Need to Vent!!! I THINK I LOVE MY HUSBAND
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I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know. I get it's important to a relationship and it apparently feels good but jesus...
also look the people complaining about their SO not putting out for sex..thats so disgusting I can't stand it. I would NEVER complain about my boyfriend or parents to random people. especially not on a public forum. it's unbelieveably disrespectful. Unless they're actually abusing you and it's a cry for help then stop.
Once you are no longer a virgin, and you are with someone you care about, you will understand. And then look back at this comment and then laugh at yourself.
It's not good posting on a topic you have no experience with.0 -
Does he have any fantasies you could try and make happen? Like a place or situation? Just a thought.
I like role playing though.0 -
TESTOSTERONE!!! Have him get it checked. Both total, and "free" levels. I was your hubby just three months ago. Since I started therapy it has gone form 2-4 times a month (just because I felt obligated), to 2-4 times every weekend, and a little in between. If your husband has no desire, its not because of you, its because of him. The HUGEST mistake a woman can make, is to make it all about her. No offense, but women tend to do that. Also remember that guys have fragile ego's. It's a delicate situation. My wife told me to make sure I thank my Doctor, for her (several times)..0
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Girl, if he doesn't pay attention to you, you need to start leaving the house all dressed up and looking good. Even if it's going out to the store, let other men compliment you and make you feel good. You can let him know about it when you get home. Start going out without him and make him wonder what you're up to. It might take some time, so yeah, maybe you'll need some of what the others suggested.... In fact, that might get him interested. Stop doing the things you do for him on an every day basis (whether it be cooking dinner or washing his clothes, etc.) and let him know if he's not gonna take care of your needs, you're not going to take care of his. In fact, (thank God my husband doesn't like sports) but I'd go stand in front of him with a pair of scissors, walk over to the TV cord, and threaten to make sure he won't have the choice to pick the tv over you anymore. You probably need to tell him what you told us, and tell him seriously. Let him know exactly how he's making you feel.
Did you seriously just suggest she make her husband jealous? Seriously. You seriously suggested that she go get attention from other men on purpose? You really think that's gonna fix something?0 -
Glad to know I am not the only one! I think it is because they have gained weight and their libido goes down. Just gotta keep at it. No good answer for this one.0
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What you have to do is say that it's cuddle time.
It's not actually cuddle time.
Then you shush him and tell him that it will all be over soon.
Nice, similar to what I do. Except the shush all over soon thing. lol0 -
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Anyone feel free to add me!
Yeah, I'll get right on that...0 -
I will honestly never understand what is so magical about sex to the point people just feel like they're about to DIE without it. maybe it's because I'm a virgin, I don't know.
Well look at that, you've asked and answered your own question. But you know... just because you can live without it doesn't mean that others should.
Stay a virgin as long as you can until you're married. Why? Sex is like pizza. Even when it's bad it's pretty good, and when it's good you want it all the time. Plus, if say for whatever reason you want to abstain, your downstairs starts heating up like an angry boxer. Then there is the energy drain. How many hours a week having, thinking about and recovering from and obsessing about the one your doing it with - its like a part time job. Oh yeah, then there are those where it actually is a part time job.0 -
Unzip his pants and go to town. I'm sure he's not going to push your mouth away from his...*mhmm..."you know"*. Sorry if it seems vulgar...But it's true. Just DO IT! Haha.
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Thank your husband for his service, but make it clear to him that life isn't over and the heavier he is, the harder everything is.0
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For Pete's sake, give the guy a break! Here you are demanding attention when your husband has a really nice bag of chips sitting there that need eating. I mean, they could be vinegar and salt flavored and then you'd stand no chance at all....
Sometimes Men just need their chip time.....sheesh!
But seriously, maybe he feels intimidated by your new found healthier ways? Also, if you are telling him he is overweight and eating junk, that's probably not very helpful....for your sex life.
