HELP! Should I date three more??

1ConcreteGirl

OK, mfpeeps. I have issues. I broke up with my boyfriend Simon a few months ago because one of his friends (Chris) told me Simon might be cheating. I couldn't prove it, but of course I broke up with Simon because it isn't worth it to me to stay in a relationship where I can't trust someone. :ohwell:

After a few weeks, Chris and I randomly started dating, so now me and him are together and have been for two months. It's great because I know I can trust him. My ex never checked up on me, but Chris is interested in who I was talking to on the phone or who is PMing me here or he just calls me to see where I am and what I'm doing at different points during the day. Sometimes he gets jealous of other guys flirting with me. He really cares and it's adorable.

The problem is that even though we have been together two whole months, he has to move for his job and wants me to go with him. He wants to get married. I'm 26 and my biological clock is ticking, so I'm not totally against it. Add to that the fact that my ex is calling me lately saying he wants to work things out so obviously I really need to get out of the San Diego area.

But I'm a really scientific person. That's why I tend to do badly in relationships. Anyway, studies show that you should date 12 people before you choose one to settle down with, and I've only dated 9. :noway: (I found that in Wired magazine, they are just great). I can't ask my family and friends because they are biased and really liked my ex and don't like Chris, but I need input. What do I do? Do I risk not dating three more people? What if I miss my soul mate? And what if Chris is the best man I'll ever know and I let him go? :sad: :sad:

I know the forums get snarky sometimes and I do have a sense of humor and inteligence, but I'm actually looking for real advice here, not rudeness. After all, we're all here for the same reasons. :flowerforyou:

danasings

You're pretty.

Desterknee

Just have a MMMF fourway.

_noob_

so technically you're not with anyone totally serious right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

firstsip

I've found cauliflower really helps my dating prospects! Try that! Good luck on your journey!

_crafty_

so technically you're not with anyone right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

^This. Dating is such a hassle. Just bang 3 dudes and move on to the next step.

1ConcreteGirl

so technically you're not with anyone right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

This is just rude.

I am with Christ.

1ConcreteGirl

I mean Chris.

SoViLicious

I am single and will be in your area next week. I will totally help you out with this problem.

_SusieQ_

After all, we're all here for the same reasons.

Funny gifs?

iAMsmiling

In for the cauliflower and gifs.

_SusieQ_

so technically you're not with anyone right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

^This. Dating is such a hassle. Just bang 3 dudes and move on to the next step.

Does it have to be dudes?

redheadedgal

You have GOT to be kidding. If not, you're since of what a good relationship is is totally warped. Good luck honey, you need it.

HotCuppaJo

so technically you're not with anyone right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

This is just rude.

I am with Christ.

Then date him the next three times he's resurrected. BOOM! You're in like Flynn.

1ConcreteGirl

You have GOT to be kidding. If not, you're since of what a good relationship is is totally warped. Good luck honey, you need it.

I admitted I am bad at relationships. This is not very supportive.

musycnlyrics

Well, I met my husband while I was in high school. I was 14. He was the 2nd boyfriend I had.

2 weeks after we met, he told me he was going to marry me. We were best friends and we genuinely felt drawn together.

We broke up and got back together when I was 17. We have been together ever since. It has been 11 years and we have never been happier.

I can see the advantage of dating around to get an idea of who you want to be with forever, but sometimes, (just sometimes) love steps in and makes the decision for you.
If I had chosen to "date around" I would have missed my soul mate and probably would have missed out on this incredible love that we share.

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_crafty_

so technically you're not with anyone right now?

Why not go have some fun, hook up with 3 randoms, meet your quota and go from there. You might accidentally find what you're looking for while you're having fun.

^This. Dating is such a hassle. Just bang 3 dudes and move on to the next step.

Does it have to be dudes?

Heck no. I'm next in line.

BeachGingerOnTheRocks

Chris is an insane liar who lied to you about Simon cheating. He did this so he could have you to himself, and now he wants to trap you forever. Run back to Simon, but do it slowly. Stop for 3 guys on the way.

I wish you nothing but success on your journey.

MidwestAngel

10/10 Would bang.

tonybalony01

Move to New York and start over.

ChristyRunStarr

12??? 12??? I thought the magic number was 42!!!!!!!!!

No, it's 13. even numbers are bad

stumblinthrulife

Relationships have too many carbs, and cause you to bloat. Carve a partner out of cauliflower - just like the real thing with none of the bloating!

1ConcreteGirl

Well, I met my husband while I was in high school. I was 14. He was the 2nd boyfriend I had.

2 weeks after we met, he told me he was going to marry me. We were best friends and we genuinely felt drawn together.

We broke up and got back together when I was 17. We have been together ever since. It has been 11 years and we have never been happier.

I can see the advantage of dating around to get an idea of who you want to be with forever, but sometimes, (just sometimes) love steps in and makes the decision for you.
If I had chosen to "date around" I would have missed my soul mate and probably would have missed out on this incredible love that we share.

Wow, this is a beautiful story :flowerforyou:

Do you really know he was your soul mate though? That's my worry.:ohwell:

BlackStarDeceiver

onedayatatime12

This is just my two cents, but I wouldn't believe a magazine so much. I mean, instead of dating three more men, who you may/may not like more than your current boyfriend, why would you not evaluate where you see yourself with him in the next few years? Do you really think you could see yourself having a family with him? Would he be able to support you through all walks of life, can he be your closest friend, can you trust him with all your heart? Sometimes, I know this is cheesy, it's not about the numbers, it's really about that feeling you get when you're with someone. If I were in your place, I'd reevaluate my position instead of jumping out on a limb (and thereby, in the process, risking your relationship with Chris- he seems to be really protective of you) and dating three more guys just because some magazine said it (and yes, I tend to think more with my brain than my heart like you ) Do what makes YOU happy, and what is good for you, not for anyone else (well except your future children duh xD).

Alex_is_Hawks

12??? 12??? I thought the magic number was 42!!!!!!!!!

thats the answer to EVERYTHING....

maybe 42 is the number of inches those 12 should stack up to....which means...well...someone is taking a hit...

hopefully there will be girth.

scnurse38

This is my advice.. Allthough rare some marriage do work out even after a short courtship. But what you need to ask yourself is this.. is this the man I can live with, or the man I cant live without? If your answer is the second, then yes.. move, you dont' need to follow "the rules" and date 3 more!! A spouse should be that man you can't imagine not being with for the rest of your life!! Also, if your a praying person, turn it over to the Lord.. He won't lead you wrong!! Good luck!

_noob_

If your family doesn't like chris there's no way that's working longterm. Unfortunately our families' opinion is more important than it should be and who can really live (for better or worse) with an unsupportive family for all those years if you two were to be married.

Ivian_

Does the rule of 3 apply here? Or is it really only 12? :frown:

JaneDough_

This is intense but you know what else is more intense?

Female arm wrestling