Online relationships

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I had an online relationship... we met in a MMORPG. After some months we met in personality and it clicked.
But it was impossible to live together. None of us could move.
So we had a long distance relationship for the last five years. We met every six weeks.
And honestly, that wasn't enough. Or perhaps our love wasn't strong enough... who knows...
He met a girl, living close to him, and abruptly he broke up with me.
And I know for sure... my next relationship will be with someone who lives very close to me. VERY close.

(Or with someone, who loves me that much and whom I love so much, that the distance doesn't matter... you never know... )

But in your case... just chatting... no skype, no phone, not met in personality, no moving option... I would say: enjoy it, but I don't think that there is any real future for you.

LOL @ terrorist remark. Anyways buddy, I bet you're seriously regretting that conviction now huh? I met a girl online from San Diego, when I lived in the Bay Area. Eventually I moved down to LA for school and to be closer to her. Together 3 years, then split. Do I feel stupid? You bet I do. But I wouldn't say I totally regretted it. Eat local, eat fresh. That's all I can say. Forget her and move on.

Never say never.

My aunt's friend who lives out west in the US met someone online who was from the UK. They talked and talked and talked. He flew over here to visit, she flew over there and I believe they will be getting married sometime soon after he retires from the force. He's a London police officer.




Check out your options and go from there. Wish you the best!

It depends on what sort of relationship you want. I met my partner on Facebook and we've been together for almost 5 years. I've made a large number of friends online, some I've met, some I haven't, and some I never will, but I care about them just as much as I do my 'real life' friends. I couldn't manage a romantic relationship purely online and with phone calls though.

It depends on the type of online relationship. Unfortunately, the type you were in I do not believe it could every work. it is simply too unrealistic. You live on different continents. And not for nothing, you dont really know a person until you get to spend physical time with them. And by physical, I do not mean sexual, I mean time getting to actual interact and experience things together.

As far as meeting someone online then meeting them in person at some point and continuing from there, yes, I do believe those can work. I met my boyfriend on Match.com. We talked through email for 2 weeks, then spoke on the phone for 3 weeks, then we went on our first date. We have been together for almost 3 years now. My friend met his boyfriend online and they were together 6 years.

Never seeing each other in person, not truly being part of each others lives, even if one of you relocates for the other, is a big risk, and, personally, something I dont see working.

If you are going to meet online, try to make it more attainable by actually living in commuting distance from each other. Otherwise there is just this fantasy built up around a person you have never met.

Let me see if I've got this straight.

OP, you've been on MFP for about three months. In that time you fell in "love" with someone on a different continent and neither of you are able to move.

Wait, what?

Let it go. There are plenty of women in your part of the world. Surely you can find one with whom it would work.

Sounds like some serious intimacy issues from one or both of you. You don't actively pursue a "relationship" with someone you will never live near. . . that's just . . . I have no words.

They work great. I can't knock her up and she doesn't have to wash my underwear

Anything can happen and difficult situations can work. But...I think the key to a long distance relationship involves someone (or both) people moving at some point.

If you can't ever move to be close to one another, that sounds like a pretty big deal breaker.

If there's a possibility, then great. Go for it. But please, please meet each other first. Skipping that step is nothing but pure folly.

Do what feels right and don't sweat the folk that nay say it. Its your life and everyone deserves a shot at happiness. Be bold and dont't regret anything.

I've been single for so many years and haven't really had any confidence to ask someone out. Recently I found someone on here who lit up my world, and we fell so in love. She's in the USA and I'm in the UK. We talked every day for up to 4 hours! Although we knew it was unlikely we'd ever meet it was great. Now it looks like it's going to end as she wants more than I can give her, as I can't move to the US and she can't move over here. Do people think that online/phone relationships can work?

I don't think that kind of relationship, beyond friendship, is realistic. If you can eventually get together, then of course. But to go on like that endlessly just wouldn't work for me, no matter how great the person was.

I've been single for so many years and haven't really had any confidence to ask someone out. Recently I found someone on here who lit up my world, and we fell so in love. She's in the USA and I'm in the UK. We talked every day for up to 4 hours! Although we knew it was unlikely we'd ever meet it was great. Now it looks like it's going to end as she wants more than I can give her, as I can't move to the US and she can't move over here. Do people think that online/phone relationships can work?

Eventually you two are going to have to meet each other in my opinion. The phone conversations and the writing are going to need to be taken to the next level... You will want more, the comfort of each other...

I've been single for so many years and haven't really had any confidence to ask someone out. Recently I found someone on here who lit up my world, and we fell so in love. She's in the USA and I'm in the UK. We talked every day for up to 4 hours! Although we knew it was unlikely we'd ever meet it was great. Now it looks like it's going to end as she wants more than I can give her, as I can't move to the US and she can't move over here. Do people think that online/phone relationships can work?

I do believe you can fall in love with someone for who they are personality wise, and that is what we should fall for.The physical is fleeting.

THIS!!! I'm currently falling for someone i've met online- I find it's a VERY good way to get to know someone completely....now, will it go anywhere? probably not....but it's NEVER a bad thing to connect with someone on a deeper level than anyone you've ever known... As far as a relationship STRICTLY online and never meeting- NO.

I've been in a relationship with a guy from Canada, today marks the 9 months of dating for us.

I think it works well... .it's just like any other way of meeting someone... .but it's more emotions, no physical. If you can deal with that for a time being... .and you're dedicated, go for it. Don't give up. Obviously, you will get many different answers on here... it depends on the person, how much they want to put into it... You're not the same person as the people commenting "it didn't work out, it sucks, whatever"

COMMUNICATION IS VITAL. If you can't even make time for a skype call/webcam.... you aren't willing enough!

I suggest you make sure your making time. PLAN a meet later, even if it's 1-2 years away. I haven't met my BF yet face to face (only video calls) .... But we do plan on it. If we had issues and couldn't meet, we wouldn't work on in the long run.
You have to MAKE it work.

Sounds like a lot of issues though, better come up with a plan. She or you have to travel.

This story is so sweet!!!! Not to be to cheesy but if you are truly in love with this women you will find a way to be together! It's like a little fairy tale!! Good luck to you!