My opinion (don't read if you're overly sensitive)

SANCHLI

So, how much money did you calculate at the end?
Sad that some of these people are family and close friends, to which you support or demoralize. Have you considered making
some new friends that don't complain about anything? If that is the case, you will be solo. Everyone complains or makes excuses at some point, a true FRIEND or FAMILY will be there to hear them out and help them get out of that rut.

OneDimSim

i was sort of prepared to be pissed with you ....but i agree! If you make those excuses - just remember they are are just that excuses - you can always make different choices on how you spend your money and time.


....AND for those "depressed" people - working out is a natural anti-depressant! Not to mention losing the weight....that is ALSO a VERY EFFECTIVE anti-depressant!

prudism

I am so sick of hearing dumb excuses from people who "really want and need to lose the weight". If I had a dollar for everytime someone complained about something or had an excuse as to why they can't work out or eat right that day- I would have enough money for a gym membership to 17 different gyms all over the country AND enough money to fly to each one 23 times a day!

"I can't work out. I live in an apartment and I would disturb people"
"I can't work out. I don't have a gym membership"
"I can't eat healthy. I don't have any food"
"I feel so depressed. I can't work out"
"I don't have enough money to get a gym membership"
"I don't have any motivation"
"What's the point?"
"I am too busy"
Those are only a few of the excuses and complaints that I hear on a daily basis whether it be on the site or someone in my family or a close friend? You know what I have to say to all of these? -
"Talk to the people below you. If they don't like It, too bad"
"Work out at home"
"Go buy some food or make something healthy. There are plenty of healthy dishes that can be done on $10"
"Suck it up"
"You don't need one"
"Find it and than give me a call"
"The point is, you're fat"
"I am busy too. Talk to you after I work out"

Seriously. Everyone has their "days" but, when a friend posts how crappy their life is, how busy they are and how poor they are- I don't feel bad. You can still use your own body weight to work out and you can lose weight. Eat the crap food than but, learn portion control. If you find yourself saying "what's the point" or "I don't want to" than, you're right! You really don't want to lose the weight, you want it to accumulate, you want to get larger and you want to have health issues. If you see yourself looking in the mirror and seeing something gross, do something about it. Cut the crap, enough with the excuses and get off of your *kitten*!!!

I am sorry if this offends someone but, if it offends you- take my advice. I am sure there will be a lot of other's who also cannot stand the daily excuses with people. What do you want us to say? Eventually, I am going to end up giving up on your dreams since you can't even reach for your dreams! Sorry if I sound "witchy" but, this is real life- you can't live a happy and healthy life if you aren't happy and healthy. YOU are the only one that can do this. Suck it up, put the donut down and do some push ups!!! Make today great, everyone!

agree!

me too

quirkytizzy

Yes and no. What annoys me is our (as a species) over-reliance on Gyms. Or "working out".

What we need is a more active lifestyle. Sedentary lifestyles and inactivity are one of the global causes of death and disability. And yet we drive our cars half a mile to the shops, drive our children to school and take the lift at work.

(http://www.sustrans.org.uk/assets/files/AT/Promotional leaflets/General AT information leaflet_final.pdf a useful bit of information about active lifestyles)

This especially relates to people who are hugely overweight. If they could replace all their journeys under 5 miles with walking and cycling, take the lift or get off the bus one stop earlier, they would make a huge difference to their health and wellbeing. Gyms are all well and good (if you like that sort of thing) but they can be elitist, cliquey and scary for some people. Walking is free, and a great way to get your 30 minutes of "moderate" exercise a day, and yet we are still yelling "GYMGYMGYM" in people's faces. Taking up a new sport, or a workout regime is quite scary for some people and can be very hard to stick to. I know so many people with unused gym memberships. However, taking up walking or cycling for short journeys or leisure is much less intimidating, much cheaper and more accessible to many people.

I always like the idea of walking more but it's just not often feasible. Weather conditions in anywhere that isn't mild temperatures make half the year (summer and winter) an unhealthy prospect. Overheating or freezing. There is also baggage to contend with - I'm not carrying 40 pounds of groceries in my hands home for several miles. And there is often the safety concern - it's simply not safe to walk to many of the places around where I live.

