Married and heavy flirting good or bad
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she'd be cut, with the quickness. crazy disrespectful.0
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My problem is that since I've lost weight (164 pounds), I don't even realize if someone is flirting with me. It doesn't even register in that part of my brain:huh: . I've always been the joke around funny big guy, so now if a woman were to flirt with me, I don't think I'd even notice it.
example: A few months ago I went to starbucks and I was wearing shorts (which I do practically year-round) and the staff there all know me and were talking about how I was wearing shorts even though it was quite cold out. This one worker in particular was talking about how she notices I wear shorts alot, and then she drew little pictures of me wearing short in the rain, snow etc on my coffee cup. I didn't even notice until I got back to work, and all my co-workers were saying how she was flirting with me????? I had no clue.
Needless to say I've framed the cup and it now hangs in my office!!
haha.. that's awesome!0 -
my husband and I both work at the same hospital. We are both casual fun flirters...we know, understand and accept this about each other. We never take it to far, everyone we work with knows we love and care deeply for one another and that our words are just for fun. It works for us...but I can see how it could go VERY AWRY for others. it works for us, but we often find we are the polar exception to this kinda stuff. We're pretty twisted, but we compliment each other and are on the same page.0
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i think it's disrespectful especially if its initiated.0
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Too much of a loaded question. This "line" that you speak of is very subjective and probably varies person to person. However, I believe that the "line" is drawn at conversation and pleasantries. In other words, no touching, no over or excessive complimenting, no "deep" conversations, etc. Basically, it's fine to be friends. But if you're with a person, you're WITH that person. Don't betray their trust and flirt with other people. Save that for your beloved!0
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I've always heard not to do anything behind your spouse/boyfriend's back that you wouldn't feel comfortable doing in front of him. I have way too much respect for my husband and our marriage to even consider flirting. So my answer is a big fat BAD.0
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Ooops.... Not good... Unless your one that doesn't care if your spouse does it to you.... I think its also bad to post your relationship problems here on MFP before you even talk with your spouse about them either.. Imagine if you read something your spouse posted here, before they even spoke to you about it. How would that make you feel.... That would piss me off..0
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If your relationship is fashioned in such a way that you are open, or swing, or whatever, then why not?
However, I do agree, if you had to ask, you already know the answer.
Some people can flirt within and outside of their relationships, without it becoming an issue. Some couples just have that dynamic.0 -
Flirting is exactly what has put my marriage on the "rocks." My husband has the belief that flirting is okay when you are trying to get something. Example, discounts and free things at restaurants or concerts...etc. His flirting has gone too far. Numbers being exchanged, emotional connections made and my son and I at home suffering and heartbroken. There is now serious trust issues and a lot of tears. Sure, intentions may be innocent, but something that could hurt others feelings, is never a good thing. Even if you are flirting with no expectations, the person you are flirting with may take it seriously.0
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if your with someone you care about(married or not) why eff it up flirting with someone else??0
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Deleted, I can't bear to talk about it0
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Just your opinion. Where is the line?
If you would feel comfortable with your spouse doing the same thing with someone else then go for it. If you really don't care how far your spouse would go then maybe you shouldn't worry about "heavy flirting" with someone else, you should be worrying about either saving your marriage or contacting a divorce lawyer.0 -
Avoid it.
If you feel the need go to a strip club with your wife.0 -
If your relationship is fashioned in such a way that you are open, or swing, or whatever, then why not?
However, I do agree, if you had to ask, you already know the answer.
Some people can flirt within and outside of their relationships, without it becoming an issue. Some couples just have that dynamic.
^^^ THIS! Probably the only post that makes sense....0 -
My problem is that since I've lost weight (164 pounds), I don't even realize if someone is flirting with me. It doesn't even register in that part of my brain:huh: . I've always been the joke around funny big guy, so now if a woman were to flirt with me, I don't think I'd even notice it.
example: A few months ago I went to starbucks and I was wearing shorts (which I do practically year-round) and the staff there all know me and were talking about how I was wearing shorts even though it was quite cold out. This one worker in particular was talking about how she notices I wear shorts alot, and then she drew little pictures of me wearing short in the rain, snow etc on my coffee cup. I didn't even notice until I got back to work, and all my co-workers were saying how she was flirting with me????? I had no clue.
Needless to say I've framed the cup and it now hangs in my office!!
haha.. that's awesome!
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I flirt. My partner of 11 years flirts. That's how we met and that's how we are.
Anyone that knows us knows, and accepts, this.0 -
I think flirting is fine... I have flirted and seen my husband flirt a few times, but it doesn't bother me, or him, I think we know how much we love each other. If anything it keeps the fire between us alive. Our motto is, you can look, but don't even think about touching.
But hey, that's just us:)0 -
Oh it's not ok with me.. i have been putting up with it, but not sure for how much longer!wow! hmmm, sounds like my marriage is headed for divorce! lol. my husband heavily flirts with and talks to other women all of the time. online, through email or fb messaging and god knows what else. I have seen his texts messages in his phone to other women, including an ex! calling them beautiful, sweetheart and other cute names. But he says he calls me honey because i am his wife. wow! he even had a pic sent to him from one of his online gaming "penpal" before we got married.
This would not be okay with me at all.. Sorry you have to put up with it. Unless you just don't care. I only treat my husband they way I would want to be treated.0 -
I'd be heavily against it. But obviously there is a ****storm when there is already so many comments in such a short time. lol0
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Touching. No touching. If you're calling a lady "beautiful" commenting on her hair.... etc. You better not touch her unless her hair is on fire.
Also, when flirting reaches an emotional level and you start divulging things you shouldn't.
Completely agree with this!0 -
Yuck. No way. It's one thing to be chummy with people (I'm the only female at my job so if I want to have ANY friends at all, they're going to be male) but it's quite another thing to be flirty. I leave my flirty at home and spend most of my work day making fun of my coworkers and receiving the same treatment back.0
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That my friend depends on your situation doesn't it?
NO.0 -
If your relationship is fashioned in such a way that you are open, or swing, or whatever, then why not?
However, I do agree, if you had to ask, you already know the answer.
Some people can flirt within and outside of their relationships, without it becoming an issue. Some couples just have that dynamic.
^^^ THIS! Probably the only post that makes sense....
Agreed!0 -
If you are not happy in the relationship, then get out of it and flirt all you want...Honesty is best with any relationship:grumble:0
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So true!1st you cheat with your mind then you will ......
It's a dangerous game to play with to stroke your ego.
This is how the affair begin-Flirting-0 -
I'm married and I flirt with my wife all the time. The only people it seems to bother are our kids. I tell them to man up and deal with it, they wouldn't be here otherwise. Just sayin'.0
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<---- Flirt.
My hsuband is way worse than I am.0 -
the only person i flirt with is my fiance!!!! i would never hurt him like that!!!!0
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<---- Flirt.
My hsuband is way worse than I am.
How YOU doin, hottstuff? :devil:0 -
I'm married and I flirt with my wife all the time. The only people it seems to bother are our kids. I tell them to man up and deal with it, they wouldn't be here otherwise. Just sayin'.
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