I agree he could be intimidated. Us women sometimes forget that men have feelings too. They just hide them better.0 -
Girl, if he doesn't pay attention to you, you need to start leaving the house all dressed up and looking good. Even if it's going out to the store, let other men compliment you and make you feel good. You can let him know about it when you get home. Start going out without him and make him wonder what you're up to. It might take some time, so yeah, maybe you'll need some of what the others suggested.... In fact, that might get him interested. Stop doing the things you do for him on an every day basis (whether it be cooking dinner or washing his clothes, etc.) and let him know if he's not gonna take care of your needs, you're not going to take care of his. In fact, (thank God my husband doesn't like sports) but I'd go stand in front of him with a pair of scissors, walk over to the TV cord, and threaten to make sure he won't have the choice to pick the tv over you anymore. You probably need to tell him what you told us, and tell him seriously. Let him know exactly how he's making you feel.
Did you seriously just suggest she make her husband jealous? Seriously. You seriously suggested that she go get attention from other men on purpose? You really think that's gonna fix something?
Yeeeaaaa... That may have been the worst slew of advice ever. lol I see where you're coming from, but men need respect - just like women need adoration. This won't work. Believe me. Been there. Tried that. Got kicked to the curb. As well as called a sl** on my way from the doorstep to the curb. Not your best option. lol TRUST.0 -
Luckily my husband is not only a sweet man, he is a horny man. LOL He's always down for sex. Sometimes even when I'm not, but then he just convinces me lol ..
Only thing I could suggest is what is already known ... lingerie ... sneak attack... kinkiness...buy a wig and pretend to be someone completely different... But it sounds like you've already tried some of that...
Sorry! Good luck!0 -
Maybe he's been hanging around my wife0
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Im in the SAME situation with my man, (Marine).
I will tell you my view on my man, and maybe you can understand a little....
His diet is awful, fast food, food at work, etc. He works late, and rarely eats with us, he is a little biased because I have experimented with some crazy **** before, so I almost dont blame him.
He has really let himself go. But he's been randomly saying somethings about being more active (but not setting a goal) Sometimes he says something about "I hit some pushups" I guess trying to feel better. He's mentioned going running with me twice, but it never happens (he's never around/at work/sleeping) Oh, and I don't really run.
He's gotten to the age where youth is fading and nutritional deficiencies are setting in.... His testosterone levels are waning, because he doesn't get enough healthy meat and fat or exercise, he eats too much junk fats and oils and grains, if he even does eat. He had horrible bad bowl movements. He's been 95% dead in the bed for years now, and its really causing many **** storms in our relationship.
He's very self conscience and was jealous of the guys I worked out with at crossfit.
I really feel that a few weeks of nutritional therapy of paleo/primal type foods would change my man for the better, raising his testosterone, making him feel more like a man, and in return we both would be happy.....0 -
It is great that you are losing weight, but skinny doesn't equal sexy. Sexy can be anything from Katie Couric to Adelle. Women can be beautiful at any size.
Don't know what to say about your husband. A horny woman is a great turn on for me. Hope you two get together on this.0 -
Wow I don't get it. If my wife offers im there! I have heard that exercise really ups females sex drive my wife deffinately shows signs of that.
Maybe get a bit aggressive, Get naked turn off the telly and sit on his lap:).
I seriously don't understand though. Not once in 8 years of being married have I not wanted to when my wife is the one suggesting it.0 -
Girl, if he doesn't pay attention to you, you need to start leaving the house all dressed up and looking good. Even if it's going out to the store, let other men compliment you and make you feel good. You can let him know about it when you get home. Start going out without him and make him wonder what you're up to. It might take some time, so yeah, maybe you'll need some of what the others suggested.... In fact, that might get him interested. Stop doing the things you do for him on an every day basis (whether it be cooking dinner or washing his clothes, etc.) and let him know if he's not gonna take care of your needs, you're not going to take care of his. In fact, (thank God my husband doesn't like sports) but I'd go stand in front of him with a pair of scissors, walk over to the TV cord, and threaten to make sure he won't have the choice to pick the tv over you anymore. You probably need to tell him what you told us, and tell him seriously. Let him know exactly how he's making you feel.
