick his immature *kitten* to the street

^^^ This Big time.

made2wonder

I am betting the husband is the bread winner. Since he brings home the bacon, atleast cook the man the food he wants. ( and women wonder why men cheat) He's gonna find someone who will cook that steak, burger, etc for him.

You know, this is the double standard I've seen time and again. If a man has to lose weight to improve his health, the woman usually has to cook all his meals for him, and she usually goes along with the new program and benefits from it herself. But if it's the other way around, watch out. The woman ends up having to cook her diet food AND another meal for the husband and kids that turn their noses up at hers.

A woman makes it easy for a spouse that wants to lose weight. A man? Well, it depends on the man.

tjsoccermom

Quit being a troll. And everyone else, quit feeding this troll!!!!

My0WNinspiration

Quit being a troll. And everyone else, quit feeding this troll!!!!

Only if she feeds her man a burger.

BaconMD

Whoa. You're cooking all that tasty gourmet food that would cost a fortune in a fancy restaurant, and that bozo is asking you to make the equivalent of $6 at McDonald's instead?

pineygirl

Ok so you work 13 hours a day. If he works less and has more spare time than you then he should do the cooking. But would you be happy if the roles were reversed and he cooked what HE wanted for you? Then said "If you don't like it then cook your own"? Both doing the cooking seems impractical - surely there's compromise?

He does have way more spare time than I do. I do the cooking because I know how to. He can cook a little, but it stresses him out.

I'll just make him a burger this weekend. Maybe I'll have one too. He just needs to get over himself. He's being a baby.

FindingSamMon

Wow....