SPOUSE/PARTNER HONEST FEELINGS

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  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
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    Mine also complains about the time, even though I workout at home. And he's always telling me I am obsessed with calories, grams of this and that, which is fair because I do get too obsessive about numbers (I'm a data analyst, it comes with the territory).

    But even though I believe he was being honest when he said he thought I looked good before, I know he likes the results. He spends an embarrassing amount of time talking about how firm my bum is now. :laugh: And if I consider skipping my evening workout because I’m tired he'll usually say "You might as well go do it, you know you'll just complain later if you don't."
  • Ashshell
    Ashshell Posts: 185
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    My fiancé is proud of my hard work and makes it easy for me to get to the gym because he knows it's important to me. We have a 2.5 year old son so we have to work together to get time for ourselves. Without his support, it would be much more difficult for me to be successful in my weight-loss journey. He is also working on his own goals (he only wants to lose 10lbs and tone up - I'm jealous) and I do my part to ensure he gets time to go to the gym as well.
  • treehopper1987
    treehopper1987 Posts: 505 Member
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    He's fine with it. He knows it makes me happy so that's all that matters to him. I also try and do it mostly on my own time (5am while everyone is sleeping) so it doesn't have a huge impact on family stuff. The only thing he doesn't like is when I try and power through an injury. :happy:

    My husband is very similar to this. He doesn't think that I need to lose weight, and loves me for who I am. BUT he knows it makes me feel more confident and happy so he doesn't say anything about it. Plus, I think he sort of likes it when I challenge him to do things, and be more active.
  • lavieboheme1229
    lavieboheme1229 Posts: 448 Member
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    My fiance didn't want to actively participate in losing weight, but he did lose some weight by association. He never complained about the healthy foods I made for dinner, or the smaller serving I gave him. I also didn't leave to go to the gym on a regular basis. I would work out at home with weights etc. But he always was supportive while I was working out.

    And he totally digs the new body. He won't keep his hands off me. We are getting married on Friday, and I have to keep reminding him we will be photographed 24/7, he can't have his hand on my *kitten* all night. :wink:
  • rosebarnalice
    rosebarnalice Posts: 3,488 Member
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    My hubby of 28 years loves it, supports it, and encourages it.

    He's an avid cook, and he carefully weighs and measures things as he's cooking so I can log everything in one of his fabulous creation. He compliments and congratulates me, and makes no fuss if I get up early or come home late because I'm at the gym.
  • mink63
    mink63 Posts: 35
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    My husband is supportive 95% of the time and total annoyed 5%. Once in a while he'll use my exercise against me "you spend all the time working out!" I usually ignore those comments because I bring the kids with me, so he can do whatever the hell he wants. I've always worked out, so it's not something new to him. He has complained about my healthy eating habits (although most of the time he compliments me for it), but I never give him any crap for having chocolate cakes and sourdough bread and crap in the house. I have good will power, so it doesn't bother me. He's very happy with the changes in my body (mostly my butt), so he really does try to be supportive.
  • katy_trail
    katy_trail Posts: 1,992 Member
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    I met my husband in a powerlifting gym when I was 17 , I got lucky with that, he loves that I am in shape and that we both are in this together.

    had track practice together in HS, definitely a plus when they love to workout too.
  • lilRicki
    lilRicki Posts: 4,555 Member
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    mine is fully supportive, says good job honey, and bought me new balance runners and an elliptical. Now if only he'd work out WITH me
  • jersey_jenn
    jersey_jenn Posts: 122 Member
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    my s.o. says i look ok once in a while, but he also tries to stuff me full of garbage every chance he gets, despite me asking him not to. sometimes if i go out without him he'll make b!tchy comments too. oh well, i'm still going to stick with it, i want the change for myself. if he can't ride with it, time to find another bus.
  • LoveAndInsanity
    LoveAndInsanity Posts: 16
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    My SO is supportive of my fitness journey to some extent...He likes me slim (like how we met) but I'm not on a quest to just get slim again...I want to have some muscle definition and be strong..he thinks I'm going to get muscular like a man. I love him greatly but this journey isn't about me being just physically attractive to him...I want to be healthy, strong, and fit so I am pressing forward with my desires. I think he will change his mind once I get close to that point...I just want to be tight and toned. I think I am just going to take a similar approach to a fellow poster...its so that I can be around longer for our children which is what its really about...setting good examples.
  • TwinkieDong
    TwinkieDong Posts: 1,564 Member
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    We can all say what we think, however we do not know the situation you live with. Some people are derelict in their duties for things such as their hobbies, etc. So only you have that answer to which you seek. I do not know if you are spending rent money at the gym, or buying weigh-loss pills and not paying the rent.

