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  • meggyshae
    meggyshae Posts: 357 Member
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    Nothing better than a guy being himself =)
  • Kiska77
    Kiska77 Posts: 24
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    I always try to be nice, until he won't accept that it isn't going to happen. Even if they originally come off as 'creepy', I try to be nice until they give me reason not to b/c some guys are just awkward and don't realize they are being creepy. No reason to be rude unless dude won't back off.
  • lovelyladyJ21
    lovelyladyJ21 Posts: 246 Member
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    If the approach is creepy, the rejection will be rude haha

    If it's nice, even if I don't find the guy attractive, it's still flattering and I'll thank them & just say I have a boyfriend

    Last month I was at Home Depot buying paint for my place. First, I was pleasantly surprised and happy to see that the guy working was a good looking (not really my "type" but attractive just the same) since he was the person I'd have to talk to. Even more surprised that my daughter spoke to him b/c she never talks to men she doesn't know.
    Anyways, I pick out the paint, he helps me pick out all my supplies and ever so smoothly, hands me a piece of paper with his number on it saying "well if you ever need any help painting, feel free to give me a call"
    hehe I was so impressed by the gesture and that my daughter was being friendly that I did in fact call him a couple days later.
    We've been seeing each other since haha


    I LOVE THAT!! =)
  • lovelyladyJ21
    lovelyladyJ21 Posts: 246 Member
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    I haven't been hit on/asked out on a date in over 4 years. =( Very sad actually. I never really got hit on growing up either having 8 brothers puts a stop to that. I did have 1 guy who was brave enough to try (he did sing to me and ask me out) never really found out what my brothers did to keep him away from me. He still doesn't talk to me to this day!
    Makes me wonder how my Husband got through them all......

    I honestly have never had anyone come up and ask me out on a date. I've had numerous guys tell me that I had a nice butt though....... Not really sure how that's supposed to make me feel lol!!


    I have to admit that I do love when men make comments about women with red hair being gorgeous! =D
  • jessicae1aine
    jessicae1aine Posts: 885
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    I have a brother who is 11 years younger than me. Once upon a time, just after his high school graduation, I was at his house and a friend of his told me how much he "likes older women" and "would love to hook up with one." At one point, he even told me he thought I'd be great in bed. I assured him both that yes, I am, and no, he'd never find out. Ugh.

    My favorite way to be hit on, though, is any pickup line on earth, or a guy who notices my shoes. Pickup line of choice tells you a LOT about a guy and usually gives you both a good laugh, and if you notice my shoes you're just plain awesome.
  • kschoono
    kschoono Posts: 344 Member
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    It's a huge compliment to me to get hit on. I've been married now for going on 10 years and I have a kid, so it gives the ego a huge boost. I would never be rude about it to the other person though.

    I am also been married to my husband for almost 10 years. I also like being hit on, but I usually tell them I am married. :) It strange when i am w/ my friend & a guy hit on me & my friend like him, but he not interested in her. :) My friend sometimes say that is unfair that you get hit on more than me & you are married. :) I always tell the guys that hit on me that I am married. :)

    I think my confident attracts people or my hair :) Maybe they are noticing my cochlear implants. :)
  • OfficerFuzzy
    OfficerFuzzy Posts: 222 Member
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    I tend to just tell people that I already have sixteen and a half boyfriends and I live in the woods in a cabin with no phone service. I try to be nice about it and polite and they usually understand my dilemma.

    When it happens while I'm reading. :noway:

    It's an okay compliment and I admire people that have the courage to go out and hit on people.
    I just stare at people I like and hope they make the first move.
    Highly effective.
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
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    I don't really get hit on, but if i did so long as the person wasn't creepy i would be polite. No touching and don't be pushy and you should be ok with anyone normal. If you are polite and everything and they are a ***** consider it a close escape :p
  • LindseySepulveda
    LindseySepulveda Posts: 2
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    It's not really where guys approach you, but How! If you go up to a girl very genuine and engage in conversation that will get you everywhere! I don't want to sound rude when I say this, but I think guys need to realize that of a girl is out of your league, she is out of your league! Those beauty and the Beast stories are rare! Guys just look at yourself, and the girl you are thinking of approaching. Think "Is this girl out of my league?" If the answer is yes then you need to start approaching girls on your own level! I get so sick of hearing people say "Oh, he was sweet, atleast he tried!" Like No dude! I would rather you didn't, because that was just awkward for everyone! Sorry rant over! I've had some bad experiences if you couldn't tell! Haha
  • ZealousMissJJ
    ZealousMissJJ Posts: 454 Member
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    1. I totally understand you should be able to go out and not be “hit on” or approached by some guy you don’t even know.
    2. Do you turn guys down harshly or are you nice about it? Assuming that you are not interested, do guys that you think are unattractive get the same treatment as guys who you find attractive? Meaning, do you turn down the attractive guys in a nicer way?
    3. Do you have a favorite/no so favorite story about how a guy tried to hit on you?
    4. Do you know how hard it is to gain enough courage to talk to you? Be nice to us….lmao

