Why dont girls come up to guys

Well, obviously I can't speak for everyone because unfortunately what works for one person won't work for another :P

I'm going to say it depends on the woman Some women are very old-fashioned and like to be romanced and chased by the man. Others find that sort of thing annoying and un-attractive.

Personally I never liked to have guys come and talk to me out of the blue. I find shy men incredibly attractive, I LIKE guys who are a little scared, unsure, I adore being able to experience life through their eyes. men who know everything and have had every experience out there just don't interest me so a guy that will just randomly walk up to me for no reason without any kind of encouragement on my part generally won't get too far. I tend to like to make the first move - but not all the moves :P

It's your test!. . Women instinctually want to make babies with Bold, Strong men. . It's evolution. . It's why the human race survived. . Ever watch nature shows? The male is ALWAYS the aggressor and the female always seems like she's yawning. . . same with people!
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Every woman will like something different honestly..not all women like 'strong aggressive men'. I'd rather make babies with someone who can carry an intelligent conversation and knows how to treat a woman like a treasure..I should direct your attention to the lion pride..it is the FEMALE who hunts and takes care of her mate, SHE is the dominant

I think it's because they don't have to....honestly women get approached all the time....if you ever question this, watch chris rock's special and especially this segment http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90qpDg5y7Lo \m/

I think many men are too intimidated by a pretty girl to approach her, so they never meet! I see nothing wrong with being a confident woman and making the first move. I've done it several times and never regretted it.

I dont think it is the intimidation factor but more of the she is too good looking to be available factor.

REALLY? Men assume good looking women are always taken?

In my community (a separate, self-contained community on the outskirts of Phoenix), the women are mostly married. The nature of my area is not conducive for single women. So, when I see a good looking woman, with or without a ring, I tend to assume she's married. Besides, unless I see a common ground between us, just walking up with the intention of asking her out makes me feel like a creep. :ohwell:

ETA: I'm always alone, or with my son or a dog, and have yet to be approached. :sad:

Interesting. So who are men asking out if they are assuming that most good looking women are taken?

Majority of the time they are not or settling for another. Hate to word it like that...just KIR.

Yup this is true.

Well I know the reason they don't come up to me (fat). Women are generally pretty shallow.

ya, we're so shallow. we're so shallow and self absorbed that we only approach men who generally seem to respect women and arent so lacking in self confidence. thats the other thing about us shallow women.

And you can tell how much respect a guy has for you by judging his fitness level? LOL I doubt it. There is no way any woman responding how they've approached guys before went off anything other than pure looks.

that wasnt for men in general that was specifically directed towards you...when did i say anything about someones fitness level? i said CONFIDENCE. i am someone who will talk to anyone and i dont judge (look at my friends list, all sorts of ppl!) ive appproached guys for looks, yes, dance moves 100%, lol, but really its a confidence factor for me. i like someone who is comfortable in theur own skin, smiling, having a good time and looks like they can enjoy themselves. CONFIDENCE. when u find urs youll see a differnce. ur right, no one picks out the guy sulking in the corner about how 'fat' he is. nope. or the guy who thinks all women are shallow. not him either.

I think it's because they don't have to....honestly women get approached all the time....if you ever question this, watch chris rock's special and especially this segment http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=90qpDg5y7Lo \m/

True, but that's why it's fun to turn the table every once in a while.

First of all, not all guys dig girls being the first to approach.
Second of all, sometimes half the fun is getting the guy to approach :-P
Third of all, not only did I approach my current bf but I also challenged him to a dance off. Best relationship I've ever been in :-P

I've never met a man who wasn't happy to be approached. Maybe they are just being nice, but I've never gotten that vibe.

Its the chase. If a girl approaches a guy of course he's flattered but then he knows he's got you....over before it starts....

Touche

Ok I have a question for the guys....usually when I'm out, I'm with a mixed group of friends (male & female) OR a mostly male group. Hanging with the guys probably hinders my approachability right??

Ok I have a question for the guys....usually when I'm out, I'm with a mixed group of friends (male & female) OR a mostly male group. Hanging with the guys probably hinders my approachability right??

You'd be better off with a 3rd eye or the Black Plague. Girls in groups are a no-go!

I get approached alot. Although I think it has more to do with my dog than to do with me. I'm not going to lie. She's gotten me a few numbers. Get a dog mate. They're worth it.

I think many men are too intimidated by a pretty girl to approach her, so they never meet! I see nothing wrong with being a confident woman and making the first move. I've done it several times and never regretted it.

I dont think it is the intimidation factor but more of the she is too good looking to be available factor.

REALLY? Men assume good looking women are always taken?

No only the single men....apparently the married men can sniff out a single girl very easily....

true story.