pregnancy doesn't "ruin" your body...
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Had the kid.. gained 80+ lbs while pregnant... worked my A%^ off (quite literally too) to get to where I am now.
I have stretch marks- LOTS of them. I still have some work to do/am not quite as tight/firm as I'd like to be... do I think my body is ruined because of some flub or stretch marks? HELL no.
I'm not sure what side of the bed some of you rolled out of, but dang! OP's post is inspiring and encouraging- not some insulting or discriminating thing. Gahhh...
I talked about stretch marks and I personally feel as though they ruined my body. Everyone feels differently about their "battle scars." I don't want the OP to think that I am angry or insulted bc I'm not. I'm proud of where I am today with my health and fitness. I'll never look like I did when I was 19, but I can still be toned and within a healthy weight range. I just think that it is important for future mothers to know that sometimes it's not easy to just "bounce" back.0 -
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^^^ HeroAll I'm gonna say is that it never ceases to amaze me what lengths folks on the Internet will go to just to avoid saying "My bad, I probably shouldn't have said that."0 -
Bah, WOW!!! I don't find that my pregnancy at 31 ruined my body, and I don't find that genetics really played that much of a roll in it. If you look at my family you would see a population of people who are more over wieght than not. I thought that as an active late 20 - early 30 year old woman I was destined to carry the weight of my family and that was that. Are my breasts as perky as they were before I had my son? Nope, but they are amazaing and beautiful in their own right as they were his primary source of nutrition for 12 months and a secondary source for 4 months longer (not to say that I'm not going to have them done, I work on the rest of me, why shouldn't I do something about them too?). 9 months post pregnancy I was wearing a bikini with confidence. I have stretchmarks across my hips and lower abdomen, but I love them . . .
Pregnancy taught me that my body is capable of way more than I was giving it credit for . . . it was empowering and special. I didn't have an easy pregnancy, I gained 60 pounds to have a 6 pound 13 ounce baby, in the middle they told me I was high risk for deformities and about that time I became too sensitive in my cootch to find sex anything but painful, at the end they wanted to put me on bed rest (we had a baby instead). I also didn't have it as tough as others as I don't have any permanent nerve damage. I didn't think that my loose skin would ever go back, I didn't think I'd ever weight less than I did before I became a mother. Every woman's experience is different, but that doesn't mean that the her statement that you don't have to give up just becuase you're a mom isn't valid. She's not judging mom's for their struggle, she's simply stating that for a relatively normal pregnancy (and sometimes not a normal pregnancy) it's not the end of your body. Damn!0 -
Ok so you look amazing after having kids but please please tell me that you pee a little when you sneeze, cough, or do jumping jacks:) That would make me feel 1000 times better about your lack of stretch marks and belly pooch LOL!!
My pregnancies did not "ruin" my body but certainly changed it. But I would not trade my post baby body for my pre baby body because my two little angels are totally worth it!!
does the fact i have *kitten* grapes make you feel any better?0 -
Ok so you look amazing after having kids but please please tell me that you pee a little when you sneeze, cough, or do jumping jacks:) That would make me feel 1000 times better about your lack of stretch marks and belly pooch LOL!!
My pregnancies did not "ruin" my body but certainly changed it. But I would not trade my post baby body for my pre baby body because my two little angels are totally worth it!!
does the fact i have *kitten* grapes make you feel any better?
HAHAHA!!! Now, that is funny. Good one OP.0 -
My impression is if you were athletic before pregnancy you will come through it in much better shape than if not.
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Angry moms make the best mobs.
Join MADD or something. Do something productive with all that energy.
If you're unsure of the truth of this statement, join a parenting site . . . it's scary in there . . .0 -
LOL what the hell are *kitten* grapes?0
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Had the kid.. gained 80+ lbs while pregnant... worked my A%^ off (quite literally too) to get to where I am now.
I have stretch marks- LOTS of them. I still have some work to do/am not quite as tight/firm as I'd like to be... do I think my body is ruined because of some flub or stretch marks? HELL no.
I'm not sure what side of the bed some of you rolled out of, but dang! OP's post is inspiring and encouraging- not some insulting or discriminating thing. Gahhh...
I talked about stretch marks and I personally feel as though they ruined my body. Everyone feels differently about their "battle scars." I don't want the OP to think that I am angry or insulted bc I'm not. I'm proud of where I am today with my health and fitness. I'll never look like I did when I was 19, but I can still be toned and within a healthy weight range. I just think that it is important for future mothers to know that sometimes it's not easy to just "bounce" back.
It wasn't easy for me either.. not by any means. It took (still takes) a lot of gym time and changes... I didn't bounce back.. I worked to get back. I'll never look like I did at 19... I have hips now, my body and metabolism are different and yep- lots of stretch marks.. still don't think of that as ruined.