I don't agree with that one bit. Making your spouse jealous on purpose is only asking for problems. If my husband were to do that to me, our marriage would probably end faster than it would if we just simply weren't having sex. Fixing one problem with another does nothing but create TWO problems. Just sayin'...0 -
I have the same problem. The 80 year old lady that sits next to me in choir said I need to get a boyfriend lol. She's got 3
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Girl, if he doesn't pay attention to you, you need to start leaving the house all dressed up and looking good. Even if it's going out to the store, let other men compliment you and make you feel good. You can let him know about it when you get home. Start going out without him and make him wonder what you're up to. It might take some time, so yeah, maybe you'll need some of what the others suggested.... In fact, that might get him interested. Stop doing the things you do for him on an every day basis (whether it be cooking dinner or washing his clothes, etc.) and let him know if he's not gonna take care of your needs, you're not going to take care of his. In fact, (thank God my husband doesn't like sports) but I'd go stand in front of him with a pair of scissors, walk over to the TV cord, and threaten to make sure he won't have the choice to pick the tv over you anymore. You probably need to tell him what you told us, and tell him seriously. Let him know exactly how he's making you feel.
Did you seriously just suggest she make her husband jealous? Seriously. You seriously suggested that she go get attention from other men on purpose? You really think that's gonna fix something?
Yeeeaaaa... That may have been the worst slew of advice ever. lol I see where you're coming from, but men need respect - just like women need adoration. This won't work. Believe me. Been there. Tried that. Got kicked to the curb. As well as called a sl** on my way from the doorstep to the curb. Not your best option. lol TRUST.
Yeah...my libido pretty much died after we had our last baby. I know my husband has been frustrated as all hell with me (it's slowly getting better the more active I am though. YAY) But seriously, if his method would have been to go get attention from other women on purpose, it would have killed it even further and my response probably would have been to tell him to go ahead and get it from other girls cause he's never getting it from me again! No not the way to fix something. I get hit on a lot when I'm out. Mostly by the crackhead at BP. I always take it as a compliment and kindly flash my wedding band, but I would never try to get hit on on purpose. I have way too much respect for my husband to do something like that.0 -
Wow I don't get it. If my wife offers im there! I have heard that exercise really ups females sex drive my wife deffinately shows signs of that.
Maybe get a bit aggressive, Get naked turn off the telly and sit on his lap:).
I seriously don't understand though. Not once in 8 years of being married have I not wanted to when my wife is the one suggesting it.
Agreed. There is def something going on in my opinion... Not just saying hes screwing someone else, but something emotional, psychological, something. Could be something even military related. Or something in the relationship itself.0 -
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I have a solution. It will take few steps though.
Starting from tomorrow, start adding a little bit of Viagra(Cialis would work as well) to his drinks, do it without his knowledge of course and keep doing that every day little by little higher the dose, at one point he will want to have a sex so badly, then you decline - you can say "I have a headache" or whatever bull**** sentence you woman's use in that kind of situation. Tomorrow of course you don't need to higher the dose since you find his "breaking point" and proceed having sex with him.0 -
Give him no attention. As soon as he feels like he isn't wanted anymore he'll be the one begging for it. Trust me.0
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Digging all the statements saying women should just force the issue and start unzipping his pants even if he doesn't want it.
If a guy does that to a girl there is another name for it...
Your husband is depressed, doesn't love himself, or doesn't love you. If he hasn't talked about leaving you, its probably a combination of the first two. Don't belittle your husband on the internet to strangers, it clearly shows you don't respect him.
To be honest, I would be a little embarrassed to admit to a group of strangers that my spouse wasn't interested in me.0 -
Give him no attention. As soon as he feels like he isn't wanted anymore he'll be the once begging for it. Trust me.
Agreed! I stopped trying, and now my hubby is the one doing the begging lol.0 -
Wow, WTF is going on with these husbands. I wouldn't turn my wife down if I was a coma...Geez. this is how affairs start.0
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Wow, WTF is going on with these husbands. I wouldn't turn my wife down if I was a coma...Geez. this is how affairs start.
bahaha!!!! best response EVER!!!0 -
hilarious...I love the coma comment! :laugh:Wow, WTF is going on with these husbands. I wouldn't turn my wife down if I was a coma...Geez. this is how affairs start.0
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