But more mobility in general, whenever you can get it, is good. I do park further out now. And in the pleasant months, I take an extra day or two a week to drive out to the lake and go for a long walk there. (Much safer part of town.) That sort of thing.

To me THAT is mostly just excuses!

I live in the UK and our temperature has been shocking since about October. It's been snowing almost every week since christmas.

I, despite being pregnant and sick (bedridden for three weeks and suffering HG for 10 weeks), Ihave walked over 160 miles and cycled over 110 since the start of January. I often drive to the supermarket when I have a big shop to do, but inbetween I walk to the local shops (either 1/2 a mile or 1 mile), and if I need to do a medium shop, I cycle to the shop and carry my shopping home in my panniers. It's not about me telling people they must walk and cycle all the time everywhere- just about people making better decisions in their every day life, and not making rubbish excuses about the weather or something. Rain does not kill,. Sopending time out in the cold does NOT cause colds (contrary to popular belief- it's actually just that during the winter more people spend time couped up insdie togehter, spreading the germs!)

Simple example: my office is on the third floor, and I have to go up and down the staris 8-9 times a day. There's a lift I could use, but I don't

My weightloss might not be anything impressive but I have a healthy lifestyle. My exercise costs me the price of parts for my bike (and the odd service when I bust it). I know I can run 5 miles if I need to (outside, not on a moving platform at the gym), I can cycle 50 miles, I can walk 20. I know my heart is healthy, my bones are dense and I am happy and healthy. I also appreciate the good bits of our weather, which most people who live inside (house/car/office/gym/car/home) never get to see.

I don't need a gym!

I don't need a gym, either. I do workouts in my own home - low impact, as I live on the second floor and do not wish to get into a pissing match with my neighbors about noise.

Where I live we recently had 3 snowstorms drop over 3 feet of snow inside a month. Underneath that snow there was ice. A lot of it. There are no sidewalks where I live. Perhaps you feel a broken ankle might be conducive to your fitness goal. I've found it's awfully hard to exercise with a broken ankle.

The apartment complex I live in also has hookers and meth dealers that like hanging around in the parking lot. Come visit me. We'll take a walk around the block sometime.

Please bring a gun.

corn63

You put far too much thought into people on the internet.

OneDimSim

Yeah, but the rest of us would never have joined mfp at all if we weren't full of those same excuses at some point. I ate like a pig, didn't exercise, and whined about being fat. Now I'm here. We should try to remember that these excuse-filled people just aren't ready yet.

yeah...i spent all of last year not being ready....guess i had to go there first to get here.

irishblonde2011

I agree. Also people who are 'sick' every week.. Like seriously every week. Different week different illness. I don't know anyone when they are sick that can eat twice as much with it all being junk. It annoys me because some people have real illnesses.

missprincessgina

Totally agree. I was fat my entire life until I finally decided that the pain of being fat was worse than my fear of change and hard work. I was 17 ... now I'm 33 and have maintained a healthy weight since then and I rock a bathing suit!!!

Tannedtiffers

Totally agree with these~

GymBeast2

Sex has been proven to enhance mood with other benefits :P PLUS it's awesome and you could log it as circuit training.

You can log sex? I looked for it....but I guess in the wrong place.


Circuit training huh..ok..



And now wait for the comments....

freckledrats

I have been that person who comes up with a million excuses to keep eating cookies and to keep my activity low.

So, while I agree with these points (with some exceptions--depression is pretty serious), I also know that someone who isn't ready to change his/her life isn't going to read this and have an epiphany. You have to be ready for change, completely, before this stuff makes any sense.

Something that got me started was this wise rumination:

If you aren't happy with the way you are, and you don't do anything about it, what makes you think you're going to be happier with the way you are next year?

And another for beginners:

Every little bit helps. Start with 30 min of light cardio 3x a week if you have to. Go to fitnessfrog.com and find your no exercise TDEE and eat 100 calories below that for a while. You'll at least stop gaining, and start slowly losing weight. It's a start. You can add more exercise and adjust your diet as needed as you grow your mindset.

