Divorced Women keeping the "ex" last name
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I have children so until I got remarried id keep the same name. bottom line.0
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if i ever get divorced after having his last name longer than i had my maiden name heck yeah i'm going to keep it. it's not about a new guy or disrespecting the new woman. It's about my kids and my personal beliefs.0
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Here's one for you:
A friend of mine got married and then divorced. Kept her exes last name then got re-married not too long ago and the new husband took her exes last name. Yup you read that right!! I thought thats a new one for the books!0 -
I changed my back to my original last name because I didn't want to be associated with my ex.0
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Funny this came up...I've been debating this in my head lately. When I got divorced, it was actually my ex's idea to keep his last name to share with our sons.
He has since remarried. I have not, and I can't foresee me doing so...ever.
But I have been thinking about my future possible headstone over my grave. Do I want it to be his name, or do I want it to be mine?
My children are old enough that I asked their opinion. They don't care.
So I think I'm going to go back to my maiden name. I want MY name back, and I think it will be worth the hassle.
As for my children, I have decided that this will not disassociate me from them, because they are half my maiden name too. We still share that. It's just that his half is "visible" to society.
In the end, I think it's a very personal choice, and there is no "right" or "wrong".0 -
But I have been thinking about my future possible headstone over my grave. Do I want it to be his name, or do I want it to be mine?
In the end, I think it's a very personal choice, and there is no "right" or "wrong".
You brought up something that I thought about a while back. My headstone over my grave. I don't know that I necessarily want it "set in stone" (literally) with my ex-husband's name, but then it may hurt my children's feelings if I leave it off. And after all, they're the ones who will likely see my grave (if they get up to visit it very often), and I'd hate to leave a hurt behind for them. I'll have to think about this aspect a bit more. I'll be dead after all; the gravesite is left for the living.0 -
It is so much freaking trouble to change your name.
This is probably why I'd keep the last name. But for me, it'd have to depend on the situation, how it ended, who did what etc. If he was nasty or was horrible, I'd probably want to change it. If it was a civil divorce, I'd probably keep it.
However, I am very proud of my last name and am saddened about changing it if I'm ever married.0 -
I didn't read all the replies, but my two cents.
It's not "his" last name. It's also "hers", now. For whatever reason a woman should so choose, she can "keep" it. Not disrespectful (to anyone), and doesn't matter why.0 -
I liked my maiden name better so I changed it right after I discussed it with my (teenage) daughers to make sure it did not offend them. They asked if they could change theirs also haha... This is so personal and individual that it shouldn't be anybody elses decision or in their control!0
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No children involved, still pretty early in my career so I'm going back to my maiden name. Don't care to be associated with that name. I don't mind the paperwork to change it, it's worth it for me.0
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I didn't read all the replies, but my two cents.
It's not "his" last name. It's also "hers", now. For whatever reason a woman should so choose, she can "keep" it. Not disrespectful (to anyone), and doesn't matter why.
well said!0 -
Kept his last name. It was an easy decision for me.
My inherent love for the children we had together greatly out trumped my feelings for him.0 -
To says its to difficult to change your last name is just an excuse. When I was married i changed my last name, faxed in my marriage certificate to my credit cards company, car company and so on.. Process took about 2 weeks to get new name at social security office which I admit is a pain in the butt to wait there..
When I got divorced, did the same process
^^^This, I hope my soon to be ex is a rational as you!0 -
Surely it is about the person and not their name? If I ever end up in a relationship again it will be because I am attracted to the person and her personality, outlook on life and so on, her name won't have any thing to do with it.
I may have to rethink this though if I ever meet a woman called Hellova Sweatybuttcrack.0 -
I just want to talk about the OTHER side of crazy here for a second. My hubby's ex wife just finished up with her third divorce. When they first split, she kept her married name. She met a guy, got married (2nd husband), and changed from her married name to her "new" married name. Then they divorced. She changed her name BACK, not to her maiden name, but to her first husbands name. Then she meets a new guy. Same thing. They get married. She changes her name to her "new" hubby's name (3rd husband). Well guess what. They got divorced, and she is in the process of changing her name back to her first husbands name (my hubby's name).
Is it just me because i'm in the situation, or is this a little much?0 -
To says its to difficult to change your last name is just an excuse. When I was married i changed my last name, faxed in my marriage certificate to my credit cards company, car company and so on.. Process took about 2 weeks to get new name at social security office which I admit is a pain in the butt to wait there..
When I got divorced, did the same process
^^^This, I hope my soon to be ex is a rational as you!
Apparently this person doesn't have a driver's license.0 -
I just want to talk about the OTHER side of crazy here for a second. My hubby's ex wife just finished up with her third divorce. When they first split, she kept her married name. She met a guy, got married (2nd husband), and changed from her married name to her "new" married name. Then they divorced. She changed her name BACK, not to her maiden name, but to her first husbands name. Then she meets a new guy. Same thing. They get married. She changes her name to her "new" hubby's name (3rd husband). Well guess what. They got divorced, and she is in the process of changing her name back to her first husbands name (my hubby's name).
Is it just me because i'm in the situation, or is this a little much?0 -
I just want to talk about the OTHER side of crazy here for a second. My hubby's ex wife just finished up with her third divorce. When they first split, she kept her married name. She met a guy, got married (2nd husband), and changed from her married name to her "new" married name. Then they divorced. She changed her name BACK, not to her maiden name, but to her first husbands name. Then she meets a new guy. Same thing. They get married. She changes her name to her "new" hubby's name (3rd husband). Well guess what. They got divorced, and she is in the process of changing her name back to her first husbands name (my hubby's name).
Is it just me because i'm in the situation, or is this a little much?0 -
I am lazy - it's far less difficult to keep the name (and if any of my married friends had honestly told me what a PITA it was to change names, I never would have when I got married :P).
However, my ex decided to become a creepy stalker, and so I decided to revert back to my old name to alleviate some of the times he was calling around (Doctors office, Dog's Kennel, etc) saying his last name, and asking if his "wife" had made an upcoming appointment. Ick.0 -
I am lazy - it's far less difficult to keep the name (and if any of my married friends had honestly told me what a PITA it was to change names, I never would have when I got married :P).
However, my ex decided to become a creepy stalker, and so I decided to revert back to my old name to alleviate some of the times he was calling around (Doctors office, Dog's Kennel, etc) saying his last name, and asking if his "wife" had made an upcoming appointment. Ick.0
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