Grocery Store Snob??
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No, I mind my own business. I try not to judge others like that. No one is better just because they are slimmer and have vegetables in their grocery cart.0
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Give the cashiers a break. They are just trying to make conversation. You try standing in place for hours on end. I would rather have them make awkward conversation with me than chatting with the bagger the whole time as If I weren't there and when there is an issue, they finish their conversation before addressing the issue. Let them know that you always eat this way, and maybe they will learn to adjust their conversational skills.
We almost always shop together, roly poly little me and string bean partner, so I guess they just puzzle it out in silence.1 -
Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.
Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.
So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?
Well you can only eat so many calories before you start to gain, so if you only have 1800 to work with and you eat 1/2 of those in garlic bread then where are the things your body NEEDS TO BE HEALTHY going to come from. You'll either overeat or be undernourished. Both are not good options for various reasons.1 -
No way, judging others carts is just plain rude. They can do whatever they want with their own food, money, and body.1
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This makes no sense. What makes you think your children will starve if you feed them healthy food?
My son is super picky... he has missed a few dinners in his short lifetime but he's never missed a healthy breakfast and his lunch box is usually empty. Most of the time he will eat dinners I prepare and if not, no sweat. Be hungry for tonight. He will be starved for nutrients for the rest of his life if I feed him what he wants to eat, better he go without for the day instead.
What? Please tell me this is a sarcastic comment.
No it isn't . If my son misses a meal I don't sweat it. He will eat at the next meal. Missing a meal isn't a big deal.
True story. If I didn't like what my mom cooked, which was often because she wasn't a very good cook, I didn't get any alternatives and no dessert.0 -
Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.
Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.
I have been fighting to find a polite way to say this
Don't be polite when it comes to your opinion, I am so sharp and blunt with my opinions I am surprised no one is bleeding when I talk lol I see it as if you don't like what I say, take it with a grain of salt and move on
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This!!0
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I totally do. I am a grocery cart judger. The person in front of me..if they have all processed crap, ice cream, etc. and i look at them and see them and know they are grossly overweight I want to shake them by the shoulders and say "stop killing yourself with evil food! Don't you know this is keeping you unhealthy?!?!!?" but that's not cool to do and everyone makes their own choices so I zip my lip. I do think, though, that when people see a mix of 90% healthy and 10% on the border, they judge me back. Especially the gluten free stuff. I assume they think I'm one of "those" people who only "think" they are allergic. (yes, I have heard this before, it's like they don't believe me when I tell them I get stomach cramps so painful I am floored for a couple of hours after eating the stuff). The rest is all fruits, veggies, nuts, etc. With that stuff I'm hoping I am setting a good example.3
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My children do and always have eat (with joy and gratitude) whatever I put in front of them. Trust me, I eat and drink some really weird stuff over the years--super yucky (but good for you) green veggies juices and vegan/vegetarian meals and literally anything. Do they like it--not necessarily, but they do. On my healthy journey, the children follow and eat what I do. So does my hubby. They still eat junk, but as time goes by, and they see I MEAN BUSINESS, they just go along with me and for this I'm super thrilled!
Last year, when went to an authentic Chinese restaurant and they ordered some things that would blown the average adult Westerner's minds. One of the dishes I remembered they spefically ordered was pork belly fat with lots of other "unAmerican" type of dishes. THEY ordered this...I didn't. The Chinese waitress was in shock, and asked my young children how come they eat that--and that she's NEVER seen American children or even adults order nor eat the dishes they ordered...
You know what they told her ????
They said..."Our mother has always made us watch various historical documentaries and war, slavery, Holocaust and real life documentaries and films about other cultures and things...we learned at an early age to eat whatever is placed before us, and with gratitude and now we like to eat various different things--because just because we live in peace and security today doesn't mean we always will--we think about how those people and children lived during wars and in impoverish nations and will always eat what's before us and never complain--because we're just glad we have some food".
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She patted their heads and smiled...I looked at them half smiling and half feeling like a mean/bad mother. I am a mean mother (as most in our Western Society would count as mean/old school). We don't believe in having/living/raising and running a "child-centered" home. We believe that our children are a blessing from God and that they are super blessed to be our children and they are to "follow-us", rather than call the shots and lead us in our home life--once they get grown, they can do what the jolly well feel like, but as long as we are paying the bills--we're calling the shots, not them. This sounds cruel and evil, I know most will think. But our children are the happiest, well-mannered, most well adjusted, super creative, slim and trim, healthy and coolest children I've EVER met or seen--people are constantly telling us that--especially neighbors and strangers--so something must be kinda right, it is for us anyway.3 -
Also I do stare in other peoples carts and don't think shesh I wonder why they are fat or skinny. I wonder shesh I wonder if they looked at the nutrition label and know how bad that food really is for them. Or I wonder if they know they can get way more fruit and veggies for that little bit of processed junk they are over paying for.