I hope that you can come to terms with your stretch marks and body- it's not ruined.. just different.0 -
LOL what the hell are *kitten* grapes?
you do not want to know.0 -
i dont want to have three children. the idea of children outnumbering the parents freak me out.
LOL! Love it!
I had one kid. There's this issue here in the US called unemployment or too many people, not enough jobs. Be green.
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Ok so you look amazing after having kids but please please tell me that you pee a little when you sneeze, cough, or do jumping jacks:) That would make me feel 1000 times better about your lack of stretch marks and belly pooch LOL!!
My pregnancies did not "ruin" my body but certainly changed it. But I would not trade my post baby body for my pre baby body because my two little angels are totally worth it!!
It took me 2 years to get rid of that . . . and a crap ton of kegels. Still can't run in place and have to cross my legs when I sneeze . . . but as long as I cross my legs I'm fine.0 -
Angry moms make the best mobs.
Join MADD or something. Do something productive with all that energy.
If you're unsure of the truth of this statement, join a parenting site . . . it's scary in there . . .
^This. I derped into BabyCenter not knowing it was the friggin Mommy Octagon. Lesson learned.0 -
and with that (that being a toddler awaking from her slumber), i'm outta here.0
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Ok so you look amazing after having kids but please please tell me that you pee a little when you sneeze, cough, or do jumping jacks:) That would make me feel 1000 times better about your lack of stretch marks and belly pooch LOL!!
My pregnancies did not "ruin" my body but certainly changed it. But I would not trade my post baby body for my pre baby body because my two little angels are totally worth it!!
does the fact i have *kitten* grapes make you feel any better?
Just a little:)0 -
Had the kid.. gained 80+ lbs while pregnant... worked my A%^ off (quite literally too) to get to where I am now.
I have stretch marks- LOTS of them. I still have some work to do/am not quite as tight/firm as I'd like to be... do I think my body is ruined because of some flub or stretch marks? HELL no.
I'm not sure what side of the bed some of you rolled out of, but dang! OP's post is inspiring and encouraging- not some insulting or discriminating thing. Gahhh...
I talked about stretch marks and I personally feel as though they ruined my body. Everyone feels differently about their "battle scars." I don't want the OP to think that I am angry or insulted bc I'm not. I'm proud of where I am today with my health and fitness. I'll never look like I did when I was 19, but I can still be toned and within a healthy weight range. I just think that it is important for future mothers to know that sometimes it's not easy to just "bounce" back.
It wasn't easy for me either.. not by any means. It took (still takes) a lot of gym time and changes... I didn't bounce back.. I worked to get back. I'll never look like I did at 19... I have hips now, my body and metabolism are different and yep- lots of stretch marks.. still don't think of that as ruined.
I hope that you can come to terms with your stretch marks and body- it's not ruined.. just different.
I am getting better with it. I guess one way to look at it is that no one will ever have their 19-year-old body forever. Plus, as we get older it becomes more about working out for health and less for vanity. And, I love my son more than anything. In the long run they were worth it.
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I'm here to tell you that it doesn't ruin your body and you will bounce back quickly.
I think this line right here is what people are frustrated with. IMO, it sounds like a line from an infomercial. And it is very much so a blanket statement. You are saying "this is what WILL happen"...not "this is something within the realm of possibility."
You had no intent to harm -- it's all in the phrasing.0 -
Had the kid.. gained 80+ lbs while pregnant... worked my A%^ off (quite literally too) to get to where I am now.
I have stretch marks- LOTS of them. I still have some work to do/am not quite as tight/firm as I'd like to be... do I think my body is ruined because of some flub or stretch marks? HELL no.
I'm not sure what side of the bed some of you rolled out of, but dang! OP's post is inspiring and encouraging- not some insulting or discriminating thing. Gahhh...
I talked about stretch marks and I personally feel as though they ruined my body. Everyone feels differently about their "battle scars." I don't want the OP to think that I am angry or insulted bc I'm not. I'm proud of where I am today with my health and fitness. I'll never look like I did when I was 19, but I can still be toned and within a healthy weight range. I just think that it is important for future mothers to know that sometimes it's not easy to just "bounce" back.
It wasn't easy for me either.. not by any means. It took (still takes) a lot of gym time and changes... I didn't bounce back.. I worked to get back. I'll never look like I did at 19... I have hips now, my body and metabolism are different and yep- lots of stretch marks.. still don't think of that as ruined.
I hope that you can come to terms with your stretch marks and body- it's not ruined.. just different.
I am getting better with it. I guess one way to look at it is that no one will ever have their 19-year-old body forever. Plus, as we get older it becomes more about working out for health and less for vanity. And, I love my son more than anything. In the long run they were worth it.
