Cheating Boyfriend Issues HELP!

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  • frazzlecg
    frazzlecg Posts: 50 Member
    Hi everyone.

    My man is cheating.

    I know because I read this article from Cosmo that helps you spot a cheater/liar: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/is-he-hiding-something

    It caught my attention because my boyfriend always tells me so much about his day. Like, never shuts up about it, and I realized it's because he's hiding something and doesn't want me to have a chance to ask him questions.

    Does he want to sleep with me more often lately? YES. Does he swallow a lot while he talks? YES. Also, he never used to shave his armpits and now he's keeping things really cleaned up there, and grooming better means he is definitely cheating on me. I even checked his texts and he had sent one to a girl that said, "hey girlie," which is what he calls ME!

    So now that I know for sure that he is disrespecting me like that, what should I do? My ideas so far: sprinkle fresh chili powder inside his washed boxers, make ex-lax brownies to give him time to think about his choices, or go Carrie Underwood on his truck. Advice please?

    All you have is a hunch, a gut feeling. Even with expert opinion, it means nothing. Even experts get stuff wrong all the time. You need hard evidence. Phone logs, complete text logs, pictures, video, audio, etc. Follow him, see what he does, or have a friend or hire a professional to follow him. Heck, get that Cheaters show to do it for free or something.

    Wow, you've been cheated on many times! :brokenheart:
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Hi everyone.

    My man is cheating.

    I know because I read this article from Cosmo that helps you spot a cheater/liar: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/is-he-hiding-something

    It caught my attention because my boyfriend always tells me so much about his day. Like, never shuts up about it, and I realized it's because he's hiding something and doesn't want me to have a chance to ask him questions.

    Does he want to sleep with me more often lately? YES. Does he swallow a lot while he talks? YES. Also, he never used to shave his armpits and now he's keeping things really cleaned up there, and grooming better means he is definitely cheating on me. I even checked his texts and he had sent one to a girl that said, "hey girlie," which is what he calls ME!

    So now that I know for sure that he is disrespecting me like that, what should I do? My ideas so far: sprinkle fresh chili powder inside his washed boxers, make ex-lax brownies to give him time to think about his choices, or go Carrie Underwood on his truck. Advice please?

    All you have is a hunch, a gut feeling. Even with expert opinion, it means nothing. Even experts get stuff wrong all the time. You need hard evidence. Phone logs, complete text logs, pictures, video, audio, etc. Follow him, see what he does, or have a friend or hire a professional to follow him. Heck, get that Cheaters show to do it for free or something.

    This sounds like the most solid advice in the thread.

    As a man I know that I will do whatever I'm able to get away with. Don't break up with or do anything drastic OP.

    Just check his texts, phone records, and email, maybe set up a couple of REASONABLE spy cams. But no need to punish him just yet.

    I know this article was written by experts but even experts can be wrong occasionally.

    Don't do anything until you're certain.

    Best of luck.

    :flowerforyou:
  • MDawg81
    MDawg81 Posts: 244 Member
    Make him detox. It'll flush out the cheating ways in his toxic, toxic body.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Have you considered this might not be his fault, but yours?

    Do you ever refuse to have sexual intercourse?
    Do you put your feelings above his needs?
    Have you been slacking on the cleaning/cooking/laundry?
    Do you always have a smile on your face when he gets home, and warm supper on the table?
    When a woman does not perform all of her duties, the man can't be blamed for straying. Good luck to you, and if you need to learn more about what a female needs to be like, i have a book you can borrow.

    Woah!!

    Hold on.

    This is definitely the best advice in the thread.

    If you don't want your boyfriend to cheat you need to stop acting so selfish.
  • MeIShouldB
    MeIShouldB Posts: 578 Member
    Honestly, I would say don't jump to conclusions just yet. Especially over a cosmo article. That stuff is designed so that you take the article too seriously then have to buy next months issue to find out how to get over your man. But seriously, do you have any other reason to believe he is a cheater? As far as the armpit thing he may have just realized how much hair traps odor (something we women already know LOL). And as far as "hey girlie", that's very generic. I have a friend that calls me that. If he starts texting girls with things like Hey beautiful, or Hey sexy, or hey baby THEN you have a problem. I would say don't get up in arms just yet. Best of luck to you.
  • underthecherrytree
    underthecherrytree Posts: 532 Member
    Are you really getting your info from a Cosmo magazine? I understand they are supposed "experts" but still....

