Single at 33..why?

I've been divorced for 7 years and I have a wonderful 9 year old as a result. I would love to meet the right guy and get married again, but it has not happened ...yet, but I have faith that he is out there somewhere and I will meet him when the time is right!

I think the key is to stay focused on your purpose here and have faith! Also, remain open-minded and do not let other people (i.e. society, church friends, etc). dictate to you how your life is supposed to progress. There is no "right" formula for life. Just prepare to be surprised and try to enjoy the ride :-)

Don't worry so much. I am a 32 year old male, Ivy League educated, an added Master's on top, good job and tall, dark and handsome by most accounts. I try everyday to be a better man than the day before. And I have never been married either. There is someone out there for all of us. I personally find the confident, happy single woman in her thirties to be the sexiest thing in the world. So smile and project your inner-happiness, even if it is just a seed at the moment.

Yeah, I'm 35 and still haven't quite made it to the alter just yet. Not rushing. I didn't meet my partner until I was 32. Going younger and not being too averse to dating in the nerd community was helpful. I don't know about religious and Christian and all that. Can't help you there. I can tell you to expand your horizons a tad and relax. Don't be in a rush. Trust me, just getting married to get married to the first schlub you find who's willing would be a bad mistake. More than once I've let out a sigh of relief after breaking up with someone knowing I dodged a serious bullet. I dunno what to tell you about the kid thing either, except that having kids with the wrong guy would be more awful on top of marrying the wrong guy. I just know there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you just because you're 33 and never married. It's better to stay single and make sure you find the right person. HTH. :flowerforyou:

EMBRACE IT!!!!!!!!!

^^ What she said! If your sole goal in life is to get married then perhaps you need to expand you pool of acceptable candidates. I am 29 and have been in several long term live-in type relationships at this point in my life, and I am extremely happy I have never been married.

Each one of those 3+ year relationships ( I have had 3 of them) could have become marriages, and based on the fact that they are all in the past - each one would have been a bad decision.

33 is not old - and there is probably nothing wrong with you. You just need to meet new people and open up your mind to accept new ideas. I have met many great potential matches who completely discount me for not sharing their views on religion (despite the fact that I am more morally sound than many "religious" people), politics, or other things.

Get out there - and do what you enjoy doing, learn to be independent and do things alone, only once you do this can you meet someone who is truly right for you.

I know it seems pretty hopeless, but just be optimistic. One day you will find somebody! Just live life for you now; do what you want to do and go where you want to go. If you do that, you'll find the right one:)

I'm 32 and single, never married, never engaged, and no kids. I also always go for the musician/artist types or men with severe emotional problems who need to be rescued/fixed. I have had numerous long-term relationships...I'm a serial monogamist who unfortunately has settled for the wrong men in the past. I've been single for 9 months now--I was with my last boyfriend for almost 4 years. He lived with me for a year, paid me $250 a month to stay there (which didn't even cover half my rent) and hasn't had a job in two years. I think--I KNOW--I deserve better and have so much love to give, which is why I kicked his @ss to the curb (was also tired of him not speaking to me with respect and never wanting to do anything except play video games).

The fact that I'm single doesn't bother me as much as it seems to bother everyone else around me, like my parents and extended family. I did think that I would be married by this point in my life, and the fact that I may never have the big wedding of my dreams in the beautiful white gown does make me very, very sad, but I don't ever want to have children so it's not like my clock is ticking in that regard. I would like someone to share my life with though. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, I think I just took longer than some to grow up--I had a GREAT time in my 20s. I really love having the freedom that I do, and I know so many of my married friends envy me for that. Even so, I hope that someday (soonish) I meet Mr. Right.

I would like to add that one of the benefits of waiting until you're in your 30s to find true love is you know yourself better and what you are/are not able to put up with or negotiate on. I'm a much stronger, more confident, stable person than I was 10 or even 5 years ago.

I completely gave up on men when I was 24. I hated so many masculine traits and how they seemed to objectify women. I dated women only for 14 years and fell in love a couple of times. One night I went out on the town with an on and off again girlfriend and in walked the man who changed my life. It was love at first site and I was 38. We have a near perfect relationship and he very rarely displays the traits I disliked so much in the men I dated in my youth. We have had 2 sons and although our second born son passed we are still hoping for 1 more. It's never too late.

I was single till 29yo. And if it wasn't for the fact that I met my husband through a dating service, I'd probably STILL be single.

STOP LOOKING.

meaning, ITS NOT A HUNT!!!

you're not going to find the person you're going to marry if you have to go out of your way or particate in events/situations that are not normal or condusive to YOUR LIFE.

just do what you do. only when it happens naturally will it be someone who may be a good match for you.

I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends.

Try dating people who do make good boyfriends.

Doesn't NOT...laughing at my own typos.

If you want a mfp friend that isn't afraid to laugh at herself feel free to add me. I'm back on this site and ready to embrace it fully.

I date the musican types, and they have proven to not make good boyfriends.

Try dating people who do make good boyfriends.

Obvious answer is good answer.

No one told me that being single at 33 was depressing. I'm 32 and have been single for a long time now. I've used that time to work on myself - mentally, physically, professionally, and emotionally. I love my life and see nothing sad about that.

Besides, my dog at least stops snoring when I throw a sock at her. I can't say that for every girl I've ever met.

Anytime you're feeling down about being single, go to this website. You will instantly feel better.

http://myfriendsaremarried.tumblr.com/

Umm... hello my favorite website of the day.

my husband and i met in a bar. he gave his seat up.

before we knew it, we were hitting it off, we closed the bar down together, had our "first date" 2 days later, became totally inseparable, and then my father died very suddenly only 2 months after we met. he flew with me across country to the funeral and was there for me the best way possible. in 8 months, we were engaged.

it'll happen when you're in an environment where you're not hiding who you are or trying to be someone you're not or playing to a specific agenda. sure, you need to get out and do what you do and have a life because the more exposure you have, the more chances you have of meeting people, but don't "stage" anything and don't make anything into a "mission". you need to be comfortable and confident with your life as it is NOW or else you're just going to turn people off.

have FUN, life your LIFE, be REAL with YOURSELF, and it'll happen when its supposed to.