Is it considered cheating?

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

Would that excuse fly if you told your girlfriend you made out with a girl on a drunken outing, but it was only a mistake?

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

Would that excuse fly if you told your girlfriend you made out with a girl on a drunken outing, but it was only a mistake?

I don't drink. Nice try, though

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

So if she made out with a guy it would be ok...?

Nope. I never said it was ok for her to make out with a girl, either. It's not. I'm simply saying that people sometimes may have a momentary lapse of judgment; things happen. A kiss is totally forgivable, especially when there's no feelings involved.

If she was trying to hide it from you, then I would say yes for sure.

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

I'm with you.

But if the OP doesn't accept her excuses (I think she was only having fun, not thinking or feeling serious) he is well within his right to dump her.

I think it's a little harsh and even immature on his part though.

This 'friend' of hers is clearly no danger to the relationship - as long as your girl is hetero.

Most people experiment, if you can't/ won't give her the freedom then you should break up as it shows that you're not compatible.

That's what I'm saying, her friend is of NO threat to the relationship. OP's girlfriend is clearly hetero, else she would not be in a relationship with the OP. Being on a college campus, I see this type of thing all the time... Girls making out with their "girlfriends" and such, just having a good time. I think you'd have to be really insecure within yourself to break up over something so petty.

Oh dear... well... if you already had broken up with her before this happened, 1) you should not have been going through her phone, and 2) no, it wouldn't be cheating if you had already split and were having "breakup sex" or whatever she was with you at the time for....

Now, if you two were still together..... 1) you should not have been going through her phone, and 2) yes, it is cheating. Doesn't matter whether male or female. I agree with the previous posters on that.

Either way, trust has been violated because 1) she wasn't totally honest with you and 2) you're going through her phone.

Time to walk away...... there is no trust or honesty in whatever "relationship" you have. Period.

This 'friend' of hers is clearly no danger to the relationship - as long as your girl is hetero.

Sounds like his ex/girl isn't hetero.
I'm strictly d**ktly and would NEVER kiss a woman on the lips. Period. THAT is hetero.

It's cheating, no doubt about it.

Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

So if she made out with a guy it would be ok...?

Mistake or not, I wouldn't forget it so that would end the relationship for me.

it is to me because if my man boinked another man, he's cheating....

Yes. Its cheating.

Sorry. This all happend tonight. Sorry for the confusion. We were dating. Nothing open about the relationship. I found out, then i broke up with her. I dont usually go through her phone but she always goes through my phone all the time, usually when im sleeping. We agreed to have open privacy for phones. If you have nothing to hide, you shouldnt be so secretive. I had nothing to hide, so i didnt care if she went through it. Oh well.. Life goes on. I just didnt want to be exaggerating the situation by making it seem like im blowing up something that isnt really a big deal.

If you guys are going through each others phones then this obviously wasn't a healthy relationship. You clearly don't trust each other!

i say that the kissing is not a big deal. i think that a p!ssed snog with any gender (as long as it stays as just a snog) is totally forgivable. but it sounds like your relationship is headed for the bin anyway.

Sorry. This all happend tonight. Sorry for the confusion. We were dating. Nothing open about the relationship. I found out, then i broke up with her. I dont usually go through her phone but she always goes through my phone all the time, usually when im sleeping. We agreed to have open privacy for phones. If you have nothing to hide, you shouldnt be so secretive. I had nothing to hide, so i didnt care if she went through it. Oh well.. Life goes on. I just didnt want to be exaggerating the situation by making it seem like im blowing up something that isnt really a big deal.

I read this after I left me comment. I was right, your a sensible guy. Move on, you'll find a girl that'll be flattered you "look" at her phone, the same you didn't mind her looking through yours. Your a good dude, don't put yourself through any more b.s. that's surely gonna come again.........