    Put your big girl panties on and confront the jerk if you feel he is cheating.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Are you really getting your info from a Cosmo magazine? I understand they are supposed "experts" but still....

    Put your big girl panties on and confront the jerk if you feel he is cheating.

    This is also really good advice OP.

    Make sure you bring the article with you so the two of you can go over it point by point.
  • underthecherrytree
    underthecherrytree Posts: 532 Member
    Thanks buddy!
    Are you really getting your info from a Cosmo magazine? I understand they are supposed "experts" but still....

    Put your big girl panties on and confront the jerk if you feel he is cheating.

    This is also really good advice OP.

    Make sure you bring the article with you so the two of you can go over it point by point.
  • Sharkington
    Sharkington Posts: 485
    Cosmo knows everything there is to know about girls, but It's totes okay, girlie. Just listen to Taylor Swift and everything will be peachy.
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    I'm detecting a bit of sarcasm.

    Which isn't helpful at all.
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    :laugh:

    This is why we're Friends. :flowerforyou:
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .
  • chocl8girl
    chocl8girl Posts: 1,968 Member
    I think you should get a life.
    Trolls have become so boring.
    Seriously,people,stop trolling,it's just not funny anymore,it's pretty pathetic,actually.

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  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    It could be code or he could be top.....
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    :laugh:

    This is why we're Friends. :flowerforyou:

    :bigsmile:
    :flowerforyou:
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    Troll level= Advanced
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    Not exactly...he could be cheating on her with a Guy in Drag.

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  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    That picture was supposed to be between us.

    You never should have put it on a public forum!

    Not exactly...he could be cheating on her with a Guy in Drag.

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  • _SABOTEUR_
    _SABOTEUR_ Posts: 6,833 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    Not exactly...he could be cheating on her with a Guy in Drag.

    eddie_izzard.jpg

    Ooohh...awkward...He IS the guy in drag.

    Have some of your clothes mysteriously disappeared as well?
  • His actions certainly is causing you pain and which is natural. I feel shift your focus to what options you can have. Perhpas you can have some space and do things you always wanted to do ..new hobbies .going out.making new freinds ..things which pick you up and you find exciting.Meanwhile see see if he relaises his mistakes or just carries on ...and if he comes back to you whether wanted to give him another chance. Or you may just want to move on .
  • CherokeeBabe
    CherokeeBabe Posts: 1,704 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    Not exactly...he could be cheating on her with a Guy in Drag.

    eddie_izzard.jpg

    Ooohh...awkward...He IS the guy in drag.

    Have some of your clothes mysteriously disappeared as well?

    Check your gun cabinet while you're at it...

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  • jjscholar
    jjscholar Posts: 413 Member
    If you boyfriend is cheating on you, the best thing to do is to kick that chump out...
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    i cant believe this is still GOING!! I left work yesterday responding to this s**t and now I'm back at work.....responding to this s**t....Well at least i have something to do now.
  • SteveJWatson
    SteveJWatson Posts: 1,225 Member
    You say he has started shaving his armpits...

    Could it be that he is cheating on you with another man?

    He makes a good point OP.

    Although that doesn't explain the text . . . .

    Not exactly...he could be cheating on her with a Guy in Drag.

    eddie_izzard.jpg

    Ooohh...awkward...He IS the guy in drag.

    Have some of your clothes mysteriously disappeared as well?

    Check your gun cabinet while you're at it...

    20040808-04.jpg

    Ah, Eddie - I knew you'd be along at some point....
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  • HotMummyMission
    HotMummyMission Posts: 1,723 Member
    Omg this is hysterical your boyfriend is cheating because a magazine said so ahhah a good luck with ruining your life if he isant
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  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    If you boyfriend is cheating on you, the best thing to do is to kick that chump out...

    Agreed! Take control OP.

    Quit being a complete pushover and grow a pair!
  • aaronlawrenc
    aaronlawrenc Posts: 666 Member
    So cheating is bad?.....I cheat every Sunday
  • Cr01502
    Cr01502 Posts: 3,614 Member
    Omg this is hysterical your boyfriend is cheating because a magazine said so ahhah a good luck with ruining your life if he isant
    ,

    You hear that OP?

    You break up with your boyfriend and your life is RUINED!
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