Yes ma'am! I see a ton of chicks who hit 24 or 25 and hit that first metabolic slump and gain 30 lbs with no idea why :-) At least we got AWESOME little lovies out of it! haha
ETA: I love my body more now than I ever did before pregnancy and getting fat(ty). I EARNED this body with a whole lot of work and sweat. I'm enjoying molding it and working to change it... and I appreciate it that much more.0 -
LOL what the hell are *kitten* grapes?
you do not want to know.
But we DO want to know!0 -
LOL what the hell are *kitten* grapes?
you do not want to know.
But we DO want to know!
Most likely she's referring to very inflamed hemorrhoids.0 -
Yes ma'am! I see a ton of chicks who hit 24 or 25 and hit that first metabolic slump and gain 30 lbs with no idea why :-) At least we got AWESOME little lovies out of it! haha
This "metabolic slump" at 24/25 doesn't exist. Age 25 is the age at which the body is most responsive to change (i.e. metabolism is at its peak). Also, people don't gain 30 lbs for no reason. Regardless of age, no one is putting on 30 lbs in the blink of an eye without some major lifestyle change(s). Metabolism is a mystery to some people, I guess. That or some people need to find a way to justify their weight gain due to pregnancy. Smh.0 -
by "let yourself go", believe it or not i didn't mean 'end up looking like anything other than me'. hahaha. you guys are too funny. I am referring to the women who dont even try. the women who are self described as being "fat", who complain about being overweight/out of shape, the women who HATE their body and yet eat donuts, drink milkshakes, and sit on their *kitten* because they're moms and that what moms do. i have a relative who was pregnant at the same time as i was. we started off the same. same height, same weight. she gained three times as much weight as i did during pregnancy. she said how she was going to 'enjoy' her pregnancy and eat whatever she wanted. i didn't do this. after delivery, she took it easy and still does. i didn't do this. she says things like, "i'd rather have my child and hate my body than love my body and not have my child". i say you can have both: a body you can be proud of AND children. it's not one or the other.
and yes, i realize that individual results may vary. as long as you do the best you can, that's all that matters.
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The OP pics are hope and all the other comments are scaring the he** out of me. I'm terrified of doing all this work. Losing over 100 lbs, finally have a decent body for once in my life and then ... mangle it with a pregnancy. this is seriously unfair.
Don't be scared. When you decided to become a mom you won't care what pregnancy will do to your body all you will care about is that little kid that you somehow made and will spend the rest of your life trying to protect.
that's quite the generalization. of course you'll care what kind of body you'll end up with. or at least you should care. you only get one body, after all
:laugh: :laugh: Yes. Apparently we all have OP's body.
You should BE so lucky!0 -
It will treat every body differently. I didn't gain any stretch marks from mine but my sister-in-law got some massive tiger striping. My breasts haven't sagged but her pancaked. I'm glad your pregnancy didn't change your body too much but it will vary greatly from person to person.
i'm sure another person given my same situation would think they didn't fare all that well. the hyperemesis during pregnancy, needing back surgery, the hair loss, the now deflated boobies... definitely didn't make for an ideal pregnancy and post baby body. HOWEVER, i dont focus on these things. yes, genetics made it so i dont have loose skin. genetics also helped me not get any stretch marks. but genetics didn't keep my ab muscles from being stretched apart. i had to work my butt off to get them back to where they used to be. genetics also didn't help me lose weight either (i'm now 17 lbs under where i was prepregnancy). In fact, all the women in my family are overweight. I dont dwell on the negative and instead i focus on the positive... most of which was given from me to me. not courtesy of genetics.
OP, I think, and correct me if I am wrong, your intent was to say we have to work to get our bodies back after pregnancy, but that it can be done. In that regard I totally agree. I have lost all but 2 lbs of my pregnancy weight, and I never used pregnancy as an excuse to keep the weight on. Good for you for taking control of your health.
Please understand, though, for me it initially felt like a judgement on me because I just don't look that good in the belly area any more. It's hard to feel comfortable at the beach, having to hide my loose skin, and I am finally at a place in my life where I am gaining some comfort with my imperfections, and part of where that comes from is feeeling like I am part of a "sisterhood" with other mothers...that we all have these little imperfections and scars to deal with, and so we forgive them in eachother and see eachother's beauty.
Your intitial post, and your subsequent comments about people in your family who are not as slim, teach me that there are people in this world who do still judge me based on my appearance, and cannot forgive my imperfections, because they may interpret them as character flaws. That is why it made me, and possibly others, defensive. I hope I have misinterpreted.
