Is this the worst that can happen to me?
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OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
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OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.0 -
I understand what you are saying OP and I agree. Sometimes we zone in so much and focus so intently on the little things we forget to count our blessings as well and put it into perspective.
Exactly! Thank you for understand. I've had my share of trauma in my life, and have been struggling with some serious issues with my family: I have a brother who nearly died of alcoholism and is currently in jail, another who is a recovering heroin addict, elderly parents who are very ill, a husband who has been unemployed since April 2011 (he finally got a real job and starts on Monday), a daughter with some serious issues, a son who has made some really bad choices but thankfully has begun to pull out of them, etc. For me, losing the last 10 lbs is really at the bottom of my list. I'm making it happen, but I am not going to sweat it if it doesn't happen this very moment. Priorities.
For me, my weight is serious. However if I dwell on the fact that I am so overweight and over think the situation I end up feeling like I am worthless, my life is useless, and I have no purpose. I think it's very motivating to have a reminder that I should count my blessings and it keeps me going.
I like this, because it emphasizes the point that we are MUCH more than the numbers on a scale or the amount of food we consume. You get it, and I totally admire your honest answer here. Thank you!0 -
For me, my weight is serious. However if I dwell on the fact that I am so overweight and over think the situation I end up feeling like I am worthless, my life is useless, and I have no purpose. I think it's very motivating to have a reminder that I should count my blessings and it keeps me going.
This, exactly. I don't understand why people are taking such personal offense to this topic. The point was to make you realize that YOU, ME, ALL OF US are still worthy and your life is still wonderful even if you gained a pound or overate.
And this is VERY helpful for me, as I can go into sad sack mode and feel sorry for myself and worthless. I sure have the right to FEEL those feelings, but it doesn't mean I can't try and replace them with a more positive thought instead.0 -
Let me put it this way for the OP.
Lot`s of people have crazy *kitten* going on in their lives with family and friends.
MFP gives those people a place where they are concentrating on themselves for a time.
they can moan, feel good, complain, share success.
there is a place and time to think about their weight loss/lack of/athletic ability/lack of
We all need to put other personal stuff on the back burner sometimes and share/vent our diet/weight/fitness on a website that helps us to meet like minded people0 -
OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.
And yet you you choose to continue to post instead of moving on.0 -
For me, my weight is serious. However if I dwell on the fact that I am so overweight and over think the situation I end up feeling like I am worthless, my life is useless, and I have no purpose. I think it's very motivating to have a reminder that I should count my blessings and it keeps me going.
This, exactly. I don't understand why people are taking such personal offense to this topic. The point was to make you realize that YOU, ME, ALL OF US are still worthy and your life is still wonderful even if you gained a pound or overate.
And this is VERY helpful for me, as I can go into sad sack mode and feel sorry for myself and worthless. I sure have the right to FEEL those feelings, but it doesn't mean I can't try and replace them with a more positive thought instead.
I think your profile pic is GORGEOUS.0 -
OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.
And yet you you choose to continue to post instead of moving on.
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?0 -
Let me put it this way for the OP.
Lot`s of people have crazy *kitten* going on in their lives with family and friends.
MFP gives those people a place where they are concentrating on themselves for a time.
they can moan, feel good, complain, share success.
there is a place and time to think about their weight loss/lack of/athletic ability/lack of
We all need to put other personal stuff on the back burner sometimes and share/vent our diet/weight/fitness on a website that helps us to meet like minded people
No one is telling you to stop feeling your feelings or stop posting about it. She is just saying that you should not let it bring you down in such a way that takes over your life or devastates you as you are more than a number on the scale.
At least, that's how I interpreted it.0 -
Thanks for this, it's always good to remember that life is actually pretty good and inhaling that pile of cake will not bring about the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse! 0
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I'd rather worry about eating over my calorie budget than how the hells I'm going to pay all the bills this month. It prevents my sanity going apes**t.0
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OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.
And yet you you choose to continue to post instead of moving on.
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?
You spelled "whine" wrong. You must not be from around here. 0 -
I've seen a lot of posts that are written in panic mode: I ate 300 more calories than I should! I've worked out all week long and haven't lost a pound! My fingers feel fat! WHAT DO I DO?
