Ladies, How do I show my wife I love her?

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  • Philllbis
    Philllbis Posts: 801 Member
    Lap dance?

    Porn?

    Get her a pet?

    No really you should just ask her what makes her happy.. then decide from there which kind of porn is best..!

    Good Luck

    Lap dance and porn together while eating bacon!
  • Stefanny91
    Stefanny91 Posts: 223 Member
    Surprise her, do something she wouldn't expect you to do
  • tigerlinly
    tigerlinly Posts: 219 Member
    with me i like a man who will send flowers for no reason call in the middle of the day just to see how i'm doing or if he can get somethign for store for me on the way home. date night ever once in awhile (can be as simple as a movie or state fair nothing fancy), do the housework becuase she does it all the time.say u will take the kids and let her have the day to just take a nap or go to a spa or something by herself that she really wants to do that is just a few things i would wish my husband did if i were married
  • yngone
    yngone Posts: 52 Member
    Pick her some wildflowers for no reason.....:flowerforyou: WEEKLY
  • everyone has their own language of love. Mine happens to be words of affirmation, therefore telling me he loves, adores, respects etc. me works for me. Finding out hers may help....
  • pj12string
    pj12string Posts: 128 Member
    A compliment now and then, surprise gestures like cooking dinner sometimes, inexpensive gifts (it used to be chocolate but the last one was a bag of grapes) and a cuddle when I'm not expecting it. Show an interest in her hobbies, listen when she talks to you, and I mean listen like you are expecting a test afterwards. Go for a walk together, spend quality time together. Do I sound really high maintenance now?

    "listen like you are expecting a test afterwards." - Oh boy; do I have to? :wink:
  • honeysprinkles
    honeysprinkles Posts: 1,757 Member
    I feel like you'd be better off asking her than a website. You can't be told how to show love. You can do nice things for someone, listen to them, etc. but none of that equals love. I don't think it's something that's really easy to explain, especially as a generality.
  • knwitall
    knwitall Posts: 420 Member
    Listen to her
    Remember it's the little things that means the most
    Be attentive to her needs
    Think of her feelings
    Tell her you love her often. Tell it to her eyes with passion in yours.
    Give her attention. When she walks by give her a lil pop or reach out and touch her somehow. make her feel like you have to touch on her and you can't get enough.
  • wow29
    wow29 Posts: 283 Member
    The bible states that men are to love their wives as Christ loved the church. This is a tremendous calling for all men who claim to be Christian husbands. Without disclosing specifics, let me just say that, I try my best but sometimes I neglect my wife and fall short of her expectations. So instead of me guessing and falling short, what can I do to continuously affirm to my wife that I love her? What would you want most from your husband? Any suggestions?
    Attention and consideration are the key!
  • yngone
    yngone Posts: 52 Member
    Why are you asking us? There's like a ton of people on here with a ton of different views and feelings on how you should treat/love your wife. If youre a Christian then go to the Bible for your answers don't ask the internet.

    GOOD ONE
  • janetay01
    janetay01 Posts: 1,299 Member
    Instead of continually falling short of what she needs//expects (like you stated was the reason for asking)- don't ask us. Ask her. every woman is different. For example- I do NOT like hours of conversation or gifts and trinkets or going to dinnner and a movie--- but many wives do. I do like chocolates though, like most.
    B-)

    This 100%. We are all different! Talk to her - you need to know what makes is important to her - not us! Good luck.
  • perfectingpatti
    perfectingpatti Posts: 1,037 Member
    Why are you asking us? There's like a ton of people on here with a ton of different views and feelings on how you should treat/love your wife. If youre a Christian then go to the Bible for your answers don't ask the internet.

    To "chit-chat" about it???? You're a teenager (younger than 18, I suspect). Instead of being rude to the OP, why don't you read all the suggestions for future use?

    OP- I love when my husband tells me he loves me in different ways instead of the same ol' "I love you". For example, he'll say, "You are the love of my life", "I've never been happier", "I'm in love with you, beautiful". Sometimes the different ways he tells me really make me feel it.
  • fcp1234
    fcp1234 Posts: 1,098 Member
    Ok, Im gonna break it down for you in two steps:

    Step 1. DO NOT, I repeat, Do not ask other women how to show her that you love her. Only she knows.

    Step 2. Do not ask other women how to show her..oh wait...did I already say that..Guess I did.
  • pascale485
    pascale485 Posts: 173 Member
    tell her you love her, before she tells it to you.

    when she asks you for a choice, take the one you know she wants, to make her happy!

    that's how my fiancé tells me everyday! :)
  • Maddalen101
    Maddalen101 Posts: 307 Member
    quite frankly, if you know you're neglecting her, your marriage has been in trouble for a long time.
  • ILiftHeavyAcrylics
    ILiftHeavyAcrylics Posts: 27,732 Member
    There's no universal answer. Figure out what your wife needs. It's going to be different depending on the woman. Besides it'll be worth something to her that you cared enough to ask her.
  • garnetsms
    garnetsms Posts: 10,018 Member
    Depends what her "love language" is..

    some women like words of affirmation "you are beautiful..I love you, etc.
    some like acts of service like making dinner or unloading the dishwasher
    some like "gifts".......... just litle thougtful gifts
    some like physical affection..an unexpected hug, etc.

    there's one more..I can't remember it...however, CAUTION with any advice I give..I'm divorced!

    the 5th one is quality time...