I try not to be judgmental because I use to be in that same boat, until I started reading and learning what I was putting in my body, sometimes it always just becomes our habit because we grew up around it. I grew up around junk food and when my parents got divorced, my mum brought me to a nutritionist to help me with the weight i always tried to get rid of by starving myself. I
my mom for this step in my life every single day, I might be fat still to this minute, but I wont be fat forever knowing what I know and if I still am then its just my own stupidity showing.
Oh look
my stupidity is showing lol 0 -
Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.
Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.
So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?
My struggle with binge eating, bad food choices and an overall caloric surplus have made me fat. I've been yoyo dieting since I was 13 and hit an all time high of 283 lbs at 22 years old. My mother had a habit of allowing us to eat as much as we wanted of anything we wanted. No one practiced portion control. I wasn't aware of how big I was until I heard a school mate call me fat in gym class. That started the yoyo dieting. I would drop the weight quickly and then resort back to my old ways and gain it back plus some. I had a relatively rough childhood (parents struggling with mental illness, alcoholism, domestic violence, eventually divorce) which ended with being disowned by my mother last year. At times I felt I had a pretty good handle on controlling the binge eating, but when things got really rough with my mom, I resorted to food for comfort.
It's only now in the last 9 months that I've been able to loose some of the weight, keep it off & keep going. That has been through portion control, better food choices and physical activity. I've also acknowledged recently that I have a problem with binge eating. It has been 21 days since I last binged. And for the record, I don't blame my parents for my issues, because at some point I became and adult and should have started making better choices on my own. It's my demon now & I'm doing my best to deal with it one day at a time.
And when I see an overweight child, I wonder why. Picky eater? Busy parents? Things not going well at home? Medical condition? I fell I have a responsibility to mind my own business with this as well as with what other people put in their carts, but I can't help but feel it tug at my heart strings when I see a child who may struggle for the rest of their lives, especially when I'm trekking through the same waters a couple of decades later.
So that is why seeing an overweight child makes me sad, if you must know.0 -
After I started MFP I had a check out line encounter with a similar snob. He says to me "great choices!"0
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It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!1
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I more focus on being happier with myself that my cart (which used to have junk and processed food) now has healthy stuff. I do think it is sad when I see obese children shopping with parents that have a cart full of junk.0
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It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!
LOL!!!!! *high five*0 -
This makes no sense. What makes you think your children will starve if you feed them healthy food?
My son is super picky... he has missed a few dinners in his short lifetime but he's never missed a healthy breakfast and his lunch box is usually empty. Most of the time he will eat dinners I prepare and if not, no sweat. Be hungry for tonight. He will be starved for nutrients for the rest of his life if I feed him what he wants to eat, better he go without for the day instead.
What? Please tell me this is a sarcastic comment.
No it isn't . If my son misses a meal I don't sweat it. He will eat at the next meal. Missing a meal isn't a big deal.
True story. If I didn't like what my mom cooked, which was often because she wasn't a very good cook, I didn't get any alternatives and no dessert.
If they are hungry they will eat. If you cook decent they will def eat. My son wouldnt touch mashed potatoes so I found a way to make him touch them...bacon bits. It is your responsibilty as a parent to teach your child that this is whats for dinner you eat it or you go hungry. BUT, you also teach them how to meet you half way and allow them to contribute by giving ideas that would help them to eat what is available. WIN, WIN all the way around not only for you and the "Battle of Dinner Hill" but for society in general. Any child that learns there is a medium to be met in disagreements will make for a healthy less angry adult.0 -
It's a little hard to pass judgement when your carts full of condoms and vodka.
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I am only about 2 weeks into this and all 4 times I have been to the store the cashier (different person each time) has asked me "Starting a diet?"
So, cuz I am visablely fluffy and buying awesome healthy food with no junk I must be starting a 'diet'.
I guess I am, but still, I am so focused on changing my lifestyle and not 'dieting' it annoys me. Besides that I enjoy the foods I'm eating, why are bell pepper strips and hummus 'diet' food? I think they are tasty, period, diet or no.
Sorry, I got my rant on.:grumble:
Tell them you got a rabbit... And good for you! Mmmmm hummus!