Folks, let's put some proper perspective about life back into the equation. NONE of the above situations are life threatening and critical.
I've led a very fortunate life free of major health problems. I'm not here to lose a lot of weight, I'm here to become healthier.
If you think about it, there are problems greater than calorie overages. For example, have you ever had to watch a child die from cancer? I have. Have you had to deal with a student whose father killed his mother, then turned the gun on himself? I have. Have you ever had to attend the funeral of a two-year old? I have.
Every time I'm faced with a plateau, or my progress seems to have stopped, or I go over my calories, or I am experiencing a lack of motivation, I ask myself: "Is this really the worst that can happen to me?" And the answer always is, NO.
Let's put some perspective back in our lives. For some people, being overweight is a life threatening situation. And I don't include them in this post. But, for those who worry about these things for vanity's sake, it's time to stop whining and start asking yourself: "Is this the worst that can happen to me?".
I bet the answer is also NO.
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Thanks for this, it's always good to remember that life is actually pretty good and inhaling that pile of cake will not bring about the 4 horsemen of the apocalypse!
Have you heard about the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse Hamburger? It's a true burger with four different peppers on it, including the ghost chili pepper. One must sign a liability waiver before they eat it. Some place in Texas serves it. (I'd rather eat the cake).0 -
You only have 10 pounds to lose.. which is nothing. For someone who has lost a greater amount of weight, a little slip up or gain is going to be a big deal to them and just because it's not to you, doesn't give you a right to invalidate their feelings.
I only gained back 5 pounds, and freaked out.. because there is no way in hell I am ever going to back to where I was. If I don't keep on top of it, then it's going to happen sooner then later.. and I'd rather have it not happen at all.0 -
Let me put it this way for the OP.
Lot`s of people have crazy *kitten* going on in their lives with family and friends.
MFP gives those people a place where they are concentrating on themselves for a time.
they can moan, feel good, complain, share success.
there is a place and time to think about their weight loss/lack of/athletic ability/lack of
We all need to put other personal stuff on the back burner sometimes and share/vent our diet/weight/fitness on a website that helps us to meet like minded people
I agree with this.
I get what you're saying OP, I do. I've had cancer so I know very clearly that there are many MANY worse things in the world than having a crappy eating day or missing the gym or seeing a number you don't want to or expect to on the scale.
But people whine. Even me. Sometimes I have a crappy day and sometimes, we just need to whine. I don't think most people post those types of things on the boards and say that it's the worst thing that could ever, ever happen to them. They're just b**ching.0 -
I'd rather worry about eating over my calorie budget than how the hells I'm going to pay all the bills this month. It prevents my sanity going apes**t.
Now that's a heck of a diversion! Go for it, but I do hope you get your bills paid. THAT is stressful -- and I know first hand what that is all about!0 -
I'm pretty new to this site, but this string has taught me something important. I have to be my own motivation and support and it's probably better not to post my frustrations on this board when I hit a speed bump regardless of how big or small I determine it to be in my own mind. Thanks to everyone on both sides of the argument for pointing this out to me.0
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OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.
And yet you you choose to continue to post instead of moving on.
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?
You spelled "whine" wrong. You must not be from around here.
No. Not American.
I spelt the word whinge not whine.
I love how you have now resorted to correcting peoples spelling - bless you.0 -
OP I think you will find that `whinge` is not the same spelling as `whine`
I would not usually pick someone up on a spelling mistake, but as you seem to deem it necessary then I will give you this one FoC
`WHINGE`
Verb
Complain persistently and in a peevish or irritating way.
Noun
An act of complaining in such a way.
Synonyms
whine0 -
Everyone has the right to post about topics that matter to them. Obviously, the OP here is getting off on pointing out other people's spelling mistakes, rather than realizing that her perspective isn't the only valid one around here.
If you don't like reading about other people's 'minor' concerns, then don't read the thread. Why post a thread that mocks and demeans other people's questions? That's just stupid.
I suppose pulling out her "my life sucked worse than overeating 300 calories-card" wasn't enough of an ego stroke for her. I, for one, am simply going to put her on my ignore list and happily continue offering MOTIVATION AND SUPPORT to those who are looking for it.0 -
I'm pretty new to this site, but this string has taught me something important. I have to be my own motivation and support and it's probably better not to post my frustrations on this board when I hit a speed bump regardless of how big or small I determine it to be in my own mind. Thanks to everyone on both sides of the argument for pointing this out to me.