    however take all of those things aside, why don't you talk to him about it and see what is really bothering him. Maybe he likes you as you are. Maybe he is jealous because he doesn't have the motivation you do, maybe he worries some guys will hit on you, maybe you don't spend enough time together.
  • 1MariaChristina
    1MariaChristina Posts: 93 Member
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    he had been pretty unsupportive in the most non verbal way possible-he would continue to bring junk in the house wouldn't join me to the gym and stuff like that but I guess he realized I was going to do it with or with out him and he has come around a lot with regards to no more junk in the house but you know how the saying goes-you can lead a horse to water.

    with or without him im doing this for me he can hop on for the ride or he can get the hell out of my way. i
  • KodAkuraMacKyen
    KodAkuraMacKyen Posts: 737 Member
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    My husband loves it. He knows how much happier I am now. For a while he was working out with me. I loved it. Now, we just have a more active life together.
  • NutellaAddict
    NutellaAddict Posts: 1,258 Member
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    My wife says "Stop admiring yourself in the mirror."
  • RavenWolf1977
    RavenWolf1977 Posts: 39 Member
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    My husband is supportive and loves the "new me!" He is happy that I am happy.

    However, he is insecure. He tells me quite honestly that he is afraid when I get to goal weight I will leave him for someone else. After 12.5 years, two kids, and a new home together I have no plans on looking elsewhere!

    LOL!
  • logicman69
    logicman69 Posts: 1,034 Member
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    Mine is really jealous. She says that its been easy for me and that guys "loose weight quicker than girls". Easy??? I've been at this for 3 YEARS!!!! That is not easy. I've had ups and downs and she has seen it all. And as far as gus loosing easier than girls, I'm gonna have to call BS on that. She was on MFP for a hot minute.. tracked her calories and watched what she ate for about a month. She lost 10LBS!! 10!!! She just got lazy and doesn't do anything. I have tried to get her involved in my workouts and offered to workout with her, but she just wants to sit on the couch and watch her reality shows and maybe attend a Zumba class every other week.

    *sigh*. I guess that is just me venting.
  • jacklis
    jacklis Posts: 280 Member
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    I could not do this without my hubby. He cooks supper for me and our teenage sons while I am at the gym training, gets up and gets me a protein shake before I get out of bed, and praises every inch and pound I loose.
    I do my best to let him know how much I appreciate his support. :wink:
  • DesDawn24
    DesDawn24 Posts: 147 Member
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    Mine was only vaguely aware that I was going to the gym until recently, when he started to notice. Of course, he only noticed because his favorite area is shrinking lol. He's very supportive though, and the gym never interferes with our time together. I'm lucky in the sense that I get off work an hour and a half before he does, so I use that time for my gym time!
  • egwene1977
    egwene1977 Posts: 69
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    He still likes his crap food from time to time, but he has been VERY supportive of my efforts...and he even eats healthier meals with me now. I think he's getting a little worried that I'm catching up to him in weight (I used to outweigh him by 50 pounds), so now he's starting to work out too. No complaints here :wink:
  • mamosh81
    mamosh81 Posts: 409 Member
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    My husband is supportive. He always said I looked great before but since I've started he can't keep his hands off me at all. I just wish that he would join me in this but he seems to have no desire at all.

    same goes for my boyfriend he always said he loved me how i am but he stopped buying chocolate and junk food to support me, it was actually his idea to do that when i was down about not losing anything, and since i lost weight our sex life got a lot better and he tells me i am glowing now and looking so much healthier and more happy

    edit* spelling bug

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