Men..Is your wife outta shape?

Bash all the spouses!!!!

My wife is fat.

I gained weight after I got married, but so did my husband. It had to do with our lifestyles at the time that involved lots of high fat foods, sedentary jobs with long commutes and little opportunity to move around. I lost it after we divorced (new job, more time to exercise), got a boyfriend and started gaining again, although I was NOT letting myself go - the second time it was because of thyroid issue that went undiagnosed for too long despite a few visits to the doctor complaining about my fatigue. The boyfriend also got a bit of tummy over the course of our year and a half relationship. Neither one of them cared about my weight gain as far as I knew.

I don't understand your friend's comment about needing to become out of shape to find a man to marry. That makes no sense to me at all. I think many married people gain weight simply because of the circumstances of their life, especially for women who have children. It's not a conscious decision. I find the idea of married women being fat "and nasty" kind of insulting to married women too. Your friend should work on her personality to find a man to marry.

I put on weight during my husbands deployments overseas(Iraq). Just stress eating, horrible sleep schedule, didn't want to miss his call so stayed near my phone. He's been deployed 3 times and each time he comes back I'll lose some weight....I wouldn't care if my husband commented because he finds me beautiful & tells me several times a day however he wants me healthy & is working out with me, eating clean & motivating me! I was super fit before we got married as well but he has a super fast metabolism & can eat whatever he wants so when we got married I was "happy" and if he wanted ice cream I ate ice cream, pizza night whatever I ate what he ate and i'm not proud of that but it's the truth! He would say yes my wife is overweight however we are working out together and getting in shape together. I love him more then anything & he's never made me feel ugly he just hates how I feel about myself. WIth my weight gain we also put off trying to have a baby because he told me it'd be healthier for you & our future baby & he wants me to have a speedy recovery & not hate my post baby body so much.

Any smart man who is married and whose wife is here would never comment on this thread... I would kill my husband if he replied. Ahh yea my wife is outta shape. But being the wonderful husband he is, he would never even think about doing that. He may think it but he would never publically say it...

I'm an honest person so when my wife asked me how I felt about her body I pretty much said "as long as your happy and healthy you're fine. As far as a physique goes you could do more x lift and drop x% body fat, as far as a lifter goes your bench sucks, your deadlift is awesome, and you are slacking on your squats and you know it."

Call me a **** a jerk what ever, but she asked a question, she gets the answer.

If my husband came on here talking about my weight without me knowing, I probably would be hurt. Just saying.

Why would you be hurt about you husband talking about your weight? Your on here talking about your weight....just saying

Because it's okay for me to criticize my own body & change it as I see fit, but if my partner did so, it would be extremely insulting. I'm not going to critique my partner's figure or physicality because I love who they are as a person (& I'm not that shallow...), so I would appreciate the same courtesy & respect.

I was complete opposite. I was thin while dating my (now ex husband) & then when I had his twins, I gained 90lbs (medical issues). Right after, I lost 85 of those lbs, but then when we got the diagnosis (both kids have cystic fibrosis) I comfort ate and gained about 30lbs. I went to my highest 195lbs and got married at that weight. RIGHT AFTER we got married, I lost 45lbs and dropped down to 150 (lowest I've ever been). I was 150lbs when I left the marriage. Now that I'm single & have struggled through divorce & all the hurt that comes along with a deabeat father & this disease....I'm back up to 173lbs (currently).

I always seem to be THINNER in relationships. I think because when I'm single, I know I don't have to be naked infront of anyone. When I'm with someone, and "involved", I definitely don't want to be naked & uncomfortable with my weight, so I'm ALWAYS more trim and fit.

I've recently started working on losing the weight AGAIN (that I gained after my divorce) and am hoping to be back down to 150 before I begin dating again <--- not the reason i'm not dating, i'm simply not ready, but it would be nice to be thinner when I do start so that I go in with more confidence and love for myself.

I've been married 36 years, my wife was 103 lb. when we tied the knot. She has gained less than one pound per year since. She'd like to be firmer, but the years have a way of taking firmness and muscle tone out of us.

I did put on weight when I got into a serious relationship with my fella. Combination of things - Mirena was one, but so was eating out too much, takeaways, and too much wine and drinking. Then a course of steroids and latent celiac disease. But there was also eating out too much, takeaways, and too much drinking, and not doing any exercise because we were so busy eating out, getting takeaways, and drinking.

I didn't want to be one of those women who let themselves go. It's a bit unfeminist to say it, but there it is, it happens, they do exist.

Aint so attractive for men to let themselves go either!

MrSassypants is on here, I hope he does answer this thread.

I let myself go, he never said a word about it, just loved me for who I am. He was more concerned about how unhappy I was with myself than the extra 60 pounds I had gained. Now we are both working hard to be smokin' naked.

i like your man.

I don't think you should stop caring about your health/looks after you get married just because you're no longer finding a mate. You should always be conscious of how you look, feel, and how healthy you are.... ESPECIALLY if you're married, i think. Marriage is for a VERY long time, so keeping your man interested and attracted to you would be kind of nice. Marriages go stale often because people just let themselves go. They think it doesn't matter anymore because they love you for you... which is true...but women should WANT to look good for their husband, at least I think!!!

My friend gained 50 kilos (110 lbs) after her marriage. She keeps saying that she's stressed, we don't know how being married is, she's not like those famous women with personal trainers and bla bla bla. She's just finding excuses, cause she doesn't care about being in shape anymore. I'm concerned about her health cause she's started having heart problems and all that stuff, but she has "too much to do, she can't go to the gym, she's beautiful anyway". I remember before meeting her husband, how she kept saying I was fat, out of shape and sometimes she was being mean to be because of that... But I was fat because I had serious problems, now she's obese cause she's lazy. Yeah, I think married women tend to became lazy and they don't care about being in shape anymore, cause they were in shape not for themselves but just to impress boys. I think that my friend doesn't want to lose those extra pounds and be healthy again just because she was going to the gym (when she used to) just to find a boyfriend. Lots of people have to realize that being healthy and fit is something important, in the first place, for ourselves.

I gained about 20 lbs when my husband and I started dating. Mostly just because the time I would normally spend exercising I started spending with him instead. Plus he can COOK, so I was eating much larger meals than I did when I was single. Wedding came and I lost 35 lbs. After that, I pretty much let myself go. Gained about 30 lbs, broke my leg and was laid up for 4 months (gained about 10 lbs)....got PG with our son ended up with about 15 extra lbs post pregnancy....2.5 years later got PG with our daughter....had another 10 lbs to lose from HER. So...in all...that's 65 heavier than when we got married. He never said one word about it, and still wouldn't. He supports me either way. Now I'm getting in shape for ME. I want to be smokin' hot when we run into "old friends" around town and I believe he deserves to have a beautiful wife!

I wouldn't answer this question any quicker than answering the question "Does this make me look fat?"

Or asking a woman if she's pregnant. I wouldn't ask a woman if she was pregnant, if her water broke and she began crowning right in front of me.

My response is the same to any and all questions, in this category, that my wife may ask me: "You look wonderful tonight."