Yes. Agreed. Not everyone is an *kitten* though.
Just add a few people who have the same goals as you and post your concerns to them specifically. Or join some groups.
People can be very idiotic.0 -
OP, just because you have suffered some tragedies in your life (which I am sorry to read about) you can not alter the way other people feel about their problems.
We can all read peoples problems and successes on this website and get annoyed or feel so happy for the person.
But, it is a website with lots of different subjects that people are allowed to post /comment on.
If you feel that somebody has posted something and in the title you see that it is going to go against your feelings then ignore the post?
Maybe like some folks should have done here?
Nah we must politely point out that you talk rubbish.
And yet you you choose to continue to post instead of moving on.
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?
You spelled "whine" wrong. You must not be from around here.
It's not wrong. It's not 'whine' it's 'whinge' as you can see. That's what we say in the UK.
Try again.0 -
Let me put it this way for the OP.
Lot`s of people have crazy *kitten* going on in their lives with family and friends.
MFP gives those people a place where they are concentrating on themselves for a time.
they can moan, feel good, complain, share success.
there is a place and time to think about their weight loss/lack of/athletic ability/lack of
We all need to put other personal stuff on the back burner sometimes and share/vent our diet/weight/fitness on a website that helps us to meet like minded people
I agree with this.
I get what you're saying OP, I do. I've had cancer so I know very clearly that there are many MANY worse things in the world than having a crappy eating day or missing the gym or seeing a number you don't want to or expect to on the scale.
But people whine. Even me. Sometimes I have a crappy day and sometimes, we just need to whine. I don't think most people post those types of things on the boards and say that it's the worst thing that could ever, ever happen to them. They're just b**ching.
Yea ~ can't say I've read many (any?) that have whined MFP issues are "the worst that can happen". They're having a whine, it's human to do so. For some it's helpful to let off steam about the big *and* little things.0 -
OP I think you will find that `whinge` is not the same spelling as `whine`
I would not usually pick someone up on a spelling mistake, but as you seem to deem it necessary then I will give you this one FoC
`WHINGE`
Verb
Complain persistently and in a peevish or irritating way.
Noun
An act of complaining in such a way.
Synonyms
whine
Actually, I DO know what it meant, and apparently you didn't catch the subtle implication. It's a term used more often in the UK and Australia, and is a variation of the Americanized "Whine" (OR vice versa). and I actually like your version more than ours. So yeah, that was what the wink was for. Get it now?0 -
In...
...because I sincerely believe things will change now.0 -
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?
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You spelled "whine" wrong. You must not be from around here.
How did she misspell whine when she used the word whinge (which was spelled correctly)?0 -
I understand what you're saying, OP, and I don't disagree, but everyone's problems are real and large to them. We don't get to decide how things make other people feel. Something that would be minor to many people can be a massive obstacle to someone who doesn't have the same coping skills that we do.
When I read threads like that, I quietly roll my eyes, think that person is very lucky that their minor (to me) issue is the biggest thing they have to worry about, and either ignore the thread, or try to make them feel a little better.0 -
You only have 10 pounds to lose.. which is nothing. For someone who has lost a greater amount of weight, a little slip up or gain is going to be a big deal to them and just because it's not to you, doesn't give you a right to invalidate their feelings.
I only gained back 5 pounds, and freaked out.. because there is no way in hell I am ever going to back to where I was. If I don't keep on top of it, then it's going to happen sooner then later.. and I'd rather have it not happen at all.
I get this too. But, ONE day of indulgence does not negate a month or more of diligence.0 -
Yeah inbetween typing up my own thread about people who have to write threads about people who have to whinge about overating by 300calories and who should be grateful that they don't have anything more serious in their lives like the OP
Hope you managed to keep up with that?
You spelled "whine" wrong. You must not be from around here.
How did she misspell whine when she used the word whinge (which was spelled correctly)?
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Well, apparently it was a joke.....which no one got....because it wasn't and she's just back tracking now.0
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