Your engagement ring/wedding set

I don't have a ring, we agreed we didn't care to spend the money on it. And we didn't really get engaged anyway, we just went off to vegas one weekend to make it all official like (so we could be on the same account for car insurance).

How's that for romance?

I was married and divorced in my early twenties, and I haven't seriously dated anyone since. I'm now going on 36 years old. I'd be happy just to HAVE an engagement/wedding ring as long as it's from the right man.

My hubby wanted my e-ring to be a complete surprise, and it was. I had dropped a few hints here and there about what I liked, but never was like "buy me this when we get engaged", mostly because he had told me that his belief is that the ring should be a surprise for me, and it would ruin the surprise if I picked it out. Luckily, he has good taste. He bought a princess cut solitaire, so that it would be easy to match with different wedding rings or enhancers. We picked out our wedding rings together.

I found a costume jewelry ring I loved when I as shopping for brides maid jewelry. (My bff was getting married) When I met my husband a few years later he asked what I would like. I gave that ring to him and he had it made to exact scale in platinum and diamonds. It is breathtaking, and insured.

We went shopping together and tried on rings, but I did not pick one out specifically. I just let him know the ones that I liked. He took it from there and picked out the actual set.

So glad to say that I can wear them again. When I got fat, I outgrew my rings and could not wear them. I was just about to have them re-sized when I found MFP and lost weight. I can wear my set again.

Oh gosh. I'm not engaged yet, but we've talked about getting engaged and it's more of a question of "when" than "if" at this point.

My boyfriend comes from a very conservative, old-fashioned family, whereas my family is a lot more modern and nontraditional. One night he overheard my cousin and I talking about rings/jewelry, and I was saying how I MUCH prefer white gold/silver/platinum to the classic gold color. Later that night he asked me about that conversation and he said he was kind of offended at how I was so against gold. He was all like, "Well what if I had already bought you a gold ring...how ****ty would I feel hearing how much you hate gold?" He said his mom, his grandma, etc all had gold rings and he always pictured getting me a gold ring. I told him that I'd love anything he got me, but I would be MUCH happier if he went the 'silver/white gold' route (he hadn't bought me a ring at that point loL). I guess he had just grown up seeing all of his maternal figures with gold jewelry and he had the conception that gold=engagement ring. Just recently when we were talking about rings again, he was like "You know what...you're right. Seeing all of our engaged friends...they ALL have silver...and I agree it does look better!" So...I am happy he changed his mind a bit

My husband picked it out on his own and then we picked out my wedding ring together. We had discussed what TYPE of ring I liked, more in a general sense. For example, I have very small hands and fingers and can't pull off a large ring and am more of a minimalist when jewelry is concerned. He picked perfectly!

Edited to add....we got engaged at Christmas....after he had the ring box sitting under the tree for 2 weeks! *kitten*.....:laugh:

We had been talking about marriage and he'd asked what kind of rings I liked so when we'd shop I'd show him stuff in the windows. One day he said something like you know I want to marry you right so I want you to have something you like so we went to a nice jewelry store and did serious window shopping one day. He asked me to pick out 3 that were my favorites. We didn't buy that day he went back later and picked out a setting out the three I liked and picked out the center stone, size, quality, etc. all on his own. I had one I loved more than the others and he must've been able to tell because that's the one he picked. The proposal was a surprise and the ring I got a surprise but yet he knew I'd like it. Funny thing is I ended up being allergic to the gold so we changed it up a few years later and I did that all on my own he was fine with whatever I picked at that point.

We're not engaged yet but we plan to get married.

I would love to be able to wear just anything but my one issue is the ethical natural of the jewelry so my involvement in the choosing was kinda important.

We went to Brilliant Earth in San Francisco to view some rings we had already chosen from their online catalog. Once we saw it in person, we picked between two, they sized me and now have a file ready for him to choose the diamond and make the purchase.

So while I kinda know what the ring looks like, when and how it will happen is still a mystery to me. But I appreciate that he respected my beliefs about having a non-conflict ring and let me work with him.

Now to wait

I actually got two rings. The first we had gone to look at some rings and I has told him that I wanted a sapphire instead of a diamond. He didn't believe me b/c he thought I was just saying that b/c it was cheaper than a diamond. (I really did want the sapphire lol). The ring he got was beautiful but I am really hard on rings and I ended up knocking out one of the small side diamonds and cracking the band.

Fast forward two years and we had set a date for the wedding. He surprised me on my birthday with a GORGEOUS sapphire ring on my birthday! I LOVE it!! He did a great job picking this one out and it will be my wedding ring also...there isn't really a way for a band to go with it. I am so excited about this new ring though I love the old one too if for no other reason than it was my original engagement ring :happy:

My husband picked out and bought my engagement ring on his own and surprised me with a sunset proposal on a mountaintop. Very romantic. I wouldn't have it any other way. Our wedding rings were actually his parents' wedding rings. I'm not one of those girls who is big on bling and getting my way in every detail, so no need for me to be there picking things out. It was his gift to give, wasn't it?

My husband took his buddy, who happened to be my ex-bf to pick out my engagement ring. The woman at the store kept trying to up-sell to something fancier. While my husband tried to explain that I liked simple things, his buddy had to turn away because his whole body was shaking--he was trying so hard not to laugh as the woman kept saying "all the ladies really love this one," about a ring I would have hated.

He was going to buy a very inexpensive one because we didnt have the money for a super nice one. He showed his mom the ones he was looking at and then she said she had a very nice diamond ring she inherited and offered it to him! It is beautiful...and something we could have never afforded. He went and put it in a new band though

My brother did something similar for my sister in law. My grandfather had bought my grandmother a new set for one of their anniversaries years ago, so she had her original set just lying in her jewelry box. My brother had confided in her that he wanted to propose, but he didn't have the money to buy a ring, so she gave him her old set. He proposed on Valentine's Day 2011, and they got married this past April. They kept the original setting, but had it plated in white gold (the original was yellow gold) because they wanted it to match his wedding band.

My SO and I know we're getting married, though an official proposal hasn't been made. Our male roommate has graciously volunteered to take me shopping and help me pick out the exact ring I want and then take my SO to go get it. All that being said, I have a very specific idea of what I want, I'm allergic to gold (cry me a river - platinum baby!), and I don't want a ginormous ostentatious rock. Not my personality. My SO says, pick out what you want. He'd be happy to forgo the ring altogether and head down to the JP's office. I'm the one pushing for a "planned elopement" because I know he'll appreciate the fuss once we're there.

Mine picked out my ring and completely blindsided me with a proposal. The ring he picked is a perfect fit for my personality and honestly would've been what I would've picked. We did agree to pick out the wedding bands together though so they will match