support for Binge Eating Disorder
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Ladies, thank you both for sharing. Things could definitely be better for me as well. I don't know what it is but like a light switch ever since I had to take my cat in I just have lost my ability to say no, I don't need that. And now, it's like oh, well that will cheer me up or make me feel better, or oh I can just have a little and then a little turns into a lot because I want more more more. I feel insatiable some days...and then I think oh I just don't care. But I DO care? Why can't I get it together again? Friday & Sun were not great, Sat was just ok, yesterday was better, but I want to be proud of my diary and show it off and now I've hidden it because I just can't bear to show it to people because I feel ashamed of how many bad foods I've eaten lately when I'm supposed to be trying to lose weight! I know I need to not be so hard on myself and all that, I do know that. I'm just frustrated now because I went for so many months feeling like I had it together and that I had started to overcome this thing and now I feel like I've just been pushed so many steps back. I have been doing a lot of thinking about this and I'm definitely not admitting defeat, that I will no longer do. But since I've been met with yet another challenge it is time to shake things up. So, I have started to go through my friends list and minimize so that I can continue the strong relationships that I have made with people on here and not worry about every Sue, Jane and Mary that wants to send me a friend request. I've decided to hide my diary just for a while until I feel better about it. And I have changed my settings to not show me sodium as that tends to frustrate me and when I'm already frustrated about trying to put healthy foods in me, I need to not have to pay so much attention to that right now.
One evening at a time...(since days aren't a problem lol)0 -
I hope this group is still active. I've never been able to describe to my family why I have so many problems trying to lose weight, until I saw this message board. I've since done some internet research and I really think that this may be my problem. I gorge on food often and I get so angry at myself for doing it. Everyday is a battle for me, I might do well until 4:00 p.m. or I might wake up and start gorging. I've been telling my husband that I thought I was obsessive compulsive with food for a while now, but I couldn't find anything on it. It's nice to know that I am not alone, but I do feel bad that other people are going through this struggle, too.0
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Hi Bettany, thanks for posting. Not sure how active this thread is, but I'm here!
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Diane,
You have some of the cutest little avatars!
Bethany,
Welcome!!! I am here too, just don't have a lot of time to post. It is very helpful just knowing we are not alone. Not sure if you have ever tried OA, but I do this online and I go to face to face meetings weekly also.0 -
RECOVERY MEDITATIONS
One Day at a Time
September 27, 2010
~ PATIENCE ~
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Patience and diligence, like faith, remove mountains.
William Penn
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When I first came into the doors of this
program, I didn't even know what
abstinence was. I thought I was on a
diet. It turned out to be far more than
I ever imagined. In the short time I've
been in program, I've had perfect
abstinence, I've lost weight and my
physical, emotional and spiritual
well-being has changed more than I ever
thought possible.
I've come so far in this program
... beyond my wildest dreams ... yet,
sometimes it feels like it's still not
enough. I'll weigh myself one month and
think, "Is that all I've lost? Why
couldn't I have lost more?" It's times
like this when I try to remember how I
was before program, going through diet
after diet only to fail again and
again. What difference does it make if I
don't lose weight as fast as somebody
else or as fast as I feel that I should?
It's not a race or a competition. It's
not even about how little or how much I
weigh. It's about finding peace and
recovery and happiness within myself. My
body feels great, my mind feels
wonderful and I'm happier and closer to
God than I ever thought I could possibly
be. How could I ask for anything more?
ONE DAY AT A TIME . . .
I pray my Higher Power gives me the
strength to continue my abstinence, the
courage to be patient with my progress,
and the wisdom to remember that My
physical, emotional and spiritual
well-being is a far more precious gift
than any number the scale could ever
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Bettany - welcome. I know how hard binge eating can be on a person. I've been there and am still struggling. If you need someone to lean on, give me a yell.
Mollie - How does OA work on line? Is it like a chat room? Do you find it helpful?0 -
Yay, our thread has life! LOL Happy to see some posters this week.
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Ooooh, another cat lover! Whoo hoo!
Today is no problem with bingeing. I had a root canal yesterday and am so sore. Pain killers are making me a little woozy and I think the combination is sure taking away my appetite. Will be going to bed early. Hope everyone is well!0 -
I can't seem to stop either. I derail myself every day and I am really starting to see because I have logged all the food I have eaten for two weeks and I have some days that have several thousand calories. I need to stop the binging if I am ever going to lose these 80 pounds. Has anyone been able to stop?0
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I can't seem to stop either. I derail myself every day and I am really starting to see because I have logged all the food I have eaten for two weeks and I have some days that have several thousand calories. I need to stop the binging if I am ever going to lose these 80 pounds. Has anyone been able to stop?