This made me laugh. I actually have two rabbits and two aquatic turtles so you can imagine my cart from the produce section. 5 bunches of romaine, some cilantro and 2 bunches of green leaf lettuce every week just for the pets alone.0 -
I've actually changed grocery stores b/c the checkers for three weeks, I kid you not, would ask if I was making soup or having company over because I had so many veggies. I told them that I was just prepping for our family of 3 for the week. They each stated that they wouldn't eat 1/2 the stuff. They also had to look up some 'difficult' vegetables...like radishes, sugar snap peas, etc. SO, I no longer shop there and drive two miles farther where the produce is better priced and I don't get the third degree regarding my purchases. I'm happy with my decision.0
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I've actually changed grocery stores b/c the checkers for three weeks, I kid you not, would ask if I was making soup or having company over because I had so many veggies. I told them that I was just prepping for our family of 3 for the week. They each stated that they wouldn't eat 1/2 the stuff. They also had to look up some 'difficult' vegetables...like radishes, sugar snap peas, etc. SO, I no longer shop there and drive two miles farther where the produce is better priced and I don't get the third degree regarding my purchases. I'm happy with my decision.
:laugh: 'difficult veggies':laugh:0 -
Lol this topic is ridiculous. Worry about what YOU eat.
^^^THIS! Now in addition to "fat shaming", there is now "grocery cart shaming"?!?!?0 -
This makes no sense. What makes you think your children will starve if you feed them healthy food?
My son is super picky... he has missed a few dinners in his short lifetime but he's never missed a healthy breakfast and his lunch box is usually empty. Most of the time he will eat dinners I prepare and if not, no sweat. Be hungry for tonight. He will be starved for nutrients for the rest of his life if I feed him what he wants to eat, better he go without for the day instead.
What? Please tell me this is a sarcastic comment.
No it isn't . If my son misses a meal I don't sweat it. He will eat at the next meal. Missing a meal isn't a big deal.
True story. If I didn't like what my mom cooked, which was often because she wasn't a very good cook, I didn't get any alternatives and no dessert.
If they are hungry they will eat. If you cook decent they will def eat. My son wouldnt touch mashed potatoes so I found a way to make him touch them...bacon bits. It is your responsibilty as a parent to teach your child that this is whats for dinner you eat it or you go hungry. BUT, you also teach them how to meet you half way and allow them to contribute by giving ideas that would help them to eat what is available. WIN, WIN all the way around not only for you and the "Battle of Dinner Hill" but for society in general. Any child that learns there is a medium to be met in disagreements will make for a healthy less angry adult.
You're a good mom!
Ya know what's funny though, in all my years on this earth...the most angriest adults I've ever met are many times (not always...but the ones I personally know) are/were some of the most spoiled and pampered/catered to as children--children who their parents were/are actually scared of their own children, afraid to say no and set boundaries and standards that will make little Johnny or Suzie feel sad, mad or act bad and/or who their parents worship as little gods or something:laugh: . And just the opposite for children who didn't get their way(s) the majority of the time--but those children who had to earn their keep, work hard and learn to be content with joy with what they had...are many times (not always) some of the coolest and generous, well-balanced adults that I know. Everyone is different and like in lifestyles, one size doesn't fit all--that's for sure!0 -
I've actually changed grocery stores b/c the checkers for three weeks, I kid you not, would ask if I was making soup or having company over because I had so many veggies. I told them that I was just prepping for our family of 3 for the week. They each stated that they wouldn't eat 1/2 the stuff. They also had to look up some 'difficult' vegetables...like radishes, sugar snap peas, etc. SO, I no longer shop there and drive two miles farther where the produce is better priced and I don't get the third degree regarding my purchases. I'm happy with my decision.
:laugh: 'difficult veggies':laugh:
i had this young guy check me out once and he asked if my parnips were carrots. I told him yes, they were albino carrots, thinking I was being funny. Then he looked at the veggie price list and when he couldn't find them asked if they rang up under the same number.0 -
"I work in a grocery store, and a good way to make time pass faster when cashiering AND a good way to make me more motivated to work out or buy healthier stuff myself is beep MOUNTAINS of ice cream, frozen pizzas, pop, beer etc., see how chubby the people buying them are and just feel grossed out by the amount of junk going through my hands. I never say anything to a customer, of course. "
That's a ****ed up thing to say
Yes, it certainly is.0 -
I don't pay too much attention because my cart/bag is all over the place!! I will have 6 bottles of wine, chips, burgers, buns, quinoa, romaine lettuce, fish, hummus, broccoli etc. Some is for me and some is for my fiance. You never know who the person shopping is buying for. There are times when I look at someones cart and I see something incredibly healthy and delicious- I usually ask them politely where they found it because it looks amazing! :-)1
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I don't pay attention to other carts other than to see if the one on the line I'm heading towards is full, and I'll look for a quicker one. The checkers can be annoying with making comments on food, healthy or otherwise. I've had some even open a magazine I'm attempting to buy and start looking at it. One time I was buying groceries and also had two of the store baked donuts in a bag. Obnoxious checker dude asked if I wanted the bag to hold as he said I would be eating them right now. I reported his *kitten*. I tend to put my earphones on and listen to music to try to cut down on some of the checkout line drama. I sometimes think of grocery shopping as my little personal time, I like wandering the aisles and doing my thing, I don't think of it as a social event.0
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It would be hard for me to care less, just do not pay with a check. It is 2013!!!
