Personality or Looks

PeteyogiW
PeteyogiW Posts: 60
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In a real world the best in both would be so good, but which is the most important to you, in yourself and your partner. I like my gf's personality and looks, she wants to lose weight and I can see that and when she reaches her goal she will look even better, but it wont change how I feel for her as I cant feel much more than I already do. I think she feels likewise. What about you people out there, be honest!
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  • confettibetti
    confettibetti Posts: 405 Member
    Personality comes first! :)
  • belladonna786
    belladonna786 Posts: 1,165 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you
  • juliecat1
    juliecat1 Posts: 3,450 Member
    Personality!
  • m13sam2012
    m13sam2012 Posts: 464
    personality for me too!
  • Indygirl_81
    Indygirl_81 Posts: 142 Member
    Personality- definitely!
    I have had great prior relationships in people I wasn't originally attracted to... attraction can come with getting to know someone.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    Personality, specifically a sense of humor similar to mine.
  • Kelley528
    Kelley528 Posts: 319 Member
    I need a combo of both. Personality is a big part of it but personailty alone is not enough to make me want someone. You need a level of physical attraction. That is the difference between friends and partners.

    My boyfriend looked good to me when we met. When I got to know him he became the most beautiful person I have ever seen. At first glance people might be like what the hell is this girl looking at. But thats the point, its the combination of both that makes me so drawn to him.
  • gusnjay
    gusnjay Posts: 26 Member
    I agree with Belledonna. Looks grab your eye personality grabs your heart.
  • titanium96
    titanium96 Posts: 153 Member
    Looks first to get the attention, then personality. I dont care how good looking someone is, the personaility has to be there!!! BUT!!! if they are attractive in the first place, nothing else will follow.
  • StephieF87
    StephieF87 Posts: 60 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you
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    agreed!!
  • djsupreme6
    djsupreme6 Posts: 1,210 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

    This right here
  • coliema
    coliema Posts: 7,646 Member
    Definitely personality.
  • fit_librarian
    fit_librarian Posts: 242 Member
    Personality.
  • Sick_Beard
    Sick_Beard Posts: 407 Member
    Looks for the initial attraction and then personality for the long run
  • PeteyogiW
    PeteyogiW Posts: 60
    Personality comes first! :)
    I think I agree, her personality stuck with me the first time I spoke to her. Thats not saying she's not attractive!!!
  • mellabyte
    mellabyte Posts: 193 Member
    Definitely personality!

    Sure, if you're hawt, that's great. But if you have the personality of a fruit fly, I immediately lose interest. ^_^
  • TexasTroy
    TexasTroy Posts: 477 Member
    Last time I checked, personality didnt catch many eyes across a crowded and noisy room. Unfortunately for some of us, attraction is the first key factor ( think peacock, here ). However, like most have said, personality is what keeps you interested well beyond looks.
  • Miss_dannii
    Miss_dannii Posts: 1,351 Member
    I'd be attracted by looks first obviously but personality is definitely more important...
  • PeteyogiW
    PeteyogiW Posts: 60
    I dont agree, her personality stuck with me the first time I spoke to her. Thats not saying she's not attractive!!!
  • Cassaaaaandra
    Cassaaaaandra Posts: 184 Member
    I'd spend more time fashioning my character than my looks. I won't lie: I'm vain. And I plan on enjoying my youth and I work really hard to age gracefully. That said, youth fades no matter what you do! Beauty comprises looks and personality.

    It may seem a little hokey but if i learned anything from watching the Golden Girls it is this:

    “When you’re young & beautiful, it’s an accident of nature. But when you’re beautiful older, you’ve earned it—THAT you’ve created yourself.”

    Miles to Rose (season 7 of “The Golden Girls”)
  • Aquarian
    Aquarian Posts: 1,094 Member
    A good appearance is attractive, yes. But if I don't like the personality, we can never stay friends or partners. Personality trumps.
  • SeaChele77
    SeaChele77 Posts: 1,103 Member
    Looks reel me in and personality keeps me!

    I may be shallow, but looks/chemistry is important to me, but the personality will last much longer!!
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    I think compatibility is what's most important, you could be drop dead gorgeous or the sweetest girl in the world but if we don't click its not going to work
  • andie2013
    andie2013 Posts: 101
    Yeah, most people ask for personality but s/he won't even give you a chance to show your personality, if you don't have good looks...sooo shallow.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    If you are truly attracted to somebodys personality, you will find them the most gorgeous creature ever.
  • HauteP1nk
    HauteP1nk Posts: 2,139 Member
    Obviously personailty is essential...but you need a good mix for a strong physical and mental attraction.

    Luckily beauty is in the eye of the beholder....
  • crazy_ninja
    crazy_ninja Posts: 387 Member
    Looks....I´ve personality for both of us.....:laugh: :drinker:
  • SanyamKaushik
    SanyamKaushik Posts: 215 Member
    Personality....
    With looks, you can get bored easily with time. (on a different note) Imagine if you are living at the worlds most picturesque place. You will love it initially but it would not entice you for ever.
  • jsj024519
    jsj024519 Posts: 400 Member
    looks have to attract you, personality keeps you

    CHA-CHING! This is the winner.
  • rjcelmer
    rjcelmer Posts: 431 Member
    It's great to see so many 'personality' replies because I'm one ugly mother!

    I assume my wife would also say 'personality'. :)

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