Single at 33..why?

I'm 32 and single, never married, never engaged, and no kids. I also always go for the musician/artist types or men with severe emotional problems who need to be rescued/fixed. I have had numerous long-term relationships...I'm a serial monogamist who unfortunately has settled for the wrong men in the past. I've been single for 9 months now--I was with my last boyfriend for almost 4 years. He lived with me for a year, paid me $250 a month to stay there (which didn't even cover half my rent) and hasn't had a job in two years. I think--I KNOW--I deserve better and have so much love to give, which is why I kicked his @ss to the curb (was also tired of him not speaking to me with respect and never wanting to do anything except play video games).

The fact that I'm single doesn't bother me as much as it seems to bother everyone else around me, like my parents and extended family. I did think that I would be married by this point in my life, and the fact that I may never have the big wedding of my dreams in the beautiful white gown does make me very, very sad, but I don't ever want to have children so it's not like my clock is ticking in that regard. I would like someone to share my life with though. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, I think I just took longer than some to grow up--I had a GREAT time in my 20s. I really love having the freedom that I do, and I know so many of my married friends envy me for that. Even so, I hope that someday (soonish) I meet Mr. Right.

I would like to add that one of the benefits of waiting until you're in your 30s to find true love is you know yourself better and what you are/are not able to put up with or negotiate on. I'm a much stronger, more confident, stable person than I was 10 or even 5 years ago.

I completely gave up on men when I was 24. I hated so many masculine traits and how they seemed to objectify women. I dated women only for 14 years and fell in love a couple of times. One night I went out on the town with an on and off again girlfriend and in walked the man who changed my life. It was love at first site and I was 38. We have a near perfect relationship and he very rarely displays the traits I disliked so much in the men I dated in my youth. We have had 2 sons and although our second born son passed we are still hoping for 1 more. It's never too late.

I was single till 29yo. And if it wasn't for the fact that I met my husband through a dating service, I'd probably STILL be single.

STOP LOOKING.

meaning, ITS NOT A HUNT!!!

you're not going to find the person you're going to marry if you have to go out of your way or particate in events/situations that are not normal or condusive to YOUR LIFE.

just do what you do. only when it happens naturally will it be someone who may be a good match for you.

I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends.

Try dating people who do make good boyfriends.

Doesn't NOT...laughing at my own typos.

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I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends.

Try dating people who do make good boyfriends.

Obvious answer is good answer.

No one told me that being single at 33 was depressing. I'm 32 and have been single for a long time now. I've used that time to work on myself - mentally, physically, professionally, and emotionally. I love my life and see nothing sad about that.

Besides, my dog at least stops snoring when I throw a sock at her. I can't say that for every girl I've ever met.

Anytime you're feeling down about being single, go to this website. You will instantly feel better.

http://myfriendsaremarried.tumblr.com/

Umm... hello my favorite website of the day.

my husband and i met in a bar. he gave his seat up.

before we knew it, we were hitting it off, we closed the bar down together, had our "first date" 2 days later, became totally inseparable, and then my father died very suddenly only 2 months after we met. he flew with me across country to the funeral and was there for me the best way possible. in 8 months, we were engaged.

it'll happen when you're in an environment where you're not hiding who you are or trying to be someone you're not or playing to a specific agenda. sure, you need to get out and do what you do and have a life because the more exposure you have, the more chances you have of meeting people, but don't "stage" anything and don't make anything into a "mission". you need to be comfortable and confident with your life as it is NOW or else you're just going to turn people off.

have FUN, life your LIFE, be REAL with YOURSELF, and it'll happen when its supposed to.