that "skinny b*tch" moment

jessgetshealthy

FANTASTIC.

Exactly. GOOD FOR YOU!

katy_trail

I think you looked great before, but i can tell that you're happier and healthier now,
So this is awesome I'm so happy for you.:flowerforyou:

happilyeveractive

you go girl! i have been hit on so much more since ive gone from a 14 to a 4 by former classmates. shows how shallow some people really are....

firstsip

You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.

I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.

I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.

OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.

Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.

Elf_Princess1210

I have posted my before and after pictures before but i want to tell you a story of absolute success. i was very fat in high school actually my whole school career. i was bullied ALOT because of it. the "popular" kids would often say things like "maybe if you give her a twinkie she will let you copy her homework" among other things. (i was smart almost all advanced classes). this is what i looked like


i work about 3 blocks from my old high school so everyone i went to school with lives close. so 2 nights ago one of the boys who bullied me relentlessly came into my work. i knew who he was instantly he doesn't have a face i would likely forget. He came to the counter and did a double take and
said "you're Chelsea (insert last name here) right?"
so i said "yes"
he said "damn you got hot! i gotta say i wouldnt have recognized you. Sorry for.....ya know everything in school. we were young ya know?" he was staring at my chest the whole time he said this
so i could either be a b*tch or say its okay. So what did i do?
i said "You are only sorry because you think im...what did you say? 'hot?' if i still was fat you would have come in here and said some smart alack remark about how im still fat and although i have changed for the better you are still the same. i thought maybe college would have changed you but i guess not. so no i do not accept you're apology because your not truly sorry."
needless to say he was stunned and quietly left the store. my coworker Phil was in the back room and came out clapping. i have never been more proud of myself, i stood up to my bully! this guy harrassed me throughout the 6 years i knew him.
This is what i look like now

Awesome! I had a similar experience when I went home after my first semester of college. Because I was in Army ROTC I lost almost all of my extra body fat. I went to a local restaurant with my family where one of the guys that made fun of me all the time worked as a waiter.He was one of those jocks that was in my English class who tortured me mercilessly because of my weight. At the restaurant he was our waiter. Needless to say he didn't recognize me at all and asked me on a date. I looked him straight in the eye and said, " I know you Jeremy. Remember me? I was the one that sat in front of you in Mrs so-and-so's English class where you made sure to torture me for being overweight. I wouldn't go out with you if you were the last man on earth." Needless to say he didn't get a tip from my father and i threw the napkin that had his phone number on and hit him on the forehead with it.

SnazzyTraveller

Gorgeous before and after! Congrats girl

workaholic_nurse

OP:Frickin' AWESOME burn!

To those that think the high road is the better choice:F*** OFF!

Sometimes we need a little vengeance/retribution for what was done to/taken from us!

Kaoticma07

LOL you go girl he deserved what you told him...He wasnt sorry for what he told you all those years in glad that you had a moment were you felt proud of your self....yyyaayyyyy you...

Achrya

You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.

I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.

I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.

OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.

Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.

Well, even the air is toxic these days, so in the grand scheme of things resentment probably won't be anyone's undoing.

SerenaFisher

Good for you. I had a rough high school (I moved around a lot and started my high school at 15 in a small town, they didn't take kindly to "new people") I have had similar things happen and I think your reaction was absolutely correct. The high road isn't silence, what's wrong with honesty? I would have clapped for you too babes. Just because people were kids doesn't mean they get a free pass, especially when they make it obvious their interest is only in your physical change you were always the same person.

PrincessEliNa

You have done a wonderful job losing all the weight. You look wonderful and I'm sure you feel wonderful. I'm so sorry you were bullied in school. It sounds absolutely horrible.
That being said, I think it would have been a better ending for you to have let him know that he really hurt you, and then forgive him. I think he probably went out on a limb to apologize to you, even if it was awkward and not well-worded. He could have just pretended he didn't recognize you, right? Like another poster said, I wasn't there, so I can't really picture exactly the circumstances or the attitudes involved, so I may be off base, but I truly think a kinder and higher road to take would have been to graciously accept his apology.

I never get mentalities like this. Why, after enduring years of teasing, casual cruelty, and torment, is one supposed to take the 'high' road? Why is the burden on the bullied person to be the 'better man'? So the Bully can have the satisfaction of being a good person now and go to sleep at night content in the knowledge that they've been forgiven and the years they spent causing someone else pain are just wiped clean? Forget that.

I was viciously bullied in high school, to a point that I had to have my entire class schedule rearranged (Funny how I was the one who had to change and not the bullies) and I can honestly say there are some people out in the world who I wish live long lives, full of pain and suffering and not a single shred of happiness.

OT: Good for you OP, and you were beautiful before and beautiful now.

Because, ultimately, forgiveness isn't about the bully. It's about learning to let go of the rage, anger, sadness, or bitterness that exists when you "don't get" that mentality. Whether you realize it's there or not, that sort of resentment can be very toxic to oneself.

I admit that I was never bullied, and I've definitely never bullied others, but I agree with this post. It's easy to be angry, but ultimately, I believe that forgiveness, letting things go, not letting our own strong emotions get in our way, that's when we're happiest.

OP, if that moment made you feel good about yourself, and your progress, I'm happy for you (like I said, I was never bullied, so I don't know what that moment would be like...) and I hope you continue to progress :flowerforyou:

ClearNotCloudyMind

Great stuff! Funny thing is you were rather pretty even in your before photo, despite the extra insulation! Pity kids at high school can't see past the silhouette.

NikaVonD

Wow! Congrats! You look awesome right now

pcastagner

Bullying is a complicated thing, but try to remember that it doesn't only hurt the victim. It also hurts the perpetrator.

I was bullied for my weight and the way my brain works as a kid. In turn, I found a smaller fish to bully. Apparently that puts me in a very small category, but I can assure you that I carry around the damage from both. I do understand your reaction, and while you are justified, you might want to think about bringing your confidence to an even higher level. You have earned it. But remember that this awful thing can only be stopped by those in positions of authority, and the ethical failure ultimately lies with the school.

irishblonde2011

I love the fact you told him where to go but remained classy. Well done

cook6609

Awesome!!!! You are so right!!! He's only sorry because you weren't fat anymore... I'm glad you said what you did... You look amazing by the way :-)

Shalini_15

Amazing Too good an answer in the face

bearkisses

you girl, are amazeballs!

cald0nia

Yayy... beautiful!

jenbenefit

*kitten* yeaah!
If I could high five you, I would right now :drinker:

linsey0689

omg this made me so happy to read . also great job!

majoki

Awesome! That's usually one of things you think of to say after you've missed your moment, but you got it right on cue!!

:flowerforyou:

Imigen04

This is such an awesome post! You were and are beautiful and also your smile is contagious keep smiling and being you

bossyfairy

Lol! That did make me smile. Well done for actually standing up for yourself. Now if only you could travel back in time and tell your teenage self you would have that opportunity...

babydiego87

congrats, what a great story. you look hot :flowerforyou:

heatherloveslifting

Omg you are SO adorable! And wow, what a jerk. I'm glad you had the power this time.

lioness803

Wow, you do look AMAZING! Great job, and way to go on not letting years of bullying make you insecure-because that response shows you are definitely not insecure!

shutterbug282

You look awesome and that dress is so cute! That guy sounds like an idiot!

HappilyRubina

Amazing. It was like the climax of a beautiful girly movie. Congos!

CannibalisticVegetarian

*Throws a bouquet of roses on stage whilst clapping* BRAVO!! Encore! Encore dammit!