Well that was rather rude !!!

We can't teach each and every person in the world to have manners. Write it off as she has no manners. You did the right thing. I have co-workers, and even when they KNOW and SEE that I'm right behind them, they won't hold the door. I've learned that they have no class, no manners, and no respect. Now, when I see that they are behind me, I hold the door for them regardless. Shocker -- not even a thank you. My snotty side comes out, and I hold a verbal conversation with myself. "Oh, why thank you for holding the door for me" "You are quite welcome!" right in front of them. They probably think I'm off my rocker, but I don't care. In my mind...point is being made.

For the record, neither of these two things are defending the woman's rudeness. They are also both saying the exact same thing:

So, does that mean you're only willing to do good things if people are polite afterwards? Anybody can do that. It takes a stronger person to love unconditionally and not care about the response.

even if you don't think so, she may have been flustered and out of sorts...

we don't do nice things for other people, we do them for our own karma...

that's all.

It was certainly rude of her not to say thank you. But it takes away from YOUR actions that you are upset that she was rude - because you aren't entitled to courtesy - it's just that - a courtesy. That woman owes you nothing at all. You should just do the deed because it elevates you to do it, and because doing it should be its own reward. Not because you expect to receive something (in this case a 'thank you') in return.

Maybe it wasn't her bag to begin with and you just handed someone else's bag to her and she wanted to make a quick getaway :huh:

what would you have done ?

If that's the case, she should have been that much more thankful, anyway.

Maybe it was not her bag, and she didn't want to hang about when the owner came out and saw you helping her steal it.
Did you actually think?

did i actually think ? what sort of question is that ? christ im in a lose lose sitaution here arent i !! if i give her bag back i could be helping her steal it and if i dont give her it back some women has just lost her purse and contents of her bag !! tell me what you would have done ? oh to be perfect

Agreed! Good for you for doing that. Since SHE didn't thank you then I will...thank you!:flowerforyou:

Maybe it wasn't her bag to begin with and you just handed someone else's bag to her and she wanted to make a quick getaway :huh:

what would you have done ?

I would have done the same thing you did. We just don't always know other people's circumstances. It was impolite of her not to thank you, and most likely she was just being a little ungrateful, but will that stop you from doing something like that again? Probably not. She may have realized after she drove off that she should have thanked you and felt bad, you just don't know. You did something nice, take that good karma and move on :happy:

Just need a little vent !! Popped to the local village in my lunch hour to go to the bank and when I returned to the car park and sat in my car i noticed the car infront of me driving off but there was a handbag by the back wheel so i jumped out of my car and ran to the car with the bag in my hand (which was now near the car park exit!) and tapped on the window, the women put her window down and when i asked "is this your bag?" she said "oooooo yeah it is" shut the door and drove off !! no thank you !!! ooooo boiled my blood !!! x

You still haven't been thanked, thank you for doing that this morning. I certainly hope if I need help someone like you is there I'm glad you didn't let it get you down. :flowerforyou:

So, does that mean you're only willing to do good things if people are polite afterwards? Anybody can do that. It takes a stronger person to love unconditionally and not care about the response.

Lol what? No. All she said is that she was shocked that she didn't get a thank you. Are you saying that you wouldn't be shocked if you ran after somebodies car to help them in some way or another and they didn't thank you?
It's called Manors.

i wouldn't be shocked at all. Not in the current world we live in.

Fair enough, if you've lost your faith in humanity then there is no saving you. But please don't imply that people are weak for expecting a simple thank you. You can be the most selfless person on the planet but manors are manors.

I haven't lost faith in humanity. It's the expectation that people have that bugs me. They think it's a right that others should be polite when somebody else is kind. Again, it's an entitlement. Would it have been nice if the lady said thank you? Sure. But like others have said on here, she has no idea what was going on in that lady's life at the moment. She just made the assumption that because she didn't get the thank you she deserved, the lady was rude.

MANNERS!!!!!!!!!!!! MANNERS!!!!!!!!


MANORS ARE BIG HOUSES!!!


GOOD GRIEF PEOPLE!!!

Good god THANK YOU! I was like.. really? MANORS? When did we start talking about estates?

So, does that mean you're only willing to do good things if people are polite afterwards? Anybody can do that. It takes a stronger person to love unconditionally and not care about the response.

Very true and something that people need to be reminded of.

Remember to be nice to people as you do not know what someone else is going through. We are ALL fighting some type of battle.

Maybe it was not her bag, and she didn't want to hang about when the owner came out and saw you helping her steal it.
Did you actually think?

did i actually think ? what sort of question is that ? christ im in a lose lose sitaution here arent i !! if i give her bag back i could be helping her steal it and if i dont give her it back some women has just lost her purse and contents of her bag !! tell me what you would have done ? oh to be perfect

Welcome to the MFP forum, anything you say will be shredded to bits. :ohwell:

So, does that mean you're only willing to do good things if people are polite afterwards? Anybody can do that. It takes a stronger person to love unconditionally and not care about the response.

Lol what? No. All she said is that she was shocked that she didn't get a thank you. Are you saying that you wouldn't be shocked if you ran after somebodies car to help them in some way or another and they didn't thank you?
It's called Manors.

i wouldn't be shocked at all. Not in the current world we live in.

Fair enough, if you've lost your faith in humanity then there is no saving you. But please don't imply that people are weak for expecting a simple thank you. You can be the most selfless person on the planet but manors are manors.

Just because someone says that you should do for others WITHOUT expecting anything in return does not show a loss of faith in humanity.

We should NEVER do anything and expect something in return. To me that is just rude.

And for the record, it is MANNERS, not MANORS.

Maybe her fish just died and she was mourning. Not everyone is rainbows and butterflies all day, every day.

Not an acceptable excuse in my view. No matter how bad her day was, a simple thank you was in order.

Such an entitled mentality. I'll only do for you if you do for me.

Whatever... A bit judgmental though, aren't you? I never said I wouldn't do for someone else if they didn't do for me. I have done quite a few things for people completely anonymously. That does not mean it is acceptable for others to lack simple courtesy and manners.

Well, it's not anonymous now. Good for you. We all do it. I just don't expect anything in return and I certainly don't get angry if they don't thank me.

Is it cold all the way up there on that high, high horse of yours??

So, does that mean you're only willing to do good things if people are polite afterwards? Anybody can do that. It takes a stronger person to love unconditionally and not care about the response.

This... as well as the post below it. There's no idea of knowing that she might've just received a horrible phone call in the minutes before. Let me say thank you on her behalf, because I know that there has to be some heck of a crisis in my bubble for me to do something like that.

Please don't stop doing nice things because you didn't get acknowledged this one good deed. Set an example. Clearly, you were raised to know to do the right thing. Keep doing them simply for the fact that they're the right things to do.

A lot of people are centered soley on their own lives and needs. There is a special place in heaven for giving people like you. Don't change. :-)

Karma is BS... manners are not.

The poster is quite right. I'd still have done it but I would be annoyed, I would have given her the finger at the very least...

Wow, what if the woman was just told that she or a very close family member was terminally ill and only had a short time to live.

Way to be a humanitarian to others.

We should ALWAYS be good stewards in our communities and around the world.

Shame on the way you all think.

Muhammed Ali said it best............"Service to others is the rent you pay for your room here on earth."