Is it ok for a woman..........

I'm going to give my opinion as a woman. I have been married for 25 years and am very happy. I have lots of male friends that I do occasionally talk to on the phone and exchange texts with. I never run and hide when the phone rings and I my phone is always available for my husband to go through if he wants. My husband also has female friends that he talks with too. Its about trust, being open and honest with your communication with others. If you don't have those things then you don't have a good foundation in the first place. I find communication with others to be a part of life but, I find you need to keep that communication appropriate too. I think you two need to start with improving yours and being more open and honest with your feelings about each other as well as others. It makes a huge difference in your relationship when you are both on the same page. Good luck!

If she is talking to them infront of your face and nothing is being done behind your back then sure. My mom talks on the phone infront of my dad with her male friends. She doesn't hide or answer the phone in another room, or hang up when he enters the room. The conversations are innocent.

If here are no secret rendezvous, then sure. She trust that you are with the guys when she leaves, trust that she is being respectful.
Maybe she needs friends to pass the time.

Just make sure you give her lots of love, attention and affection and remind her who is "Hsband".

This sounds very wrong to me, and I can say this from experience. If you don't do something about it now, your relationship is likely going to take a turn for the worst, very soon!

You obviously have a problem with it I think most people would. While I am a talkative person and wouldn't mean anything doing that myself, I don't out of respect for my husband. Marriage isn't the same for everyone, and while that might be okay for one couple she needs to know it's not ok with you and that's part of marriage, comprising for the other person sometimes.

where is this part 2 you speak of? I hope it answers some of the questions that people have been asking you and you've ignored..

I don't see why it wouldn't be okay. I mean, if she was fooling around with this guy, don't you think she'd try to be more secretive about it?

You let her use the phone?

Ladies and Gentlemen, if it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck, then what is it?

A bunny?

No! It's a chicken!

Drop Dungeons and Dragons and take her out on a date

Thats not ok.... A little while after my now fiance and I were dating his ex would call ALL the time and he would talk to her for a while.... not in front of me though. I told him that it really bothered me and he quit talking to her on the phone all the time. Once and a great while she will FB him but the phone calls have long been stopped! Regardless if it is an ex or not she really shouldnt be doing that... thats not cool, especially if she's married!

If you suspect something.... it is probably far worse then you could ever imagine. I know from my own experience. If it hadn't actually happened to me, I would have thought it was a staged thing on Jerry Springer.

Something on the side no doubt. Confront her.

I dont know what she means when she says whatever, She states I let you go to the VFW club because you like it, I let you leave every other weekend to play D and D with the guys and she says since she is being supportive of those things I should nt have a problem with who she talks to on the phone because she is a home body and that it should be ok whomever she talks to on the phone.

Maybe because you leave every other weekend, she is looking for attention elsewhere. Just a thought...

Maybe you need to find out what she is she is getting from talking with this other guy? Everyone needs their friends, but if there is an emotional need that is not being fulfilled within the marriage, then you need to find out what it is and be the one who listens and is there for her. It could be completely harmless but make a good friend of him but also pay more attention to your wife.

You already got a ton of replies and I don't have time to read them all so I will just tell you my experience.....
I was (yes WAS) married and found an old friend on facebook we had been good friends for 14 years talked on the phone and texted each other ended up falling head over heals with him AGAIN and now I am in the middle of a messy divorce..... Be careful!!!
Although the divorce was long overdue and (we had been having major problems for about 3 years prior) he knew it was coming before I started talking to this other guy it was this other guy who made me realize I didn't deserve what he was putting me through.

At the same time I had and have Several male friends I would talk to about anything and everything but they are just that... Friends. So it's a gut thing do you really think there is something more going on?