Married and heavy flirting good or bad

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  • delilah47
    delilah47 Posts: 1,658
    You put yourself in a position to be tempted at a weak moment. If you value what you have, don't do it.

    Edit: One problem with flirting online is; you, in your mind, imagine everything about the other person the perfect way YOU would have it. You get all wired up thinking this other person is perfect. That's when you are tempted to do something you will regret.
  • Bad. Just remember... "What's good for the goose is good for the gander"... You don't want it done to you, don't do it to them!
  • shamr0ck
    shamr0ck Posts: 296 Member
    Guess you need to define "heavy" flirting...
  • redlady82
    redlady82 Posts: 43 Member
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    Haha! The dude says, no way man!!
  • Rachelle_Ohh
    Rachelle_Ohh Posts: 146 Member
    If it's mutual between two spouses (tyou both approve of each other doing that), then fine.

    If your wife/husband doesn't approve or never agreed to that **** in the first place, then NO!

    Why flirt? Is it really THAT necessary?
  • colgosling
    colgosling Posts: 104 Member
    effing disgusting and disrespectful to your spouse



    This
  • urloved33
    urloved33 Posts: 3,323 Member
    bad, flirt with your spouse!
  • 12skipafew99100
    12skipafew99100 Posts: 1,669 Member
    The only flirting that should be done is with your spouse.
  • etajr
    etajr Posts: 49
    IF you take care of how it LOOKS, then you take care of how it IS.....if it looks bad - then it is bad....
  • Kitten2629
    Kitten2629 Posts: 1,358 Member
    depends on the realationship. Can you openly do it? Would you want your spouse behaving in the same manner? That is only a question you can answer for your own relationship.

    If you are hiding it though than it probably is not a good idea.
  • meka325
    meka325 Posts: 47
    Bad news.
  • kimad
    kimad Posts: 3,010 Member
    Does heavy flirting burn more calories than light flirting? Also, how should I record the calories I burn while flirting? Is it okay to eat those calories back?

    I'M SO CONFUSED!

    OMG funniest thing I read all day. This is the ongoing joke at work!
  • petiteLady89
    petiteLady89 Posts: 198 Member
    I don't even cross that line. No need to.
  • Christel36
    Christel36 Posts: 8 Member
    Absolutely not! Very bad idea :(
  • Effpcos
    Effpcos Posts: 350 Member
    If you place any value on your relationship or your own integrity then just don't. Full stop. Never ever ever.

    I get seriously creeped out by married men who flirt with me (married), even if it's only "in fun" it's still grosssss, :sick:
    Take that sleaze home to your own damn wife...:mad:
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    I know one of those guys and he just comes off as such a pig. I wonder what he does when he goes off on those frequent, long business trips that he takes. I wouldn't be married to a guy like that and I certainly wouldn't disrespect my husband like that either. Being friendly and polite to the opposite sex is fine. Flirting it up like you're single and looking for some action is just gross. :sick:
  • A good general rule is that if you wouldn't do it in front of your partner and have it be totally ok with them, then you shouldn't be doing it at all.
  • XXXMinnieXXX
    XXXMinnieXXX Posts: 3,459 Member
    I think just don't do anything you wouldn't be happy seeing your wife do. no double standards. its the double standards in a relationship that get to me! :-)
  • wow! hmmm, sounds like my marriage is headed for divorce! lol. my husband heavily flirts with and talks to other women all of the time. online, through email or fb messaging and god knows what else. I have seen his texts messages in his phone to other women, including an ex! calling them beautiful, sweetheart and other cute names. But he says he calls me honey because i am his wife. wow! he even had a pic sent to him from one of his online gaming "penpal" before we got married.
  • majikmiker
    majikmiker Posts: 291 Member
    My problem is that since I've lost weight (164 pounds), I don't even realize if someone is flirting with me. It doesn't even register in that part of my brain:huh: . I've always been the joke around funny big guy, so now if a woman were to flirt with me, I don't think I'd even notice it.

    example: A few months ago I went to starbucks and I was wearing shorts (which I do practically year-round) and the staff there all know me and were talking about how I was wearing shorts even though it was quite cold out. This one worker in particular was talking about how she notices I wear shorts alot, and then she drew little pictures of me wearing short in the rain, snow etc on my coffee cup. I didn't even notice until I got back to work, and all my co-workers were saying how she was flirting with me????? I had no clue.