    1. It's a compliment being hit on. Sometimes the timing isn't very good, like when you're in the middle of a conversation with your friends. :)
    2. Depends, if I sense they're creepers I'll be a little harsher. If they're sweet about it I'll definateley let them know I appreciate it!
    3. Staring, eyecontact by a cute guy.. *shivers*
    4. We don't bite :)! Maybe we're a little uncomfortable with it too! Then again, speaking for myself, if I'm attracked to a guy, I'll let him know ;).
  • AIZZO4
    AIZZO4 Posts: 404 Member
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    It's not really where guys approach you, but How! If you go up to a girl very genuine and engage in conversation that will get you everywhere! I don't want to sound rude when I say this, but I think guys need to realize that of a girl is out of your league, she is out of your league! Those beauty and the Beast stories are rare! Guys just look at yourself, and the girl you are thinking of approaching. Think "Is this girl out of my league?" If the answer is yes then you need to start approaching girls on your own level! I get so sick of hearing people say "Oh, he was sweet, atleast he tried!" Like No dude! I would rather you didn't, because that was just awkward for everyone! Sorry rant over! I've had some bad experiences if you couldn't tell! Haha

    Wow out of your league? I am at a lost for words. Who makes up this league? What if the guy is just a super awesome person? So I am guessing you mean looks? Beauty is subjective, right?
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
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    I don't mind if they're nice about it. I usually just say thank you, but I'm married. I absolutely cannot stand the "Hey ma, you got a man?" crap. Especially when it comes from like 18 year old KIDS. Ahhhhh. That makes me sound old but really. What girl likes that?
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
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    It's not really where guys approach you, but How! If you go up to a girl very genuine and engage in conversation that will get you everywhere! I don't want to sound rude when I say this, but I think guys need to realize that of a girl is out of your league, she is out of your league! Those beauty and the Beast stories are rare! Guys just look at yourself, and the girl you are thinking of approaching. Think "Is this girl out of my league?" If the answer is yes then you need to start approaching girls on your own level! I get so sick of hearing people say "Oh, he was sweet, atleast he tried!" Like No dude! I would rather you didn't, because that was just awkward for everyone! Sorry rant over! I've had some bad experiences if you couldn't tell! Haha
    not meaning to sound rude (ok, that's a lie, i'm ok with sounding rude) but not everyone is as shallow as you are.
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
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    It's not really where guys approach you, but How! If you go up to a girl very genuine and engage in conversation that will get you everywhere! I don't want to sound rude when I say this, but I think guys need to realize that of a girl is out of your league, she is out of your league! Those beauty and the Beast stories are rare! Guys just look at yourself, and the girl you are thinking of approaching. Think "Is this girl out of my league?" If the answer is yes then you need to start approaching girls on your own level! I get so sick of hearing people say "Oh, he was sweet, atleast he tried!" Like No dude! I would rather you didn't, because that was just awkward for everyone! Sorry rant over! I've had some bad experiences if you couldn't tell! Haha

    I completely disagree. It happened to me. Look at me, I am gorgeous. My wife is hideous. Some mornings I can't even make eye contact. But I love her. Hmmmm.........
  • AIZZO4
    AIZZO4 Posts: 404 Member
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    It's not really where guys approach you, but How! If you go up to a girl very genuine and engage in conversation that will get you everywhere! I don't want to sound rude when I say this, but I think guys need to realize that of a girl is out of your league, she is out of your league! Those beauty and the Beast stories are rare! Guys just look at yourself, and the girl you are thinking of approaching. Think "Is this girl out of my league?" If the answer is yes then you need to start approaching girls on your own level! I get so sick of hearing people say "Oh, he was sweet, atleast he tried!" Like No dude! I would rather you didn't, because that was just awkward for everyone! Sorry rant over! I've had some bad experiences if you couldn't tell! Haha

    I completely disagree. It happened to me. Look at me, I am gorgeous. My wife is hideous. Some mornings I can't even make eye contact. But I love her. Hmmmm.........