    And I totally agree. The language is different for everyone, both men and women. Find what works for her and continue doing that which makes her happy.

    I also advise watching or reading Fireproof. Good luck to you!!
  • jyow01
    jyow01 Posts: 123 Member
    I love it when my husband sends me a text out of no where that just says that he loves me. I really love it when he lets me sleep in and takes care of our youngest.
  • mikeyboy
    mikeyboy Posts: 1,057 Member
    Do the things that she feels says "I love you". If you don't know what those are.....talk!
  • mn08
    mn08 Posts: 1
    Read the book: The 5 Love Languages, and ask her to read it with you. Figure out what her love languages are, and try to do them as often as possible.
  • IamOnMywayNow
    IamOnMywayNow Posts: 470 Member
    1. Dont be selfish- always consider her feeling/needs before yourself <
    #1 thing both people need to do in a marriage.

    2. Be observant! If she is in the kitchen cleaning up, help her. If the baby needs changing do it without her having to ask. If the garbage is piling up take it out without her having to ask. If she has to tell you EVERYTHING it is like taking care of another child and trust me no one wants to sleep with someone that asks like a child.(well some people do but they are sick freaks) :)

    3. Give her compliments- tell her she is a wonderful wife and mother and that she is beautiful. Make her feel appreciated!

    4. Eat her food- even if you dont particularly like it. Seriously though, she is not feeding you dog poop so put it in your mouth chew, swallow and tell her it is good. (I made my husband breakfast in bed one day, made him pumpkin muffins with coffee. They were not sweet enough for his liking and he made a face. I wanted to punch him! I made him breakfast out of the kindness of my heart and the prick could not eat it and pretend to like it. Needless to say I will NEVER make him breakfast in bed again! But he eats anything else I cook because I am a great cook.)

    5. Repeating 1-4 over and over again= One happy wife:)
  • alisiaendris
    alisiaendris Posts: 213 Member
    What I love the most is when my husband and I get home and I ask what he would like for dinner and he responds "Whatever you would like me to make you." He does not do this all the time, but it is such a load off to know there is one less thing on my mile long list of things to do after a full work day.
  • iluvprettyshoes
    iluvprettyshoes Posts: 605 Member
    Be romantic - had a guy tell me the other day he'd love to take me to the harbor and just hold my hand as we watched the boats come in together - that nearly did me in!!! So so sweet!!

    Pursue her like you did when you were dating her, show her once in awhile that you still want to impress her - if you don't she will start to wonder what she did to make things change

    Call her just because you want to hear her voice - and tell her that. Say- I missed you and I just wanted to hear your voice
    Then immediately call her again and say you already missed her again :)

    Show her your post :) You are trying hard for her, it's obvious! Very brave of you to put that here on a forum, it will make her swoon!

    Things like that make us women feel wanted, loved and cherished
    It doesn't take much, just some creativity and thought and genuine desire to impress her
    Best of luck to you!
  • pj12string
    pj12string Posts: 128 Member
    Sex and lots of it! - No really, women do think about it just as much as men... honestly!!

    Again, I have 6 children, I have to be careful with this one.
  • fleur_de_lis19
    fleur_de_lis19 Posts: 926 Member
    I'm easy, but i think that's why my husband married me. All I want is to help with house work, every once in a while (thats a fur sure "get laid tonight " card), compliment me on my beauty, And give me a really really good f**k at least once a week. I'm set.. that and some peace n quite for at least 5-10 mins a day (with a beer or glass of wine please). He's the best :happy:
  • banshishi
    banshishi Posts: 197
    How can anyone answer this..you are married to her you should know her well enough to know how to make her feel loved.

    Bog standard answer is...pay her attention, thats all most women seem to want, attention and to still feel like the love of their mans life. Its about time, making someone feel that your time is exclusively theirs, be that 10 mins or 10hrs,
  • 3foldchord
    3foldchord Posts: 2,918 Member
    everyone has their own language of love. Mine happens to be words of affirmation, therefore telling me he loves, adores, respects etc. me works for me. Finding out hers may help....

    DITTO!!!

    "words" ae the FARTHEST from my 'love language', LOL.

    If you haven't yet, read the book " Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman... once you know her love languagee then you can figure out the best way to show her love.

    **( Of course, my husband and I read it tgether, I found what fits him to a "T", but he strongly denies that is his love language...
    I told him mine and he still thinks I am 'words' and 'works'- which i am not, but he seems to be, yet denies it...LOL. ::sigh:: ) **
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  • Leannek74
    Leannek74 Posts: 374 Member
    Hugs, and tell her 'I love you' randomly everyday.

    My husband and my lives are hectic and we dont have the chance to be romantic with each other as often as we use to before our kids arrived... but I know he loves me dearly... because he never forgets to tell me a couple of times evry day!
  • namluv
    namluv Posts: 194 Member
    Get the book "the 5 love languages" figure out hers and go with it.