    Needless to say I've framed the cup and it now hangs in my office!! :tongue:
  • joriha92
    joriha92 Posts: 22 Member
    That would depend on the relationship. with each other, go for it!
    If it's something you agreed is okay and just for fun, then sure, flirt away.
    But if you don't it's not necessarily a bad thing but talk about it.
  • AlayshaJ
    AlayshaJ Posts: 703 Member
    Mmmm mild flirting is OK with me. I have been known to leave my husband at a party when he is surrounded by females and do my own thing. It boggles my friends minds that I do that. I know he is committed/loves me, so I don't mind. I also don't think most women have anything on me. No one can treat my husband better and deal with his bullsh*t like I do and he knows and appreciates that. :P Haha So, mild flirting is okay. Any touching or talk of hanging out and implying I will not be around and beyond that, no. Exchange of phone numbers, okay. Daily texting and asking to hang out with out me, no.

    My husband doesn't like pretty much anyone anyways, so we don't have issues. He has weird respect issues when it comes to women, so he doesn't like most.
  • petiteLady89
    petiteLady89 Posts: 198 Member
    wow! hmmm, sounds like my marriage is headed for divorce! lol. my husband heavily flirts with and talks to other women all of the time. online, through email or fb messaging and god knows what else. I have seen his texts messages in his phone to other women, including an ex! calling them beautiful, sweetheart and other cute names. But he says he calls me honey because i am his wife. wow! he even had a pic sent to him from one of his online gaming "penpal" before we got married.

    This would not be okay with me at all.. Sorry you have to put up with it. Unless you just don't care. I only treat my husband they way I would want to be treated.
  • MissWana
    MissWana Posts: 11 Member
    If you don't mind your partner doing the same and they are fine with you flirting, why not? It can be flattering to know your partner is desired... However, if touching gets involved and it becomes emotional retreat, abort and abandon this behaviour.

    On a random note all my relationships besides that with my partner become platonic when I'm in love. I don't want to flirt because I have a great guy waiting for me at home. Just saying.
  • Katahna
    Katahna Posts: 326 Member
    Logic should have answered this before you asked the question.
  • MissWana
    MissWana Posts: 11 Member
    Mmmm mild flirting is OK with me. I have been known to leave my husband at a party when he is surrounded by females and do my own thing. It boggles my friends minds that I do that. I know he is committed/loves me, so I don't mind. I also don't think most women have anything on me. No one can treat my husband better and deal with his bullsh*t like I do and he knows and appreciates that. :P Haha So, mild flirting is okay. Any touching or talk of hanging out and implying I will not be around and beyond that, no. Exchange of phone numbers, okay. Daily texting and asking to hang out with out me, no.

    My husband doesn't like pretty much anyone anyways, so we don't have issues. He has weird respect issues when it comes to women, so he doesn't like most.

    Love it!
  • katheern
    katheern Posts: 213 Member
    As long as it is something that you have talked about with your significant other as being an okay thing then it's fine. It's not anyone else's business. However if this is being done behind their back and they know their SO would not be okay then it's definitely bordering emotional cheating which in my opinion is as bad as physical cheating.

    Personally, I am not okay with my SO heavily flirting,
  • miss_ally08
    miss_ally08 Posts: 167 Member
    Heavy flirting is a no-no.

    My husband is a Marine and he goes to trainings and stuff where they have liberty when they are away to "go out". Thankfully he calls and updates me what goes on (cause he chooses to, not because I make him!). Yeah he's a Marine so he'll drink with the guys and lightly flirt with women, but that's as far as it goes.

    We are very open and honest with each other. I know if he does mildly flirt with a woman, that's as far as it goes. Anything more than that to me is just immoral and all sorts of wrong!
  • katheern
    katheern Posts: 213 Member
    Mmmm mild flirting is OK with me. I have been known to leave my husband at a party when he is surrounded by females and do my own thing. It boggles my friends minds that I do that. I know he is committed/loves me, so I don't mind. I also don't think most women have anything on me. No one can treat my husband better and deal with his bullsh*t like I do and he knows and appreciates that. :P Haha So, mild flirting is okay. Any touching or talk of hanging out and implying I will not be around and beyond that, no. Exchange of phone numbers, okay. Daily texting and asking to hang out with out me, no.

    My husband doesn't like pretty much anyone anyways, so we don't have issues. He has weird respect issues when it comes to women, so he doesn't like most.

    It sounds like you have a very trusting relationship with each other which is awesome! Props for you.
  • miss_ally08
    miss_ally08 Posts: 167 Member
    wow! hmmm, sounds like my marriage is headed for divorce! lol. my husband heavily flirts with and talks to other women all of the time. online, through email or fb messaging and god knows what else. I have seen his texts messages in his phone to other women, including an ex! calling them beautiful, sweetheart and other cute names. But he says he calls me honey because i am his wife. wow! he even had a pic sent to him from one of his online gaming "penpal" before we got married.

    It sounds like this has been going on for awhile. I'm sure this bothers you to some degree. Have you all talked about it? If so, where does he see boundaries should be? :(
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