Ladies, How do I show my wife I love her?

pj12string
pj12string Posts: 128 Member
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The bible states that men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. This is a tremendous calling for all men who claim to be Christian husbands. Without disclosing specifics, let me just say that, I try my best but sometimes I neglect my wife and fall short of her expectations. So instead of me guessing and falling short, what can I do to continuously affirm to my wife that I love her? What would you want most from your husband? Any suggestions?
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  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    To listen.
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    Eat the sammiches.
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    1. Do the dishes
    2. Put the seat down and do not pee on it.
    3. Agree, does not matter if you don't.
    4. See attractive woman on street, make critism about her to the wife.

    Thats a starter program
  • Darkskinned88
    Darkskinned88 Posts: 1,177 Member
    1. cut a hole in a box...
  • spade117
    spade117 Posts: 2,466 Member
    1. cut a hole in a box...

    I lol'd.
  • needernt
    needernt Posts: 675 Member
    women loves going on trip
  • Litlbeast
    Litlbeast Posts: 340 Member
    This sounds sexist, and really old-fashioned, and I don't mean it to be either way (I'm a diehard tomboy myself). But over the years I've found that when the guy I love DOES things for me, i.e. laundry, dinner, tucks the kids in, cleans the bathroom... it takes such a huge load of stress off me and then I actually feel calm enough to be loving towards him. We're all so burdened by the daily tasks of life, and if someone helps lift those burdens a bit it's amazing how we open up to each other.

    Also, compliments are so important. Women know that you find us pretty, sexy, sweet, etc. But we need to hear it sometimes.

    And finally, for the ladies - both of the above things are true for men too - they need help w/ stuff to ease stress and they need compliments too. Just let 'em get those jars open and kill the spiders, so they don't feel less-than-manly. ;)
  • MySunshine76
    MySunshine76 Posts: 389
    I have this problem with my husband. I can tell you what would make me happier:

    The looks that say "I need you" or "I want you"
    To have a compliment everyday, like, you look beautiful, dinner was amazing, you are a great wife, things like that.
    The occasional sweet note, thinking of you, I love you, can't wait to hold you when I get home, miss you already, etc.
    Touching, not necessarily sexual, but, caressing, like when she's cooking and you just walk up and put your arms around her, or the occasional hand hold, hand on the knee, etc.
    I kiss and an I love you everyday, and not at certain times, randomly, just out of no where, then it doesn't seem like habit.
    Gifts are pretty low on my list, but the occasional flower is nice.

    Hope this helps.
  • HSingMomto7Kids
    HSingMomto7Kids Posts: 345 Member
    Communicate and to bring her out for date nights!! Show her that she is special. Just give her a hug or a kiss for no reason at all. Be romantic!! Just love her!!! I could go on for paragraphs and paragraphs but I will not.
  • oregonzoo
    oregonzoo Posts: 4,251 Member
    Tell her she's beautiful and mean it
    Hold her hand
    Kiss her


    Essentially I think it boils down to acting like you met when you first fell in love. Make sure to always try and make her feel that special. Sometimes after years women fear we aren't as special and we've just become comfortable like that pair of holey underpants you won't throw out.
  • jerbear1962
    jerbear1962 Posts: 1,157 Member
    I do my best to
    1.) Say I Love You every day
    2.) Rub her shoulders and back as often as possible.
    3.) Leave her little notes in her appointment book
    4.) Listen to what she has to say
    5.) Do the dishes, laundry and anything else to help lighten her load.
    6.) Buy her little treasures when I shop.
  • alicia0416
    alicia0416 Posts: 274 Member
    Ok.. I'm gonna be serious for a sec... I've been married for ten years. I love my husband more than I could ever say, but he isn't a touchy feely kinda guy.

    I would love it if my hubby would....

    Hold my hand, kiss me in public (NOT MAKE OUT WITH ME) lol just kiss, tell me I'm pretty or whatever..

    Stuff like that would be awesome. He tries but he just doesn't really get it.. Not that it matters, I'm his until I die but COME ON MAN lol
  • Superchikanthem
    Superchikanthem Posts: 362 Member
    Listen the Marc driscolls real marriage series. It's 11 messages on the topic of...well marriage for both the man and the woman. There's also the book if your more of a reader. It's all bible basied and they have lived through what they are teaching.

    There is a free app that you can download to. Mars hill church
  • escloflowneCHANGED
    escloflowneCHANGED Posts: 3,038 Member
    1. cut a hole in a box...