It feels good to be healthy

Kandace_Riopel

in my journey to lose 30 lbs (to date) i NEVER went to the gym. i DIDNT eat solely healthy food and i DIDNT own anything more than 2 lb weights and work out videos i bought for 50 cents a piece at a second hand store ..... i ate crappy choices in moderation and enjoyed every bite, i exercised portion control (most days) and i cut out high calorie juices ( that i love) for the free beverage that comes out of my tap!! .... i worked the sales whenever i could and i walked instead of driving everywhere when i could!! .... after 2.5 years of making excuses i finally got real about what i wanted and just did it ... as for working out in an apartment ... its a 30-60 minute workout i would ask my neighbours if i was too loud and explain to them why if i had been most are understanding ive yet to meet a neighbour that says i should just stay fat to keep the noise down!!

wcso911mn

.. it's the same argument for not wanting to have sex. Sex has been proven to enhance mood with other benefits :P PLUS it's awesome and you could log it as circuit training.

Seriously?! I need to go back and amend my workout diary then! :bigsmile:

BunkyBumBum

So - here's where I stand on this. Most of us have lost a lot of weight, yourself included.

Did you gain that 48 pounds you lost by being healthy and not making excuses for why you'd just stay home and not go for a walk, or why you'd just have McDonalds over making your lunch?

We were all there at some point so yes, when you've overcome it you look at other people and KNOW that they can too, if they just try. It's frustrating to see people make excuses and then complain about no progress, but most of us were doing it ourselves at some point. I think it's important for us to remember that just because we've overcome our psychological barriers and stopped making excuses doesn't mean everyone else has come to that same point and it certainly doesn't give us the right to judge them for being in the EXACT same place we were not so long ago. Tell the truth, if you came to a place like this to try to get in the game, to really try to commit, but were constantly reading posts by people who were telling you to "suck it up" would you want to come back, or would it drive you away from a place that might help you succeed? It takes time to get your head around losing weight, waking up one morning and saying, "Man, I'm disgusting, I need to change" is easy, but changing habits you've built over a lifetime is difficult.

So, in short, just because we all lost the weight and we know that they can too doesn't mean we should be jerks about it. They're trying to get their head around it, excuses are part of that process, and some of them are legit, most of the people making excuses will slowly start ticking them off, "I can't because I don't have time" will turn into "I made some time" and then "I can't because it's too expensive/time consuming to eat healthy" will turn into "I learned to cook". It's not all going to happen overnight and I think we'd all do well to remember the huge burden we felt when we first decided we needed to REALLY do this.

1223345

I am so sick of hearing dumb excuses from people who "really want and need to lose the weight". If I had a dollar for everytime someone complained about something or had an excuse as to why they can't work out or eat right that day- I would have enough money for a gym membership to 17 different gyms all over the country AND enough money to fly to each one 23 times a day!

"I can't work out. I live in an apartment and I would disturb people"
"I can't work out. I don't have a gym membership"
"I can't eat healthy. I don't have any food"
"I feel so depressed. I can't work out"
"I don't have enough money to get a gym membership"
"I don't have any motivation"
"What's the point?"
"I am too busy"
Those are only a few of the excuses and complaints that I hear on a daily basis whether it be on the site or someone in my family or a close friend? You know what I have to say to all of these? -
"Talk to the people below you. If they don't like It, too bad"
"Work out at home"
"Go buy some food or make something healthy. There are plenty of healthy dishes that can be done on $10"
"Suck it up"
"You don't need one"
"Find it and than give me a call"
"The point is, you're fat"
"I am busy too. Talk to you after I work out"

Seriously. Everyone has their "days" but, when a friend posts how crappy their life is, how busy they are and how poor they are- I don't feel bad. You can still use your own body weight to work out and you can lose weight. Eat the crap food than but, learn portion control. If you find yourself saying "what's the point" or "I don't want to" than, you're right! You really don't want to lose the weight, you want it to accumulate, you want to get larger and you want to have health issues. If you see yourself looking in the mirror and seeing something gross, do something about it. Cut the crap, enough with the excuses and get off of your *kitten*!!!

