Guys, be honest,....

NoahandPresleysMom
NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
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You never look at an overweight or obese girl and say "damn she's hot. do you?? I've even caught my husband saying how thin women are hot, but never any that are overweight or obese.
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  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Overweight - Sure, I've encountered a number of them that I thought were attractive.

    Obese - Not so much
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    Overweight - Sure, I've encountered a number of them that I thought were attractive.

    Obese - Not so much

    well what do u consider obese?
  • DCskat3r4lfe
    DCskat3r4lfe Posts: 152 Member
    I feel your question is the same among women... I don't see to many women calling overweight or obese men attractive.

    I for one, am only attracted to slimmer women. It's just how I am.. Ill be friends with anyone but can only see myself with a slim woman.

    That's why I am working on my weight to make it realistically possible. :P
  • ScatteredThoughts
    ScatteredThoughts Posts: 3,562 Member
    Overweight - Sure, I've encountered a number of them that I thought were attractive.

    Obese - Not so much

    well what do u consider obese?

    There was that one picture floating around on the forums - can't find it now. Generally, I would say that above 35% body fat I am probably not going to physically attracted.

    What did you have in mind when you posed the question?
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    I feel your question is the same among women... I don't see to many women calling overweight or obese men attractive.

    I for one, am only attracted to slimmer women. It's just how I am.. Ill be friends with anyone but can only see myself with a slim woman.

    That's why I am working on my weight to make it realistically possible. :P

    my husband is 6 ft 4 and 385. I much prefer heavier men. Its MUCH more of a problem with men. Especially when women hear men making fun of them for being fat. trust me i get it alot.
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    Overweight - Sure, I've encountered a number of them that I thought were attractive.

    Obese - Not so much

    well what do u consider obese?

    There was that one picture floating around on the forums - can't find it now. Generally, I would say that above 35% body fat I am probably not going to physically attracted.

    What did you have in mind when you posed the question?

    i wanted to know how many men seriously only think thin women are attractive. in daily life it seems 100%
  • djames92
    djames92 Posts: 990 Member
    ive always found that people become more attractive once you get to know them and know their personality
  • DCskat3r4lfe
    DCskat3r4lfe Posts: 152 Member
    I don't make fun of anyone with weight problems because I hate when people say things about me. It kills my confidence that I'm 23 balding and slightly overweight.. at least I can control my weight to feel confident. Bleah.
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    ive always found that people become more attractive once you get to know them and know their personality


    so if you got to know a say 250 lb women, and you liked her personality, and she was an awesome woman, she'd be attractive to you?
  • trophywife24
    trophywife24 Posts: 1,472 Member
    I feel your question is the same among women... I don't see to many women calling overweight or obese men attractive.

    Actually, I like "husky" men. Big, meaty, burly men. My husband is working on loosing 25 or so pounds. While I support him 150%, I'd be FINE if he was fine with his current weight. I think that chubby guys are hot.

    I don't see why some men wouldn't be attracted to heavy women? Not that I'm a smut bunny but there's a whole fetish market and everything for large women, right?
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    For instance my husband thinks elizabeth hurley and elisa dushku are hot. But not ever once have i ever seen him say the same thing about an overweight woman. ever. ive never even heard a man period say an overweight woman is hot.
  • djames92
    djames92 Posts: 990 Member
    well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

    id have to see that to believe it
  • rosesigil
    rosesigil Posts: 105 Member
    it's kinda odd hearig overweight guys criticize overweight women but they do.
    Guys treat me different when I'm thin. I don't like it much. I'm still the same person but in my fat periods men aren't interested. In my thin periods, very much so. Not sure I understand why.
  • NoahandPresleysMom
    NoahandPresleysMom Posts: 763 Member
    it's kinda odd hearig overweight guys criticize overweight women but they do.
    Guys treat me different when I'm thin. I don't like it much. I'm still the same person but in my fat periods men aren't interested. In my thin periods, very much so. Not sure I understand why.

    thats what i see every day. i work in retail, and have guys actually pic up their ****, leave my linne and go to the lane behind me because shes thin and pretty
  • djames92
    djames92 Posts: 990 Member
    well thats true with girls to that people are shallow its unfortunate but true
  • WinnerVictorious
    WinnerVictorious Posts: 4,733 Member
    well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

    id have to see that to believe it

    you're asking the wrong question... we can see a pretty face and think that's attractive (i.e. that she's pretty) even if we're not physically attracted to her body because of her size.

    for example, this woman is very pretty, but she's nearly too big to be voluptuous anymore. don't get me wrong, lots of guys would find her body physically appealing at this weight, but if you add another 50 pounds, that number would go down quite a bit. she'd still be very pretty however.

    famous-plus-sizes-model.jpg

    of course, if she's smart, funny, and alot of fun to be around, it really would add quite alot to her appeal even with another 50 lbs.
  • djames92
    djames92 Posts: 990 Member
    ^^ well said
  • MiCool90
    MiCool90 Posts: 460 Member
    Some people like oysters... Some like clams
  • LivingJuicy
    LivingJuicy Posts: 54 Member
    I weigh 318 pounds and have weighed much more and I have never had a problem attracting nice looking, average sized men, although the available pool of quality men interested in someone my size seems to be the minority. It's all about confidence.
  • LuccyH
    LuccyH Posts: 266 Member
    Some people like oysters... Some like clams

    Who do you like then?
  • BelleHeart
    BelleHeart Posts: 281 Member
    I think both chubby and skinny guys are cute. It just depends on your mindset and what you think is 'attractive'. Back in the day women who were larger were more attractive. =)
  • ChadB74
    ChadB74 Posts: 128 Member
    My honest answer would be no, guys don't check out obese woman. Think the same goes for females checking out obese men. It's human nature to go by physical attraction before mental compatability. On the other hand, I think skinny girls who look anorexic are more hideous to look at then an obese female. I'm a fan of a girl that looks healthy and happy, even if she's overweight (not obese).
  • CkepiJinx
    CkepiJinx Posts: 613 Member
    I have been over weight my whole life, I have had more than my fair share of boyfriends, I have only asked out maybe two of them, and I have ended almost every relationship I have ever had. I have also had people make comments about my weight, never really payed much attention to them but honestly I have gotten more flack about my weight from women than I ever did men.

    I was that happy fat person, my decision to lose weight was solely based on health factors and because I want my daughter to a see me make better choices in hopes that she will not deal with weight issues like me.

    I walked into Dunkin donuts a few weeks ago and a guy commented to his friend, they were talking about how he knows every one, that he would like to get to know me. Being married I smiled to myself and pretended not to hear them, but I must say it was a quick ego boost :wink: . Anyway my point is they are out there.
  • beyg
    beyg Posts: 212 Member
    I like meat on my bones!! Not unhealthy but meat in my bones is a must. Just saying.
    :happy:
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    well yeah its a beauty is in the eye of the beholder kind of thing

    id have to see that to believe it

    Oh, the bitter, "any one who prefers a healthy physique based off of hundreds of thousands of years of evolutionary processes is an *kitten*" person.
  • Cdoug99
    Cdoug99 Posts: 23 Member
    ive always found that people become more attractive once you get to know them and know their personality

    That is very true. Once you get to know someone, depending on their personality, they become more or less attractive. Being Hot aint everything. My ex husband was hot, but once he left me with one on the hip and one in the oven.....he seemed ugly to me.
  • d_Mode
    d_Mode Posts: 880 Member
    As I've aged I've become attracted to women in general and tend to care less about their weight. I prefer a personality and a great mind above all.
  • etoiles_argentees
    etoiles_argentees Posts: 2,827 Member
    You never look at an overweight or obese girl and say "damn she's hot. do you?? I've even caught my husband saying how thin women are hot, but never any that are overweight or obese.

    please, ask your husband what he considers attractive, not here. Most likely you, he married you. :)
  • zachatta
    zachatta Posts: 1,340 Member
    The majority of men probably don't,

    however there are definently a group of males that like bigger women.

    Ultimately, if you want to increase the pool of men who are interested in you, losing weight will do that.

    Again however, there are always outliers, so of course some men will like bigger women.
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