5 Questions About Your Divorce

Ok, I'll play

1. Did you split amicably: No. I packed up and left without him knowing one day (long story involving drug abuse).
2. Did you kill each other during the process: I dreamed about it often. He was strung out and psychotic, so it was not fun. Luckily he is now clean and I can get along with him.
3. Was the divorce due to cheating: No, but a week later he had a girl living with him.
4. Do you regret your decision: HELL NO. I might literally be dead if I hadn't left him. Now I have the person I should have been with all those years
5. Did you keep your married name? Nope, although I do need a new license.

Seems close to what I had to deal with, he was obsessive compulsive with paranoia and using drugs. Never will have contact with him again. And he had a gf 3 weeks after I left (and during that time, he was still trying to harass me)

Yeah, not fun is it? Only almost dying and detox got him clean. I'm really glad he did for his kid's sake. Drug addicts are a special kind of crazy when they're in it bad.

At one point of our relationship, I chose not to have kids with him because I was afraid of what kind of pressure and stuff the kid would have to deal with, everybody around him had to be perfect. The drug was to deal with his anxiety and he would become even more controlling and verbally abusive.

#1
1. Did you split amicably? Yes - as best as I was able to. We have kids and it was vital to ensure a smooth transition for them.
2. Did you kill each other during the process? No
3. Was the divorce due to cheating? Yes, among other things. (e cheated, not me)
4. Do you regret your decision? No. We were too dam young to get married (I was 18) and have become good friends in the 16 years since.
5. Did you keep your married name? Until #2 - we hadkids.

#2
1 Split amicably? Not even close.
2. kill each other during the process? No he tried to choke me before..hence the need for the process.
3. Due to cheating? No, physical and mental abuse due to alcohol addiction. not to mention his mother. (she seriously contributed to our divorce)
4. Regret the decision? No. It was the right one. I don't go to sleep scared anymore.
5. Yes. We also have a son. I kept it for him, not anyother reason.

1. Amicably: We did not split amicably. I split stealthily. . . with my son.
2. kill each other: We did not kill each other. .I had my sword poised. . ready to deliver the fatal blow. . when she dropped to her knees and looked at me and asked me to have some mercy. . . I did. .It was a good decision.
3. cheating: Yes. .it wasn't me.
4. Regret: No I did what I had to do and I have no regrets.
5. Maiden name: She changed back to her maiden name at first. .but then realized that I was a better friend to her than her own father was and changed it back before the end . lol. He disowned her and stopped speaking to her.. At least I engaged her and respected her as the mother of my son. .

1) Amicably? No not really
2) Kill each other? No. We didn't speak so we got along great.
3) Due to cheating? No, but rather than woman up and accept responsibility for her part in the failure of our marriage, she told anyone who would listen that she had caught me cheating.
4) Regrets? Absolutely not. I have spoken to this person maybe 3 times for a total of 5 minutes since the day I moved out (1994), and my life is that much better for it.
5) Name change? I had it included in the decree that she no longer use my name....she no longer deserved that privilege. (no children involved)

Not a reply , but....Im really sad how many married people cheat on their spouses. In even just the small amount of replies so far there is a lot of unfaithful people out their ...its just sad.

Not a reply , but....Im really sad how many married people cheat on their spouses. In even just the small amount of replies so far there is a lot of unfaithful people out there ...its just sad.

1. Did you split amicably
2. Did you kill each other during the process
3. Was the divorce due to cheating
4. Do you regret your decision
5. Did you keep your married name?

1. Nope. It was all me
2. Nope
3. Nope
4. Hell no!!
5. I never changed my name in the first place!

Not a reply , but....Im really sad how many married people cheat on their spouses. In even just the small amount of replies so far there is a lot of unfaithful people out there ...its just sad.

It's not always sad. In my case, it was empowering. It gave me back my self esteem and provided the strength and the courage to escape a very abusive and controlling man. I do not regret for ONE MOMENT cheating on my ex. Truthfully, it probably saved my life.

I do not believe cheating on my ex makes me a bad person. Nor do I believe in the tired adage about once a cheater, always a cheater. I am currently in a 17+ year relationship with a very loving and caring man. It has never crossed my mind to cheat on him.

Yes, he's a decent guy. Just a horrible husband
No
Yes, among other things...he refused to grow up and couldn't figure out why I didn't want to go to the club every night. I was raising our son alone.
no
Yes, until I remarried

And the good thing is...

We all survived and we're working our butts off to be better versions of ourselves!!!


YAY us!!!