I am sorry if this offends someone but, if it offends you- take my advice. I am sure there will be a lot of other's who also cannot stand the daily excuses with people. What do you want us to say? Eventually, I am going to end up giving up on your dreams since you can't even reach for your dreams! Sorry if I sound "witchy" but, this is real life- you can't live a happy and healthy life if you aren't happy and healthy. YOU are the only one that can do this. Suck it up, put the donut down and do some push ups!!! Make today great, everyone!

You should judge less and understand more. Unless you live someone elses life, you have no clue what is going on.

slim_photographer

I have struggled with my weight and I've had success managing it as well, it's a lifestyle change and a lifetime effort.
I find that most people only express these excuses you hear, when others try to steer them if not force them into losing weight or getting healthier.
You have had great success so far but at 19 and with the large amount of weight you still need to get rid of, I hope you don't make any more excuses because you may not get there.
I get the feeling that a lot of the people, putting excuses that annoy you, are probably people who have helped you in some way. Just consider that and at least be reasonable with them. I guess that is why you are posting your thoughts here instead of telling them which is better than breaking their feelings.
I understand that hearing many excuses can be frustrating and is contagious so do try to shield yourself from them.
Remember "be the change you wish to see in the world".

So_Much_Fab

So you're tired of excuses for why others' "can't" work out or eat sensibly. To me, this comes off as you having a bit of a holier-than-thou or "I'm better than you because you make excuses and I don't" kind of attitude.

So keeping with that, and considering that you would have had to make some kind of "excuses" along the way to get yourself to 283 lbs, what does that mean then? Does that mean the people that never even let themselves get to that weight are better than you?

Interesting way to think of things, no?

My advice: remember where you came from and let others worry about themselves.

ordnaj3la1

Thank You!

JLgettinghealthy

lol @ caring what other people do with their lives.

this.

markpmc

My mantra is, "You can make excuses, or you can make progress."

This ^^^

MeanSophieCat

My ___________ is sabotaging me.

I love Mad Libs.

You didn't specify but I'm going to fill in with a Noun.

Garden Hose

Pixi_Rex

This site has a personal blog for a reason... you can express your opinion without creating a bunch of drama. Also how is this mortivational or supportive? just curious... you should use your blog though... seriously.

karen8873

AMEN!!!!!!

ldrosophila

Agree you speak the truth.

Many times when I hear excuses I just think in my head well then I guess you are happy where you are, and drop it.

Dont let other people's excuses bother you it just makes me more motivated to do better and learn what excuses I make and quit making those excuses.

emilynicole02

true facts!
well said!

cuterbee

I'm a nurse, and more days than not, someone will tell me, "I want to go to nursing school" or "I wish I had gone to nursing school". The thing is, I don't rant about this or get tired of hearing it. These are people who want some encouragement or direction. Sure, they have excuses for the past or excuses for right now...but at least some of them will actually wind up going if people support them in that (there are at least 4 new nurses out there for whom I was one of the major reasons they finally applied to school). Some of them won't; but not everyone can manage a lifestyle change, whether that's nursing school or weight loss.

You can be part of the solution, or you can be part of the problem. You have managed to lose a lot of weight, so people perceive you as a leader. So lead! Some will follow, some will get lost on the way, and some won't ever start. You have no idea which are which till they get there.

lithezebra

I don't see excuses here. I see priorities. I love my overweight friends, and I respect their choices, which means not belittling their priorities.

AIZZO4

I just mind my own business. I have no right to tell people how to live there lives. If you are not ready, you are not ready. I don't look down at any one.

cuterbee

My ___________ is sabotaging me.

I love Mad Libs.

You didn't specify but I'm going to fill in with a Noun.

Garden Hose

Oh no, now we have to watch out for those too? But I just bought one on Sunday! Why haven't you warned us before this?

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Since I know you love kitties and maybe want some affirmation of your opinions of how others should live: