Married and heavy flirting good or bad

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  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member


    no worries girls. I still have a lot of weight to lose so there is plenty of me to go around.

    Jules, I'm just going to have to share that photo of me with the "kitty" to satisfy her cravings.

    say it isnt so.
    betrayed.

    I said only once you gave permission! you haven't given me permission so I've done nothing!
  • Brotherdeath76 has deactivated their account...... LMAO! Guess someone is in trouble!!!
  • penrbrown
    penrbrown Posts: 2,685 Member
    Define flirting? Because I get accused of flirting ALL THE TIME but in my mind I'm not flirting, I'm being kind.
  • scs143
    scs143 Posts: 2,190 Member
    IMO, it is different in each marriage. What some find perfectly ok and acceptable, others may find appauling.

    My marriage may be seen as appauling to some. :tongue:

    you're hot.

    Flirting with my friends right in front of my face????

    Also, I saw that profile photo of hers on your friends list. Her boobs look amazing. So how can you really blame me?

    I don't. Her boobs are amazing!
  • RainHoward
    RainHoward Posts: 1,599 Member
    Date women that like women too, then you can flirt together.
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    IMO, it is different in each marriage. What some find perfectly ok and acceptable, others may find appauling.

    My marriage may be seen as appauling to some. :tongue:

    you're hot.

    Flirting with my friends right in front of my face????

    Also, I saw that profile photo of hers on your friends list. Her boobs look amazing. So how can you really blame me?

    I don't. Her boobs are amazing!

    Stop! Stop!

    I mean keep going! Ha! Thanks guys!!!! :love:
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    Date women that like women too, then you can flirt together.

    My favorite poster hits the jackpot yet again!!
  • pain_is_weakness
    pain_is_weakness Posts: 798 Member
    depends on the marriage and intentions, take it case by case no biggie
  • Yasmine91
    Yasmine91 Posts: 599 Member
    ...no.
  • BeetleChe13
    BeetleChe13 Posts: 498 Member
    I think heavy flirting is a good thing... when I do it with my husband. :laugh: I would never intentionally flirt with another man because I respect my husband too much and he is the jealous type anyway.
  • Stephanie_Autry
    Stephanie_Autry Posts: 228 Member
    Just your opinion. Where is the line?

    You need to fix your relationship with your wife. By no means should any man/woman flirt with another person if they are married or even dating! It's going against the boundary codes. Maybe, try to spice things up in your current relationship, and you will have no thoughts of even trying to talk to other women.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
    IMO, it is different in each marriage. What some find perfectly ok and acceptable, others may find appauling.

    My marriage may be seen as appauling to some. :tongue:

    you're hot.

    Flirting with my friends right in front of my face????

    Also, I saw that profile photo of hers on your friends list. Her boobs look amazing. So how can you really blame me?

    I don't. Her boobs are amazing!

    Do you think they are real? I'm happy either way, they just looked too perfect to be made by god if you catch my drift.
  • sa11yjane
    sa11yjane Posts: 491 Member
    Personally I feel that heavy flirting is disrespectful towards your spouse
  • Reinventing_Me
    Reinventing_Me Posts: 1,053 Member
    STUPID NONSENSICAL QUESTION.

    Ha ha ha! Good answer! Good answer!
  • I'm in the "it's not cool so don't do it club" but that's just me. I'd kill hubby if he did that so I don't cross that line either.
  • Mistyblu08
    Mistyblu08 Posts: 580 Member
    BAD! DUH!!
    wear the other shoe for a minute ...how would you feel?
  • LisaBeateith2012
    LisaBeateith2012 Posts: 346 Member
    A complete No No! Very dangerous! It can get out of hand! Not worth it! But it's your decision at the end of the day!
  • sizzle92
    sizzle92 Posts: 1,015 Member
    IMO, it is different in each marriage. What some find perfectly ok and acceptable, others may find appauling.

    My marriage may be seen as appauling to some. :tongue:

    you're hot.

    Flirting with my friends right in front of my face????

    Also, I saw that profile photo of hers on your friends list. Her boobs look amazing. So how can you really blame me?

    I don't. Her boobs are amazing!

    Do you think they are real? I'm happy either way, they just looked too perfect to be made by god if you catch my drift.

    Made by God, sucked the life out of by child, and re-stuffed by man.
  • NormalSaneFLGuy
    NormalSaneFLGuy Posts: 1,344 Member
    IMO, it is different in each marriage. What some find perfectly ok and acceptable, others may find appauling.

    My marriage may be seen as appauling to some. :tongue:

    you're hot.

    Flirting with my friends right in front of my face????

    Also, I saw that profile photo of hers on your friends list. Her boobs look amazing. So how can you really blame me?

    I don't. Her boobs are amazing!

    Do you think they are real? I'm happy either way, they just looked too perfect to be made by god if you catch my drift.

    Made by God, sucked the life out of by child, and re-stuffed by man.

    re-stuffed to perfection <3
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    ^^
    This
  • ieva015
    ieva015 Posts: 93 Member
    dude - no. just no. :indifferent:
  • nikkis01
    nikkis01 Posts: 45 Member
    Ive been with my hubby 13 years and Im a huge flirt! Yes my hubby knows I'm doing it and no he doesnt mind one bit! Why, because its a bit of fun and has nothing to do with our relationship! He knows I would never cross the line and we are both confident enough in our relationship not to let a silly bit of fun get in the way!

    I think its all about intent! If youre looking for something else or you do it in secret then its more than flirting! I like to flirt because it makes me feel good, Im not after anything and make that perfectly clear.

    I asked my hubby what he thinks and this is his reply 'I like that other guys flirt with you, youre a good looking girl with assets, they can flirt all they like, because youre mine'.

    As long as youre open about it, whats the harm as long as both people feel the same!
  • Brandicaloriecountess
    Brandicaloriecountess Posts: 2,126 Member
    Bad idea. If the grass looks greener on the other side of the fence. WATER YOUR OWN DAMN YARD :)
  • MorganLeighRN
    MorganLeighRN Posts: 411 Member
    If you wouldn't do it with your SO watching, don't do it at all.
  • Jules2Be
    Jules2Be Posts: 2,238 Member
    I do flirt with people other than my wife, sometimes when she is there, sometimes she hears about it after the fact. And at times she is as big a flirt as I am.

    And we've been happily married for over 12 years.

    When you respect and trust each other, it isn't a big deal. It is fun, feels good, and is enjoyable to all parties. Of course, you should be ethical with the person you are flirting with as well. Let them know what the deal is.

    This. My husband and I both flirt. Since day 1, we have both known the other flirts. That doesn't mean it goes anywhere else. I am the first person to tell you I am married. The end.

    To each his own. Flirting is a grey area- it's not wrong across the board.

    ^this

    22 years happily married and both of us are insatiable flirts. Then again, we are also friends on MFP and many of my wife's friends are my friends. We have some really good laughs in the process. This doesn't always work for everyone... especially if there is distrust and one or the other is doing just to "monitor" their spouse's activities and interactions.

    I trust my wife and love the influence her friends (men and women) have had on her and her desire to achieve her goals... and there is a lot of flirting along the way. Ultimately, (as Jules so eloquently put) she brings her appetite home.

    Seriously...and I don't know what you consider heavy flirting or what's behind the question but if you're having to ask this question here... I suggest you have a very open and honest conversation with your wife and not necessarily because she's doing anything wrong but clearly you have some concerns. If you all aren't on the same page... everything else is noise.

    i like your wife.:flowerforyou:
  • AmyFett
    AmyFett Posts: 1,607 Member
    i don't think flirting is bad. touching is bad..
  • tourettte
    tourettte Posts: 142 Member
    IDK. It all depends on the couple. For some it's harmless for others it kills the relationship. What's your definition of flirting? I was told I was flirtatious when i was just being nice and polite and flirting was the last thing on my mind.
  • Anomalia
    Anomalia Posts: 506 Member
    I'm disappointed that this even had to be asked.
  • cardsfanlv
    cardsfanlv Posts: 110 Member
    I'm married and the attitude I take is, don't do anything or say anything to someone that you wouldn't say to them in front of your wife/husband.
  • deeharley
    deeharley Posts: 1,208 Member
    Totally cool! I LOVE flirting with my husband!
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