Viewing the message boards in:

Married and heavy flirting good or bad

2456717

Replies

  • Posts: 186 Member
    Dude, the only person you should be flirting with is your spouse.
  • Posts: 258
    It really depends on your type of relationship and what you mutually agree on as "ok".

    In most cases, if you have to ask yourself if it's ok....it's probably not.

    For me, "heavy flirting" is a definite NOOOOOO.
    I limit the flirting to a very playful and FRIENDLY type. There is no emotion in it, it's just having fun.

    Anything I say to a guy in a flirtatious manner I would most certainly also say to a girl and it would not come off badly. If I think of saying something to a guy that I would NOT say to a girl without it being uncomfortable....then maybe I shouldn't go that far.
    My boyfriend does the same.


    I think a bit of flirtation is healthy, though there is most certainly a line of emotions and respect to never cross.
  • Posts: 281 Member
    When you don't know if it's bad or not....it is.

    lol yesssss!! I completely agree!
  • Posts: 1,599 Member
    Bad. If you wouldn't say/do it in front of your spouse, don't say/do it .

    But heavy flirting *with your spouse*? Very good. My husband is very flirty with me, and I can't get enough of it. Or him. :wink: I have no need to flirt with other guys.
  • Posts: 493 Member
    it can make you a *kitten*

    just kidding

    *kitten*

    ^ this
  • Posts: 659 Member
    Light flirting - okay...

    Heavy flirting - Soooo disrespectful and a definite No NO!
  • Posts: 77 Member
    Bad idea if you wanna stay married.
  • Posts: 1,497 Member
    The line? You passed it about 20 miles back...
  • Posts: 146 Member
    it can make you a *kitten*

    just kidding

    *kitten*

    BAHAHAH!
  • Posts: 6,998 Member
    Heavy flirting is bad!

    A little light flirting on occasion isn't harmful.
  • Posts: 671 Member
    if you have to ask it means you don't really care if its good or not you're just looking to rationalize your guilt or lack thereof
  • 3Usiw.gif
    haha pretty much...
  • Posts: 241 Member
    That my friend depends on your situation doesn't it?


    ^^ I agree. While I disagree with venturing outside of your marriage for attention, I know that some couples think that sort of thing is ok.. Better ask your SO how they feel about it.
  • Posts: 266
    LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Well, would you think it was good or bad if your wife was doing it???? Not so bueno, I assume! Personally, I'd give my hubby a swift kick in the nards for it. :noway:
  • Posts: 672 Member
    LOL, this one is going in my collection for later!
    3Usiw.gif
  • Posts: 490
    So lightly flirting is okay?
  • Posts: 45 Member
    BAD!!!!
  • Posts: 8,138 Member
    What is considered "heavy flirting"?
  • Posts: 4,584 Member
    Bad. If you wouldn't say/do it in front of your spouse, don't say/do it .

    But heavy flirting *with your spouse*? Very good. My husband is very flirty with me, and I can't get enough of it. Or him. :wink: I have no need to flirt with other guys.

    ^This.
  • Posts: 1,497 Member
    What is considered "heavy flirting"?

    No penetration, except digital.
  • Posts: 244 Member
    NonononononononNOnONONonononono! BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD BAD!
    Now go to your room-with your spouse! and forget that nonsense.

    What a stupid question, what were you expecting us all to say?
  • Posts: 157 Member
    if its intentional then its an awful idea, bro
  • Posts: 1,169 Member
    Whats your definition of "heavy flirting" and also how would you feel if she did the same...
  • Posts: 438 Member
    it can make you a *kitten*

    just kidding

    *kitten*

    HAHAHHAHAHHA

    I agree, thats bad ju ju brotha
  • Posts: 2,820 Member

    No penetration, except digital.

    Beastie...u dont post that often but when you do KAPOW....its good.

    Wait is that flirting? Oh sorry....that post was SO disrepsectful
  • Posts: 319 Member
    flirting with anyone other than your spouse is unacceptable. If you feel the need to flirt outside your marriage, then something is missing in the marriage. it is never ok.
  • Posts: 348
    Personally, I don't think it's a good idea. I've been married for almost 15 years now and I always follow this bit of advice:

    Always behave as if your spouse was right there with you

    That should eliminate most questions of how appropriate your behavior is with someone else. My husband and I have enough love and respect for each other not to do something that would make the other uncomfortable. However, if the couple is really okay with flirting with other people, that's different. I highly suspect that for most people though, anything beyond friendly interaction is not okay.
  • Posts: 354 Member
    I think it depends on just what flirting entails.

    Does it make you go home at night and love your spouse even more because someone complimented you and made you feel good, or does it make you think you should go behind your spouses back?

    My own feeling is would it be okay to say/do this in public? Would your spouse be upset if they found out?
  • Posts: 1,497 Member

    Beastie...u dont post that often but when you do KAPOW....its good.

    Wait is that flirting? Oh sorry....that post was SO disrepsectful

    I know, right? Ha, ha. It's cool, bro. Wanna do it?
  • Posts: 669 Member
    If you are "happily" married and not, say a Swinger, why would you be flirting with someone of the opposite/same sex (what ever floats your boat)? That's not respectful to your SO.

    Now, if you had an Open Relationship or say where looking to add a 3rd person and both of you agreed on such a thing before hand, then sure. Go for it, just be respectful of the other people involved and make sure everyone is down with it.

    Otherwise no, no "heavy" flirting.
This discussion has been closed.