    Damn...beat me to it!
  • peachhunting
    peachhunting Posts: 59 Member
    Good luck.
  • Cooriander
    Cooriander Posts: 2,848 Member
    Make her breakfast (in bed), let her sleep longer one day a week :flowerforyou:, those made me :heart: my husband more. Although, a cup of starbucks in just fine. :blushing:
  • Yanicka1
    Yanicka1 Posts: 4,564 Member
    Buy the book 5 love languages

    http://www.5lovelanguages.com/

    Love her the way she need to be loved. There is no one size fit all here. For me Acts of Service is my love language.........for my bf is it physical touch. If I love him the way I want to be loved....it won't work because we do not speak the same love language.
  • MrsHarris6
    MrsHarris6 Posts: 46 Member
    I'd say communicate. Be consistent. Even when you're at your weakest moment (maybe tired from work or whatever your situation is), tell her how you feel (you love her, she's beautiful, or whatever). Think of the small things that used to make her happy and get back to that (rubbing her back/feet, doing dinner, helping with laundry/kids) or whatever. Try not to make it seem like this is a JOB, it should be natural.
  • Cooriander
    Cooriander Posts: 2,848 Member
    Make her breakfast (in bed), let her sleep longer one day a week :flowerforyou:, those made me :heart: my husband more. Although, a cup of starbucks in just fine. :blushing:


    .. and with 6 kiddos, she will especially appreciate sleeping late one day.
  • HiKaren
    HiKaren Posts: 1,306 Member
    Yes... Woman do love to go on trip.... With romance included.. NO Dishes.... Just relaxing and being catered to. At least once in a while. If you don't do this once a year.. You should consider it. Most woman work 365 and it gets a bit tiring.

    Another thing is... you should make everyday Valentines Day. Not just Feb 14th. Don't say it, but show it 365,
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    Instead of continually falling short of what she needs//expects (like you stated was the reason for asking)- don't ask us. Ask her. every woman is different. For example- I do NOT like hours of conversation or gifts and trinkets or going to dinnner and a movie--- but many wives do. I do like chocolates though, like most.
    B-)
  • erinfog
    erinfog Posts: 95 Member
    - tell her she looks beautiful
    - surprise her with her favorite flowers
    - get her a book or magazine subscription about something you know she is interested in
    - pick up small things that you know she would like

    for me, it's all about being thoughtful.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
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    1. cut a hole in a box
    2. put your junk in that box
    3. make her open the box

    or show her "the helicopter" \m/
  • sbedzyk
    sbedzyk Posts: 21 Member
    Like the church, pray for her, support her, spend time with her, listen to her, think about her and help her. It's the small things. I would say that most wives like to have their husband fully engaged, instead of just doing 1 or 2 things to "satisfy" their husbandly duty and then disengage.
  • Im_NotPerfect
    Im_NotPerfect Posts: 2,181 Member
    Listen. Pay attention to her. If she gets a new hair cut, compliment her. Tell her she looks beautiful. Every morning my husband sends me an e-mail starting with "Hello Gorgeous". You don't have to do something HUGE (unless she's that kind of person). All the little things count. Stuff like my husband buying me my favorite chocolate milk on my birthday. Or he remembers what kind of flowers we had in our wedding, so he sends those to me every year on our anniversary.
  • trud72
    trud72 Posts: 1,912 Member
    ROMANCE ! :bigsmile:

    and talking to her,listening to her,complementing her,lots of cuddles,you and her time,you her a bottle of wine,cuddled on a rug in front of a fire or a hot bath together and a lovley massage after(in all the right places):blushing: lol
  • elizabethis
    elizabethis Posts: 155 Member
    My husband makes me feel loved, and yes, even adored almost every day. One of the main ways is that he writes me sweet little notes all the time (at least 3-4 days/wk) and leaves them in various places throughout the house - or on the seat of the car where they will surprise me. He is a very "manly" man, but has such a tender side - will tear up in movies, when listening to words of certain songs, when expressing his love for me and our family. In short, he shares ALL of himself with me and does not fear showing his emotions. All of this touches me to the core and I just love him more and more as the years go by. (We've been married for 28). So great of you to ask this question and to want to show your wife more love!
  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
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  • oneworkoutatatime
    oneworkoutatatime Posts: 312
    1. Do the dishes
    2. Put the seat down and do not pee on it.
    3. Agree, does not matter if you don't.
    4. See attractive woman on street, make critism about her to the wife.

    Thats a starter program


    and if ytou have kids make sure you help out a lot and take them off her hands for a while
  • kpnive
    kpnive Posts: 64 Member
    1. cut a hole in a box...

    nice

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