Why are you single?

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  • I'm picky and I am not financially independent. I want to learn how to cook and have my own place before I get a girlfriend. I use to always wonder what's wrong with me and why i never had a girlfriend.

    But I realize that I should learn to be happy about myself first, before i take a step and let someone into my world. It wouldn't be fair for the girl if she was stuck with someone who asks mom for money all the time and doesn't really know how to cook that well. I have to finish school with good grades and learn to improve my character. So I'll be seeing more lonely weekends, but I'll gladly use that time to achieve my other goals in life.
  • _JR_
    _JR_ Posts: 830 Member
    I accept the love I think I deserve. So, there is a serious lack of love in my life.

    I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer and all.. but I totally don't get what you meant. Please explain

    She's holding out for that super special person; therefor, she hasn't found that love yet.
  • pullipgirl
    pullipgirl Posts: 767 Member
    because all the guys i know are douche bags lol
  • ucrdancer
    ucrdancer Posts: 27 Member
    Because the guy I like lives 8 hours away :/
  • I guess women find me unattractive and gross I guess. Maybe it is my personality. One day perhaps I will find someone who likes me for who I am.
  • passmetheducksauce
    passmetheducksauce Posts: 211 Member
    simply because no girls deserve to be with me.
  • Charmed285
    Charmed285 Posts: 189 Member
    Pretty simple for me. No confidence around girls. I've always been the funny fat guy or "the friend."

    OP you're cute, I'd date you :flowerforyou: , just my luck you're no where near me:cry:
  • ynotcycle
    ynotcycle Posts: 121 Member
    I accept the love I think I deserve. So, there is a serious lack of love in my life.

    I'm not the sharpest knife in the drawer and all.. but I totally don't get what you meant. Please explain

    She's holding out for that super special person; therefor, she hasn't found that love yet.

    Well just don't wait to long, you will end up like me, 37 and not married. I've been absurdly picky most of my adult life.
  • MireyGal76
    MireyGal76 Posts: 7,334 Member
    because I'm in the middle of a divorce from a controlling and narcissistic person.
    because i wonder whether it is even possible to have a good relationship.

    because I have so much happening in my life that has turned me into a bit of a wreck
  • dare2love81
    dare2love81 Posts: 928 Member
    Because I can squat more than most guys at the gym. Okay, no, not really.

    And also because I have trust issues.
  • louiselebeau
    louiselebeau Posts: 220 Member
    Because I date LOSERS! (my fault... really) so I just put a hold on it.
  • cgfol1
    cgfol1 Posts: 179 Member
    simply because no girls deserve to be with me.

    I read this and went ... Pfft ... But then I thought about it, and I feel the same. I am single because I am only going to be with someone is suited to me and I them. Why bother otherwise? I've spent a lot of time with people who don't suit me on most/all levels, and while I don't think I wasted my time at all, I do think they made me realise what I would and wouldn't put up with and who I did and did not want to be with.
  • Alex_is_Hawks
    Alex_is_Hawks Posts: 3,499 Member
    that's what i'm hoping therapy will explain to me....

    no seriously.....it's the truth...

    I'm single because i have a historical pattern of dating abusive men. And my daughter deserves much better than that...so I have to break the cycle...

    until I learn what i'm doing wrong, i'm not dating...

    it's that simple.
  • mann17
    mann17 Posts: 15
    Because i put up walls and make excuses to protect myself.
    (have to love myself before i can let someone love me)
  • smantha32
    smantha32 Posts: 6,990 Member
    Because I just haven't been able to find a good one yet.


    Yeah, me either.
  • Always been the funny fat guy stuck in the friend-zone too. And get too nervous trying to talk to women I don't know...because I am the funny fat guy, they won't take me serious.
  • anifani4
    anifani4 Posts: 457 Member
    Because my husband of 44 years died. Right now I have NO desire to be anything but single. Living by myself is total freedom to do as I wish.
  • halobender
    halobender Posts: 780 Member
    Because relationships are so, so depressing.
  • Mighty_Rabite
    Mighty_Rabite Posts: 581 Member
    I've been single since the day before I turned 25. (I'll be 28 on the 18th)

    Until about this year, it was mainly by choice, I took a lot of time to stay single, not deal with drama, focus on self improvement, etc..

    It took me until the end of September to really find anyone worth pursuing, but it happened. Unfortunately, despite making a huge level of connection, it apparently isn't the right time for her, so my search continues. In a way that was good because it showed me that yeah, I can attract someone who is a '9' in every aspect, but it was bad too because it has raised my bar that much further. v___________v

    In general.. I don't really put myself out there as much as I perhaps should. I'm kind of anti-social in ways, and I'm pretty sure I have a solid fear of rejection.
  • anemoneprose
    anemoneprose Posts: 1,805 Member
    I'm harder, better, faster, stronger alone.

    (Lol. Also, lazy, slow, & weak when I want to be, with no daily judgment.)
  • nmonty21
    nmonty21 Posts: 17 Member
    Because being single is just so much more relaxing!!
  • jensnewstart
    jensnewstart Posts: 97 Member
    Single because I realized I'm a psychopath magnet. Trying to remove the flashing neon Psycho from my forehead by learning how to love myself and not settle.....also learning how to spot those pesty gnats.
  • ShareeMorty
    ShareeMorty Posts: 324 Member
    Because I have lousy taste in men?

    I left my marriage to a complete douche and leapt into another relationship with someone who had severe mental health issues. Now I am too burnt, can't trust myself to pick a decent guy and working on my own self so when I am ready to try again some lucky guy will get the best version of me.
  • DOElston
    DOElston Posts: 102
    In my experience, because single men my age are obviously single for a reason. The good ones stay married.
  • I don't know. I forgot.
  • ohmelgosh79
    ohmelgosh79 Posts: 118 Member
    because dating in my area SUCKS. and apparently I'm a *kitten* magnet. =\
  • Teddy_B
    Teddy_B Posts: 69 Member
    My wife met some skinny *kitten* on World of Warcraft and decided she'd rather be with him.
  • barbaramitchell101
    barbaramitchell101 Posts: 360 Member
    I have been married 3 times...all were abusive and woman chasers....I divorced the last one 30 years ago....since then I seem only to attract MARRIED MEN, LOL...don't find out till later.... I am now in a relationship with a good one, does not drink, smoke, do drugs, or anything else...He is an Apache...and 16 years older than me! he is retired, but is still working, 250 miles away...so he is only home 2-3 days a week....we have been together 13 years...because of my health issues, we are not intimate, but we are still close... he is a dear one...
  • RodSuarez
    RodSuarez Posts: 6,309 Member
    Because I am a douche bag DUH!

    No really, because I am to picky when falling in love - because I can keep love and sex as 2 different things and while I do have sex I don't fall in love because Love for me requires an almost impossible to find list of qualities in my partner so ladies and gentlemen it is really hard to make me fall in love with you, and If I don't think I love you there is no need for me to have a label with you, I might eff you and enjoy your body but my heart is sacred.

    Also I am way too career driven and if you can't keep up with it you weren't made for me + right now I am not where I am meant to be so nobody is good enough in this town to make me fall in love.

    So yes I am a douche
  • timmymon
    timmymon Posts: 304 Member
    Because all of the girls in my area have terrible taste :laugh: