Please tell me my mom is wrong!

I'm 28 and in a size 6 - so it can absolutely be done! I started at a size 18W! And as for your mom - if she can't support what you want to do, learn to ignore her! I know that's hard. My mom and I went through the weight loss journey together and we were each others best support system and I'm sorry you don't have that with your mom. Between the two of us we lost about 160 pounds (a whole other person!) Don't be discouraged! You CAN do this!

It is a mom thing! I don't know why - but there must be some complex psychological theory to explain it - but mothers/daughters tend to exhibit a slight variation of jealousy towards each other. It's partially out of love - because you don't want the other person to suffer by dieting too hard - but its also partially a situation where moms/daughters feel like they should be identical so when one gets healthier than the other the other one feels like she should correct it so they are the same again because otherwise she has to admit that maybe she should get healthy too which is much harder.

I used to have it bad with my mom. She got better with time though, because she saw how sad gaining weight made me feel, and how much happier I was when I got back down to my maintenance weight. Just the other day she even supported me. It was a big step! Try confronting her about it. Don't let the little things ruin your relationship with your mother, because you only have one mom!

I'm sorry that your mom said that to you. That's not the best thing for anybody to ever say to anybody, especially their own flesh and blood. However, i'd just like to say that she's wrong. IF you have the will and the desire to get smaller/fitter/healthier then you can achieve it. There's no special age when, especially a woman, you magically gain weight and will never go back down. That's hogwash!
For example, i'm the fittest i've been since freshman year of high school i bet (meanwhile, i graduated high school in '03). I'm actually 5 lbs less then i ever was in High school....Not to say that i was big in high school, i was at the normal weight for my age; but due to unhealthy practices.
I've got 2 Kids, a 6 1/2 year old and an almost 4 year old and i'm the smalles i've been since 1999! Yes, 1999! It's totally achievable you just have to put your mind to it and work on it.
Perhaps your mom is just stuck in the old mind frame about how once you hit your 20's that's the smallest you'll ever be again and once you start to gain say 'bye bye' to ever being that size again. It's a sad reality to some i think.
Keep your head up, you'll reach your goal in time and then you can tell everybody that doubted you that you did it, and on your own terms.

It most definitely can be done. I'll be 43 in two weeks and I'm currently wearing a smaller size than I was at 25. I will say this though, my body shape is somewhat different, my hips are wider and chest is smaller (big bummer). Our bodies do change, but that doesn't mean you can never get back to a particular size or weight, that is just crazy talk.

I agree with others, use it for motivation. Nothing motivates me more than someone telling me I can't do something. :laugh:

((Hugs to you))

Yes your Mom is wrong.. you can achieve whatever weight loss goals you would like to achieve. Maybe prove her wrong as long as its a goal that you yourself want. The key here is embarking on something FOR YOU not her.

Mothers are a funny species at times... My mom after she had children has been a size 18 - 24. She has never been a small woman. I have NEVER I mean NEVER said a word to her about her weight or asked her about her eating/exercise program - her progress... not ANYTHING... I didn't want her to feel bad. Yet she ALWAYS asked me how I was doing on my weight loss.

Her making comments and consistently checking in about it - made me feel bad for any efforts I was making. I finally broke down and just flat out told her that any comments about my weight were hurtful and to please stop. She no longer says a word about it... just the way I like it! Good luck!

I'm 39 and I'm now wearing the size I wore when I was in college. I ballooned up and with the help of my friends on MFP I'm working my way back down.

Not only did I go back to my college size but within the next 6 months I'll be in my HIGH SCHOOL size.

I was fairly fit and not overweight in college, but I am definitely more fit now and just as small or smaller. And I am 42. So, yes, your mother is wrong!!!!! I weigh a little more now, but have more muscle.

She's a test. Let her bring you down and you've failed the test. She's telling you what she tells herself to make it ok for her to be the way she is. This coming from a girl who at 20 pounds from goal after having weighed 290, is two sizes SMALLER than I was at 19. Yes, my belly is scarred from childbirth, but I am told I look like I'm 23 now when I walk around in jeggings, so she can suck it my sexy lady!

Well..... I was over 300lbs in college and I am not anymore so....your mom is wrong.

I was a size 8-10 while in college.. Im a size 5 now... Im sorry but your mom is wrong.

I think she is wrong, I think you can do it. I am 47 and my friends are saying, oh your body changes when you're older, you've had 3 kids, your body will never be the same etc etc. I know they are just trying to be nice because it's hard to lose weight but I am determined to lose it and looking through the success stories on here I know now that I can! There are people on here that are older and have had more kids than me, I have injuries that restrict my exercise but other people on my have worse problems and they can do it. I know I can and you can too. Don't throw those jeans away, you'll get back into them!

I'm sorry for the negative mom talk

But she's not correct. I weigh less than I did in law school, and all the clothes I saved from that time period are too big. I'm about your height, and I'm an 8/10. 10 years ago I was a 10/12, sometimes 14.

My body certainly isn't what it was then - it's better

Your mom was right AND wrong.

Your body shape can, in fact, change as you get older (hips fill out, for example, especially if you have a child).

That being said, she was wrong in saying that you would never be the size you were in high school or college.

I'm a tall girl - 5'10" - and all through high school was a relatively healthy 165-180 lbs. I wore a 12 or 14.

I had a child, gained a ton of weight, and then shed a ton of weight. At my lightest - 155(ish) pounds - I was wearing a comfortable Size 6 pants (fitting into an awesome pair of Size 6 Calvin Kleins was a wonderful experience for me). Even now, after I've gained some weight back (just under 175 pounds right now, working my way back - slowly - to around 160-165), I am comfortable in a Size 8 in most pants.

The difference?

I exercise. I do strength training. I have a lower BF% than I did when I was this weight in high school and, with that, smaller measurements that allow me to fit into smaller clothes.

So -- don't give up hope. You *can* fit into your goal size again. You may weigh more (or less) than you did the last time you fit into that size - it has more to do with body composition than just a number on the scale.

That is terrible to say to you and wrong. Prove it to her.

I am smaller now than I was in high school. Your mom is wrong and probably jealous of your motivation. Women love to naysay other women who are trying to lose weight/be fit and healthy in general.