Yes, but each and every day is a struggle. I'm not "cured" by any means and still have binges but they are so much fewer and less severe and that in itself is a positive. Eating lots of fiber & lean protein early in the day seems to help curb the cravings and for me if I can just stay away from the trigger foods, I won't binge on them at all. However sometimes I do just need to give in and have a little and try my hardest to keep it under control for the rest of the day. Sometimes I will just go to bed early too.0 -
Hello all,
I am not sure if we will ever be cured. I wish. We can recover but I am not sure there is a cure. But we can always pray for a cure. I have been better this week for sure after a 2 week disaster. One day at a time. Like Diane I have more better days than not and not binged binged in a long time. I can truly call binges I have today mini binges compared to the old days indeed. Have a good week! :drinker: Someone asked for OA info, see below:
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Like the two previous bloggers my binges are a lot less frequent and a lot less calorific than they used to be. I don't think I will ever be fully cured and on occassions let myself have a mini binge to get it out my system (don't know if anyone can identify). For instance today I fancied something I knew would set me off, but I had it and I made sure I came and logged my foods straight away. I find if I eat then write before taking another mouthful it breaks the binge pattern than if I was to just stand in the kitchen and mindlessly empty the cupboards into my mouth. Todays mini binge added up to 800 calories. Think I need to get to a meeting soon, and had completely forgotten about on-line meetings thank you for reminding me.
I'm so grateful to what OA has taught me, and could never have done it without.0 -
I have this problem... not every day, but most days. Especially when I'm in a bad mood, or I'm sad.
Last night I had a steak dinner at my parents house... (steak, corn, potato salad) then a single serving bad of chips, a pint of icecream, and STILL considered having some fish sticks...
I feel like... out of control. Even when I know it's a bad idea... it's like it happens anyways.0 -
Hi Tabbatha, thanks for posting. I hate that out of control feeling, so I know exactly what you're talking about. I think we all do here. It sucks! I want to be IN CONTROL of my food intake and when emotions or cravings or other external factors steer me in the wrong direction it just sucks! And I do complain about it because I feel like a victim, but that's not going to help me help myself. Venting is good for us though and this is a great thread to do it on because we all understand. :flowerforyou:0
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First off **hugs** to you. I've had moments where I eat a lot of cookies and all kinds of sugar food in just a few minutes and then pause and think why did I just do that? It is exhausting - I too am consummed by thinking of food and I don't know why.
You'll get a lot of support here if you accept it. I know that's been my experience and I've only been on here a couple weeks.
This site really is life changing - and complete strangers are all joined by the one goal to get control of our lives.0 -
Today has been a good day. I ate a lot of fresh stuff. I exercised in the morning, which gives me extra calories. This is good for me. I can feel like I have more food, and also that I am doing something good for my body. I still have enough calories for dinner!!0
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Like the two previous bloggers my binges are a lot less frequent and a lot less calorific than they used to be. I don't think I will ever be fully cured and on occassions let myself have a mini binge to get it out my system (don't know if anyone can identify). For instance today I fancied something I knew would set me off, but I had it and I made sure I came and logged my foods straight away. I find if I eat then write before taking another mouthful it breaks the binge pattern than if I was to just stand in the kitchen and mindlessly empty the cupboards into my mouth. Todays mini binge added up to 800 calories. Think I need to get to a meeting soon, and had completely forgotten about on-line meetings thank you for reminding me.
I'm so grateful to what OA has taught me, and could never have done it without.
I can definitely relate about getting it out of your system. I try to do this only once a month. I mark this day down and try not to do it again until the next month. I try to do it when TOM or before TOM is in town..:-)
OA is a god send for me too! I don't do the steps but just attending chats and face to face keeps me mindful and the support is good too. Just knowing we are not alone helps me.0 -
Like the two previous bloggers my binges are a lot less frequent and a lot less calorific than they used to be. I don't think I will ever be fully cured and on occassions let myself have a mini binge to get it out my system (don't know if anyone can identify). For instance today I fancied something I knew would set me off, but I had it and I made sure I came and logged my foods straight away. I find if I eat then write before taking another mouthful it breaks the binge pattern than if I was to just stand in the kitchen and mindlessly empty the cupboards into my mouth. Todays mini binge added up to 800 calories. Think I need to get to a meeting soon, and had completely forgotten about on-line meetings thank you for reminding me.
I'm so grateful to what OA has taught me, and could never have done it without.
I can definitely relate about getting it out of your system. I try to do this only once a month. I mark this day down and try not to do it again until the next month. I try to do it when TOM or before TOM is in town..:-)
OA is a god send for me too! I don't do the steps but just attending chats and face to face keeps me mindful and the support is good too. Just knowing we are not alone helps me.0 -
Sorry can't quite grasp how to 'quote and answer' yet!
Mollie mine tend to be once a week at the moment, even that is huge progress coming from a 7 day a week binger eating about 5000 calories a day. 800 calories is something I can cope with once a week and I always seem to have a good cardio session after that day.
One day at a time, progress - not perfection. One day, I hope to get to once a month.0 -
Sorry can't quite grasp how to 'quote and answer' yet!
