are all men the same?!!
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well thats bull****
wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him
It can seem that way, yes0 -
Physically speaking its pretty easy to say all men are the same... We come with the same parts...
But in this case... No, not all men are the same. Sounds like he's not ready to grow up and be a man or a father. You could wait for him to come around but that may never happen.
Sit down have a solid talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel...
After its all in the open, he will either step up, or you will have the freedom to do whats best for you and the kids.0 -
i dont are for him going out with his friends but when he does this every night all damn night it gets old..So when exactly is he allowed to go out with his friends? Should this be scheduled on days that you don't want him around?0 -
thank youPhysically speaking its pretty easy to say all men are the same... We come with the same parts...
But in this case... No, not all men are the same. Sounds like he's not ready to grow up and be a man or a father. You could wait for him to come around but that may never happen.
Sit down have a solid talk with him, tell him exactly how you feel...
After its all in the open, he will either step up, or you will have the freedom to do whats best for you and the kids.0 -
let me guess all the guys reading this think im a nagging b***h now right?0
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Every night is not acceptable, a couple times a week isn't the end of the world.0
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i agreeEvery night is not acceptable, a couple times a week isn't the end of the world.0 -
Clearly it's about balance. He's only home on weekends... he has lots of relationships to maintain and while I'm sure you are important to him his friends are too.
Perhaps he shouldn't be trying to do it all every weekend... prehaps he is spreading himself too thin. Try to negotiate with him. See if he will agree to 'family only' weekends reserved for you and the kids. But then allow him to have weekends where he is free to see his friends.0 -
that is a very good idea, thank youClearly it's about balance. He's only home on weekends... he has lots of relationships to maintain and while I'm sure you are important to him his friends are too.
Perhaps he shouldn't be trying to do it all every weekend... prehaps he is spreading himself too thin. Try to negotiate with him. See if he will agree to 'family only' weekends reserved for you and the kids. But then allow him to have weekends where he is free to see his friends.0 -
So when he does decide to stay home with the you and the family, how is it? Is it enjoyable or a complete pain in the butt for him?0
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You have the right to feel the way you do. I agree that you should talk to him. You both need time to do what you enjoy without always depending on the other person. If he goes out with friends one night, he should be will to take care of the kids and let you get out of the house with girlfriends. Perhaps you want to go out during the afternoon and he could watch the football/sports while you are out with friends.
Don't think that you can change him once you are married. He is probably tuning you out when you are explaining your feelings. So pick a quiet time to sit down and discuss it. I can feel your frustration in your post.
Good luck.0 -
well thats bull****
wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him
It can seem that way, yes
You're right, it is.
How's your way working out??0 -
for the most part its enjoyable but could be betterSo when he does decide to stay home with the you and the family, how is it? Is it enjoyable or a complete pain in the butt for him?0 -
thank youYou have the right to feel the way you do. I agree that you should talk to him. You both need time to do what you enjoy without always depending on the other person. If he goes out with friends one night, he should be will to take care of the kids and let you get out of the house with girlfriends. Perhaps you want to go out during the afternoon and he could watch the football/sports while you are out with friends.
Don't think that you can change him once you are married. He is probably tuning you out when you are explaining your feelings. So pick a quiet time to sit down and discuss it. I can feel your frustration in your post.
Good luck.0 -
well apparently not so well.. all i want is to sped time with my man without having to compete with his friends.. is that so much to ask
well thats bull****
wow so now wanting to spend time with your man is now considered nagging?!Engaged and already nagging, no wonder he wants to go out with his friends.
You should encourage him. That'll mind trip him
It can seem that way, yes
You're right, it is.
How's your way working out??0 -
You see my white hair. I can tell you men never change. What you see is what you get.0
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thats not goodYou see my white hair. I can tell you men never change. What you see is what you get.0 -
Go on a vacation, plan one dinner date every couple of weeks, and relax!0
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easier said than doneGo on a vacation, plan one dinner date every couple of weeks, and relax!0 -
thanks for all the advice guys i appreciate it0
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