Is it considered cheating?

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  • x__chrissy__x
    x__chrissy__x Posts: 123
    I don't really think its cheating. I think girls get playful with each other and sometimes when you have been drinking, that line gets crossed. I think she probably was goofing around with her friends and thought it was amusing in some way. I know I have kissed my friends while drinking (not full on making out or anything). Its just being silly. I would be more pissed if she didn't tell you about it and was trying to hide it. Then she is trying to get away with something shady.
  • bragaswag
    bragaswag Posts: 28
    On the bright side you're Portuguese, you'll bounce back (irrelevant maybe.)

    Lmao
  • HeavyLiftGirl
    HeavyLiftGirl Posts: 1,267 Member
    Hmmm....
    To me-- girl on girl drunk kissing isn't cheating. I know women who are straight as a pin, but as soon as they get alcohol in them, they want to kiss every girl in sight.

    However-- if they did anything further, then yes...that would be cheating to me.
  • wolverine66
    wolverine66 Posts: 3,779 Member
    Guess I'm in the minority here, but I don't necessarily see it as cheating. I believe she made a poor decision after a night of drinking. Everyone makes mistakes. She didn't do it maliciously.

    Whether it was malicious or not doesn't really have anything to do with it. I mean, a lot of people cheat for selfish reasons and don't mean to hurt another person, but they aren't thinking at all about the other person.
  • _kannnd
    _kannnd Posts: 247 Member
    My girlfriend went out last night with her friend and went to a hookah bar with her friend and her firends sister. He friends sister bought them alcohol and they got drunk. They made out with each other and i found out by going through her phone and finding pictures of them kissing and her friend saying "your the best kisser ive ever had". At first with the idea, i wouldnt have minded. But after i saw my girlfriend on another person, it kinda tore me apart. I dont care if it was same sex or not, it still hurt. I recently broke up with her and shes so pissed at me and thinks its perfectly okay because it was just her friend and it was the same sex. Is it still considering cheating? :( Sorry to get all personal on here but i dont know who to really talk to.

    No one else should tell you whether it's cheating. That's a decision that you and your (ex)gf have to make. To me, it's not cheating, but that's me. It wouldn't be cheating to my husband either. I can be a serial kisser at times, especially if I'm drinking. If you love her and want to be with her, then sit down and discuss it like adults. Tell her how it makes you feel. If she can't see your point, then maybe it is time to move on.
  • IronDame
    IronDame Posts: 275
    She should of invited you! How rude!!
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    You should do some scientific research with her friend to determine who is the best kisser. I personally would bring in more girls to kiss in order to have a big enough Data sample.
  • lallaloolly
    lallaloolly Posts: 228 Member
    it totally depends on what you are willing to allow in your own relationship. clearly you discovered a line you don't want crossed. i think breaking up over it is probably unnecessary if you can talk to her about it and reach an agreement that moving forward you two aren't physical with anyone else. if she's not willing to agree to that, well, i'm afraid you've discovered you are no longer compatible.

    frankly, i think most of the people who say it wasn't cheating wouldn't feel the same way if it had been a guy she made out with.
  • slshaw23
    slshaw23 Posts: 126 Member
    it's cheating to me
  • tracypk
    tracypk Posts: 233 Member
    Yes that is cheating....if she didn't think it was a big deal she would have told you. Obviously, she knew it was something she shouldn't have done and that's why she kept it a secret.
    100% agree with this. Also, I have had boyfriends admit to cheating. So just because someone is brave enough to be honest doesn't mean it's not cheating.
  • wheresheidi
    wheresheidi Posts: 213
    It's cheating unless she invites you for a threesome. :bigsmile:
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    What were you doing going through your girlfriend's phone?
  • fbmandy55
    fbmandy55 Posts: 5,263 Member
    You recently broke up with her but she did this last night?

    Not your girlfriend = Not cheating.
  • nonstopper
    nonstopper Posts: 1,108 Member
    I suppose I would say thats cheating. But fix the situation and tell her its your turn to kiss her! Or join in some how.. The more the merrier I say! After you have your TRIO fun, dump her and move on to the next my friend. Many years ahead and women ahead! Its just shyt that happens in life.
  • EmilyOfTheSun
    EmilyOfTheSun Posts: 1,548 Member
    These are things you should get figured out when in a relationship. Set guidelines so she knows what is and isn't ok.
  • PittShkr
    PittShkr Posts: 1,000 Member
    What.gif
  • DrMAvDPhD
    DrMAvDPhD Posts: 2,097 Member
    If one partner considers it cheating, it is cheating. You both need to be on the same page to have a relationship succeed.
  • felice03
    felice03 Posts: 2,644 Member
    in order for their to be cheating you must be mutually exclusive...you broke up with her. She is free to do as she pleases....and evidently what pleases her is chicks.
  • obsidianwings
    obsidianwings Posts: 1,237 Member
    If you consider it cheating it is cheating. Rules are really set relationship to relationship. In my relationship that would definitely be cheating, others have more open relationships.
  • california_peach
    california_peach Posts: 1,809 Member
    If you were broken up it's not cheating. If you were together and you consider it cheating, than it's cheating.
  • _Timmeh_
    _Timmeh_ Posts: 2,096 Member
    Does she like Katy Perry?
  • Cliffslosinit
    Cliffslosinit Posts: 5,044 Member
    <----Just think she could have been with me.
    Now her girlfriend idea isn't so bad....is it!?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    <----Just think she could have been with me.
    Now her girlfriend idea isn't so bad....is it!?

    You sexy b*tch.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    What were you doing going through your girlfriend's phone?

    This and based on your post sounds like she was free to do what ever with whom ever
  • DontStopB_Leakin
    DontStopB_Leakin Posts: 3,863 Member
    <----Just think she could have been with me.
    Now her girlfriend idea isn't so bad....is it!?
    How YOU doin?
  • odusgolp
    odusgolp Posts: 10,477 Member
    <----Just think she could have been with me.
    Now her girlfriend idea isn't so bad....is it!?
    How YOU doin?

    WAIT. Stop the presses. In light of this thread, I think it's only proper this ends in a three-some. No??
  • jaleungs8
    jaleungs8 Posts: 21
    Ok, so a lot of people on here would disagree...but I dont think it's cheating. Girls do that just to be silly...because we can. Now if there were pictures of them doing other things, then I'd think that's wrong. I have no idea why liquor has that affect, but it does. I've had friends kiss me before (I thought it was weird) but it was just them being silly-I have no idea how else to explain. But on the flip side she should have said something to you, if it wasnt a big deal like she says. Hope that helps :noway:
  • homerjspartan
    homerjspartan Posts: 1,893 Member
    How would she feel if you were kissing another guy?

    More importantly, how do you feel about kissing another guy?
    :flowerforyou: :blushing:
  • Shannon2714
    Shannon2714 Posts: 843 Member
    If you feel hurt and uncomfortable, then it's cheating.

    This.
  • farfoorah
    farfoorah Posts: 168
    She's just a *kitten*, you're good! No worries.

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