^^^ I agree 100%!!! I mean really people still accept checks?? lmao :noway:0 -
I have three small children. I don't often get to go to the grocery store alone but when I do, I'm usually so excited to be by myself that I get totally wrapped up in what I'm doing and pay absolutely no attention to anyone else. Glad to know that so many other people are judging though.0
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Children will NOT starve themselves (excluding those with medical conditions of course) and eventually will eat. I will be damned if my girls become overweight because I've fed them crap for my convenience. If I can teach them anything at all, it is that they are to take care of their bodies properly via nutrition and activity. I can only hope they learn by the example of my struggle with obesity and never do to their bodies what I have done to mine.
Nothing makes me more sad then overweight children.
So what makes you fat, the food choices or an overall caloric surplus, regardless of food choices?
My struggle with binge eating, bad food choices and an overall caloric surplus have made me fat. I've been yoyo dieting since I was 13 and hit an all time high of 283 lbs at 22 years old. My mother had a habit of allowing us to eat as much as we wanted of anything we wanted. No one practiced portion control. I wasn't aware of how big I was until I heard a school mate call me fat in gym class. That started the yoyo dieting. I would drop the weight quickly and then resort back to my old ways and gain it back plus some. I had a relatively rough childhood (parents struggling with mental illness, alcoholism, domestic violence, eventually divorce) which ended with being disowned by my mother last year. At times I felt I had a pretty good handle on controlling the binge eating, but when things got really rough with my mom, I resorted to food for comfort.
It's only now in the last 9 months that I've been able to loose some of the weight, keep it off & keep going. That has been through portion control, better food choices and physical activity. I've also acknowledged recently that I have a problem with binge eating. It has been 21 days since I last binged. And for the record, I don't blame my parents for my issues, because at some point I became and adult and should have started making better choices on my own. It's my demon now & I'm doing my best to deal with it one day at a time.
And when I see an overweight child, I wonder why. Picky eater? Busy parents? Things not going well at home? Medical condition? I fell I have a responsibility to mind my own business with this as well as with what other people put in their carts, but I can't help but feel it tug at my heart strings when I see a child who may struggle for the rest of their lives, especially when I'm trekking through the same waters a couple of decades later.
So that is why seeing an overweight child makes me sad, if you must know.
I am sorry for all that you have endured. I empathaze with the overweight child and yo yo dieting as I battled my whole life as well.
I had wonderful parents who grew up in a time of want. For them, providing us with plenty or way more than plenty was to compensate for their childhoods of not having enough. Two pork chops was a serving. Every celebration involved food. Every reward was chocolate or some other sweet treat. Dinner was eaten in front of the tv, not at a table.
I had to learn to balance that when my own kids came along. I knew it was my responsibility to break the cycle and teach them healthier and active lifestyles. ALL meals are eaten at the table. Dinner is family talk time - single most important thing you can do for your kids, IMO!! We are not members of the clean plate club - a memorable fight with the inlaws! One pork chop is a serving. Sweet treats are rare not daily. I have 4 children. They all love fruits and veggies. Will eat just about anything! My girls don't struggle with their weight at all. One is very conscious of what she eats. The other loves her junk. Now that she is 18, she buys it. My boys are chubby. My oldest slimmed down as a teen. My baby concerns us. he is overweight. We limit TV time and computer games. Recently, we have begun to limit sweets and portions. I don't want to deal with eating disorders later. its a fine line. I try to encourage him and he works out with me now.
I guess what I am saying is, as parents, we ahve to teach them how to make healthy choices. In the long run, it is going to be their choice. Train them up in the way they should go and in the end, they will not depart from it.0 -
I don't so much judge anyone else's cart as I look over my own and feel proud that I'm making better choices now. But I do feel the overwhelming urge to "explain" anything that doesn't fit in the commonly defined perception of what is healthy food. I allow myself 1-2 sodas a week, always Coke Zero just because that's what I like, and I don't think a week has passed yet that I haven't made some borderline self-deprecating remark as to how everyone must have a vice and this is mine.
I do get the occasional comment on the contents of my cart, usually asking if something really tastes that good. The biggest draw so far has been my protein shakes. I have to have them to increase my protein intake post-surgery, since my stomach can no longer hold the amount of meat and cheese it takes to meet my protein needs. I don't really mind the comments, or honest questions. What bugs the Sam heck out of me is when they wrinkle their nose and/or say something like "I couldn't eat that"...ok, that's your thing, I'm not asking you to eat it. I'm asking you to ring it up for me, now move along.0
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