    :laugh:
  • monipie
    monipie Posts: 280 Member
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    never approach a girl at the gym. i don't mind getting hit on and i am very nice- depending not on looks- but i would definitely let hugh jackman down in the nicest way ever. lol.
    it depends on how respectful the guy is, if he is a jerk- i will treat him like a jerk. the way you asked that girl out seems pretty respectful and sweet. girls like that. guys think we are all complicated and mysterious but the truth is- we honestly like nice and respectful guys. maybe dumb girls like complete jerks or *kitten* but real women- like men who are confident and respectful to women. best of luck!
  • mank32
    mank32 Posts: 1,323 Member
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    i gave an anecdote earlier but not really a position: there is NEVER any harm in telling a woman you think she's attractive, as long as you do it respectfully. look her in the eye, speak the truth, and use your manners. if you do this and a woman is rude or blows you off, forget about her, she's a b!tch.

    by the same token there is never any harm in asking someone out in this manner--worst she can do is turn you down, and if you've approached with respect and manners you can reasonably expect respect and manners in the turn-down. again, if you're appropriate and you get blown off flippantly, forget about the b!tch. for reals.

    i think i speak for a lot (but certainly not all) of women when i say that getting hit on/asked out in a nice way is usually a pleasant pick-me-up, **regardless** of whether we are remotely interested in accepting the offer. just getting the offer is a boost. sometimes we get nervous and don't know how to handle it. (it happens on both ends, you know.)

    i don't care how fat or smelly or gross you are: if you look me in the eye and use your big boy words and the manners your mama taught you to tell me you think i'm pretty and would like to go out, and i am NOT going to roll my eyes at you. i am NOT going to be rude. i AM likely to turn you down if you are either fat, smelly, or gross, but i'll be humane about it. and i will NOT give you a hard time for trying. we all have a right to go after what we want in life, regardless of what we look like or how much money we make or whatever other bs reason you can think of...

    no one is out of anyone's league, ever, because we all have the capacity to make different choices, everyday. that means we can change and become different people.

    you will get rejected. you can't let that stop you or slow you down. you just have to accept it and roll on. and there are some b!tches out there, fo sho. please don't let them discourage you. i hate them too.

    "I think you're very pretty/beautiful/attractive/interesting/whatev -- are you seeing anyone?" I think is probably the best thing i could hope to hear. it's direct and to the point, sets the tone clearly and puts the ball in my court immediately, no messing around. i don't like it when guys want to chit chat coyly forever, without ever even asking me if i'm available. it makes me want to be the one to get it out there, like "Hey, i can see where this is going--i should let you know, i already have a boyfriend" or whatever. just don't put me in that position. if you're going to strike one up, YOU'D better know where you are going--or not--with this first.

    Good luck!
    :flowerforyou:
  • UrbanLotus
    UrbanLotus Posts: 1,163 Member
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    So you don't believe in "the chase."

    Of course I do, but I'm not sure what that has to do with what I said? You can chase and be normal!
  • glovepuppet
    glovepuppet Posts: 1,710 Member
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    i gave an anecdote earlier but not really a position: there is NEVER any harm in telling a woman you think she's attractive, as long as you do it respectfully. look her in the eye, speak the truth, and use your manners. if you do this and a woman is rude or blows you off, forget about her, she's a b!tch.
    why is she a b!tch? the attention is uninvited, so perhaps it is intruding on a particularly difficult time. maybe her mother died this morning, maybe she was abused and is inwardly freaking out, maybe she is being pestered by some guy at work and it has her on edge.

    are you always polite to telesales people? even if you're having a terrible day and the last straw is someone trying to sell you something you've never asked to buy?

    when you're just walking up to strangers you have to bear in mind that you have no idea what they're dealing with today. a better attitude is to forget about her, she's a stranger.
  • redraidergirl2009
    redraidergirl2009 Posts: 2,560 Member
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    I hate being approached randomly. Why? Because the guy is just interested in my looks. They don't know me. It creeps me out. I am not very nice if a guy approaches me like that but I AM not mean unless they are rude about it..I just say no I am not interested. I know some women say they are sorry they have a bf, but I am not. I love my bf. I probably wouldn't be interested in a weirdo coming up to me in the market even if I didn't. If its a man I know that says something I will be nice and just say look we are friends. But there are times when strangers are very forward and I don't like that.

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