I don't think our bodies are "ruined" - even those of us who have belly flaps and shredded stomachs, and boobs worthy of nicknaming :flowerforyou: Sorry if you are getting a bit roasted, that's how we roll in the MFP. Peace.
it wasn't a judgement on you because i dont know you! and i dont judge people on appearance at all. do others? most definitely. can i point them out? sorry, i can't (unless they point themselves out anyway). my take is that we should all be continually working on ourselves, always striving to be better. becoming a mom isn't 'game over'. The fact of the matter is, we are all being judged all the time. I get told that i dont look like 'a real mom' and friends have admitted to me that they refuse to do certain activities with me such as go to the beach. it's all just a heap of bull**** and i wish everyone in this world could stop assuming that everything everyone else does is somehow an attack. let's just breathe, relax, and take everything for what it is worth. i'm honestly failing to see how so many people are working themselves up over this. i see no drama anywhere (except by the one woman who said i prioritize my body over my daughter. what a nutcase, am i right? lol) and no reason for people to get upset.
Agreed, let's relax. You look like a Mom and so do I :smokin:
Oh, and...am I jealous? Hell ya! :devil:0 -
Yes ma'am! I see a ton of chicks who hit 24 or 25 and hit that first metabolic slump and gain 30 lbs with no idea why :-) At least we got AWESOME little lovies out of it! haha
This "metabolic slump" at 24/25 doesn't exist. Age 25 is the age at which the body is most responsive to change (i.e. metabolism is at its peak). Also, people don't gain 30 lbs for no reason. Regardless of age, no one is putting on 30 lbs in the blink of an eye without some major lifestyle change(s). Metabolism is a mystery to some people, I guess. That or some people need to find a way to justify their weight gain due to pregnancy. Smh.
The metabolic "slump" is a result of moving into the career field and becoming less active- moving into a "big girl" life, having excess income from said progression- basically a slew of environmental factors, less physical activity, and eating above energy requirements.
Metabolism isn't a mystery to me. When I say "with no idea why" I refer to the gen pop who really don't understand anything about it and have never been careful about what they eat/fitness etc.
I don't need to justify my weight gain during my pregnancy. I sure as hell don't need to justify it to you. But- I overate and I was not active. And I'd love to see quality research results that prove that metabolism is most active at 25... or even more active at 25 than say.. 19.
By the way- working on a second nutrition degree (this one in dietetics), have a bio minor and am working on NASM coursework. I know more about metabolism than anyone would even WANT to know.
The whole point of that post was to support and encourage another user. But if you want to be that way- I will gladly argue nutrition and metabolism with you. Promise I'll win.0 -
The metabolic "slump" is a result of moving into the career field and becoming less active- moving into a "big girl" life, having excess income from said progression- basically a slew of environmental factors, less physical activity, and eating above energy requirements.
Metabolism isn't a mystery to me. When I say "with no idea why" I refer to the gen pop who really don't understand anything about it and have never been careful about what they eat/fitness etc.
I don't need to justify my weight gain during my pregnancy. I sure as hell don't need to justify it to you. But- I overate and I was not active. And I'd love to see quality research results that prove that metabolism is most active at 25... or even more active at 25 than say.. 19.
By the way- working on a second nutrition degree (this one in dietetics), have a bio minor and am working on NASM coursework. I know more about metabolism than anyone would even WANT to know.
The whole point of that post was to support and encourage another user. But if you want to be that way- I will gladly argue nutrition and metabolism with you. Promise I'll win.
This is why you're on my friend list.
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Yes ma'am! I see a ton of chicks who hit 24 or 25 and hit that first metabolic slump and gain 30 lbs with no idea why :-) At least we got AWESOME little lovies out of it! haha
This "metabolic slump" at 24/25 doesn't exist. Age 25 is the age at which the body is most responsive to change (i.e. metabolism is at its peak). Also, people don't gain 30 lbs for no reason. Regardless of age, no one is putting on 30 lbs in the blink of an eye without some major lifestyle change(s). Metabolism is a mystery to some people, I guess. That or some people need to find a way to justify their weight gain due to pregnancy. Smh.
The metabolic "slump" is a result of moving into the career field and becoming less active- moving into a "big girl" life, having excess income from said progression- basically a slew of environmental factors, less physical activity, and eating above energy requirements.
Metabolism isn't a mystery to me. When I say "with no idea why" I refer to the gen pop who really don't understand anything about it and have never been careful about what they eat/fitness etc.
I don't need to justify my weight gain during my pregnancy. I sure as hell don't need to justify it to you. But- I overate and I was not active. And I'd love to see quality research results that prove that metabolism is most active at 25... or even more active at 25 than say.. 19.
By the way- working on a second nutrition degree (this one in dietetics), have a bio minor and am working on NASM coursework. I know more about metabolism than anyone would even WANT to know.
The whole point of that post was to support and encourage another user. But if you want to be that way- I will gladly argue nutrition and metabolism with you. Promise I'll win.
LMFAO!! Woot woot!!! *Standing O*0 -
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Eh, never mind. Carry on.0
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No, but it does ruin your vag....0
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