Mollie mine tend to be once a week at the moment, even that is huge progress coming from a 7 day a week binger eating about 5000 calories a day. 800 calories is something I can cope with once a week and I always seem to have a good cardio session after that day.
One day at a time, progress - not perfection. One day, I hope to get to once a month.
You will get there Gil!! One Day at a time! It has taken me years to get to where I am at now.
BTW - When you hit quote, you type under the last bracket with the word quote in brackets.0 -
Daily Inspiration for September 30, 2010
Minimize damage.
Because you aren't perfect, there may be a time when you want to eat more than you need. Before you take an extra bite, try to distract yourself. Get busy and put off eating.
But, when you do eat--especially if you are overeating--pick foods that will satisfy you without adding a lot of calories. (For example, try celery sticks versus crackers, chicken or shrimp versus pepperoni.)
Action for the day: Write down a plan of action for the days when you are tempted to overeat. By developing a list of healthy foods that satisfy you, you can minimize the damage of eating more than you need. And if you are consistently overeating, seek help from a professional.0 -
Here are a few lines from an article by Connie Stapleton, Phd
Make a chart of the essentials for success. Complete it daily and reward yourself (not with food) each day that you complete every goal.
Take your calendar and mark off time each day for the essentials.
Develop the mantra; "It's What I Do"
When you don't feel like exercising remind yourself: "It's What I Do"... then do it!
When you don't want to pass up dessert, remind yourself: "It's What I Do"... then pass it up!
When you feel too tired to write in your food and exercise journals, remind yourself: "It's What I Do"... then do it!
Think like a thin person.
Remind yourself: "If I want long-term success, I make the time."
There are no "good excuses" for not taking time to choose healthy behaviors.
Be a friend yourself.
The time you take to do the essentials for long-term success leads to your health and happiness.0 -
Hey Everyone!
Well I'm back. I took a break from the site which was a bad idea I pigged out like every day for a whole month and gained back like 25 pounds it really sucks. I had a knee ingure so I could not go full into my excerise. My old user name was MrsBattousai. So hi everyone again. I feel like crap, but I;m rdy to get back on the wagon again and stop this binging once and for all. Any ideas on how to pick myself back up would be great. I'm gald to see peeps are still on the forum and good luck to you all. Time for a change I hope by me posting on here will give me a kick in the butt to start again. I have 38 pounds to go to my goal I can do this.
tks for listening gald to be back I'm going to stick with it for me and my family.0 -
Welcome back Melissa (that's your name right?)! I was wondering about you! 0
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Yup!
Melissa it is! it is nice to be back!0 -
Welcome back. You took the first step by logging on here. Try to take it one day at a time. (I know that may be easier said than done - I know, because I'm struggling with it each day), but just know you did it before and YOU CAN DO IT AGAIN. Good luck to you and remember there are people here to help you. Maybe you can work on one thing at a time rather than trying to jump in head on. Maybe try to have a healthly breakfast first for a few days. If that works, then maybe try to add some exercise in. If that works, then try to cut out one bad thing such as no cookies for one day. Don't overwhelm yourself. Best of luck to you. Let me know how things are going.0
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On that note, I agree. I am doing that same thing myself. After departing from the trainer/coach I have been having a difficult time holding myself accountable for every little thing. So I needed to take it WAY BACK! For the past 3-4 weeks I have been so frustrated with myself and over this past weekend I made the decision to just cut my focus back and make my goals more attainable for myself right now. For example, I'm having a hard time keeping to the same "formula" the nutrition coach advised. Like my sugars have been out of control and then I don't even want to log and then not logging allows me to lose sight of the big picture which is calories. So now my focus is just calories (for now) to bring me back in the game and to keep me from saying "screw it all" and I know that's not what I want anyhow. Same with exercise, I'm getting mad at myself for not continuing with the strength training on my own and I need to at least do something everyday even if it is just a quick walk. I need to get myself out of the all or nothing mentality with these things right now.0
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On that note, I agree. I am doing that same thing myself. After departing from the trainer/coach I have been having a difficult time holding myself accountable for every little thing. So I needed to take it WAY BACK! For the past 3-4 weeks I have been so frustrated with myself and over this past weekend I made the decision to just cut my focus back and make my goals more attainable for myself right now. For example, I'm having a hard time keeping to the same "formula" the nutrition coach advised. Like my sugars have been out of control and then I don't even want to log and then not logging allows me to lose sight of the big picture which is calories. So now my focus is just calories (for now) to bring me back in the game and to keep me from saying "screw it all" and I know that's not what I want anyhow. Same with exercise, I'm getting mad at myself for not continuing with the strength training on my own and I need to at least do something everyday even if it is just a quick walk. I need to get myself out of the all or nothing mentality with these things right now.
You will get their Diane. This is called trainer withdrawal. I had it when I had a trainer for 6 months. I hope you come out of your funk sooner than I did. Start with baby steps and do the best you can.0
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